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Beating wife theory is negated by Qur'aan=4:34

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    unknownuser
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    It surely is, but that doesnt make it the only language spoken in heaven
    BTW how do you know whether we are going to speak as we are doing on earth??

    peace

    please don't ruin this thread or else we could get a warning from the mods. peace

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      No longer a Sunna-rejecter
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      please don't ruin this thread or else we could get a warning from the mods. peace

      I'm not ruining it
      The only thing is that we were on the topic of "Arabic" and I just couldnt resist saying that. No intentions to go off topic.

      Back to the initial topic...

      I hope you consider the many meanings and possibilities of translating/interpreting "idribuhunne".

      I am no longer a Sunna-rejecter. See 4:59-65, 62:2-4, 3:31, 4:156, 7:157 Messenger teaches and is to be followed and obeyed. Examples of revelation received which is not in the Qur'an: 3:123-126, 33:37, 2:187, 66:3, 62:9.

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        I like that translation. I also like Shabbir Ahmed's "admonish them with more examples".

        Peace
        Shabbir Ahmed is good for nothing as far as Quran is concerned.First step in the remedies described is "admonishing" so this 3rd step remedy cannot mean "admonishing".
        Regards

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          Peace Q_s,

          Shabbir Ahmed is good for nothing as far as Quran is concerned.

          Says who?

          First step in the remedies described is "admonishing" so this 3rd step remedy cannot mean "admonishing".

          Admonish
          To warn or notify of a fault; to reprove gently or kindly, but seriously; to exhort.
          To counsel against wrong practices; to caution or advise; to warn against danger or an offense; ? followed by of, against, or a subordinate clause.
          To instruct or direct; to inform; to notify.

          Example

          Something that is representative of all such things in a group.
          Something that serves to illustrate or explain a rule.
          Something that serves as a pattern of behaviour to be imitated (a good example) or not to be imitated (a bad example).
          "Learn from me, if not by my precepts, then at least by my example, how dangerous is the acquirement of knowledge" - Mary Shelley, Frankenstein
          A person punished as a warning to others.
          A parallel or closely similar case, especially when serving as a precedent or model.
          An instance (as a problem to be solved) serving to illustrate the rule or precept or to act as an exercise in the application of the rule.

          "admonish them with more examples"...

          a. is in line with the meaning of "idribuhunne"
          b. fits the context well
          c. is initially the same as "punish them otherwise"

          Think about it.

          I am no longer a Sunna-rejecter. See 4:59-65, 62:2-4, 3:31, 4:156, 7:157 Messenger teaches and is to be followed and obeyed. Examples of revelation received which is not in the Qur'an: 3:123-126, 33:37, 2:187, 66:3, 62:9.

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            Samia
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            Peace

            Exposition by G A Pervaiz

            first admonish the women, then, if required, separate them temporarily from their husbands, or intern them, and finally, if necessary, punish them otherwise.

            http//www.tolueislam.com/Parwez/expo/expo_004.htm

            Regards

            Is this supposed to be a response to my question?

            How does "dharaba" become "punish"? Can you find such a meaning in classical arabic dictionaries?
            The translator simply couldn't say "strike them/beat them up", because he will have to say which part of the body and with what, and even then, it will no more be "dharaba", but "latama", sakka", rafasa"...many many words. The meaning "strike/beat" does not stand for "dharaba" by itself. Every strike or "dharba" has a diffrent word, depending on what part to strike and using what. The verb "dharaba" by itself means to strike with a sword, cane or whip; and this is from all arabic dictionaries. That's what they say in the beginning of the entry Dharaba known. I donot think "strike" in such ambiguity would be described as "known", but fighting and killing is.

            Also, who will punish her? The husband? he is the victim, the prosecutor, the judge and the executer? nope
            The community? Why punish her, then go for the mediation/court? nope

            It is more "value for money", to borrow the market's expression, for the wife to go straight for a full relation and the husband cannot lay a hand on her (246)

            As for those who accuse their spouses but have no witnesses except themselves; let the testimony of one of them be four testimonies, (swearing) by Allah that he/she is of those who speak the truth;

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              Is this supposed to be a response to my question?

