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verse 4:3 and polygamy

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    adley
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    Peace all,

    I have something to ask, probably OOT.
    Let say that poligamy is allowed. How's the inheritence should be laid out by the dead husband? Let's say he got himself married to 3 women.

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      Peace Adley, all,

      The Qur'aan allows provision of a will. The possibilities not covered by the laws of inheritance stated in the Qur'aan can be addressed by a will.

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        adley
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        Peace Tanveer,

        Yes, that was what crossed my mind earlier actually.
        If I leave four wives behind, I must make sure to write a will otherwise there will be disputes ;D

        Just in case I forgot and I died... what then?
        Any ideas?

        =adley=

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          unknownuser
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          Peace Adley,

          The person marrying more than one should be required to write a will legally at the same time as he gets married the second time and to revise that will at each subsequent marriage, and then the scenario described by you cannot happen !

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            Peace Tanveer,

            I guess so...
            But I don't think everyone takes that kind of precautions.
            This scenario is what keeps me from agreeing that poligamy is allowed in the qur'an.

            =adley=

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              unknownuser
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              Peace Adley,

              It should be the responsibility of the islamic government to enforce the will thing and should be made a requirement for any polygynous marriage. Thus this cannot be the proof of polygyny not being allowed in the Qur'aan. I had already discussed this point of inheritance in polygynous marriages with brother Ayman before and was refuted with the explanation I just gave you.

              Do you have any other proof of prohibition of polygyny in the Qur'aan ?

              Please go through my lengthy discussion on this issue in the past in which all my points against polygyny were refuted one by one, except for one point which I think has not been convincingly refuted (it was refuted by saying that my translation was not correct which I think I can counter refute), and I want to see your proof first before I divulge that point just so I do not make you biased and also to see if you come up with the same point or maybe a fresh one !

              http//free-minds.org/forum/index.php?topic=12031.0

              I edited to "polygyny" because polygamy also includes polyandry which is prohibited by the Qur'aan (see 424).

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                Peace Adley,

                I would like to take this opportunity to welcome you back to the forum after a conspicuous absence welcome

                Sorry for forgetting my manners !

                We missed your posts here, and contrary to what you said elsewhere in another thread, you have contributed a lot and hope you keep those posts coming ! Keep up the good work !

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                  adley
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                  Peace Tanveer,

                  Thanks for the welcome again ;D
                  I'll read that link first and see what I come up with.
                  Actually, if this inheritance thingy can be refuted, then I will change my stand in poligamy issue -- meaning I'll agree that poligamy is indeed allowed

                  =adley=

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                    palestina
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                    peace all,

                    wouldnt it be that the estate would be divided equally (as per quran) among all the wives/daughters/sons/relatives, if there was no will?

                    and back to verse 43 - if indeed it does mean marry off the orphans mothers in groups... then we have no upper limit set for men and their multiple wives right?

                    althought that does make sense when you think about the prophet who had more than 4 - so he wouldnt have been going against Gods law.... i always wondered why he was an exception when he was meant to be the role model...

                    im still confused!!! lol

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                      Peace ay,

                      wouldnt it be that the estate would be divided equally (as per quran) among all the wives/daughters/sons/relatives, if there was no will?

                      Reference from al-qur'aan please.

                      and back to verse 43 - if indeed it does mean marry off the orphans mothers in groups... then we have no upper limit set for men and their multiple wives right?

                      Marry off the orphans mothers in groups does not mean marry off all of them to one person but each to a different person in form of group wedding to save expenses.

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                        palestina
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                        peace tanveer,

                        i cant reference from the quran because i dont know .... i was asking if this was the case as it is what i assumed... sorry

                        also 43 - yeah ok so it means marry them off....so what does it mean when it says if you fear you will not be able to deal justly with them then just one - marry off just one at a time? why would a group wedding not allow u to be just?

                        also when i said about an upper limit - i meant in general - the quran does not prohibit polygamy right? so men can marry more than one wife right? so if this verse was the one that set the limit to 4 wives.... and now it turns out that it has been misunderstood - where is the limit for the number of wives a man can have? does that make sense? S sorry i feel im confusing the issue!

                        thanks for your input! much appreciated!

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                          Peace ay,

                          i cant reference from the quran because i dont know .... i was asking if this was the case as it is what i assumed... sorry

                          To my knowledge, there is no verse in al-qur'aan that gives the kind of provision that you mentioned of dividing the assets equally among all wives/sons/daughters/relatives. Please study the inheritance verses for details.

                          also 43 - yeah ok so it means marry them off....so what does it mean when it says if you fear you will not be able to deal justly with them then just one - marry off just one at a time? why would a group wedding not allow u to be just?

                          also when i said about an upper limit - i meant in general - the quran does not prohibit polygamy right? so men can marry more than one wife right? so if this verse was the one that set the limit to 4 wives.... and now it turns out that it has been misunderstood - where is the limit for the number of wives a man can have? does that make sense? S sorry i feel im confusing the issue!

