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    43
    If ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans, Marry women of your choice (no limit to this point) mathna wathulathawarubaAAa;(I think this part is saying something like ?those in need, willing and able ) but if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly , then only one,(now the limit is being set ? for those not able to be fare) or be satisfied with what you have already (if you are already married), that will be more suitable, to prevent you from doing injustice.

    6142
    O ye who believe! When death approaches any of you, (take) witnesses among yourselves when making bequests,- two just men of your own?..

    why two , why can?t it be more then two?

    4175
    Allah (thus) directs you as regards your Children's (Inheritance) to the male, a portion equal to that of two females??

    Male not equal to a female, why??

    I think ?mathna wathulathawarubaAAa? are not numbers at all.

    peace

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      Ustaz Azhar Idrus and Abu Ameena Bilal Phillips can bang their heads to wall for following satans' lies and attribute this satanic teachings to God the Lord.

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        diamantinehoneybunch
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        http//zainabslounge.blogspot.com/2013/11/a-discourse-on-polygamy.html?m=1

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          I always curious with anti-polygamy theories, because Nabi's wives always written as plural.

          What purpose of this theory?? To make Islam sound good or just to tackle Islamophobes hmm

          Who cares.

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            I always curious with anti-polygamy theories, because Nabi's wives always written as plural.

            What purpose of this theory?? To make Islam sound good or just to tackle Islamophobes hmm

            Who cares.

            asdfghjkl

            Do not mean to be an apologist but I think Prophet was allowed to take many wives because womenmen ratio was very high at his time. Maybe.

            Verse 3350 only says the "polygamous commandment" is only for Prophet but not others.

            This 43 issue bothers me a lot. Just look at the so-called Muslim countries. Go to polygamy article on Wikipedia and look at the map.

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              because womenmen ratio was very high at his time. Maybe.

              I already expected some answer like this.Assumption.

              So please remove Quran from dictionary from now, it's better you became agnostic, learn anything from the start/zero like me

              Peace

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                diamantinehoneybunch
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                I already expected some answer like this.Assumption.

                So please remove Quran from dictionary from now, it's better you became agnostic, learn anything from the start/zero like me

                Peace

                Hey it's me. I have said in your thread that the word "agnostic" may not be the best word to describe you.

                Hmm that's why I said maybe.

                I am also still curious about why the Prophet had to be polygamous.
                Maybe we have to dig the history deeper.

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                  Maybe we have to dig the history deeper.

                  History contains many speculations, cannot be reliable

                  Please read http//free-minds.org/forum/index.php?topic=9606056.msg343700#msg343700

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                    Maybe we have to dig the history deeper.

                    History contains many speculation theories, cannot be reliable.

                    Please read http//free-minds.org/forum/index.php?topic=9606056.msg343700#msg343700

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                      http//zainabslounge.blogspot.com/2013/11/a-discourse-on-polygamy.html?m=1

                      ??? there is nothing to refute. only opinions based on nothing.

                      To understand 33-50 to 33-52 there is an important question.
                      What was the religion of Muhammad before quran revelation ?
                      Quran says that he was an Ommi from an Ommi people.

                      Ommi means people with no book (from god).
                      Quran says to us that Muhammad was an orphan, poor and that he became rich after that.

                      A rich pagan man is probably a man with many wifes and concubines.
                      No ?

                      I know it is difficult to think outside the box of tales about khadija and aisha and so on.
                      Muhammad had many concubines before becoming prophet (Please stop believing in hadiths).

                      Peace

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                        ??? there is nothing to refute. only opinions based on nothing.

                        To understand 33-50 to 33-52 there is an important question.
                        What was the religion of Muhammad before quran revelation ?
                        Quran says that he was an Ommi from an Ommi people.

                        Ommi means people with no book (from god).
                        Quran says to us that Muhammad was an orphan, poor and that he became rich after that.

                        A rich pagan man is probably a man with many wifes and concubines.
                        No ?

                        I know it is difficult to think outside the box of tales about khadija and aisha and so on.
                        Muhammad had many concubines before becoming prophet (Please stop believing in hadiths).

                        Peace

                        Salaam,

                        Quran does not say anything what you say above.
                        Then how is it possible to refute something which is not there hmm

                        As long as people keep trying to understanding The Quran with ahadith and own insertions you will get only these kind of discussions.

                        Salaam,
                        Bender

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                          Salaam,

                          Quran does not say anything what you say above.

                          931 By the late morning.
                          932 And the night when it falls.
                          933 Your Lord has not left you, nor did He forget you.
                          934 And the Hereafter is better for you than the first.
                          935 And your Lord will give you and you will be pleased.
                          936 Did he not find you an orphan and He sheltered you?
                          937 And He found you lost, and He guided you?
                          938 And He found you in need, so He gave you riches?
                          939 As for the orphan, you shall not make him sad.
                          9310 And as for the beggar, you shall not reprimand.
                          9311 And you shall proclaim the blessings from your Lord.

