Please Help! Don't no what to do - I believe Suicede is my best option in mycase
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Brothers and sisters. I know I cannot take my life. So I'm only left to feel humiliated for the rest of the time. I'm nearly 15 now, do you think will my face change till I turn in my 20s, so People would stop recognizing me or I could just say that it's not me?
It's just that I never planned my fate turn into this one. My father is just dead morally. He says that is the worst thing that he could have imagined. Because even after I'll die it will affect life's of my family and relatives. That I dishonored them like no one ever did in their entire family history.
I can see adult men smiling at perversely when I'm out. This is sickening. I feel so sick even having a perfectly healthy body. I don't even know if I will ever develop into a Mentally Strong and healthy male.
What kind of legacy did my soul leave on this earth?My mother keeps telling me a story that once she had me, that the she was in a truck and the truck fell out off the cliff. And a splinter went right through her hand bag that she was holding in her hands. And luckily(or unluckily in my case maybe) in the hand bag was there a golden watch that my uncle gave my mother as a gift. Due to this watch the splinter stop, if it wasn't for the watch the splinter would have penetrated the womb.
And there were many different instances that I should have been never born but due to some lucky accidents I did get born.
What to do with my life? Should I save money for a plastic surgery and get a new face? Is it even possible?
Peace
PLEASE READ EVERY AYAAT I AM CITING IN THIS POST FOR YOU
STOP feeling sorry for yourself young man,
You did what you did.
It may be this serves as a Sign for all of us to acknowledge masturbation is to be avoided if possible.
Indeed we are tested once or twice a cycle, I believe the degree of what we are tested is determined by what we have incurred with our own hands. What are hands incurred, are deeds we committed counted against us, which our good deeds for the cycle did not measure up to warrant pardon for Quran 9126; 4230Allah knows the measure of all things in number including our deeds and speech! Glory be to Him!
So do not sulk or complain or whine but remain firm and grateful to Him during this trial
Indeed it is of the matter requiring determination Quran 3117If you are ashamed by it and it ha sparked in you humility then seek to avoid it in the future.
Remain patient over what has happened and do not despair.
Only those astray despair of the Mercy of their Rabb Quran 1556
Say "Indeed to God we belong and indeed to Him we will surely return" Quran 2156
The honor and acquisition of wealth, prosperity, success in this life of the world are only illusions!
So do not despair because you think you may no longer play professional football,
Do not despair of the mockery of those who do not understand Quran 2212Please do not let this trial make you go astray or harden your heart, endure with due patience so that you may succeed and reap the rewards that await the patient, the believing, and righteous doers in the Hereafter!
Peace and Tranquility upon you brother
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PLEASE READ EVERY AYAAT I AM CITING IN THIS POST FOR YOU
STOP feeling sorry for yourself young man,
You did what you did.
It may be this serves as a Sign for all of us to acknowledge masturbation is to be avoided if possible.
Indeed we are tested once or twice a cycle, I believe the degree of what we are tested is determined by what we have incurred with our own hands. What are hands incurred, are deeds we committed counted against us, which our good deeds for the cycle did not measure up to warrant pardon for Quran 9126; 4230Allah knows the measure of all things in number including our deeds and speech! Glory be to Him!
So do not sulk or complain or whine but remain firm and grateful to Him during this trial
Indeed it is of the matter requiring determination Quran 3117If you are ashamed by it and it ha sparked in you humility then seek to avoid it in the future.
Remain patient over what has happened and do not despair.
Only those astray despair of the Mercy of their Rabb Quran 1556
Say "Indeed to God we belong and indeed to Him we will surely return" Quran 2156
The honor and acquisition of wealth, prosperity, success in this life of the world are only illusions!
So do not despair because you think you may no longer play professional football,
Do not despair of the mockery of those who do not understand Quran 2212Please do not let this trial make you go astray or harden your heart, endure with due patience so that you may succeed and reap the rewards that await the patient, the believing, and righteous doers in the Hereafter!
