Salaam. Need advices regarding couple before marriage
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Salaam alaykum . Ive been looking fr such forum since so long. Am a 24 y.o muslim girl. Ive been in serious relationship with a male friend for more than 2 year and we are putting efforts towards marriage. As am still struggling in medical school n hv few years left am not allowwd by my parents to think of marriage. Plus my bf is far living in my country while am abroad.another problem which i feel made my parents dont agree is because he is Pakistani and maybe my parents had seen many not good pakistani + very different cultures etc so they dont want me to suffer after marriage. I understand my parents well they are well educatee n they are afraid am not be able to manage my medical studies+marriage.regarding of him being pakistani i feel its not fair for my family to judge him as he is a good guy. at the same time am loving him a lot. I had given up on him many times due to a lot of barriers + allah knows am trying my best to keep my limits as a muslim girl because i dont want us to fall on sins again n again. N sometimes i feel to move on and leave him but he is still being so loyal with me and putting efforts. So i feel not fair for me to misbehaved with him. What shud i do
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Hi Anonymous94, there used to be a similar topic here some months ago that might help you https//free-minds.org/forum/index.php?topic=9609958.0
I'd say try and talk with your parents. Being of different nationality is not a good excuse at all as it does not say anything about our character, there are good people from all nationalities. Focus on your studies and show your parents that you're serious about your studies and they might start to assume that you are not being distracted and so they might approve. Parents often assume that relationships tend to distract you from your studies which is not nessecarily true. If this doesn't work then I'd say just do well in your studies and wait until you graduate, find a job and move out because then no one is controlling your decisions anymore and no one can affect you either.
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Thanks everyone for the advices. Actually id discussed with parents before. And he was sending message to my dad also to talk to him plus he is staying close to our family. But unfortunately it doesnt work because my parents want me to focus on my study first (am in 4rd year medical degree) n its also for my benefits. But for now how can i talk to him again that theres no hope. Plus he need to make plan for his future n might need to return to his country because of his parents. Or are there still hope. Honestly am trying to be far from him because am hopeless and dont wnna keep the hope. Because i feel i have to move on. But sometimes its difficult so i dont know whats the best way as he still want to be in relationship. Another issue is even we both r practicing muslims. Somehow shaitan is there n i feel we r doing sins even in long distance relationship. So am afraid because of those sins that i did .itll effect my process of gaining knowldge n am afraid allah will get angry on me n make me fail in my 4rd year (
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Another issue is even we both r practicing muslims. Somehow shaitan is there n i feel we r doing sins even in long distance relationship. So am afraid because of those sins that i did .itll effect my process of gaining knowldge n am afraid allah will get angry on me n make me fail in my 4rd year (
I concur with es, finish your study first.. focus on it.
Mr. Shaitan isn't there.. even if he exist.. then he is not dumb, he would be better to spend his time corrupting powerful politician or religious leader than meddling with your business.
God will never get angry on you.
All that has happened and will happen is 100% in accordance to His will and plan.