Falling in love..
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It's the devil's work I tell you. I think love or falling in love is not something that's immediate but takes time. An infatuation or intense attraction is usually what happens at the start and then it levels out with time, and you have something akin to a constant feeling that we could tentatively term as love.
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LOve takes many years to actually be complete. Love is a process as is marriage. Cupid and his arrows have nothing to do with it. And to show how love takes many years to complete. You see over 60 percent of people that get married get divorced and the rate may even be high than that. But if you have true love for someone as people say they do before they get married. Then why is everyone in this world always in such a hurry to get divorced when there is the first sigh of trouble.
Sincerely, Abuja
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Peace aimi,
If love was a decision, wouldn't we all be there??
No, love happens- we just need to be receptive to it. Too much thinking and fear and anxiety and insecurity is what leads to missing the boat. As for the divorce thing, I just think too many people rush into fulfilling the criteria of what society bills as success. If I weren't truly in love from head to toe, I would never marry. Life is too short to waste on something fake.Peace,
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Salam all,
But to fall in love and to be in love it's not the same.
Some people have very easy to fall in love but it's only love on the surface not true deep love wich occur in a serious relationship between two people.
Peace Maria
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salem and peace
i believe true love is only really met between a man and a women that are both righteous and good hearted.
Most importantly both parties are belivers and accept allah guidance, for true love is a blessing and allah only guides those who are righteous.
a righteous man will find true love with a righteous women, and vice versa, however when we see a combination of righteous and evil the marriage wont last thus true love cant exist. Yes there are ones that stick it out to the end but suffering is held and true love still doesnt exist.
Now to explain the indvidual being righteous/true believer, is the one who takes care of oneself, who looks in good condition because they eat well and keep away from bad foods/drugs etc, they are not idle, they work or do excersise, maintain the body etc. so thus they attain the looks of being in good condition, and atraction is part of true love, then obviously the inside of the person is also good as they are a true beliver and good hearted.
Now they are equiped in attaining true love with a similair partner, iam not saying they have to be perfect, as no ones perfect, but the more of those qualities one has the more of reaching a higher level of true love as it were.
When i look for a partner, i look for those qualities, of course the looks and the beauty of the women will be taken into account, because as i have mentioned i want a women that takes care of her self phsyically. iam not going to consider a women thats very obese, because she doesnt care about her body, all she does is eat greasy junk food and sits down all day !!
Allah has given us this earth at our disposal and our bodys, so we need to take care and maintain them in the righteous way. As i myself eat the right food and do excersise etc, to maintian my body, i would expect something in similarity to my future partner.
Well iam not an expert but from my experience on this earth, these are some of the major ingredients to true love.
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salem and peace
i believe true love is only really met between a man and a women that are both righteous and good hearted.
Most importantly both parties are belivers and accept allah guidance, for true love is a blessing and allah only guides those who are righteous.
a righteous man will find true love with a righteous women, and vice versa, however when we see a combination of righteous and evil the marriage wont last thus true love cant exist. Yes there are ones that stick it out to the end but suffering is held and true love still doesnt exist.
Now to explain the indvidual being righteous/true believer, is the one who takes care of oneself, who looks in good condition because they eat well and keep away from bad foods/drugs etc, they are not idle, they work or do excersise, maintain the body etc. so thus they attain the looks of being in good condition, and atraction is part of true love, then obviously the inside of the person is also good as they are a true beliver and good hearted.
Now they are equiped in attaining true love with a similair partner, iam not saying they have to be perfect, as no ones perfect, but the more of those qualities one has the more of reaching a higher level of true love as it were.
When i look for a partner, i look for those qualities, of course the looks and the beauty of the women will be taken into account, because as i have mentioned i want a women that takes care of her self phsyically. iam not going to consider a women thats very obese, because she doesnt care about her body, all she does is eat greasy junk food and sits down all day !!
Allah has given us this earth at our disposal and our bodys, so we need to take care and maintain them in the righteous way. As i myself eat the right food and do excersise etc, to maintian my body, i would expect something in similarity to my future partner.
Well iam not an expert but from my experience on this earth, these are some of the major ingredients to true love.
