What is love? - discuss.
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Peace everyone,
I would like to share some quotes with you. These are the last quotes from me (in this thread).
"The greatest love stories are not those in which love is only spoken of, but those in which it is acted upon."
- Steve Maraboli
"Everytime I thought I was being rejected from something good, I was actually being re-directed to something better."
- Steve Maraboli
"Try not to confuse attachment with love. Attachment is about fear and dependency, and has more to do with love of self than love of another. Love without attachment is the purest love because it isn't about what others can give you because your empty. It is about what you can give others because you're already full."
- Yasmin Mogahed
"The root of suffering is attachment."
- Siddharta Gautama
"If a person loves only one other person and is indifferent to all others, his love is not love but a symbiotic attachment, or an enlarged egotism."
- Erich Fromm
"Love is a decision, it is a judgment, it is a promise. If love were only a feeling, there would be no basis for the promise to love each other forever. A feeling comes and it may go. How can I judge that it will stay forever, when my act does not involve judgment and decision."
- Erich Fromm
"Love isn't something natural. Rather it requires discipline, concentration, patience, faith, and the overcoming of narcissism. It isn't a feeling, it is a practice."
- Erich Fromm
"Immature love says 'I love you because I need you.' Mature love says 'I need you because I love you."
- Erich Fromm
"In love the other is important; in lust you are important."
- Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh
"Love can never possess. Love is giving freedom to the other. Love is an unconditional gift, it is not a bargain."
- Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh
"Life without love is like a tree without blossoms or fruit."
- Khalil Gibran
"It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages."
- Friedrich Wilhelm Nietsche
"Don't chase people. Be yourself, do your own thing and work hard. The right people - the ones who really belong in your life - will come to you. And stay."
- Will Smith
"Appreciate being single because that's when you grow the most...and with that growth, you come to know what you're looking for."
- Daniel Goddard
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Salaam hawk,
How wonderful to read your posts.
By the grace of Allah, may those of us who are still existing in the bubble of our singledom be blessed with partners who are a blessing to us and we to them.
All praise is due to Allah, The Lord of The Worlds.
Peace.
Sajda.
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Peace.
Love is putting GOD first. That is true love, with that, you may love all His creation.
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Yet, some people set up idols to rival God, and love them as if they are God. Those who believe love God the most. If only the transgressors could see themselves when they see the retribution! They will realize then that all power belongs to God alone, and that God's retribution is awesome.
Beware, love ( of this life and in this life) can be an illusion.GOD bless.
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Salaam hawk,
How wonderful to read your posts.
By the grace of Allah, may those of us who are still existing in the bubble of our singledom be blessed with partners who are a blessing to us and we to them.
All praise is due to Allah, The Lord of The Worlds.
Peace.
Sajda.
Thank you Sajda, indeed, "All praise is due to Allah, The Lord of The Worlds."
May Allah grant you what you ask of himPeace.
Love is putting GOD first. That is true love, with that, you may love all His creation.
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Yet, some people set up idols to rival God, and love them as if they are God. Those who believe love God the most. If only the transgressors could see themselves when they see the retribution! They will realize then that all power belongs to God alone, and that God's retribution is awesome.
Beware, love ( of this life and in this life) can be an illusion.GOD bless.
Peace.Peace good logic, you are exactly correct. Acquiring understanding is one the
key elements to success in this life as well as the next. Why would any sane
person live a life other than an existence that conforms with the creator of that life?
Submission to Allah is the key to happiness, therefore if we want a happy life
we should ask Allah to give us one, but in order to receive this blessing our hearts (receptacles)
must conform to what is needed to receive such a blessing.May Allah reward your diligence
peace
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Peace everyone,
I like your posts in this thread hawk. I hope that those of us who are single/unmarried will be blessed with partners in the future.
It seems that many men and women are very picky, demanding and entitled these days. And it seems that many people expect to find a perfect/flawless person (a princess/prince). I think that if one has a lot of expectations/demands for a future partner, then it will become hard/difficult to find a compatible/like-minded partner. If/whenever I get to know a woman, I think it's important that we have similar beliefs and similar views on life. But we don't have to be carbon copies of each other. And we don't have to agree on everything. But we have to find a common ground. Also, people change. For example, I like to exercise regularly. And even though I want a future partner who also likes to exercise regularly, I am willing to get to know a woman who doesn't exercise at all. If I am lucky, she might start to exercise in the future. When it comes to getting to know the the opposite sex, I have many preferences. But I have few expectations.
Personally, I don't like to play games when I get to know the opposite sex. Therefore I just want to be myself from the beginning. I prefer that a woman I get to know be the same way. I think it's important to be authentic/real from the get go. Because then the opposite sex know who you are. Thus, you don't have to change/compromise yourself later.
