Clothing code for believing women
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Nothing makes more evident body contours of women than hijab. The head of hijabed women, so tightly enclosed int he cloth, are really really revealing.
On the other hand, that thing about the contours is the reader's contribution, not the Qur'an's contribution.
And agression against women happens with and without countours. It is a matter that he agressor feels safe that he won't be caught or blamed. If you start blaming the women because of contours or because of whatever, then you are giving the escapegoat to agressors, because the woman will be blamed.
24.31 is not about about women covering but about women not falling for being dependent on looking attractive all the time. Men have strength women have looks, that is the way given to each to make head way when they lack intelligence or talents. The Qur'an which is a book of moral and spiritual guidance enjoins males not to resort to force and enjoins women not to resort to looks and attractiveness. That is not a matter of covering or not covering but of not showing off and that is what is said. The 24.31 does not say that nohting should be seen of the woman but that she does not display, make a show, exhibition. It says " "yubdina", to show, to exhibit, to display. It is root b-d-w, IV form. It is not that you dress this way or that way. The Qur'an has not said a word about clothes to that point. It is that whatever you do, whether something is seen or not, that you not exhibit. Some translators cited here translate "reveal", which is confusing. Yusuf Ali does a better job and says "display". There is a difference between something being visible and something being displayed. The Qur'an doesn't say about being visible, it says about dislaying. If your legs are seen, but not displayed, you are not giving in to vanity, you are not displaying "your goods". It says except what is apparent. Apparent is everything unless we cover it up. Therefore, except said bosom and external sexual organs (not all that visible in the woman), nothing is ordered to be covered, it is injoined not to make a show of it. That is, the woman is not to make a showof anything appparent. No word about covering except for the bossom.
So, in fact, the Qur'an makes it clear when it says when it says about the feet, not calling attention. One thing is that they are seen, or whatever is seen, and another thing is to call atention to something. Not that things are not seen, but that they are not exhibited nor attention is called to them, whatever it is. It may be jewelry, it may be bossom, it may be lashes or whatever. It is an injunction against vain pursuits not an apology of covering up. For cover ups there are already the imperials doing a good job. Muslims women do not need to help along.
Women on the one hand are constantly made to feel guilty if they are not beautiful, if they get wrinkles, if they do not look desirable at all or any more. That is tyranical and a self assumed slavery to looks. But the "veilers" also pursue to make women slaves of looks in another way. Looks are a sin, according to that other sick mentality and women should be made to pay for having looks, according to them.
The question is always to exact from women some extra tribute in order to get a certificate of aprroval? a permission to exist? a permission to be considered a full fledged human being? a right no to be discardad like a spoilt good? The territorial pee of the obssessed male?
I know there are much better things to expecto from males than this obsession and fiscalisation of womanness, but some of them are in real pains at their own sex it seems, because they make such a big deal of unimportant things, just to get ther "territory". And women for them, it seems, are their territory. The word opression comes to mind. The pity
is that they are relentless and manage to brainwash quite a number of people.Teh Qur'an is wise, and in 24.31 gives advice to women to not fall prey to the compulsion of having to be attractive all the time and to gain their standing in life thorugh looks. That is what 24.31 is about. Women should not live for her looks but for God and their personal improvement, as must do all human beings.
Salaam
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Peace everyone,
I'm inclined to agree with some of what Mazhar said - I think its talking about general modesty rather than a specific way of dressing for all women. Avoiding tight clothing would be one part of it as well as just the intention to be modest and to not want to be seen and defined based on your looks and appearance.
The Quran also tells men to be modest and lower their gaze - so modesty in all ways, clothes, behaviour, actions etc is not gender specific.
This is my understanding of 2431
God says to women to lower they look - be humble, cover and take care of their private parts. Your father, brother, other women etc.. can see you, for example, in bikini but is forbidden to wear bikini in public. But I think women should cover their head(hijab) when pray or recite the Quran.I'm not sure about that - maybe it does mean something similar to that, although it may just be there for certain types of clothing customs saying under which conditions it could be 'relaxed' if wished, but as some others here have said, I wouldn't feel comfortable with that - or being too revealing once I have always been conscious about being modest.
In terms of women covering their hair when they pray, why do you think women should do this? Do you think men are required to?
