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    Zees
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    Do you think it is as simple (or difficult) as ijtihad?

    Sunni?s acknowledge the theory of ijtihad provided you follow a scholar or get ijaza from one. So either way you?re linked back to the 4 schools of thought.

    I think some people do ijtihad in their own time however when they hear rulings from imams, fatwas from sheikhs, hadiths from bukhari their thinking gets skewed so they don?t progress.

    I don?t understand why sunni?s limited themselves to the 4 imams at least shia?s have marja?s with alive scholars today, yet they?re still faulty.
    It?s easy to find faults but hard to find solutions, how would you think you could ?revive? ijtihad in the way your thinking?

    I?d really like to know more about imam shafi and his role on hadith. know of any books/ site i could read?

    I think part of the problem is people not knowing history. People will always blind follow because it?s easy and it is accepted. I think if you can get people to read history it might get them thinking because they?re too scared to read their own book of belief as they might misinterpret it so history might help i think. Though you can lead a horse to water but you can?t make it drink.

    I doubt religion will be divorced all together, how hopeful is the individual? and what efforts do they make? Suggestions isn?t enough unfortunately, proactive action is important. That's why it's good to find like minded people so you can work as a team, project by project.

    You gotta remember as well, religion is something people are really emotional about, so if you tend to threaten their beliefs, no one will even consider the argument.

    Reformists firmly believe that the revival of Islam is as simple or difficult as opening the gates of Ijtihad. Ijtihad or independent reasoning is the only way forward for the Muslims. Opening of the gates of Ijtihad will immediately result in two things the first that Muslims will critically evaluate whatever they have received so from their forefathers and correct any mistakes that there forefathers made and secondly they will proactively use independent reasoning in tandem with the Quran to meet the challenges that they face today. That is the beauty of Ijtihad that you do not have to follow any scholar blindly nor do you need ijaza from anyone. Ijtihad or independent reasoning is the way of life for Muslims whereas all the religions of the world follow 'blind following' we are the people of knowledge and through knowledge do we seek out our lord. God himself exhorts mankind in the Quran to witness his creation and that these are signs for people who think.

    The closing of the gates of Ijtihad means that Muslims are limited to the four interpreters(schools of thought) and that no new interpretations are allowed. Binding anyone to any interpretation is taqid(blind following) and is wrong. No interpretation whether hadith, or the interpretations of the salaf or the interpretations of the four interpreters is binding on everyone. Interpretation by its very nature is not binding, it is either relevant or not relevant anymore. Interpretations is an ongoing process it never stops as new variables come into our lives we use reasoning in tandem with the Holy Book to solve these problems. Interpretation is a human activity and errors do happen whether academic errors or deliberate errors(committed by the enemies of Islam). Thus previous interpretations can serve as a guide but they must be critically evaluated to remove the errors contained therein. The imams and sheikhs that you talk about believe in taqlid(blind following) and guide you by their knowledge of previous interpretations. They are the relics of the past and do not permit anyone to commit to new interpretations by using reason in tandem with the knowledge of the Quran. They say that whatever there was to know in the Quran has been explained by the previous interpreters. Does that make any sense to you, nor does it make sense to me. Quite a long(and very interesting i might add) story it is as to why the sunnis are limited to the four interpreters and why no new interpretations comes about. Anyhow the limiting to the four interpreters refers to what is called the closing of the gates of Ijtihad. The key lies in learning about the tradition itself and separating the wheat from the chaff.

    Shias developed a new system when the twelfth imam went into occultation and that is the marja taqlid today since the old order became obsolete with the twelfth imam went into hiding, went missing or whatever . Suffice to say they broke further into two sects the Akhbaris(living in obscurity nowadays) and the Usulis the former favoring the previous system and the latter taking a lot from their sunni cousins to develop the new system that is prevalent is Iran today. Ijtihad is totally the domain of the sunnis, has always been since the death of the prophet but without a divine imam to guide them they had to resort to extreme measures and they did what(accepted Ijtihad) for which they had condemned the sunnis for centuries. Anyway they use a system which is a mix of 'blind following' and independent reasoning and the results are not good that is all i can say. Anyhow these are two distinct systems that were were followed by the sunnis and shias and their history goes back much further back to the pagans, Jews and Christians. Seek out my previous posts if you want to know more.

