Bullying caused me to have deep depresion
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I have always been self concision about my nose since the age of 5 i always thought i was ugly i will cry for hours about it i will blame god for making me this way and it didn't help when people teased me about it calling me gorilla they will just tease me and make fun of me i will cry when i go home they will always bully me in school push me and try to take my shirt off to embarrass me kids can be so mean. but now im in college but i still have moment where i will cry because i look so different i remember on incident when i got beat up by a guy in middle school and when i ask him what did i do to him he said it is because your ugly i been abused and teased because i look different and im just wondering if its okay to get plastic surgery on my nose im not doing it for others im doing it for me so i can love myself just wondering what the quran has to say about it or what Allah thinks about it. i never had a happy moment where i felt happy on my appearance not even once i just want to be happy im happy spiritual but physically im not i try to tell my self dont think that way but when you have been through what i been through is hard not to think that way i always thank God im always grateful for whatever i have but i dont deserve to get hurt physical and emotionally
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Salaam Loveleen,
I am sorry to hear about your bullying. Unfortunately, this is something which many people go through especially in their younger years. When young people enter adolescence, they become much more preoccupied by looks. It probably has nothing to do with your nose or anything physical about you; bullies see a "weak" target (i.e., someone who won't say anything back to them) and manipulate that situation. Bullies tend to be the most insecure people and to draw attention away from themselves, they employ this method to put someone else under the spotlight. Unfortunately, the insecurities of bullies leaves the bullied to focus on the supposed deficiency-as it has done in your case. Hopefully as you get older, you will realise that there is nothing wrong with you and unfortunately, you were just picked on to divert attention from others.
We live in a very image conscious society, but if we look at the world around us, there are many issues which are greater than this; matters of life and death. Allah SWT made you the way you are; be proud of it. As you grow older, you will realise the subjectivity of beauty. Having seen your pictures which you had on your profile briefly when you first joined, I certainly didn't find you to be "ugly".
Take care.
Salaam.
Sajda.
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your right beauty always change i wish sometimes i can take my own advice and suck it up but i just want to be happy and love myself and be confident thank you for your respond it kind of made me look at this situation in a different light or point of view