Teh Qur'an is wise, and in 24.31 gives advice to women to not fall prey to the compulsion of having to be attractive all the time and to gain their standing in life thorugh looks. That is what 24.31 is about. Women should not live for her looks but for God and their personal improvement, as must do all human beings.
Salaam
I also agree with this. I think the Quran is guiding women and men away from what is superficial towards what is more beneficial spiritually and otherwise.
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Peace,
That a woman must cover herself particularly much for praying is just silly. Why does she need to cover up for God? Would God feel tempted by her otherwise?
God bless you
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The Quran also tells men to be modest and lower their gaze - so modesty in all ways, clothes, behaviour, actions etc is not gender specific.
when it comes to clothes can't be same. Man should cover himself but not like a woman. Nobody cares about man's boobs rotfl
I'm not sure about that - maybe it does mean something similar to that but as some others here have said, I wouldn't feel comfortable with that - or being too revealing once I have always been conscious about being modest.
In terms of women covering their hair when they pray, why do you think women should do this? Do you think men are required to?
I also agree with this. I think the Quran is guiding women and men away from what is superficial towards what is more beneficial spiritually and otherwise.Well, it is mentioned in hadiths and the Bible, women must cover their hair/head when pray, but this is not 100%, its based on my research. If you go to mosque or ortodox church you will see all women covered, they do this for centuries so why should you be different?
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Jewmen cover their heads for prayers, they must.
And traditionally muslim men have also always covered their heads. Now since men follow european fashion but women are supposed to follow a fashion invented by "supermuslims", but look at saudis when they dres traditionally. And egyptians and all, all covered their heads. So that preposterous exigence that since women have always covered (which is not true) they should continue to cover, but that since men have always covered, but now they do not want to cover then they do not have to continue to cover is a slap on the face of muslim women. Let men do whatever they want with their dressing habits, but let women alone, we do not need a surveyor neither for that nor for anything else, and I really cannot fathom what the merit of male heads could be that females heads do not achieve. What a preposterous thing! For God? For God's sake, are we nuts!
Salaam
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Nothing makes more evident body contours of women than hijab. The head of hijabed women, so tightly enclosed int he cloth, are really really revealing.
On the other hand, that thing about the contours is the reader's contribution, not the Qur'an's contribution.
And agression against women happens with and without countours. It is a matter that he agressor feels safe that he won't be caught or blamed. If you start blaming the women because of contours or because of whatever, then you are giving the escapegoat to agressors, because the woman will be blamed.
Please read about how brain functions, analyses incoming data, interprets it and reacts. Read it alongwith sex related desires activation system. It has relationship only with the contours, not with the face. No body gets charged by seeing the painting of Mona Lisa, instead might say Subhan Allah. Arabic word "hussan" meaning beauty relates only to face of the woman. Modern days standards of beauty are figure and figure is only for sex purposes.
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Huruf you said "The Qur'an has not said a word about clothes to that point."
But what about the 3359 - how can a believing women be recognized and who should recognize her? Wouldn't that make her more vulnerable to the abuser of believers?Also 2460 is really strange - again what can she remove from her clothes without reveling beauty? And if she's in the privacy of her home why shouldn't she show herself?
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Huruf you said "The Qur'an has not said a word about clothes to that point."
But what about the 3359 - how can a believing women be recognized and who should recognize her? Wouldn't that make her more vulnerable to the abuser of believers?Also 2460 is really strange - again what can she remove from her clothes without reveling beauty? And if she's in the privacy of her home why shouldn't she show herself?
naither on 24.31 nor any other ayas up to that point have said anything about clothing concerning women and neither I think concerning men.
as to 33.59 Why do you bring it into question? ?Have you read the ayas before that one and after? Believers were being agressed and women believers molested as well by the hypocrites. It has nothing to do with any dressing injonction. It was a war measure to protect them, not burden them. Why is it that every time God wants to protect women, superblievers turn that protection into a burden for women and a right for males to oversee them? Do you mean to punish women forever just because at a certain point in history they were subjected to molestation by the enemy? Are men believers the enemies of women believers? Does in that enmity have anything to do that they dress this or that way. Shouldn't then the molesters not expect the punishment what is foreseen for them in the Qur'an in those ayas. Is it not a shame that supposedly women believers living amongst men believers should be afraid of being molested by believers, whether they dress this or that way? Do today's believers believe that they have a right to live in peace but women do not have it? Why should anybody want to turn something that was meant to help women into a burden forced on them? Is nto that precisely the peak of hypocrisy. Why such enmity and hostility against women believers?