I once read that the most happy/successful marriages, are those marriages where the husband and wives are best friends. Therefore, I want my future partner to be my best friend before we get married. If a person does not become my best friend before marriage, there is no guarantee that she will become my best friend after marriage. I believe that a marriage can only be happy/successful if a man and a woman are good/best friends. As a saying goes, "It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages."
Personally, I am not financially ready for marriage. I had some financial hardships/difficulties in the past. And used to worry about my economic situation. But a few years I ago, I overcame my financial hardships/difficulties. So thankfully, I no longer have to worry about my economic situation. That being said, I don't think that I am financially ready for marriage yet. Because the Quran suggests that a man (husband) should provide for his wife and child/children. I can provide for myself. But I can't provide for a partner yet.
Quran 2433 And let those who are not able to marry continue to be chaste until God enriches them of His Bounty. And if those who are maintained by your oaths seek to consummate the marriage, then document it with them if you find that they are ready, and give them from the wealth of God which He has bestowed upon you. And do not force your young women to need if they have desired to be independent, in order that you may make a gain in the goods of this worldly life. And if anyone has compelled them, then for their compulsion, God is Forgiving, Merciful.
From my understanding of the Quran, verse 2433 suggests that a man should remain pure/chaste (not get to know a woman as more than friends) until he is financially ready to take the friendship further. In other words, verse 2433 suggests that a man should ONLY be friends with a woman until he is financially ready to take the friendship further. As mentioned earlier, I'm not financially ready for marriage. Therefore, I have decided to not get know a woman in a romantic way (as more than friends) until the future (when I become financially ready for marriage). Thus, I have decided to only be friends (have a strictly platonic relationship) with a woman until I am financially ready to get to know a woman in a romantic way (as more than friends).
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My brothers and sisters... I would like to share an article with you.
5 advantages of being single
http//www.letstalkrelations.com/advantages-of-being-single.html
My hope is that those of you who are single/unmarried will find it helpful/useful.
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Thank you @ Hiroshi, for letting us here to know about the heartwarming illustrations from Puuung.
I found more of her works, and I think they're also interesting and beautiful.
These are links to see more of her artworks (illustrations of love)
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https//s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/736x/48/06/4e/48064ede4de6866ca28edea035f985a1.jpg
https//s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/736x/9f/5d/ef/9f5defe50e0d131598ffeb428737ddea.jpg
https//s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/736x/56/d8/cc/56d8cced8f1a9a8d0db511812080185e.jpg
https//s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/736x/0a/46/53/0a46537aaf4dc9f5bc47ce641c1c38c5.jpg
https//s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/736x/7f/47/50/7f47508b79a50ff987b3a6c637e069f6.jpg
https//s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/736x/bd/14/df/bd14dfc19db0b65746dbfa9e184649c0.jpg
https//s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/736x/97/a2/4c/97a24ceb2d77716ae05433fa53ec1bd4.jpg
I really like this one
https//s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/736x/8c/99/74/8c9974d6d560810b2469852ea6977dc9.jpg
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Peace JavaLatte and everyone,
Thank you for sharing more of Puuung's works here. I like Puuung's artwork. I think that the pictures you shared in your links are a great addition to the link I shared (with some Puuung's artwork) in a post in this thread.
By the way, I'd like to share an article here.
Real love vs. The Fake Stuff
http//www.getfrank.co.nz/dating-romance-relationships/relationship-advice/real-love-vs-the-fake-stuff
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Peace Bender.
I have just waisted 4 minutes 16 seconds! But I enjoyed it.
Peace Taro, I though I will give you a couple of quotes back!
To be happy with a man, you must understand him a lot and love him a little.
To be happy with a woman, you must love her a lot and not try to understand her at all!
GOD bless you both.
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Peace hawk99,
Peace
30/21 And one of His signs is that He created mates for you from yourselves that
you may find tranquillity in them, and He put between you love and mercy;
most surely there are signs in this for a people who reflect.I think the word love is a verb, meaning something that is done, an action,
something we can see and something we can feel (tranquility). I know my wife
loves me by the way she treats me and how she looks at me, and how she touches me,
and how she worries about me, and yes corrects me and the way she takes care of me,
how much she wants to be around me and the tranquility on her face when we
are doing nothing but cuddling, and when we sing our favorite song together and
when she cries because she says Allah has blessed her with a good marriage and family.
So I know what love is and don't have to ask "What is Love?"peace
Very interesting post, hawk99. Thank you for sharing your thoughts about "what love is." Your wife seems like a compassionate and insightful woman. And it seems that both of you have realized the meaning of true love. You are indeed a lucky man. I am happy for you.
Quran 2574 Those who say, "Our Lord, grant us from our mates and our progeny what will be the comfort of our eyes, and make us role models for the righteous."
