Taking off the Hijab
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Peace all
Thanks Kukumber
My parents were just the kind of people who made it a big deal if I wanted to go to the mall or movies.
I might have to get some tips from you haha
Omeiza interesting thought however ?nisa almumineen? can be seen as women who are mumineen.
Halihan
It doesn?t seem weird, at least i don't think so. Sometimes I think if I took it off I bet I?d wanna wear it again.. sometimes.I think I look better in it too D haha
I don?t think you?re cheating if you wear it. it?s not ?haram?
Wakas
I guess you?re right, I paid little attention to 3358Yeh yantahi is stop/cease etc.
That is not strictly true. That is why Asad uses "more conducive", because the Arabic literally says "that is more suitable/better that they be recognised and not harmed" NOT "modify jilbab so then they will not be harmed", as we all know a modification in jilbab does not guarantee no harm.
Not strictly but partly, the aim is to be identified and thus this identification would aim to protect (assumption) but then we know later that the perpetrator may continue to harm. I guess I took it as less likely to but yes it is possible as you have pointed out.
Thanks for that
Kukumber
However, now that I no longer wear the hijab, I still pray wearing one, not because I believe that God won't accept my prayer without it. But its hard to break habits that have been formed since birth. While rituals may have little meaning, there is a degree of comfort in them.
What are your thoughts in this matter ?
Well I don?t think it?s ?haram?, it?s just something that comforts you. At least you recognise the difference between doing it for comfort or doing it out of religious obligation.
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peace
kinda, not exactly it's subjective and different with everything...whatever agrees with them.
In regards to my Quranic views they're not known just slightly hinted through discussions. i don't believe anyone would take my side in that regard. my sis might but i hate the idea of relying on others for support.
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Oh Sarah, I didnt mean your religious views per se.
I was more thinking in terms of you obtaining more freedom, if you and siblings were in agreement, you could with solidarity, make it easier for your parents to loosen up a bit, rather than each sibling tackling their issues alone.
But then, I know very little about your family. I know with mine if we lived in the same house, our relationship would have soured to the point of not even talking to each other, so I am happy with the way things are now. Close but not too close.
I also don't know what you really want, but you could when you graduate, try for jobs in a different city. If you go away for even 1 year, and come back, you would be able to explore your faith, without their restrictions. Also your family may then find it easier to treat you as an independent adult.
Haha, I have probably gone way off topic, but it always scares me when I see Muslim girls live exclusively with their parents, until marriage, and then live with a husband. While most parents have the best of intentions, it doesn't change the fact that these girls are missing out on a part of life.
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My bro?s are quite traditional and overly protective. They would rather be my chaperone at the shopping centre than me being alone without a mahram. So it?s not exactly easy probably if I went shopping everyday and took hours and hours they?d get so fed up and give up. But I don?t like to cause problems.
I?m dominated by males so it?s kinda difficult but it?s ok I?ve dealt with it forever it?s nothing new. The only good thing with freedom would be to have space on my own with peace and quiet, when uni starts I can have that so I?m not fussed I can wait, I?m just wishful
I also don't know what you really want, but you could when you graduate, try for jobs in a different city. If you go away for even 1 year, and come back, you would be able to explore your faith, without their restrictions. Also your family may then find it easier to treat you as an independent adult
It?s a possibility but unlikely, I don?t wanna create more problems for myself. I still explore my faith Alhamdulillah.
thanks for the idea
Peace
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Wow just followed this discussion now... I also wear the hijab, but have been debating it with myself for maybe over 3 years now... like many have said, I used to wear it covering my neck etc... then I went to Spain and the Spanish muslims wear it in a gorgeous way, so copied their style (ish) and so now my neck shows (has been that way for over a couple of years) but I always have a thin polo top on so only half a neck really... then in the winter i wear beanies which are great for just running out to the shops or something... about taking it off completely... i did it once but felt guilty about it.... i dont want to take it off out of arrogance because im bored of wearing it... but at the same time i know its not in the quran... then again... it has helped me a lot... i dont think i would be so confident in dressing modestly if i wasnt wearing it... i have friends who took it off and the backlast was huge from the community but also i look at the way they dress now and the sleeves and pants get shorter and shorter as more time without hijab go by till they end up in spagetti tops and mini skirts... i dont want to end up that extreme either and im worried that if i take it off, a few years down the line thats what will happen because its so easy to get sucked into fashion and finding "solutions" to revealing clothes (eg. ill keep a cardigan over the spagetti top.. then that comes off / ill wear tights under my skirt ... they they go)
Does that make sense? I think many people on this site hate hijab and have a very negative attitude towards it, but really i dont hate it... i just dont believe in it anymore...I think when someone has worn it for a while it becomes so hard to take it off... also im not looking forward to the extra morning time ill have to spend sorting my hair out before work.... lol
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Peace Ay. Thanks for the story.