It is always the same thing over and over, any time the Qur'an mentions women, some way must be found to turn that against them. It is incredible. Are we never to get tired of that disobedient game. God does nto joke. God tells us things for our improvement as believers, but we snatch at straws if we see the glimpspe of a possibility of burdening something more on women. ?Where is the respect for that first aya of sura 4 where we are told to be conscious of allah and of al arHam )the wombs)? Is pushing women around the way to be conscious of al arHam?
As to 24.60, the ayas before that one must be read because it gives the context. There is nothing new in it. When people anywhere in the world are at home they tend to relax and not be as conscious about being more or less undressed, but the Qur'an is speaking about households with may be a lot of people and it enjoins everybody to be polite and not to intrude or impose on peoples intimacy, and it says to the older women that they can leave aside their clothes provided they do not make an exhibition of it, but that it is better for them not to do it.
In what does that change or contradict 24.31? It does not. Nowhere at all are women told to cover anything apart from the bossom, nowhere. It says to men as well as to women to guard their sexual organs. Guard is a wider meaning than clothe. One may guard those parts without covering them, but other than in bed, usually guarding them involves covering them. Apart from nudists, I think we would all do that for the sake of comfort and as far as I am concerned, also for health.
As to mens chest, even if they are no big deal, I do not like them to be exposed. Specially the hairy ones. And, I must say, usually men do not exhibit themselves all that much, so no worry that way. It is women who are pushed, very much pushed to exhibit themselves and they are the ones who are told in 24.31 not to let themselves be pushed to that. They are not told to cover, they are told not to make a show of themselves. If somebody is unable to see the difference between being invisible and exhibiting something, it is too bad, but the difference is very, very clear and women do know it, and I think men do to, because they notice and they show. Although their vanity sometimes drives nuts and think that anything that is good looking and female that moves on earth is out for them.
Salaam
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Thanks Huruf for answering my questions, it's a new perspective on these ayats, I have to think about it, inshallah.
About 3359 again I understand the context this is a logical issue for me (not so much clothing in general ) - what a I really don't get is if someone make himself recognized in some way (for exmple if all lovers of cheese are walking around with pink hats and someone is abusing them wouldn't those hats - or the thing that makes them recognizable make the job easier for the abuser?) In the translation of the ayat it says "...That is more suitable that they will be known and not be abused."
Is there some logical explanation? Or the translation isn't right?Peace
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Please read about how brain functions, analyses incoming data, interprets it and reacts. Read it alongwith sex related desires activation system. It has relationship only with the contours, not with the face. No body gets charged by seeing the painting of Mona Lisa, instead might say Subhan Allah. Arabic word "hussan" meaning beauty relates only to face of the woman. Modern days standards of beauty are figure and figure is only for sex purposes.
REDYou're too serius Mr Mazhar. D
Not only "hussan" but also "wajjah"
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Thanks Huruf for answering my questions, it's a new perspective on these ayats, I have to think about it, inshallah.
About 3359 again I understand the context this is a logical issue for me (not so much clothing in general ) - what a I really don't get is if someone make himself recognized in some way (for exmple if all lovers of cheese are walking around with pink hats and someone is abusing them wouldn't those hats - or the thing that makes them recognizable make the job easier for the abuser?) In the translation of the ayat it says "...That is more suitable that they will be known and not be abused."
Is there some logical explanation? Or the translation isn't right?Peace
Well if they were agressing them on the pretext that they did not recognize them as believing women, and therefore thought they were any women, that would be a reason. Do not forget they were dealing with hypocrites and the believers knew it, so it could be a provisional measure to expose hypocrites. Not that exposing prevents the hypocrites from being hypocrites, but they would lose face and hypocrites do not like to loose face, that is part of being a hypocrite, to keep face while they are stabbing you on the back.
To understand Qur'an it is not a requirement that one should rid him o herself of common sense. Ig being recognized helps you do it, if being recognized does not help you do not do. However it was the fact was that under the circumstances did help to be recognized, for how long, probably not very long since we have the next ayas where the prospects were of change.
