...But I want to wear hijab anyways?
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Salam everyone ) I hate to add yet another post on the exhausted topic of "hijab" but I really would appreciate some opinions because after almost a year of continuous research, I still cannot come to a decision.
Just a little background I converted to Islam 2 years ago, followed the Sunni ways, and started to wear the headscarf a year after converting. I then took it off after 4 months of wearing when I stumbled upon Quran-alone websites and realized I did not find it to be prescribed in the Quran. At this point, I did not have any problems with wearing the hijab, but after some conversing with my husband, I became convinced that by continuing to wear it, I was showing a false image of Islam.
Since probably a week after removing it, I was having second thoughts. I was concerned I did not give it enough time and was scared I was making a mistake. Over the past 10 months since removing it, I have found myself pretty much trying to find a reason to put it back on.
At this point, I can see both sides -- I find myself convinced by both the evidences that it is and is not required, although I tend to find the evidences that it is not required to be the stronger position.
You would think that strong evidence that it is not required, coupled with the fact that I am a convert and my family is not muslim, AND the fact that my husband is glad that I am not wearing it, would be enough for me to have taken it off and never looked back... but I can't let it go for some reason.
Although I know that in the big picture, it is such a minor thing, and I feel confident enough in saying that God has not prescribed it, I almost always desire to wear it. I've tried to analyze my reasons for this desire and so far I think it comes down to I feel more spiritual and more connected/reminded of God when I am wearing it, I do believe it is more modest and I think it does prevent me from relying on beautifying my hair, and I think a part of me likes the fact that it makes me feel more connected to the muslim community (even though I do not agree with many Sunni practices), since I am a convert I guess. Also, I like the look of it.
Why won't I just put it on then? Well my family, my husband and the fear of seeming hypocritical.
Also I struggle with the fear that if I wear it, I'm adding a restriction where Allah did not put one - but this situation seems much like the fact that I try to maintain a vegetarian/vegan diet, in which I restrict myself of meats that Allah did not restrict us from because I believe it might be better health-wise for me, even though I acknowledge that these meats are still lawful. So could I treat wearing a scarf in the same way, given that I would be wearing it for the reasons I listed above, all while acknowledging that it is not a prescription from Allah?
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Salam/Peace dear sister. Nowhere in the Qur'an does it say that is forbidden to have a headcover but it's not prescribed either. Allah/God (SWTAY) simply states guard your chasity & private parts so it is fine to wear a headcover dear sister. As for the verses about the dress code
http//www.misconceptions-about-islam.com/dress-code-women-veil.htm
https//factszz.wordpress.com/2014/06/01/does-noble-quran-ordain-a-lady-to-cover-her-head-or-her-face-read-the-truth/
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Dear sis, I concur with the opinion of Sardar. Basically It's your exclusive right to decide whether u have to wear or not because it's you who is accountable exclusively for the decision. You are accountable to none but Allah, so try to feel the uniqueness of your person and your unique relationship with God Almighty. U r absolutely unique in the universe as well as your relationship. So take full responsibility of even a thought and decide yourself. Do not let other minds to take over yours. It's OK to to ask for opinion, but analyse and decide without any pressure. It's basically what God wants from all of us. To be honest, transparent and loyal to Him. He likes us to err rather than following borrowed thoughts. So dear sister, don't get confused, decide, take full responsibility and be open always to change your decision tomorrow. Never lock yourself. Thanks, and apology for poor English.
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Salam and welcome to the forum,
The reality is most people judge others by how they look. Most people will perceive a notion be it true or not whether you wear a headscarf or not and whether its from the muslim community or not.
It's not a sin to wear it, you've worn it and taken it off before. if you feel more comfortable wearing it then wear it.
why not keep it off in the presence of your family?or even explain why you wear it. why not tell your husband why you want to wear it. You have chosen a dietary lifestyle and now you've chosen to dress how you like. no biggie you're not forcing others to do it, you're not telling people it's a duty. You're doing it because of how it makes you feel.
People you care about will respect whatever it is you value (generally speaking you'd hope so!) even if they disagree with it, they'll get over it.
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Salam.
Have you considered the verse below as part of the dress code, especially when the question on how long the garment should be?