Peace and Tranquility upon you brother
peace be with you all
praise be to God, good reminder brother
'sin' in the quran or dhanub has the meaning of a consequence, God lets us taste some of that, so that prehaps we will return, if we do, He is all capable to cover / hide (forgive) those consequences (sin).
masturbation is not good for our souls, and is more likely a harm, as it is a product of lust and continues the cycle of lust, doing it wont relieve the affliction of lust which is the consequence (sin) of impure thoughts, and focusing on impure things, giving into the temptation, all this should be avoided, i know for myself, as i used to be quite lustfull, that it is hard, it is an affliction in the soul, and the only thing that realy cures it is, by Gods will, enduring, and resisting, practising self restraint (Sabeer) and seeking Gods help, he is good, and now praise be to Him, it hardly even crosses my mind, and when it does, i endure, and it soon passes, restraining our desires leads to purification.
for the situation you are in now, seek Gods covering of that consequence (forgiveness of sin) and if you are sincere and return/repent and avoid, and make an efort, he will help, if he wills, and amend your soul, disregard others and their critisism, they cannot help or harm you, only God can, and he reminds us he will not change us untill we change us. put 1 tiny bit off effort into doing reformation (amalu as-salihah) and god will reward if once, ten times, even a hundred or more, and help you. this is the grace of God, and he is the possesor of the supreme grace. there is always hope, so do not despair, i used to be in despair, but god helped me because firstly, he willed, and as a grace for decided to work on reformation and enduring.
dont let satan dupe you, but turn to God alone, trust in him and do reformation/correction
peace be with you all
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Peace,
Brothers and sisters. I know I cannot take my life. So I'm only left to feel humiliated for the rest of the time. I'm nearly 15 now, do you think will my face change till I turn in my 20s, so People would stop recognizing me or I could just say that it's not me?
It's just that I never planned my fate turn into this one. My father is just dead morally. He says that is the worst thing that he could have imagined. Because even after I'll die it will affect life's of my family and relatives. That I dishonored them like no one ever did in their entire family history.
I can see adult men smiling at perversely when I'm out. This is sickening. I feel so sick even having a perfectly healthy body. I don't even know if I will ever develop into a Mentally Strong and healthy male.
What kind of legacy did my soul leave on this earth?My mother keeps telling me a story that once she had me, that the she was in a truck and the truck fell out off the cliff. And a splinter went right through her hand bag that she was holding in her hands. And luckily(or unluckily in my case maybe) in the hand bag was there a golden watch that my uncle gave my mother as a gift. Due to this watch the splinter stop, if it wasn't for the watch the splinter would have penetrated the womb.
And there were many different instances that I should have been never born but due to some lucky accidents I did get born.
What to do with my life? Should I save money for a plastic surgery and get a new face? Is it even possible?
Peace
Attitude is really everything. You need to carry yourself high. Maintain a good posture, stand tall, smile, and try to ignore everyone who is giving you weird attention. Have confidence in yourself. If you can't ignore people who are giving you weird looks, try smiling back at them when you see them and ask them what they find so amusing. And brush off whatever they say. ("Oh, you still care about that? I don't." Fake it until you make it. Fake confidence and composure until you actually start to believe in it and believe in yourself. The human mind is incredible. You can change your whole outlook on life; you can start that change now. (It won't come overnight, but you can't expect it to!)
As I said in my last post, bullies feed off your reactions. The more you give them to feed off of, the more they are going to continue. These people who are being perverted? They don't matter. Forget about them. Who cares. They have their own lives to be worrying about - They shouldn't be worried about yours. Don't let them get to you.
The more you dwell on the past, the more you think about what you can't change, the worse you're going to feel about yourself. You were born. You're here now. This event happened. It's over. You can't change any of that. So the question is What are you going to do now?
The more you dwell, the worse you are going to feel. It's the endless cycle of negativity. Don't get trapped in it forever. Break free of it now. You can change your life around by CHOOSING a better path for yourself. And that choice starts with seeing yourself in a better light.
You can do it. I believe in you!
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Peace WhaToDo.
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What to do with my life? Should I save money for a plastic surgery and get a new face? Is it even possible?
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I know a different way to change yourself without having to go through plastic surgery.The Christians call it Baptism- out with the old in with the new- GOD calls it -Total submission to Him-.
Yes you can easily change into this new person by letting go of your old self and start new with your Lord. He is Forgiver Most Merciful.
GOD bless you.
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Your post was a while back so i'm guessing you feel much better. I hope you do. If not, i may have some ideas why and these ideas might apply anyway.