What is amazing, but not suprising having been breathing it since birth, is that whatever is said about women in the Qur'an seems to be understood always from the point of view of its import or profit for the males, and not of its import for the women. Why should the way women dress or undress be founded on whatever fancy of the men and not on the comfort and wellbeing of the women? This default setting of the women always being the peripherical sex and not humanity itself is the motor of so much misunderstanding of Qur'anic injuctions that are in themselves rather plain.
That is what we have to modify women are Humanity not an accessory to Humanity. As long as we do not imbibe that, we will stumble looking for the square of the circle an splitting every heair in the world in the process. The byzantine sex of the angels may be peanuts besides this.
By the way, I have not come to this thoughts by being awake or cleverer or anything like that other people. I have come to them because I have spent so many, so many years struggling with the inconsistencies and I have read so much from other people in the process that very little by very little I have come see things that was unable to see before, and I think that I still have to see many, many more. This forum is great for that and I profit to thank all participants. It is the case of the ants each one a little and the common wealth is enormous.
Salaam
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when it comes to clothes can't be same. Man should cover himself but not like a woman. Nobody cares about man's boobs rotfl
Peace,
I didn't mean that men and women cover themselves in the same way. I meant that modesty in all ways is practiced by men and women.
Well, it is mentioned in hadiths and the Bible, women must cover their hair/head when pray, but this is not 100%, its based on my research. If you go to mosque or ortodox church you will see all women covered, they do this for centuries so why should you be different?
I could ask you the question though Why do I have to do that just because all those people do it?
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Peace,
Men should also dress modestly. Only reason I think there is certain emphasis on women in Quran is because women seem to innately rely on their beauty and therefore be revealing more than necessary to be approved of. I am not talking for all women but generally.
Also, women who are past the prospect of marriage can relax the dress code a little, so it is the features of beauty which should be covered. What should be reduced is the features which may induce involuntary temptation in the male counterparts. On the other hand, the men needs to act modestly too and should guard their minds. But it is hard if the woman is showing part of her breasts and the outfit is very tight or simply showing a lot of skin in daring ways. Loads of makeup can also be immodest.
An old woman is simply not that attractive that she will immediately attract the gazes of men, but she should of course still hide private parts and not dress immodestly.
I am sure it is this modesty the Quran is talking about and when it mentions not to reveal her beauty. When we dress to intentionally look attractive and especially for people to see our beauty, then we are immodest.
I think fewer men wish to reveal more of their bodies in a show of their beauty. But men are also told to be modest and the dress code is a good way to start. Think about very tight T-shirts on a muscular body, this is not very modest, is it? But men do not have the same attracting features of their body as women have. Men simply have to conceal their roughest features, ie the muscles at most and the private parts of course.
Wearing a hat can be an act of modesty, but I really feel one is too extreme if they deem the show of hair to be offensive or lack of modesty.
Certainly, men can be turned on by a long healthy female hair, but we have to draw the limits somewhere. However, if the hair is very long and beautiful the woman should be mindful of this. Also, very feminine gestures with the body should be avoided in the company of other men than the family. The Quran has one example when a woman strikes down with her heels in her walk so that it will look sexy.
Unfortunately, I do not find it wrong with the classical "hijab", but... I should never be forced upon someone. And covering the hair could also be something men can think about.
Most important is that we work on our modesty and that we do not make a wanton display.
God bless you
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There is no hint in the qur'an that what is said to the women in 24.31 is meant to guard men from temptation. And there is clear indication that it is not that since whatever it is that women are told to do or not do they must not do either in front of women who are not their women. So women and men get the same treatment, so there is not a question that the mission of women is to keep men from temptation or that it is a special duty for them, that is not enjoined on all believers. It is the men themselves who must keep themselves from temptation.
Think of Yusuf and what the Qur'an says about him. Should not what happened to him with the women have been a good opportunity for God to enjoin women to not tempt men and to cover and what not? But nothing, aboslutely nothing is said at that point. Women are not even reprimanded by god or by the prophet and it is women who justify their fault on his good looks. No rebuke from God.
Nothing is said at that point. Nor are the women lectured not to tempt men.
All believers, without distinction are enjoined to not get near zina and avoid it. Women are responsible for themselves, not for men. Each person is responsible for herself or himself.