                          The verse 43 could still mean "marry" instead of "marry off", which is to be decided yet. If it means "marry" then it would mean marry the orphans mothers in groups of 2, groups of 3, or groups of 4, with the limit of maximum of 4 wives at the same time. Thus, only in case of orphans mothers, it is preferable to marry them in groups (upto 4 at a time) but if one cannot then only one.

                          Even if it is "marry off", maybe "twos, threes, fours" does not mean in groups with unlimited number, but only upto 4 at a time, and that is a number chosen by The God just like He chose 100 lashes for zina, and not 101 or 120 or 80.

                          If it is "marry off", then group wedding might be unjust to an orphan mother who does not wish to be married in a group wedding or has a potential partner available right now and does not want to wait until all other orphan mothers have found a suitable partner also and a group wedding is organised. Remember that per 43, we have to obtain their consent first according to the correct translation and not "whom you see fit".

                          Some people with Classical Arabic knowledge claim that in verse 43 it cannot mean "marry off" and some claim that it can mean that, so this issue has to be decided according to Classical Arabic grammar rules, and the way the word has been used in al-qur'aan elsewhere. We also need to find out if "twos, threes, fours" can mean only upto groups of four, or it allows the general meaning of "groups without any limit" according to Classical Arabic language and use elsewhere in al-qur'aan.

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                            Peace ay,

                            The arguments given against 43 meaning "marry off" are in the following post by brother Ayman, who is an expert of the Arabic language

                            http//free-minds.org/forum/index.php?topic=12031.msg91024#msg91024

                            I think that the limit of wives in polygyny would be 4 not because of 43, but because of definition of zina according to the qur'aan. Please see the following posts for definition of zina

                            http//free-minds.org/forum/index.php?topic=12031.msg89825#msg89825

                            http//free-minds.org/forum/index.php?topic=11629.msg80746#msg80746

                            So if four people witnessed a MARRIED man and woman having intercourse, then the man and woman ARE a "zani" and "zaniyah", even though they are MARRIED.

                            Thus the limit in a polygynous relationship has to be 4 wives because if a man has 5 wives then it will become zina because then there will be 4 witnesses to the intercourse between the husband and the 5th wife.

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                              doesnt a witness have to actually see the act and not just know it is happening?

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                                siki
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                                Brother tanveer.
                                Man ,, , you have started to disappoint me
                                siki

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                                  Salaam Tanweer and all

                                  I do not think the verse says ""marry off". It is "marry". The verb is a bit problematic, because it could mean both, but in Arabic, you "marry off " the male, not the female. Look at verse 2221 where we have this verb. It says "do not marry the female mushriks...and do not marry off the male mushriks". The verb is different because it is in the present tense, hence the "tunki7 marry off; tanki7 marry. But when it is in the command (unki7u) it is the same for both meanings.

                                  Marrying the mothers of the orphans is conditioned by the ability to provide for them, and not by being fair. (Being just is obligatory, not a condition, even if one has only one wife, or none). This marriage may not be consummated, so they will be "milkul yameen". That's why they do not show in the verses of inheritance (nor does milkul yameen). It is not a normal marriage, but a marriage to protect the pride and dignity of the orphans, least people would demand why this man is providing for them, and this would hurt the mother, and so the children.

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                                    Samia
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                                    Salaam all

                                    The meaning of "muthna, thulath and ruba3" is "double, triple and quadriple". This is important to understand that before marrying a mother of orphans, the priority is to marry a normal marriage. So "double" is the real wife and one mother of orphans. This means the maximum is three mothers-of-orphans, if we stop at "ruba3"; or it might be understood as "and so on", then the number has no limit. This also is in favour of the marriage being just formal.

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                                      siki
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                                      So ! what about the polygamy? looks to me as if it is allowed with no limit, as it was already in practice and was not forbidden with a clear commandment. Allowing prophet to continue, could also be a supporting argument.(though not a very significant one) and of course brother Tanveer's understanding regarding two sisters,leads towards a definite YES
                                      sikandar

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                                        peace sis samia,

                                        i think bro tanveer has the correct meaning of muthna wa thulatha wa rubaa - 2s, 3s and 4s

                                        if it was double, triple, and quadruple - it would read - thunathy wa thulathy wa rubaa'y

                                        is that right?

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                                          Samia
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                                          Salaam siki

                                          Polygamy is NOT allowed for no reason. There is ONE and only ONE condition for that. Even then, it is a "formal" marriage. This wife will not inherit, as the marriage was not for her to benefit, but mainly to protect the children IF there's harm to them from receiving provision from a strange man.

                                          and ay

                                          I do not know of thunathy ,; Muthna is the light form of the word muthanna (=double), ruba3 is the light form of ruba3i (=quadriple) and thulath is the lighter form of thulathi (triliteral). These are single nouns not plurals as in two's, three's four's...
                                          Examples a ruba3i a geometrical form of four sides
                                          thulathy a geometrical form of three sides.

                                          I also do not understand the meaning of marrying them (or even marry them off) in two's, three's, four's...why not (in a crowd) simply?

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