    If the system of blind following is not abandoned by the Muslims than the choice of secularism becomes a real choice as people naturally desire to have progress in their lives. They would prefer the company of Islam along with progress in their lives but if Islam becomes like Christianity and refuses to go forward than it may very well have to be abandoned like Christianity. Then we will become like them we will say that we are Muslims but will know next to nothing about what Islam is.

    Read about what Islamic reformists are saying about our Islam. My personal favorite is Fazlur Rahman Malik. His works are hard to come by. Anyway try to read what all the reformists are saying about the religion of Islam. A quick search on the google will bring out all the names of the reformists and you can than get their works or books.

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      Hmm well thanks for the thoughts this is something i definitely want to look into.

      salam

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        Zees, it is not so much that sunni's make interpretations infallible. It is their misunderstanding and/or twisting of the scripture that forms their religion.

        Ijtihad, or intepretation, technically has NEVER ceased in ANY religion other than maybe shiism, if what you said about them is true (since I never really studied shiism), in that they blindly follow an imam, therefore elimating all interpretations because they have a god in front of them.

        Sunnism however does this to a degree. Usually when someone (or some random young, sunni muslim discusses whether an issue is haram or halal) gives a fatwa they will say imam so-and-so said so-and-so is haram, therefore it is haram according to the Quran, etc., but I do not think this is the case with most.

        I mean, yes, ijtihad is over in the sense there can no more be "sahaba" (whom they blindly believe were actual friends of the prophet even when according to the Quran Muhammad could not tell himself if the people around him were FRIENDS or HYPOCRITES) or "collecters" of hadith to form the religion. Sunni's refer to this as "bid'ah" but the funny thing is they have more "bid'ah" to their religion than any other sect (reason is they have the highest number of fabrications i.e. man-made ahadith).

        So yes, ijtihad is over in this case but notice that in here http//www.islamawareness.net/Music/prohibited.html a sunni "brother" (who would AFAIK be still after this article he wrote considered a brother in sunnism) gave his own fatwa (ruling or answer) on the issue of music. Although this is condemned since this not only disagrees with most current quote on quote "scholars of knowledge" who are revered, it also contradicts "scholars" of the past who are revered even more since they are closer to the time of the prophet (which would mean nothing) and this brings me to my next point.

        The reason they don't allow new hadith collectors and/or "sahaba" is because they think they are too far off from the time of the prophet, and they think the time when the ahadith + tafsir were collected was the "evalutation" period (even claimed so my an imam I heard lectures of and refuted recently) and this was 200 years something after the prophet's death.

        I will conclude by saying the major fault of sunnism is they have a horrendous understanding of the scripture, to the point they think it not only upholds itself but ANOTHER SOURCE (consisting of TWO things, HADITH and SUNNA, even though 456 makes hadith from only one being valid and 362 gives weight only to ONE sunna), and this is just the tip of the iceberg.

        Quran-aloners may not have an infallible understanding of the Quran (like anyone does) but our understanding is based on all Quranic verses unlike the sunni system that only relies on mistranslations like that of verses such as 597 (and they cite only the latter part since if they are to do so its entirety, their teaching will be exposed as baseless). The other reason is we don't revere human beings (i.e. Ibn Abbass and more so Bukhari) and we don't discard verses like 456 mentioned before, and 6836-39, verses which unsurprisingly has NO tafsir for in sunnism because it's hard to give an interpretation for these without them seeming to make the HADITH (456) and SUNNA (362) look like they're from Satan or something.