What I find most disgusting of all this merchandising talk about women bodies is that consistently it is used to subordinate the women and their comfort, needs and wishes to the concocted "needs" or weaknesses of men. The Qur'an does not give permission for that nor says anthing that sustains such a subservience. In fact it clearle orders men to guard their chastity exactly as it tells women to do it. So with all this garbage about dress code and what not is completely beside the point. Women are not responsible for the virtue of men (as if that was possible). in fact fight off certain kind of men is quite enough of a job for their own virtue, let alone take care of the virtue of that ype of men. Preposterous. If some men feel that somebody else must watch for their virtue, then they should be acknowledged as incapacitated and suffer the consequent civil restrictions on their capacity to act. That is what is done legally when somebody is not able to control his acts.
It is shocking that when it is feared that women loose their virtue, limitations are imposed on women, and when it is feared that men may loose their virtue limitations are also imposed om women. Where in the Qur'an is such a deal? Nobody notices the joke?
So are men diminished human beings or are they not? I know they are not and that they do not need that women take care of their virtue of men and that they are quite capable of looking after themselves, their virtue comprised if they want to look after their virtue. When they do not look after their virtue it is because they do not want to look after their virtue. No mystery there. Some indeed want to do away with their virtue as much as possible and they find fantastic that women are blamed for their disinterest in their own virtue.
It must also be a joke that where women are suposedly really loose, which is the west, there muslim men behave themselves, even if women are "naked" but that if they are in a "muslim" country where women are hijabed or similar, then suddenly that is not even enough and they also are tempted and they do not seem to have enough of limits on women, and then nikab and then burka and then confined.
The Qur'an does not relate women dress to men's virtue and whoever relates it it is of his own accord not because of anything the Qur'an says.
Clearer
60.12 O Prophet! When believing women come to thee to take the oath of fealty to thee, that they will not associate in worship any other thing whatever with Allah, that they will not steal, that they will not commit adultery (or fornication), that they will not kill their children, that they will not utter slander, intentionally forging falsehood, and that they will not disobey thee in any just matter,- then do thou receive their fealty, and pray to Allah for the forgiveness (of their sins) for Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful. (12)
Here we have a clear, concise compendium of what is exacted from women believers by God for their fealty to be accepted by the Prophet. Nothing about dress. Nothing about caring for the virtue of men. Nothing about obedience to the husband or father or brother or whatever. Nothing. On the other hand, not to kill their children, not to slander, no falsehood... The priorities of God for women seem clear, and the male complaints about how much their hormones suffer because of women, contours or no contours, are not part of them. They are ignored.
Really not a genius is necessary to set out those priorities, but when it comes to women we already know that common sense is discarded from the start and the compulsion to burden women with whatever and rule them around takes over.
Salaam
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Peace,
Note that my post contained ideas on how to be modest and was not really attempting to subordinate women. I gave ideas for men as well.
It is quite common that women actively make a show of their beauty and emphasize on their femininity. They wish others to confirm their beauty.
I have no problem with people dressing in whatever way the like, but I feel uncomfortable talking to a woman revealing part of her breasts and wearing a miniskirt and the clothing being as tight as it can be.
And sometimes I do not wish to see the beauty of a woman but I am forced to unless I look down on the floor or look another way. This may give a slightly impolite signal.
But anyway, modest clothing and I am okay even if it is a beautiful woman. Veil is optional. But not a dress revealing too much.
Anyway, I cannot decide for other people but it is what I consider modest.
God bless you
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Peace everyone,
I have to say, I agree with much of what huruf as put. Although I can also understand other people's beliefs on this matter.
In terms of beauty, although both men and women can be attracted to each other because of physical attractiveness and outward appearances - 'true beauty' transcends this, I believe. At the end of the day, I'm attracted to a person because of who they are primarily not just because they look nice.
The Quran is encouraging modesty, I believe, so that we can be stronger people, who are spiritually grounded. If the Quran was to teach modesty for women (and men as well but the topic here had shifted to women's modesty) is that really primarily because of men's lust - would that then mean that men are more shallow? Then should there be something in the Quran to teach men about how to overcome shallowness? I don't think that's what its really getting at when it talks about modesty as huruf has already pointed out.
Modesty is not just in dress but in actions and behaviour and the Quran clearly gives examples of this. So modesty seems to be much more about how to live as a believer, on a path towards God. Although of course, it is a good thing and part of modesty if you aren't encouraging men's/women's lusts etc. But I don't think we can say that is the entire point of modesty.
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Peace supportpeacenotwar,
It is quite known that the bodylines of a female stirs up emotions in a male.