2744
It was said to her ?Enter the palace.? So when she saw it she thought there was a pool, and she uncovered her legs. He said ?It is a palace paved with crystal.? She said ?My Lord, I have wronged myself; and I submit with Solomon to God, Lord of the worlds.?Thanks!
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Salam.
Have you considered the verse below as part of the dress code, especially when the question on how long the garment should be?
2744
It was said to her ?Enter the palace.? So when she saw it she thought there was a pool, and she uncovered her legs. He said ?It is a palace paved with crystal.? She said ?My Lord, I have wronged myself; and I submit with Solomon to God, Lord of the worlds.?Thanks!
Don't you think that when Sheba uncovered her legs when she thought there was a pool, she didn't her dress get wet.
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Wait let me fix that grammar error
Don't you think that when Sheba uncovered her legs when she thought there was a pool, she didn't want her dress to get wet.
There you go.
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Interesting.
So when Sheba says I have wrong myself she is actually referring to her thinking the floor was a pool; not her exposing her legs before a man.
So then it goes without saying that lengthening the garments does not have to reach down and cover the legs?
Thank you.
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Interesting.
So when Sheba says I have wrong myself she is actually referring to her thinking the floor was a pool; not her exposing her legs before a man.
So then it goes without saying that lengthening the garments does not have to reach down and cover the legs?
Thank you.
She wronged herself by worshipping the sun.ok
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Interesting.
So when Sheba says I have wrong myself she is actually referring to her thinking the floor was a pool; not her exposing her legs before a man.
So then it goes without saying that lengthening the garments does not have to reach down and cover the legs?So what are the odds here
Queen of Sabaa says I have wronged myself because
1- She thought the floor was a pool and it turned out it was crystal. Whoops.
2- She exposed her hairy legs to a man.
3- She lived her whole life worshiping god knows who, doing god knows what.Hmmmm
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Salam everyone .
I converted to Islam 2 years ago, followed the Sunni ways, and started to wear the headscarf I then took it off after 4 months of wearing when I stumbled upon Quran-alone websites and realized I did not find it to be prescribed in the Quran. At this point, I did not have any problems with wearing the hijab, but after some conversing with my husband, I became convinced that by continuing to wear it, I was showing a false image of Islam.At this point, I can see both sides -- I find myself convinced by both the evidences that it is and is not required, although I tend to find the evidences that it is not required
Also I struggle with the fear that if I wear it, I'm adding a restriction where Allah did not put one - but this situation seems much like the fact that I try to maintain a vegetarian/vegan diet, in which I restrict myself of meats that Allah did not restrict us from because I believe it might be better health-wise for me, even though I acknowledge that these meats are still lawful.
Peace bls381, You pretty much answered your own question
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I stumbled upon Quran-alone websites and realized I did not find it to be prescribed in the Quran.
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I became convinced that by continuing to wear it, I was showing a false image of Islam.
I understand that you want to belong to the community at large and wearing
the hijab helps you to fit in, so maybe you can find a compromise between the two.peace
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Thank you all for your responses, I appreciate them. I've been praying about it for several months now, asking God to increase my desire to wear a scarf if it is good for me, or decrease my desire if it is best not to cover, and my desire has only gotten stronger. But how is one to determine whether a feeling is from oneself or from Allah? It's something I've been struggling with how to determine..
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Peace
Listen not to those who take their names from pagans.
Rather hear this, if you asked Allah for a Sign then surely He responds to the supplication.
If you have received the Sign you prayed about, then act accordingly or if you are uncertain, then give charities, remain patient and ask for a distinct undeniable Sign. Then, when you receive it again do not entertain doubt and falter, but remain firm and glorify His Praises. -
Salam Sister!
Here is what references I could share from Al-Quran. Root meanings are also given for ready reference/convenience). Hope it would be helpful for you in order to make a decision after you check and verify for yourself
Hijab is a screen/curtain inside a woman's house (Ref 3353). Wives/ of the Prophet (Peace be upon him) were supposed to talk to outsiders/non-family males behind such screen - exceptions for them are given in 3355. Hijab was also practiced by Maryam (mother of Isa A.S). It is not compulsory for other /believing women, however.