        However it is obvious that not all "sunni's" (and I quote this for a reason, which I will mention now) are condemned by Allah. I think it is obvious and mostly accepted that it is INTENTIONAL shirk that is a sin and I think the only shirk is the INTENTIONAL shirk. A woman covering her hair or face since she believes inside that it is something God commanded cannot be criticized by a just God. The just God will obviously punish the SOURCE of the deception which according to my knowledge are the early Jews and Christians who did not follow the scriptures of God and introduced teachings that made it's way into all 3 monotheistic religions including Islam http//pressthat.wordpress.com/2007/09/06/hadith-plagiarized-from-the-bible/ and this is way there are many similarities between the corrupted Christianity and Islam, to name 2.

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          Peace,
          Respectfully.

          The biggest difference is this we (Muslims) follow The Quran and they (sunnis) don't.
          I mean, i'm not being mean or rude, right, i'm being realistic, okay?
          I've seen and heard and also read how they simply don't follow The Quran.
          I've been reading this one translation of The Quran, i think by Yusuf Ali, and when i came to

          2187 It has been made lawful for you during the night of fasting to approach your women sexually. They are a garment for you and you are a garment for them. God knows that you used to betray your souls so He has accepted your repentance, and forgiven you; now you may approach them and seek what God has written for you. And you may eat and drink until the white thread is distinct from the black thread of dawn; then you shall complete the fast until night; and do not approach them while you are devoted in the temples. These are the boundaries of God, so do not transgress them. It is thus that God clarifies His revelations to the people who they may be righteous.

          There was a star where it says until night and on the bottom of the page was explanation it read that although layl means night, according to the practice of the prophet Muhammad, we break the fast at Maghrib.

          Who's blind?
          I'm not. nope
          I mean, do you see? jedi

          They break the fast at the time when the sky is blue and not dark or black. If that's not a clear and simple sign that they're ignoring The Message of The Quran, slap me silly. brickwall

          God bless you all.
          Peace. peace sun

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            Zees, it is not so much that sunni's make interpretations infallible. It is their misunderstanding and/or twisting of the scripture that forms their religion.

            Ijtihad, or intepretation, technically has NEVER ceased in ANY religion other than maybe shiism, if what you said about them is true (since I never really studied shiism), in that they blindly follow an imam, therefore elimating all interpretations because they have a god in front of them.

            Sunnism however does this to a degree. Usually when someone (or some random young, sunni muslim discusses whether an issue is haram or halal) gives a fatwa they will say imam so-and-so said so-and-so is haram, therefore it is haram according to the Quran, etc., but I do not think this is the case with most.

            I mean, yes, ijtihad is over in the sense there can no more be "sahaba" (whom they blindly believe were actual friends of the prophet even when according to the Quran Muhammad could not tell himself if the people around him were FRIENDS or HYPOCRITES) or "collecters" of hadith to form the religion. Sunni's refer to this as "bid'ah" but the funny thing is they have more "bid'ah" to their religion than any other sect (reason is they have the highest number of fabrications i.e. man-made ahadith).

            So yes, ijtihad is over in this case but notice that in here http//www.islamawareness.net/Music/prohibited.html a sunni "brother" (who would AFAIK be still after this article he wrote considered a brother in sunnism) gave his own fatwa (ruling or answer) on the issue of music. Although this is condemned since this not only disagrees with most current quote on quote "scholars of knowledge" who are revered, it also contradicts "scholars" of the past who are revered even more since they are closer to the time of the prophet (which would mean nothing) and this brings me to my next point.

            The reason they don't allow new hadith collectors and/or "sahaba" is because they think they are too far off from the time of the prophet, and they think the time when the ahadith + tafsir were collected was the "evalutation" period (even claimed so my an imam I heard lectures of and refuted recently) and this was 200 years something after the prophet's death.

            I will conclude by saying the major fault of sunnism is they have a horrendous understanding of the scripture, to the point they think it not only upholds itself but ANOTHER SOURCE (consisting of TWO things, HADITH and SUNNA, even though 456 makes hadith from only one being valid and 362 gives weight only to ONE sunna), and this is just the tip of the iceberg.