May the God continue to bless you with a happy marriage.
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what is love baby dnt hurt me, no more no more,
song expalin what love is actually, love is the kind of test lol in which very lucky people get pass,
drawbacks of love, anytimme it can happen with anybody , and it have no remedy at all, specially in the case of cheating on wife/husband.
advantages of love, could not find it yet still searching. rotfl one advantage it will give you experience about the next relationship but this advantage is not useful at all, lol
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I think the word love is a verb, meaning something that is done, an action,
something we can see and something we can feel (tranquility). I know my wife
loves me by the way she treats me and how she looks at me, and how she touches me,
and how she worries about me, and yes corrects me and the way she takes care of me,
how much she wants to be around me and the tranquility on her face when we
are doing nothing but cuddling, and when we sing our favorite song together and
when she cries because she says Allah has blessed her with a good marriage and family.
So I know what love is and don't have to ask "What is Love?"peace
lol i remeber the first our months of my first marriage she do the same with me, but as soon my bank account finish , her love finish as well,, rotfl rotfl
ohh thanx God i did not told her about my other accounts, yay yay otherwise her love would have been extended.
i remeber paying 50 pounds for one cup of tea when i come home tired. and i only ask a cup of tea actually a nasty and shit taste of tea once in a week, lol,
and another surprise , after two months of marriage i find out i m readymade father of 6 yeaar old kid, rotfl rotfl rotfl
thats what you say height of love,
after that i understand life is game , and there are lot of players , some are very much cheaters. now next time i will play safe.
but about the love of hawk, may Allah bless you always happiness and same love , inshAllah
about my case it was my own mistake i get honey trap with that so called love.and it was scam
by the way she is in very poor conditions now a days with a kid , and i help her in money matters , becoz as a true lover of God i must pay charity .
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What does the Quran say about love. I recall a verse speaking they love them as they should love ALLAH.
Is love dedication in this since we have about 100 years of life and I saw time being meantioned in a post here so dedication of time or more like sacrifice of time and energy?
If anyone gets any context clues about the word love from the Quran please post them it may give us a better answer. -
What does the Quran say about love. I recall a verse speaking they love them as they should love ALLAH.
Is love dedication in this since we have about 100 years of life and I saw time being meantioned in a post here so dedication of time or more like sacrifice of time and energy?
If anyone gets any context clues about the word love from the Quran please post them it may give us a better answer.the love of God is the only true love , all other loves are trial and like a matrix of this worldly dimenshn,
i cant recall verse but the meanings is only Allah who really cares and love creation, rest of them are necesseties , but make sure always and always love of God is priority , as far i concern i always love allah more than anything else, after Allah then prophets and then on third place my parents, rest of the loves are nasty and dodgy
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Peace hawk99,
Very interesting post, hawk99. Thank you for sharing your thoughts about "what love is." Your wife seems like a compassionate and insightful woman. And it seems that both of you have realized the meaning of true love. You are indeed a lucky man. I am happy for you.
Quran 2574 Those who say, "Our Lord, grant us from our mates and our progeny what will be the comfort of our eyes, and make us role models for the righteous."
May the God continue to bless you with a happy marriage.
Thank you Taro Hiroshi, I want for you and all others what I want for myself.
lol i remeber the first our months of my first marriage she do the same with me, but as soon my bank account finish , her love finish as well,, rotfl rotfl
Peace imrankhawaja, I think this post belongs in the thread "what is not love" yes
peace
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Peace imrankhawaja, I think this post belongs in the thread "what is not love" yes
peace
hahaha, rotfl
there is no such thread exist here, hope so in future,
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There are different kind of loves, you love your parents and you see their mistakes for example, but loving a girl can make you blind. Love for God is true love. Love is when you would die for that person. But you can love your dog too, and then comes the question , would you die for you dog? Nobody would, so we have different kinds of love. So to answer the question we first have to know about what kind of love and between who. I would say love is when you would die for that person or at least chop off your arm.
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I understand that nobody here has mentionned Qur'an, but for the sake of clarity when the question asked is
what is love?
I would like to knnow which arabic word from the Qur'an is translated as love?Love, like peace, is a very nice word which can mean anything, I would lik to know whther we are in ious dreams or getting into something clearer, so which word of the Qur'an means the love her is being spoken of?
Salaam
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There are different kind of loves, you love your parents and you see their mistakes for example, but loving a girl can make you blind. Love for God is true love. Love is when you would die for that person. But you can love your dog too, and then comes the question , would you die for you dog? Nobody would, so we have different kinds of love. So to answer the question we first have to know about what kind of love and between who. I would say love is when you would die for that person or at least chop off your arm.
if somebody know you love them such a way that you will die for them , they wil take your advantage and they make you die and your death will give them life, lolxx, even if you love somebody dnt show them love