              How does "dharaba" become "punish"? Can you find such a meaning in classical arabic dictionaries?
              The translator simply couldn't say "strike them/beat them up", because he will have to say which part of the body and with what, and even then, it will no more be "dharaba", but "latama", sakka", rafasa"...many many words. The meaning "strike/beat" does not stand for "dharaba" by itself. Every strike or "dharba" has a diffrent word, depending on what part to strike and using what. The verb "dharaba" by itself means to strike with a sword, cane or whip; and this is from all arabic dictionaries. That's what they say in the beginning of the entry Dharaba known. I donot think "strike" in such ambiguity would be described as "known", but fighting and killing is.

              Also, who will punish her? The husband? he is the victim, the prosecutor, the judge and the executer? nope
              The community? Why punish her, then go for the mediation/court? nope

              It is more "value for money", to borrow the market's expression, for the wife to go straight for a full relation and the husband cannot lay a hand on her (246)

              As for those who accuse their spouses but have no witnesses except themselves; let the testimony of one of them be four testimonies, (swearing) by Allah that he/she is of those who speak the truth;

              Peace
              MUHAMMAD ASAD

              And as for those women whose ill-will44 you have reason to fear, admonish them ; then leave them alone in bed; then beat them;45 and if thereupon they pay you heed, do not seek to harm them. Behold, God is indeed most high, great!

              HIS EXPLANATORY NOTE

              45 It is evident from many authentic Traditions that the Prophet himself intensely detested
              the idea of beating one's wife, and said on more than one occasion, "Could any of you beat his
              wife as he would beat a slave, and then lie with her in the evening?" (Bukhari and Muslim).
              According to another Tradition, he forbade the beating of any woman with the words, "Never
              beat God's handmaidens" (Abu Da'ud, Nasa'i, Ibn Majah, Ahmad ibn Hanbal, Ibn Hibban and
              Hakim, on the authority of Iyas ibn 'Abd Allah; Ibn Hibban, on the authority of 'Abd Allah
              ibn 'Abbas; and Bayhaqi, on the authority of Umm Kulthum). When the above Qur'an-verse
              authorizing the beating of a refractory wife was revealed, the Prophet is reported to have
              said "I wanted one thing, but God has willed another thing - and what God has willed must
              be best" (see Manar V, 74). With all this, he stipulated in his sermon on the occasion of
              the Farewell Pilgrimage, shortly before his death, that beating should be resorted to only
              if the wife "has become guilty, in an obvious manner, of immoral conduct", and that it should
              be done "in such a way as not to cause pain (ghayr mubarrih)"; authentic Traditions to this
              effect are found in Muslim, Tirmidhi, Abu Da'ud, Nasa'i and Ibn Majah. On the basis of these
              Traditions, all the authorities stress that this "beating", if resorted to at all, should
              be more or less symbolic - "with a toothbrush, or some such thing" (Tabari, quoting the
              views of scholars of the earliest times), or even "with a folded handkerchief" (Razi); and
              some of the greatest Muslim scholars (e.g., Ash-Shafi'i) are of the opinion that it is just
              barely permissible, and should preferably be avoided and they justify this opinion by the
              Prophet's personal feelings with regard to this problem.

              Regards

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                nsws1988
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                So prophet Mohammed beat his slaves?
                And you can beat your wife with a toothbrush? How can you beat someone up without causing any pain?

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                  So prophet Mohammed beat his slaves?
                  And you can beat your wife with a toothbrush? How can you beat someone up without causing any pain?

                  I don't think he beat slaves, he'd set them free!

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                    I don't think he beat slaves, he'd set them free!

