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Salaaman Brother Abdu,
I should verify myself - Else, people may think i am crazy doing some thing for days or month and again do something else or even think i am not even trustworthy. so i want to take some time, study, verify and convince myself then execute the changes. My family probably may not even verify and may follow me blindly and I dont want them to be confused.
A small suggestion brother, if you think about others (as you say "people may think....", you will forget yourself and you may lead yourself towards the wrong path. So, let people think what they like. And you should be always open for corrections. IMHO, no one can say I am perfect, we need to change ourself every now and then to be on a right path. It is better to take a start with whatever is comfirmed to you from Allah.
I am from Kerala, South India.
AbduI am from Hyderabad, also South India D
May Allah guide us all towards the Truth.
Regards,
mmKhan -
peace to you mmKhan
A small suggestion brother, if you think about others (as you say "people may think....", you will forget yourself and you may lead yourself towards the wrong path. So, let people think what they like. And you should be always open for corrections. IMHO, no one can say I am perfect, we need to change ourself every now and then to be on a right path. It is better to take a start with whatever is comfirmed to you from Allah.
Yes. I dont have to think about others once I am convinced that I am in right direction. But until i verify myself and given some time to the matter get settled then only i have to give dawah or invite people to our thoughts. Sometimes people follow us even without any invitation or advise or even with out our knowledge (especially when you lead a life of a leader or a righteous way doing good to people in different sects of life).Since we take decision mostly on knowledge and wisdom,We can change our positions in life . Lot of people out there they simply follow a leader thinking leader is always right. So when the leader change the way to a right direction after some time , some followers may not recognise or they are in a weak position mentally or physically and they continue in the same direction. Especially the people who follow you and you dont know that they are following you.
There are lot of young people I know praying 5 times a day with lot of difficulty. Since they are lazy ,they are just waiting for some one who is in a respectable position to say that you dont have to pray 5 times daily instead twice a day is enough- to reduce the no of timings without hurting their conscience. This people hear only what they like to hear ie shortening of prayer and nothing more than that and they will say they have learnt it from me. They are not seeing the important issue behind that. Then I have to bear the reponsibility of all their misdeeds as well.
Perhaps it would be difficult for them if I say to increase the no of salat. These are the reasons mainly I want to keep things for myself atleast for the time being. There are other reasons as well that we will discuss later.
Thank you for advise and support
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Salaaman brother Abdu,
Oh Allah! Again ???
Yes, I agree 100%. But you don't have to think/worry this much about others. Let them do what they want. If they come to you asking then guide with the light that Allah has send with His Messenger.
Take care...
Regards,
mmKhan -
Salaamun Jankren and Roshan,
Oops! sorry sorry sorry! I made a mistake brickwall
I wanted to write that my kids are NOT with me '(
I am sorry for the mistake.
Regards,
mmKhanPeace
It is important that you attempt to maintain some contact with your children then. Surely the courts have allowed for this? Normally in a Sunni country the men get custody once the children are slightly older.
It is always a surprise to me just n how many marriages break up when once person accepts Islam. It is just further proof that the most fervently ant-Islamic people on this planet are the Sunni/Shia sectarians (and this assumes there are no other sided to the issue).
Good luck
Roshan
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Salaaman Roshan,
It is important that you attempt to maintain some contact with your children then. Surely the courts have allowed for this?
Yes! InshaAllah, I am trying my best.
Normally in a Sunni country the men get custody once the children are slightly older.
I did not get you what you mean. Can you please explain me?
Regards,
mmKhan -
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I did not get you what you mean. Can you please explain me?Regards,
mmKhanPeace
What I meant was, from my understanding, the Sunni and Shia view women primarily as reproductive organs and breast-feeding machines. Once this is over, and especially if the children were male, I thought that custody would go to the man.
Just out of interest (and only if you want to share), on what grounds was the divorce granted?
Roshan
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Salaaman brother Roshan,
I am not sure about that.
But I came to know that till children reach the age of 18, they themselves (children) cannot decide where to live or whom to live with. And father has no right to take his children until they reach 18 years as per the Indian Law.
Allah knows best.
Regards,
mmKhan -
Salaam MmKhan and welcome to the forum handshake
Nice story!!!
May Allah bless you and give you everything that is good for you pr
Salaam,
BenderSalaam brother,
Thank you handshake
May Allah bless you and give you everything that is good for you pr
Salaam
mmKhan -
Salaam MMKhan
have you had any contact yet with your children since your 2008 postings?Salaam Lena,
By my theCreator's blessings and mercy, I meet my children on every Saturday, they come to me and stay with me for whole day and get back at around 900 PM.
Thank you for your concern. May Allah bless you pr
mmKhan
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Wonderful. God is Great! May God bless you all and guide us through the difficult times.
Salaam,
Yes, alhamduliAllahi rabbil al3aalameena! hail
May Allah bless you too and fill your life with happiness and peace and guide us all to His only path pr
mmKhan -
after reading this, I think I am in much much better position, I know this is old thread but again may Allah give u sabr on this great jihad.
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Shalom Aleikhem Khan,
I hope you remain the strong minded and reasonable guy that you are.
Hanji, Alhamdulillah, Allah ka fazl-o-karam hai ke main bilkul khairiat se hoon. Aap ki Eid kehsi guzri? Aap ne Biryani kahi Eid ke din? Meri Ammi ne Sindhi Biryani pakkai thi, mash'Allah, it was delicious!
and here we go................
Peace
------------ Student of Allah