And I completely agree with Omeiza. A scarf on the head is just as much fashion as spaghetti straps and mini skirts.
You have some interesting points Ay. As I said in my very first post, I admire those that wear the hijab, and I admire those that have the courage to take it off. So im not one of those that hates the hijab. I dont agree with your slippery-slope argument of taking off the hijab will over time lead to mini-skirts. God gave us a brain to use, and most of use it to determine whats appropriate or not. Theres lot of muslim girls/women who have never worn the hijab (head-scarf), never will, but will never show even an inch of their legs in public. Second I don't see the issue with mini-skirts. While, I have never worn one, and probably never will due to my cultural conditioning, who is this woman/girl hurting by wearing one. Absolutely no one, so there is no need to judge her.
While I may find it hard to follow it all the time myself, I have this philosophy where we leave judgment to God in all instances except when one is being hurt. For example if a women is abusing her husband, we judge the woman, judge the situation, and get them both help.
If you find any fallacy in my arguments, please point them out. I am only here to learn.
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Wow just followed this discussion now... I also wear the hijab, but have been debating it with myself for maybe over 3 years now... like many have said, I used to wear it covering my neck etc... then I went to Spain and the Spanish muslims wear it in a gorgeous way, so copied their style (ish) and so now my neck shows (has been that way for over a couple of years) but I always have a thin polo top on so only half a neck really... then in the winter i wear beanies which are great for just running out to the shops or something... about taking it off completely... i did it once but felt guilty about it.... i dont want to take it off out of arrogance because im bored of wearing it... but at the same time i know its not in the quran... then again... it has helped me a lot... i dont think i would be so confident in dressing modestly if i wasnt wearing it... i have friends who took it off and the backlast was huge from the community but also i look at the way they dress now and the sleeves and pants get shorter and shorter as more time without hijab go by till they end up in spagetti tops and mini skirts... i dont want to end up that extreme either and im worried that if i take it off, a few years down the line thats what will happen because its so easy to get sucked into fashion and finding "solutions" to revealing clothes (eg. ill keep a cardigan over the spagetti top.. then that comes off / ill wear tights under my skirt ... they they go)
Does that make sense? I think many people on this site hate hijab and have a very negative attitude towards it, but really i dont hate it... i just dont believe in it anymore...I think when someone has worn it for a while it becomes so hard to take it off... also im not looking forward to the extra morning time ill have to spend sorting my hair out before work.... lol
I don't hate it. In my opinion, no one here has alluded to hating it or claimed that there are absolutely no positives to it. Does it help to stop you from focusing too much on your outer appearance? Yes. Does it help to stop you from dressing immodestly? Yes. Does it help with allowing you ease in your life? Yes. But the important question, is it a direct instruction from God to cover the hair?
Sometimes, people make the right decisions but for the complete wrong reasons. Or perhaps, the reasons were right at a time but the intention changes, or indeed the person changes. Now I don't have any negative opinions of Hijab except the fact that as much as it can empower women, it can also make them want to slink into the background, it can be used as an oppressive tool and can alter how you interact with people because other people deem it unfit for a Hijabi. I don't hate the Hijab and if I were to ever take it off, I wouldn't go wild, start showing off my skin, spend hours in front of the mirror or begin flirting with every guy who looks in my direction because these are simply not my morals. My moral fabric (excuse the pun) isn't contained in a piece of cloth. It's within me. I also don't believe that Hijab is required to stop you from doing any of these things (many Hijabis do these things). There is nothing wrong with learning a lesson from covering your hair and then moving on to the next phase in your life without it and there is nothing wrong with deciding that you love the Hijab and it represents something extremely personal to you but that's where it seems to stop. No one here claims any religious attachment when they're wearing it outside and I personally don't feel any religious attachment to it except whilst in prayer.