            Quran-aloners may not have an infallible understanding of the Quran (like anyone does) but our understanding is based on all Quranic verses unlike the sunni system that only relies on mistranslations like that of verses such as 597 (and they cite only the latter part since if they are to do so its entirety, their teaching will be exposed as baseless). The other reason is we don't revere human beings (i.e. Ibn Abbass and more so Bukhari) and we don't discard verses like 456 mentioned before, and 6836-39, verses which unsurprisingly has NO tafsir for in sunnism because it's hard to give an interpretation for these without them seeming to make the HADITH (456) and SUNNA (362) look like they're from Satan or something.

            However it is obvious that not all "sunni's" (and I quote this for a reason, which I will mention now) are condemned by Allah. I think it is obvious and mostly accepted that it is INTENTIONAL shirk that is a sin and I think the only shirk is the INTENTIONAL shirk. A woman covering her hair or face since she believes inside that it is something God commanded cannot be criticized by a just God. The just God will obviously punish the SOURCE of the deception which according to my knowledge are the early Jews and Christians who did not follow the scriptures of God and introduced teachings that made it's way into all 3 monotheistic religions including Islam http//pressthat.wordpress.com/2007/09/06/hadith-plagiarized-from-the-bible/ and this is way there are many similarities between the corrupted Christianity and Islam, to name 2.

            The imam said so means that they are following the blind following of their scholars which is forbidden is Islam. Is Quran not an open book for everyone to read? If you follow Ijtihad then the answer is yes if you follow taqlid the answer is no. The issue here is when sunnism started out they believed in Ijtihad(independent reasoning) and condemned taqlid(Blind following) in all its forms. After Imam shafi and his hadith movement came on the scene and battle between the mutazilites and the asharites and the sacking of Baghdad all this changed and Ijtihad lost its prestige and was grounded in favor of taqlid. There was a fight between the proponents of Ijtihad and the proponents of Taqlid but unfortunately Imam Shafi and Imam Ghazali were the winner that day. Notwithstanding the fact that taqlid was a system of the shias the sunnis today follow it religiously and condemn anyone who dares to commit Ijtihad. This is the root of all evil in Islam or sunnism today. The following of taqlid that is. May the curse of God be upon those who follow taqlid. The blind following of hadith and the blind following of the scholars or their fatwas without any regard to the Quran is all due to taqlid. It is due to taqlid that the sunnis remain committed to their past scholars and glorify them and do not ponder over the Quran. Think about this for a minute. If whatever is in the Quran has already been explained by the previous interpreters than who needs the Quran and there is no need for new interpretations based on Quran as all has been explained already. Truly human stupidity knows no limits. Sunnism today is the corrupted form of the original sunnism which was based on ijtihad and condemned taqlid in all its forms. Taqlid was and remains the domain of the shias who love to follow their divine imams.

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              No longer a Sunna-rejecter
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              Peace,
              Respectfully.

              The biggest difference is this we (Muslims) follow The Quran and they (sunnis) don't.
              I mean, i'm not being mean or rude, right, i'm being realistic, okay?
              I've seen and heard and also read how they simply don't follow The Quran.
              I've been reading this one translation of The Quran, i think by Yusuf Ali, and when i came to

              2187 It has been made lawful for you during the night of fasting to approach your women sexually. They are a garment for you and you are a garment for them. God knows that you used to betray your souls so He has accepted your repentance, and forgiven you; now you may approach them and seek what God has written for you. And you may eat and drink until the white thread is distinct from the black thread of dawn; then you shall complete the fast until night; and do not approach them while you are devoted in the temples. These are the boundaries of God, so do not transgress them. It is thus that God clarifies His revelations to the people who they may be righteous.

              There was a star where it says until night and on the bottom of the page was explanation it read that although layl means night, according to the practice of the prophet Muhammad, we break the fast at Maghrib.