                          Peace

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                            931 By the late morning.
                            932 And the night when it falls.
                            933 Your Lord has not left you, nor did He forget you.
                            934 And the Hereafter is better for you than the first.
                            935 And your Lord will give you and you will be pleased.
                            936 Did he not find you an orphan and He sheltered you?
                            937 And He found you lost, and He guided you?
                            938 And He found you in need, so He gave you riches?
                            939 As for the orphan, you shall not make him sad.
                            9310 And as for the beggar, you shall not reprimand.
                            9311 And you shall proclaim the blessings from your Lord.

                            Peace

                            Salaam,

                            Thank you for the verses, now try to read them with a clear mind and heart, I am sure it does not say what you assume.

                            Salaam,
                            Bender

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                              There have been and may be there are many occasions in history where marriage was may be not absolutely, but certainly in a great measure more a way to contract alliances than to make people happy. Happiness they should arrange some other way. That has been case till very recently of royal marriages. Out of the question to marry for beauty, love or money, unless they coincided with state interests. Marriages were arranged by their interested persons or their helpers as a political or social tool for power or standing or fortune.

                              In some societies, like aztec societies, poligamy was restricted to the ruling classes. The war tolls were heavy in losses for those classes and the stability and strength of the state depended a lot on the solidness of the ties between all components of the the ruling classes. It was not a privilege, it was a duty.

                              In other societies, poligamy may not have ben prohibited to lower classes, but surely it was far less common. I think that was the case in anient Egypt and in most socieities where poligamy is recognized by law. And where it has not been recognized by law, like most christian european societies, it existed nonetheless, almost exclusively among the higher classes, but it was regarded as a second class marriage. Only later in history XVIII, XIX century it derived into the mos humiliating condition for the woman, who was used all the same but which got no acknowledgement either for herself or her children.

                              At the time of the Prophet in Arabia, it seems that poloigamy was also common, and, to be expected amonst the ruling classes. When the prophet attained that "rank", it was only tob e expected that the alliances and supports arrangement particularly through marriage would have been taken for granted. I do not even think that it occurred to the prophet that he could refuse such things if they did result in improvement for the believers and for the population at large. He was a good person, a gentle man, what was there to loose for a woman of the family to contract such an advantageous alliance? What could be reason to refuse? That he had already a wife? So what? All powerful people has already awife and then more... I do not think he could refuse or that he would refuse knowing that that would be taken as an afront as a hostile act. The proposers might have understood that he haggled on the terms and conditions but not a refusal.

                              So, I do not think it was something in which he had or could see a choice.

                              The revelation liberated him when it prohibited to acquire new wives or replace any. And that must have been along with the revelation of Qur'an with the injunction to marry the single, which in itself is a regulation valve which suits the demographic conditions of the societies. If there are enough of the other sex to go around, you marry de single, if there is scarcity then you may do something to alleviate it.

                              Salaam

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                                Peace,

                                Best way to follow God and the Message is to use your best judgement. If you consider polygamy to be immoral then God probably does not like it either.

                                One of the better explanations to me about the prophet's wives is that the community was told not to break up existing marriages. If the prophet had several wives before he became "more righteous" then it is likely that God gave him some exemption.

                                The common translations of 3350 seem fishy; it does not seem like an accurate translation even from those who are not bound to the sects. The verse sounds weird in my opinion when I read it using several translations. There has to be some righteous explanation to this verse. 3350 with traditional interpretation means that the prophet could marry an infinite number of wives. It does not sound sane. However, it does not rumble my Faith in Qur'an as God's Message and I know lots is misunderstood due to ignorance and millennia long distortion of the Arabic passages.

                                God bless you

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                                  357
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                                  would polygomy be good in this case or bad?

                                  http//historymatters.gmu.edu/d/6271/

                                  i mean , if women cant find single men? or should they try and steal other womens husbands?

                                  confused

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                                    would polygomy be good in this case or bad?

                                    http//historymatters.gmu.edu/d/6271/

                                    confused

                                    I have known long that you are one of those polygamy (polygyny) supporters.
                                    You even said you are married to 3 Sunni gals, remember?

                                    Polygamy can be good in a land where the ratio of women to men, let say, 601

                                    What about MEN who can't find single women? Should they steal others' wives? That argument is flawed to defend polygamy.

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                                      According to statistics, female population increased more than men.
                                      Proof Googling

                                      Logically if all men practice monogamy, it will be hard for some woman.

                                      Even Quran support polygamy, the woman also have right to refuse offer for becaming second wive

                                      Salaam

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                                        According to statistics, female population increased more than men.
                                        Proof Googling

                                        Logically if all men practice monogamy, it will be hard for some woman.

                                        Even Quran support polygamy, the woman also have right to refuse offer for becaming second wive

                                        Salaam

                                        Another sign how illogical it is to claim that God would support polygamy. Under utopian conditions there is like one woman for each man and it would be unfair to the other men if some man had several wives. And also everything comes in pairs...

                                        God bless you

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                                          Another sign how illogical it is to claim that God would support polygamy. Under utopian conditions there is like one woman for each man and it would be unfair to the other men if some man had several wives. And also everything comes in pairs...
                                          God bless you

                                          I said "Even Quran" not "God support".

                                          Peace be with you

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