Following fashion isn't limited to non-Hijabi women, it's something that's actually increasingly apparent in the Hijabi community, in England and the US at least. I grew out of that phase and so too will the majority of people who believe it to be important, but if they do (think fashion is overly important) I think it's more to do with their own spirituality and world view as opposed to what they wear on their head. A common retort, one that I've always found myself propagating, is that Hijabi and Non-Hijabi women are no different. The majority of us enjoy girly things, we enjoy looking nice and taking care of ourselves but more importantly, Hijab doesn't make one more righteous than the other.
But in any case, I just wanted to clarify, I don't hate the Hijab and I'm not considering taking it off because I'm bored. I just feel differently about myself, look at my own self in a different way and I feel now that I can (if I want to) progress in my faith without it.
I guess there could be some Hijabis or Former Hijabis who hate the Hijab but I'm willing to assume that much of the time, it's less to do with the Hijab itself and more to do with how people treat them because of it or how other people can abuse the concept of modesty for their gain (or the hat hair, naturally).
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oops sorry all... i didnt mean people in this particular topic... just in general many on free-minds have a very negative attitude towards hijab
secondly i didnt mean that taking off hijab = dressing immodestly because i dont belive the hijab is found anywhere in the quran and anyone can be dressed modestly without it, but i was just giving the example of my friends (and im not judging them and i love them coz they are my friends) I didnt mean to sound judgemental so sorry if thats how my post sounded....
and i also admire those girls who have the courage to take it off because its an incredibly difficult thing to do - someone likened it in an earlier post to the first day you wear it - its the same scary feeling... so well done to those girls who have the strength of conviction to do so... maybe ill get there someday... maybe not...
I like the way you said it HNF.... there is nothing wrong with learning a lesson from covering your hair and then moving on to the next phase in your life without it ..... but taking that step isnt an easy one
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and i also admire those girls who have the courage to take it off because its an incredibly difficult thing to do - someone likened it in an earlier post to the first day you wear it - its the same scary feeling... so well done to those girls who have the strength of conviction to do so... maybe ill get there someday... maybe not...
I like the way you said it HNF.... there is nothing wrong with learning a lesson from covering your hair and then moving on to the next phase in your life without it ..... but taking that step isnt an easy one
Definitely not easy. It's a huge step and I'm not sure if I'm completely ready to make it but patience is key, in all situations. I don't want to make any hasty decisions either for the wrong reasons because then I'd be in another pickle
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In about 4 or 5 centuries, the headscarf will be completely forgotten as a religious obligation.
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Definitely not easy. It's a huge step and I'm not sure if I'm completely ready to make it but patience is key, in all situations. I don't want to make any hasty decisions either for the wrong reasons because then I'd be in another pickle P
Exactly how i feel...
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quoth the Nostradamus of Maldives
The Mainstream christians seem to have forgotten it 5 centuries ago. The same will happen to mainstream islam and Judaism. Their fabrications will disappear.
And say ?The truth has come and falsehood has perished. Falsehood is always bound to perish (qur'an 1781!?
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The Mainstream christians seem to have forgotten it 5 centuries ago. The same will happen to mainstream islam and Judaism. Their fabrications will disappear.
And say ?The truth has come and falsehood has perished. Falsehood is always bound to perish (qur'an 1781!?
Well, to be honest, it hasn't been abandoned. Orthodox Jewish women usually cover their hair (with wigs, yeah doesn't make much sense but any who) and in Church most of the older people cover their heads (with hats). Christian women should cover their hair when praying and Jewish should always cover it. It's actually a part of their religion and their holy books. I doubt Hijab will ever leave Islam, in fact it seems to be making a significant re-emergence, particularly in the last couple of decades.
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There was a strong re-emergence of fundamentalism in Christianity 5 centuries ago with the Reformation. It lasted about 200 years before giving way to the Enlightenment and industrial revolution.
If we were to map the same thing onto Islam with the Wahabi/Salafi movements being the equivalent of Protestantism, they've got less than a hundred years left before losing influence. Unfortunately this parallel would also suggest the worst religious wars between muslims are still ahead of us.
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There was a strong re-emergence of fundamentalism in Christianity 5 centuries ago with the Reformation. It lasted about 200 years before giving way to the Enlightenment and industrial revolution.
If we were to map the same thing onto Islam with the Wahabi/Salafi movements being the equivalent of Protestantism, they've got less than a hundred years left before losing influence. Unfortunately this parallel would also suggest the worst religious wars between muslims are still ahead of us.
I agree.