But like I said, simply not acting like a typical female is enough, covering and not showing breasts and such things. Men have a responsibility too and we should guard our thoughts.
Put both should dress moderately. A muscular man should not have a T-shirt which is very tight either.
God bless you
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Beauty and enticement are not the same thing. There is nothing wrong with being or looking beautiful. But there is wrong with looking ostentatious, showing off, calling attention. The distinction is plain, and even if people cling at straws on words, the fact is that they know exactly the difference, but it is one of those "loopholes"? that are exploited so as to encumber women with "feelings" of men. I have never seen a decent man affirm that he is dependent on women attitudes in order to keep virtue. Men, also lustful men, happen to be quite, quite capable of keeping control when their money or their power is at stake. Then there is no woman at all that is going to entice them. So, poor things, they are stirred. Every person, of any sex is stirred by different things, sexual or not. Being stirred is a fact of life and nobody would dream of making others act on his or her stirrements.
So the virtue of women not to show off, not to call attention, not to display their goods, or their jewely or anything else is meant for the virtue of women, for their freedom from the exigences on their bodies and appearance, either way. It is not meant so that anybody is freed from keeping track of his or her own lusts and stirrments.
The example of Yusuf is there for something. But it seems that men are not interested in it at all. Much more entertaining to keep on and on on how they are stirred.
Think for instance that instead of the Qur'an bringing the examle of Yusuf resisting temptation it would have been a woman in the Qur'an who would have been in the very same situation, what would have been made of it and how we would never stop hearing about women's duty to resist absolutely anything, any temptation and their responsibility no matter what. Not that that is not expected from women, but at least the Qur'an cannot be called to contribute for that. Since it was a man who is a model of resisting lust, nothing, but nothing, ABSOLUTELY NOTHING is made out of it. Nobody has any use for it except as a fairy tale.
It is so sad, so very sad, to the lengths that the Qur'an goes to teach men and women and how artfully everything is diverted from the most obvious and clear to twisting words and extracting unsaid meanings out of anything.
Is in the Qur'an a clear exampple given of men being quite capable if they are virtuous or resisting any assault, not enticement, assault? Is it given or not?
It is. No room to hide. Not in the Qur'an. May be in some other hadith, but not in the most truthful, honourable Qur'an.
So once again, let us keep separate men's virtue and womens clothing or not clothing. They are two completely different matters. The first pertains to men exclusively and the other pertains to women exclusively.
Salaam
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Peace huruf,
Thanks for your words. Of course all opinions are valuable.
I still think Quran focuses a little on women and clothing due to their natural desire to look beautiful to be confirmed as a healthy female of breeding age. Not saying that you cannot be feminine, but anyway it is what I feel Quran is saying, particularly with the not to strike down your heels when you walk.
The desired result in the end is modesty and not oppression of women such as some Mullahs seem to interpret it. The Quran does not tell women to wear a veil or really what to specifically cover for that matter. But when it speaks of covering the chest I take it as to not dress in a challenging way.
It seems weird to think a woman should look like a ghost with a "chador" and some mask over their face, that they are not allowed to look like a human but someone who only exists behind a lot of fabric. And this just to avoid the lusts of men. That is very weird.
And on the other hand, despite this, men should be able to meet even unrighteous women who dress in a challenging way and be able to guard the chastity. This also with women who dress moderately but not in a traditional muslim attire.
We cannot escape from the truth that it is often so that women seek confirmation of their beauty. And many wish to try this ability to charm and tempt too.
Do not get me wrong, men or particularly young men do this too, but not in the same way. Men focus more on the social status, physical strength, money, courage, independence and so on.
If we look from the scientific side it is how we are genetically programmed.
God bless you
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Peace everyone,
Man of Faith - I don't really understand your first response to me. I said that I understand all opinions and beliefs in this matter based on the argument/theory they are coming from. I'm sorry if you somehow feel my contribution is not helping here - but that's the point of a forum, we can all state our own points rather than control each other and all think the same way.
Modesty is a central part of Islam and the Quran. When the Quran tells us to be modest and not arrogant, are we doing this for other people? Well, all I can say is personally I do not view it that way. So I view all modesty in the way I said before.
I think that to deliberately try and stir lusts in either men or women is against modesty. But I also think there is more to it that just that, as I previously mentioned.
In terms of being genetically programmed - could you explain a little what you mean by that? Do you mean programmed to focus on looks?