              Who's blind? o
              I'm not. nope
              I mean, do you see? jedi

              They break the fast at the time when the sky is blue and not dark or black. If that's not a clear and simple sign that they're ignoring The Message of The Quran, slap me silly. brickwall

              God bless you all.
              Peace. peace sun

              The night starts at sunset (according the quran/reading). See 2187, 3637 and 395.

              I am no longer a Sunna-rejecter. See 4:59-65, 62:2-4, 3:31, 4:156, 7:157 Messenger teaches and is to be followed and obeyed. Examples of revelation received which is not in the Qur'an: 3:123-126, 33:37, 2:187, 66:3, 62:9.

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                Peace,

                I still don't understand where the distinction is coming in. Sunnis (and other sectarian Muslims) follow their understanding of the Qur'aan, whether they reason on it themselves or get their interpretation from scholars and Islaamic scribes. The Qur'aan says there are 5 fundamental beliefs that are stressed in Islaam, and the system is based on these beliefs. These are belief in (1) Allah, (2) the angels, (3) the prophets, (4) the scriptures, and (5) the hereafter. Regardless of how you condemn them as blind followers and hypocrites, Sunni Muslims believe in ALL of these things, and so do Salafis, Shias, Hanafis, Ahmadis, Qadianis, Sufis, and every other sect of Islaam, INCLUDING "QUR'AAN ALONE" MUSLIMS... So, what's the dispute?

                Say, "O people of the Book, come to an agreement between us and you, that we shall worship none but Allah, and that we shall take no partners with Him, and none of us shall take others for Lords beside Allah." And if they turn away, then say, "Bear witness that we are those who have surrendered." (Qur'aan 364)

                Why is everybody so judgemental of Sunnis? Isn't Allah the best judge?

                Peace,

                Ahmad

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                  Why is everybody so judgemental of Sunnis? Isn't Allah the best judge?

                  I like that. You see, i think it's just people letting off steam. Sunnis even shias have a strong community, people find comfort in communities... they represent muslims all around the world. people don't feel comfortable with that, i think that is part of the issue.

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                    The night starts at sunset (according the quran/reading). See 2187, 3637 and 395.

                    Peace,
                    Respectfully.

                    yes, i know.
                    The night starts at sunset but in The Quran, 2187, we are told to fast until the night and not until the beginning of the night. The day needs plenty of time to close as well as to open, would you agree?

                    Peace.

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                      it's still night, who's to say to start at full night or beginning...
                      it's still night at sunset... just some leftover daylight in the way D

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                        it's still night, who's to say to start at full night or beginning...
                        it's still night at sunset... just some leftover daylight in the way

                        Peace,
                        Respectfully.

                        Leftover of the daylight? See, that's why i can't break the fast at sunset, because of the leftovers.
                        What do you think?

                        Peace.

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                          I like that. You see, i think it's just people letting off steam. Sunnis even shias have a strong community, people find comfort in communities... they represent muslims all around the world. people don't feel comfortable with that, i think that is part of the issue.

                          nope That is not the issue

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                            Peace,

                            I still don't understand where the distinction is coming in. Sunnis (and other sectarian Muslims) follow their understanding of the Qur'aan, whether they reason on it themselves or get their interpretation from scholars and Islaamic scribes. The Qur'aan says there are 5 fundamental beliefs that are stressed in Islaam, and the system is based on these beliefs. These are belief in (1) Allah, (2) the angels, (3) the prophets, (4) the scriptures, and (5) the hereafter. Regardless of how you condemn them as blind followers and hypocrites, Sunni Muslims believe in ALL of these things, and so do Salafis, Shias, Hanafis, Ahmadis, Qadianis, Sufis, and every other sect of Islaam, INCLUDING "QUR'AAN ALONE" MUSLIMS... So, what's the dispute?

                            Say, "O people of the Book, come to an agreement between us and you, that we shall worship none but Allah, and that we shall take no partners with Him, and none of us shall take others for Lords beside Allah." And if they turn away, then say, "Bear witness that we are those who have surrendered." (Qur'aan 364)

                            Why is everybody so judgemental of Sunnis? Isn't Allah the best judge?