= Ha-Jiim-Ba = something which hinders/prevents/precludes/conceals/covers/protects/intervenes, hid, seclude, to veil/conceal/cover/hide a thing, intervene between two things.
hajaba vb. (1) pcple. pass. 8315
hijab n.m. 746, 1745, 1917, 3353, 3832, 415, 4251
Lane's Lexicon, Volume 2, page 151, 152 ## http//ejtaal.net/aa/#q=7jbMem/Women's dress/ should at least cover their private parts (726-27).
Wearing Scarf or Niqab or Burqa are additional to the women's dress. For /believing women, part of their head-cover or outer garment (extra garment in addition to the normal dress/س must cover their bosoms as per 2431. Exceptions are also mentioned in the same Ayah/.= Lam-Ba-Siin = To wear/cover, put on a garment, be clothed in, envelop, conceal, conformed, cloak/disguise, that which is worn.
Obscure/confuse/confound, mystify, render a thing obscure and confused to another.
Employed/busied/occupied himself with/within a thing, become involved/entangled/complicated, to mix/mingle/accompany a thing.
labasa vb. (I)
perf. act. 69
impf. act. 242, 371, 665, 682, 6137
labs n.vb - 5015
labisa vb. (I) - 1614, 1831, 3512, 4453
labus n.m. - 2180
libas n.m. - 2187, 2187, 726, 726, 727, 16112, 2223, 2547, 3533, 7810]
LL, V7, p 175, 176 ## http//ejtaal.net/aa/#q=lbsKha-Miim-Ra = cover/conceal/veil, becoming changed/altered from a former state/condition, mixed/mingled/incorporated/blended, intoxication/wine/grapes, make-up, any intoxicating thing that clouds/obscures the intellect, come upon secretly/unexpectedly, crowding of people, odour of perfume, women's head cover, man's turban, a covering, something fermented/matured.
khamr n.fem. 2219, 590, 591, 1236, 1241, 4715
khumur n. masc. pl. 2431...and let them draw/set/cast (walyadribna) with their veils/covers (bikhumurihinna) over (AAala) their breasts/bosom (juyoobihinna)...
Lane gives some examples ?the dwelling was hidden by the trees?, ?he concealed his testimony?, "She (a woman) applied KhaMaRat as a linament, to beautify her complexion."."KhiMaR a woman's head-covering."
LL, V2, p 443, 444, 445, 446 ## http//ejtaal.net/aa/#q=xmrJiim-Lam-Ba-Ba = Woman's outer wrapping garment, that which envelopes the whole body, wide garment for a woman, dominion or sovereignty or rule.
jalabib (pl. of jilbab) 3359 ## http//ejtaal.net/aa/#q=JLBB
For me, the dress can be fashionable according to one's society or culture. Because I think that means to do things according to the known and acceptable standards of one's immediate society.
= Ayn-Ra-Fa = he knew it, had cognition of it, to discern, became acquainted with it, perceiving a thing by reflection and by consideration of the effect, he requited, to acknowledge a part, manager/orderer/overseer, become submissive/tractable/pleasant, the making to know, fragrant, to inform oneself, learn/discover, seek/desire knowledge, benefaction/goodness, mane (of a horse) waves (of the sea), elevated place/portion, higher/highest, first/foremost, a question or questioning respecting a subject of information in order to know it, commonly received/known, to confess/acknowledge/indicate, high mountain, Mount Arafat.
The difference between arafa & alima is that the former refers to distinct and specific knowledge, while the latter is more general. Opposite to arafa is ankara (to deny) and opposite ot alima is jahila (to be ignorant).
al araf - the elevated place, high dignity, distinguished position, place of discernment or acknowledgement, highest or most elevated faculties of discernment or ma'rifah (knowledge of right and wrong).
ma'ruf - honourable, known, recognised, good, befitting, fairness, kindness, custom of society, usage.'arafaat (pl. of 'arafat, masculine 'araf, being a version of 'aarif, the active form of 'arafa and/or 'arfun, the informational noun of 'arafa) means 'familiarizations, approbations, recognitions.'
May Allah Bless all the truth seekers.
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