                    I'm sure he did

                    I was referring to this hadith Could any of you beat his
                    wife as he would beat a slave, and then lie with her in the evening

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                      Samia
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                      Beating is humiliation, no matter how, from the moment a hand is raised. Try do it to a child, just touching them with one finger. They will burst crying, not because it was painful, but because they know you are angry and are punishing them.

                      Moreover, why respond to me with the silly traditionalist justification? Where does it say in the verse (lightly) or with anything? Just as I guessed, they water down their sick explanation by adding mitigating words to the verse such as "lightly", "not painful", "with a handkershief"...his

                      With all this, he stipulated in his sermon on the occasion of
                      the Farewell Pilgrimage, shortly before his death, that beating should be resorted to only
                      if the wife "has become guilty, in an obvious manner, of immoral conduct",

                      Does this mean the prophet did know the qur'aan, and could not recollect that the quraan explains what to do in case of the obvious manner of immoral conduct (246)?
                      And why are you quoting hadith?

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                        unknownuser
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                        So prophet Mohammed beat his slaves?
                        How can you beat someone up without causing any pain?

                        it is difficult but not impossible. it needs lil practice. peace

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                          No longer a Sunna-rejecter
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                          Peace
                          MUHAMMAD ASAD

                          HIS EXPLANATORY NOTE

                          Regards

                          rotfl looooooooooooool Q_s.... you get mad at me for quoting Hadiths when I mock them bu then quote Hadiths with a silly explanation of a Quarnic verse.

                          I am no longer a Sunna-rejecter. See 4:59-65, 62:2-4, 3:31, 4:156, 7:157 Messenger teaches and is to be followed and obeyed. Examples of revelation received which is not in the Qur'an: 3:123-126, 33:37, 2:187, 66:3, 62:9.

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                            unknownuser
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                            rotfl looooooooooooool Q_s.... you get mad at me for quoting Hadiths when I mock them bu then quote Hadiths with a silly exmplanation of a Quarnic verse.

                            give him another chance he would come with better explanation inshaAllah.

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                              rotfl looooooooooooool Q_s.... you get mad at me for quoting Hadiths when I mock them bu then quote Hadiths with a silly exmplanation of a Quarnic verse.

                              Peace
                              I am not quoting Hadiths. I am quoting "Muhammad Asad".
                              Regards

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                                Samia
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                                Peace
                                I am not quoting Hadiths. I am quoting "Muhammad Asad".
                                Regards

                                Are you serious ? confused

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                                  Are you serious ? confused

                                  Sure
                                  Regards

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                                    unknownuser
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                                    Peace
                                    I am not quoting Hadiths. I am quoting "Muhammad Asad".
                                    Regards

                                    yes that is not same, its different when you quote one of the most latest authorities.

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                                      Samia
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                                      yes that is not same, its different when you quote one of the most latest authorities.

                                      HAHAHA

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                                        No longer a Sunna-rejecter
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                                        I am not quoting Hadiths.

                                        Of course not...

                                        I am no longer a Sunna-rejecter. See 4:59-65, 62:2-4, 3:31, 4:156, 7:157 Messenger teaches and is to be followed and obeyed. Examples of revelation received which is not in the Qur'an: 3:123-126, 33:37, 2:187, 66:3, 62:9.

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                                          unknownuser
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                                          Is this supposed to be a response to my question?

                                          How does "dharaba" become "punish"? Can you find such a meaning in classical arabic dictionaries?
                                          The translator simply couldn't say "strike them/beat them up", because he will have to say which part of the body and with what, and even then, it will no more be "dharaba", but "latama", sakka", rafasa"...many many words. The meaning "strike/beat" does not stand for "dharaba" by itself.

                                          Salaam,

                                          what do you think about 273 and 3793 in these verses there is no mention of any specific part of body

                                          http//www.submission.org/efarsi/arabic/Surat2_files/2_73.gif

                                          http//www.submission.org/efarsi/arabic/Surat37_files/37_93.gif

                                          I havn't seen any example where darb mean "beat" without mentioning of "with what" so you seem right about that though.

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