                            Peace,

                            Ahmad

                            I condemn no one. I am just an ardent believer in Islamic Reform. Though taqlid(Blind following) is condemnable.

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                              Thank you for all who posted; there was some interesting insight-as always.

                              I wholeheartedly believe that there are critical thinking sunnis out there who interpret religion for themselves. In fact, I knew many who did just that. Unfortunately, the Muslim community I reside in now, is VERY conservative. Many who reside there do not interpret religion-they let Ibn Khathir do it for them.

                              I, however, am not a fan of following some random Imam that existed 200 years ago. He has a different understanding of society and science than I do. There are so many insights, scientific advances, historical evidences that have been acquired over the past 1200 years that it would be insanity to follow what Ibn Khathir, Bukhari, Muslim, believe down to the dotted letter. Ibn Khathir did not have the knowledge and insights we do today.

                              At this new masjid that I now attend, there is a American Christian who is visiting us daily. Surprisingly, he, upon studying Islam on his own, has come to the conclusion that hadith is a gray zone-there are some hadith that contradict the Quran! -that the Quran does not specifically ask us to follow hadith. He basically concluded that Hadith/sunni is a fabricated book that Muslims have adopted!

                              This has thrown everyone in my masjid for a loop.

                              The last thing that happened today was that someone had posted an article about Islam and dating on the news board. One brother asked me to read it, as we had time between prayers. Basically, the article concluded that dating was haram (obviously through big jumps in logic-it was fallacious). Just because I questioned the norm, people started jokingly saying that I had a girlfriend or I wanted one. I quickly rebuked them claiming, that the quran only condemns sexual activity before marriage, and that reserved dating does not lead to this. In case they haven't been noticing, many religions prohibit sex before marriage, and their youth adhere to this rule (LDS Church, for example).

                              Even if you want to go to the extreme and not physically touch the person, at all, it is still possible to get to know them and see if they are right for you.

                              Even if the non-critical thinking people deny this-they will do some form of "dating" before the marry the person-say even their father/mother selects for them.

                              But don't get me started on child marriage or forced marriage. yeah


                              Anyway, these are just my experiences- I moved from liberal masjid USA to conservative masjid USA. It is tough, and I am basically using this forum to vent.
                              The forum is a major help, but I wished we all had access to a physical critical thinking congregation...

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                                Sounds like you got some interesting things happening over there..

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                                  Salam Yaqub,

                                  You are correct in your statements, though dating secretly "one-on-one" is frowned upon in the Quran and only should be done with a good reason

                                  2235 And there is no sin upon you if you openly propose marriage to the women, or you keep it between yourselves. God knows
                                  that you will be thinking about them, but do not meet them secretly, unless you have something righteous to say. And do not
                                  consummate the marriage until the book interim is reached. And know that God knows what is in your souls, so be aware of Him,
                                  and know that God is Forgiving, Compassionate.

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                                    Salam Yaqub,

                                    You are correct in your statements, though dating secretly "one-on-one" is frowned upon in the Quran and only should be done with a good reason

                                    2235 And there is no sin upon you if you openly propose marriage to the women, or you keep it between yourselves. God knows
                                    that you will be thinking about them, but do not meet them secretly, unless you have something righteous to say. And do not
                                    consummate the marriage until the book interim is reached. And know that God knows what is in your souls, so be aware of Him,
                                    and know that God is Forgiving, Compassionate.

                                    Peace Layth

                                    Could you possibly explain what is ment by 'And do not consummate the marriage until the book interim is reached.'?

                                    On another note, I recently was speaking to a sunni and he asked me about my marriage. I did not do a religious ceremony you see, so his reply was that I was not married in the eye of God and that I was committing a sin. He also said my children were considered a ba*****. He advised me to go and sort it out soon. What do you say to this or anyone else for this matter? Is it the case my legal marriage done in the registry office in front of witnesses null and void according to the Quran teachings or Islam etc...

                                    Peace

                                    Hope

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                                      Salam,

                                      Could you possibly explain what is ment by 'And do not consummate the marriage until the book interim is reached.'?

