Respect for elders ...
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dude!! i dont come from a sunni family but i do no that there is a lot of itty-bitty prescriptions on how to do even the most minute things....there is a tv channel here dude called 'islam channel' DUDE let me tell you...there are people who ring in the priest asking for guidance on even the most minute aspects of life! this is of course much to do with xadithic interpretation of alqoran....dude thats all i got, peace outwards.
Im sorry Gent but your response was truly beautiful. shock
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Salam ammarb87,
God clearly tells us to respect our parents but not to follow them blindly - i'm sure you're not doing this anyway though...
Think of Abrahams example in the qur'an...and no, there's no shaving of pubic hair in the scripture.
Not following their religion does not mean to disrespect them. Keep studying and if you have to argue with them try to do it in the kindest possible manner. There might not always be the need to confront them but i don't think that "doing as if" is the right way either. In the scripture, true, we can deny our convictions if we fear for our safety or if we are forced - but does it fit in your situation ? Depends on many things that i cannot judge...
Good luck!
Elke -
Peace Ammarb
Here's a quote that graces the introduction of Gauguin's Journal "Noa Noa."
"When a man say's to me, 'You must,' I rebel. When nature (my nature) says the same thing to me, I yeild, knowing that I am beaten.." Jean Jacques Rousseau
Respect to me is listening to what another has to say and being honest to them, not doing something because they say you should. If what anyone tells you to do does not feel right within you then do not do it, a friend of mine told me "If it does feel right in your heart how can it be wrong?"
Well, if what a voice outside of you say's conflict's with that silent voice within then why go through with it? Honey may heal one man and cause an allergic reaction to another, only YOU know what is best for you, not someone who isn't you.
I am not from a Sunni family but a Shia family, they began poiting me in many directions when I began to study 'my' religion, I have found the best direction to turn to is within yourself.
peace,
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Peace,
Respecting the elders is one of the twisted things of the Sunni Religion, it seems like a good teaching but then is abused to make youngsters follow the elders blindly and also do things unwillingly without reflection.
The Quranic Scripture as someone has mentioned earlier gives a better model to follow, Abraham speaks to his parents, we are told to respect our parents and honour them but not to obey when they tell us to commit shirk.
Nural
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Respecting the elders is one of the twisted things of the Sunni Religion, it seems like a good teaching but then is abused to make youngsters follow the elders blindly and also do things unwillingly without reflection.
Well, most cultures worldwide teach respecting of elders. In places like China this is quite extreme at times. What I think you mean is 100% obedience to parents regardless of whether its right or wrong, am I correct?
The Quranic Scripture as someone has mentioned earlier gives a better model to follow, Abraham speaks to his parents, we are told to respect our parents and honour them but not to obey when they tell us to commit shirk.
Absolutely. And I extend this to mean 'doing unjust things' which I regard as sherk, not just worshipping a statue, as is often narrowly interpreted.
Oh, and before I forget.....yeah dude!!!!!!! Phew, almost got too serious there
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When I was alot younger, a man at the Mosque told me the Qur'an asked men to shave there pubs. I found this to be untrue later.
Yeah that was what my dad told me ... but I know its not written in the Quran .... I told him that and he said dont defy Allah's orders .. I just left it there cus I couldnt be bothered to have a lengthy argument ! lol
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I think the issue above is similar to the issue of beards--you can have it or shave it, up to your personal preference. Not something to be seriously worried about.
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yeah keeping a beard isnt compulsory .. umm we have this khutba thing every friday in ou college and the guy was saying that in some instances keeping hte beard is compulsory .. He didnt bother going into detal but yeah .. some ppl actually believe that the beard is compulsory ..
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yeah keeping a beard isnt compulsory .. umm we have this khutba thing every friday in ou college and the guy was saying that in some instances keeping hte beard is compulsory .. He didnt bother going into detal but yeah .. some ppl actually believe that the beard is compulsory ..
at least you can see the beard. What I don't get is the pubic hair... do people actually want to know about that?