This world's cultures are barbaric and stupid. People go around killing each other, fighting and generally acting like fools. This not because humans or life is barbaric and stupid, it is because humanity is very immature and constantly under attack by forces that wish to keep us so.
Now, when your life is merely an extension of cultural stupidity and insipidness, or even when your life is a reactionary representation of popular culture (i.e. when you rebel against it out of frustration and the like), you are likely to feel empty, lost and frustrated many times. And then, when terrible things happen like what you told us about, it can all quickly appear to be too much.Leave your cultural idiocy behind you. For instance, why do you speak of sex as evil? Where have YOU read this?!
There are things divinely written and given to man and there are things NOT divinely given to man. And then there are POPULAR things man speaks of AS IF they were divinely given, which they were not.
You are surrounded by ignorant people, mushrik and munafiq; it is rare for someone to leave the insanity of popular culture behind. And all these lost souls around you give you ideas, impressions and opinions that are as void of content as they are popular.Frankly, when you speak of becoming a football player, all i can think is "Really? That's all you can think of to do?" There is so much important work to be done in the world and you wish to base your life on running around after an inflated ball with other grown men...?
Your culture does not prepare you for a life of meaning, knowledge and reason. I understand this, of course. But that very culture is itself suicidal. Did you know that man has already destroyed 30% of his arable fields in the world? Mankind is acting like idiots. Whenever your life is in line with popular culture's craziness, you are asking for misery, failure and emptiness. Many many people opt for suicide and it's no wonder, considering the insanity and inhumanity at large in the world today.Reexamine what your life is about. Reexamine EVERYTHING. Allah gave you a brain; use it.
Do not use your brain to embrace popular insanity but then approach Allah only when you have worked your way into a corner. Always lead a life of compassion, truth and reason, for Allah did not give you life that you might waste it or throw it away, either by killing yourself of by running around behind a ball. -
Peace Socrates.
Very appropriate philosophy "Socrates". Sound advice.Yes some "good logic" in your post.
The human has always been rules "Bender" and nowdays ,happy with this "Hi- TECH" life, man has become lost in " Savage" ideas ,selfishness and greed. Gone is the "Man Of Faith".
Some serious pondering or "Waks" in the heads are needed for this and the next generations to wake up and reflect.
Are the present priorities the right choices? Why?
Critical thinking ,developing an eye for detail like a "Hawk" questioning,analysing,comparing...etc will at least force some to stop and think4333
If it were not that all the people might become one (Material seeking/selfish and greedy...) congregation, we would have granted everyone who disbelieves in the Most Gracious mansions with silver roofs, and stairs upon which they could climb.4334
Their mansions would have impressive gates, and luxurious furnishings.4335
Also many ornaments. All these are the temporary materials of this lowly life. The Hereafter - at your Lord - is far better for the righteous.Wrong priorities indeed.
GOD bless you.
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Peace Socrates.
Very appropriate philosophy "Socrates". Sound advice.Yes some "good logic" in your post.
The human has always been rules "Bender" and nowdays ,happy with this "Hi- TECH" life, man has become lost in " Savage" ideas ,selfishness and greed. Gone is the "Man Of Faith".
Some serious pondering or "Waks" in the heads are needed for this and the next generations to wake up and reflect.
Are the present priorities the right choices? Why?
Critical thinking ,developing an eye for detail like a "Hawk" questioning,analysing,comparing...etc will at least force some to stop and thinkwow
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Believe in God, so its his will, forget the incident, it should be good lesson for you, there is no better teacher than hardships, its direct from God, it means God selected you to teach, say sorry to Him and thank him for the guidance, you do not have to worry about anyone else.
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The bodily is just a husk and temporary. Focus on the spiritual and ignore worldly people who are concerned about bodily matters. It may hurt that you were not given an appealing exterior, but it might also be a thought-provoker for you. Focus on what is important in life.
Be well
Amenuel -
The bodily is just a husk and temporary. Focus on the spiritual and ignore worldly people who are concerned about bodily matters. It may hurt that you were not given an appealing exterior, but it might also be a thought-provoker for you. Focus on what is important in life.
Be well
AmenuelI think this response was meant for another thread, I think maybe hansolo's thread
http//free-minds.org/forum/index.php?topic=9608796.0