                                      The "book interim"is the period that is required to wait for these women before they can get married (which is 4 months plus 10 days according to 2234). The "book" here referring to the marriage contract that they had entered into (2433)

                                      On another note, I recently was speaking to a sunni and he asked me about my marriage. I did not do a religious ceremony you see, so his reply was that I was not married in the eye of God and that I was committing a sin. He also said my children were considered a ba*****. He advised me to go and sort it out soon. What do you say to this or anyone else for this matter? Is it the case my legal marriage done in the registry office in front of witnesses null and void according to the Quran teachings or Islam etc...

                                      Here are the requirements for a valid marriage

                                      • That the marriage is between a male and a female (26165-166)
                                      • The male and female do not belong to the restricted groups (422-24)
                                      • That the male and female requesting marriage are single (2433)
                                      • The male and female have parental consent if minors (425)
                                        -The male and female are of sound mind and not under duress (243)
                                      • A dowry has been agreed upon and paid (55)
                                      • The man and woman are made aware of their obligations (434)
                                      • The marriage is recorded (2433)
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                                        Salam,

                                        The "book interim"is the period that is required to wait for these women before they can get married (which is 4 months plus 10 days according to 2234). The "book" here referring to the marriage contract that they had entered into (2433)

                                        Here are the requirements for a valid marriage

                                        • That the marriage is between a male and a female (26165-166)
                                        • The male and female do not belong to the restricted groups (422-24)
                                        • That the male and female requesting marriage are single (2433)
                                        • The male and female have parental consent if minors (425)
                                          -The male and female are of sound mind and not under duress (243)
                                        • A dowry has been agreed upon and paid (55)
                                        • The man and woman are made aware of their obligations (434)
                                        • The marriage is recorded (2433)

                                        Selam Layth

                                        I believe I have met all these requirements through a civil marriage. Possibly the only problem I can see is that I have not paid a dowry. Arguably I believe the dowry to be some sort of security for the women getting married i.e. in case of a divorce they have some financial security to fall back on. Here in the UK if your divorce the women gets to keep half the house, dog, cat and if they have kids a whole lot more. Also people today have life insurance to make sure in the event of the death of the husband the wife will still have some financial security. Am I correct to think this, that women through marriage now ?a-days have their financial security met through laws and thus do not require a dowry? Can we conclude this or does the dowry have a different purpose?

                                        I know from Turkish culture that the dowry went to the father who negotiated a price like he was selling a donkey!

                                        Peace

                                        Hope

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                                          Salam Yaqub,

                                          You are correct in your statements, though dating secretly "one-on-one" is frowned upon in the Quran and only should be done with a good reason

                                          2235 And there is no sin upon you if you openly propose marriage to the women, or you keep it between yourselves. God knows
                                          that you will be thinking about them, but do not meet them secretly, unless you have something righteous to say. And do not
                                          consummate the marriage until the book interim is reached. And know that God knows what is in your souls, so be aware of Him,
                                          and know that God is Forgiving, Compassionate.

                                          Than you for that point Layth, I will keep it in mind when/if I start dating.

                                          Peace Layth

                                          Could you possibly explain what is ment by 'And do not consummate the marriage until the book interim is reached.'?

                                          On another note, I recently was speaking to a sunni and he asked me about my marriage. I did not do a religious ceremony you see, so his reply was that I was not married in the eye of God and that I was committing a sin. He also said my children were considered a ba*****. He advised me to go and sort it out soon. What do you say to this or anyone else for this matter? Is it the case my legal marriage done in the registry office in front of witnesses null and void according to the Quran teachings or Islam etc...

                                          Peace

                                          Hope

                                          That is very funny Hope. In all common sense, I do not think your children are illegitimate.

                                          Peace,
                                          Yaqub

                                          Joke Hey Salim, we "moderates" have a joke that we don't like to put women in black sacks. Salim Ooh?. Other brother and I start laughing out loud.

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