You definitely haven't fallen in love yet!
You "search" for a partner. Love "graps" you.
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peace all,
There are two kinds of LOVE
-LOVE of EGO In this love EGO first gives in order to get what he wants. EMOTION is that of wanting to have! Having that lovely lady as your wife! It is a game of MINE.
-LOVE of SELF In this love SELF gives of its own akkord. EMOTION is that of unity! because YOU are ME! I give only to see you happy! no reward necessary! no ownership or pleasure is behind it.
Holywood type of love is mostly that of EGO. I used to fall in love daily during the high school time. several broken heart every day
Mother and baby have mostly the delicate type of love that flows beautifully. It transcends into another dimension. There is no EGO there.
peace
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Okay, I tried to resist before but no more I say.
Falling in love is hard on the knees...
What is love? Baby, don't hurt me!
Love is only a feeling, drifting away...
Love's a game of easy come and easy go...
Love bites, love bleeds, love lives, love dies, love begs, love pleads...
Right, all these lyrics were running through my head and driving me crazy. Now it's somewhat out and I can rest though I can't promise I can stop myself from posting more if this topic persists.
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Peace
I always wondered why the quran never had anything regarding love relationships...
There are characteristics or qualities of love expressed, such as being merciful, patient, forgiving ... but love directly is never addressed... Can anyone weigh in on that?
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Peace phoenix, all,
..and emotions are hard to describe, so why bother talking about it? ahahaha j/k no, no, keep on sharing your thoughts.
Tay said
If love was a decision, wouldn't we all be there??peace Tay, lol, yeah, good point! It takes two to tango. How about only one person's decision to fall in love? is it a decision, firstly? hmmm~
Samia said
You "search" for a partner. Love "graps" you.
Elke, it definitely sounds DANGEROUS ! ;D
Alpha97 said
I used to fall in love daily during the high school time. several broken heart every day
It must be tough to concentrate in class.. P
Savage_carrot, rotfl how are you now? better? ehehe
Khalil, sis majidah, well said!
BOOST said
There are characteristics or qualities of love expressed, such as being merciful, patient, forgiving ... but love directly is never addressed... Can anyone weigh in on that?
That's the beauty of love, i guess, mysterious.. it's like, do first then you know..ehehe
onepath, abuja, so it is a decision, right? since, "Love is a process as is marriage.", so if we are aware of the process, can we stop it? or maintain the process? D hohoho
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All of those qualities are part of love I guess.
But love we are talking about is an emotion.peace phonix,
There you go astray D
you are trying to define. you want to have knowledge of love. you can read all the books of library about love and have knowledge about it. BUT YOU DO NOT KNOW IT. you believe us. you believe it. BUT YOU CAN NOT KNOW IT.
It belong to the dimension of undefineables.KNOWING COMES FROM EXPERIENCE and not from knowledge!
Love as opposed to hate is that of EGO. It belongs to the workd of duality.
Love as divine passion arises when self-interest falls and there is interest without cause!
Keep looking at a beautiful flower regularly for a long time! One day you will see that you are in love! as Samia said , It graps you!
we will talk more!
peace,
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Peace all,
But what is beauty, it's in the observers eyes, right!?
And what one find is beautiful another one don't, it's a matter of taste.
There is a spouse for all, because we have so different kind of taste and that's amazing with us humans.
And we should remind us that love starts with attractions and in this first stage it's not pure love but rather a lust and or a temptations for more.
How many times I haven't found out that a nice looking guy is a big jerk, so it's not all about beauty but a mixture of different ingredients to form a solid LOVE.
Peace Maria
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peace be upon you Alpha
There you go astray
Yeah, that happens a lot. '(
KNOWING COMES FROM EXPERIENCE and not from knowledge!
Agree.
Love as opposed to hate is that of EGO. It belongs to the workd of duality.
Love as divine passion arises when self-interest falls and there is interest without cause!
But can't love be defined as an emotion?
like we love something or someone which is bad for us. That's not healthy, is it?
Love, as in the absense of ego, I have experienced.
But, I don't know. I'm confused! -
peace