Relationships
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Something came to my mind, Have you ever heard that you can not marry an ex husband unless you have been married to another man then divorced then gone back to him?
So say I was married to X and then broke up(divorced) if I wanted to go back to him I have to get married to Y then get divorced and then marry X again?? I've heard this a number of times.. I'm not sure how it is backed up but whats the view on it?
Salam
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Peace Sarah, Sikandar, all,
Bro Sikandar,
Thank you for the kind words. All praise is to The God and all thanks to Him for giving us understanding and guidance.
Sis Sarah,
2230 So if he divorces her again, then she will not be lawful for him until she has married another husband. If the other husband divorces her, then there is no sin that they come back together if they think they will uphold God's limits. These are God's limits, He clarifies them for a people that know.
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Salam.
Relationships.
We all agree that sex outside marriage is sin.
We all agree that boyfriend/girlfriend relationships might and usually do lead to sex and since it is outside marriage, we can easily say that such relationships are sin especially in USA and Europe.We must ask ourselves, is it possible to have strictly platonic relationship with the opposite sex? Is it possible for a guy in New York to have a strictly platonic relationship with his girlfriend from Harlem?
I think that a person cannot avoid a sin such as fornication today. Well, actually there is a way to avoid it. Here is how avoid TV, internet, movies, music, women and move to the rain forest.
When i was working in the construction business, i was living in the building wher eonly men lived and slept in rooms, i worked 8 hours a day with men, i ate with men and during my contract, i haven't SEEN a woman for good three months. When i came back home, i thought that EVERY woman looked good and sexually attractive. Thank GOD Almighty that i started praying thaty ear.
Peace.
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Interesting points you have Alen
We must ask ourselves, is it possible to have strictly platonic relationship with the opposite sex? Is it possible for a guy in New York to have a strictly platonic relationship with his girlfriend from Harlem?
It's possible.. you know I notice that generally non muslims can befriend people of the opposite sex with no problem anyway
I think that a person cannot avoid a sin such as fornication today. Well, actually there is a way to avoid it. Here is how avoid TV, internet, movies, music, women and move to the rain forest.
Haha now that isn't realistic now is it? It's possible to avoid fornication today if you wish not to have it. If you're strong willed you won't. I've had opportunities to commit fornication but it's totally against me, I could even create opportunities if I wanted to, I choose not to and I feel strongly for that. Tv, internet, movies and music isn't going to make me want to commit fornication.. Besides what is it you gain out of it? please? I'm sure if you so badly wanted pleasure if it was so much in your head and you couldn't get a women I'm sure people would experiment other ways and maybe even with men.
When i was working in the construction business, i was living in the building wher eonly men lived and slept in rooms, i worked 8 hours a day with men, i ate with men and during my contract, i haven't SEEN a woman for good three months. When i came back home, i thought that EVERY woman looked good and sexually attractive. Thank GOD Almighty that i started praying thaty ear.
Alhamdulillah you were praying ) though I don't think that's going to strongly impact on your views on women. Like I said if people are running for pleasure they will get it in other means you don't need a women. Anyway self control is important, if you create opportunities to make fornication easy for yourself then it would be your fault for gradually making the process easy. If being with men makes life easier maybe you should stick with men actually maybe you should get married P
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Salam.
You know, dear Sarah, i was trying to get married and i'm still trying but i guess i just have to be a little more patient.
I can control myself, don't worry about that, i can, i was just saying that today it's a little harder then in the time sof Mohammed, right?
Peace.
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Walaikum Asalam
Maybe it is a little more harder, maybe women were more passive then.. then again back then they used to bury girls they probably sold girls
It's not to hard to get married these days though it's hard to find someone you'd be content with
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Walaikum Asalam
Maybe it is a little more harder, maybe women were more passive then.. then again back then they used to bury girls they probably sold girls o
It's not to hard to get married these days though it's hard to find someone you'd be content with
) peacePeace,
I agree with you Sarah, it's harder to find someone to be content with, that's for sure! But Nikah is an easy process, no difficult at all.
Majidah
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Peace Sarah,
Something came to my mind, Have you ever heard that you can not marry an ex husband unless you have been married to another man then divorced then gone back to him?
So say I was married to X and then broke up(divorced) if I wanted to go back to him I have to get married to Y then get divorced and then marry X again?? I've heard this a number of times.. I'm not sure how it is backed up but whats the view on it?
Salam
And if he hath divorced her (the third time), then she is not lawful unto him thereafter until she hath wedded another husband. Then if he (the other husband) divorce her it is no sin for both of them that they come together again if they consider that they are able to observe the limits of Allah. These are the limits of Allah. He manifesteth them for people who have knowledge.