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Beating wife theory is negated by Qur'aan=4:34

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    unknownuser
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    Might as well apply the same thing to other family members.

    Like you said...

    I am now going to feed my old crippled grandma and if she disobeys me I will beat her with a stick.

    if your old crippled grandma is your nushuzed wife then go ahead.

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      nsws1988
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      if your old crippled grandma is your nushuzed wife then go ahead.

      It is the overall teaching. Like you said (once again)...

      how can you go against the one who is feeding you?

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        It is the overall teaching. Like you said (once again)...

        you are jealous that god has given us the right to beat up nushuzed wives. well, no one can question god he knows better we do not.

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          nsws1988
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          you are jealous that god has given us the right to beat up nushuzed wives. well, no one can question god he knows better we do not.

          Why do you always think people are jealous of you? Are you schizophrenic?

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            Are you schizophrenic?

            I can understand your frustration. )

            dear sister the person who started this thread and the mods won't like such basic discussion on this thread, if you still have doubts and wish to discuss it any further use pm. may god give some wisdom to all of us.

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              Q_student
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              Peace
              The "Nashooz" is not simply "disobedience".It has three elements in it.

              • ( 2 / 429)

              1Hatred for the Husband
              2Disobedience
              3She is inclined to someone other than husband

              "Nashooz" is a sort of complete betrayal on the part of wife and not simple "disobedience " as it is being portrayed.
              Regards

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                Samia
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                "Nashooz" is a sort of complete betrayal on the part of wife and not simple "disobedience " as it is being portrayed.
                Regards

                and thus merits beating up?

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                  No longer a Sunna-rejecter
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                  @ RasulHamsa

                  are you aware of the many different meanings the root "DaRaBa"?

                  Daad-Ra-Ba = to heal, strike, propound as an example, put forth a parable, go, make a journey, travel, mix, avoid, take away, put a cover, shut, mention, state, propound, set forth, compare, liken, seek a way, march on, set, impose, prevent, fight, traffic with anyone's property for a share in the profit, leave for sake, take away thing (with 'an).
                  Depressed ground, hard ground in a plain, sandy valley, commissioner as he has to travel much.
                  Kind manner, lean, thin, similar, alike, the act of striking, a blow, going from place to place, vicissitude of life, affliction especially that which relates to one's person, as disease, death, degradation is common and general suffering.

                  beat, struck, smote, hit, the making a thing fall upon another thing, discipline/train, to cast forth, threw or flung it, seal/stamp, veil/curtain/cover/barrier, to point or make a sign, prohibit/hinder/prevent/withheld/restrain, collision, corrupted/disordered/disturbance/unsettled/confused, turn away, avoid, shun, fashion/mould/adapt, mention or set forth (e.g. a parable/example), explain, make a way, multiplying, go/travel, went away, it was or became long, excite/incite/urge/instigate, contend, dispose/accommodate, retract/digression/transition, to silence, tremble/shiver, share/portion.
                  Location where something is struck, wool or goat's hair separated or plucked or beaten with a mallet, sword, tent-peg, mallet.

                  I am no longer a Sunna-rejecter. See 4:59-65, 62:2-4, 3:31, 4:156, 7:157 Messenger teaches and is to be followed and obeyed. Examples of revelation received which is not in the Qur'an: 3:123-126, 33:37, 2:187, 66:3, 62:9.

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                    nsws1988
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                    I can understand your frustration.

                    dear sister the person who started this thread and the mods won't like such basic discussion on this thread, if you still have doubts and wish to discuss it any further use pm. may god give some wisdom to all of us.

                    I'm not frustrated don't you worry about me. No I have wasted enough time with you today so don't expect a pm

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                      unknownuser
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                      No I have wasted enough time with you today so don't expect a pm

                      I am sorry if you feel that way, I didn't mean to upset you it was purely unintentional. peace

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                        No longer a Sunna-rejecter
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                        @ RH

                        have you read this?

                        Daad-Ra-Ba = to heal, strike, propound as an example, put forth a parable, go, make a journey, travel, mix, avoid, take away, put a cover, shut, mention, state, propound, set forth, compare, liken, seek a way, march on, set, impose, prevent, fight, traffic with anyone's property for a share in the profit, leave for sake, take away thing (with 'an).
                        Depressed ground, hard ground in a plain, sandy valley, commissioner as he has to travel much.
                        Kind manner, lean, thin, similar, alike, the act of striking, a blow, going from place to place, vicissitude of life, affliction especially that which relates to one's person, as disease, death, degradation is common and general suffering.

                        beat, struck, smote, hit, the making a thing fall upon another thing, discipline/train, to cast forth, threw or flung it, seal/stamp, veil/curtain/cover/barrier, to point or make a sign, prohibit/hinder/prevent/withheld/restrain, collision, corrupted/disordered/disturbance/unsettled/confused, turn away, avoid, shun, fashion/mould/adapt, mention or set forth (e.g. a parable/example), explain, make a way, multiplying, go/travel, went away, it was or became long, excite/incite/urge/instigate, contend, dispose/accommodate, retract/digression/transition, to silence, tremble/shiver, share/portion.
                        Location where something is struck, wool or goat's hair separated or plucked or beaten with a mallet, sword, tent-peg, mallet.

                        I am no longer a Sunna-rejecter. See 4:59-65, 62:2-4, 3:31, 4:156, 7:157 Messenger teaches and is to be followed and obeyed. Examples of revelation received which is not in the Qur'an: 3:123-126, 33:37, 2:187, 66:3, 62:9.

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                          Q_student
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                          and thus merits beating up?

                          Peace

                          Exposition by G A Pervaiz

                          first admonish the women, then, if required, separate them temporarily from their husbands, or intern them, and finally, if necessary, punish them otherwise.

                          http//www.tolueislam.com/Parwez/expo/expo_004.htm

                          Regards

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                            No longer a Sunna-rejecter
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                            Peace

                            Exposition by G A Pervaiz

                            first admonish the women, then, if required, separate them temporarily from their husbands, or intern them, and finally, if necessary, punish them otherwise.

                            http//www.tolueislam.com/Parwez/expo/expo_004.htm

                            Regards

                            I like that translation. I also like Shabbir Ahmed's "admonish them with more examples".

                            I am no longer a Sunna-rejecter. See 4:59-65, 62:2-4, 3:31, 4:156, 7:157 Messenger teaches and is to be followed and obeyed. Examples of revelation received which is not in the Qur'an: 3:123-126, 33:37, 2:187, 66:3, 62:9.

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                              unknownuser
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                              @ RH

                              have you read this?

                              Daad-Ra-Ba = to heal, strike, propound as an example, put forth a parable, go, make a journey, travel, mix, avoid, take away, put a cover, shut, mention, state, propound, set forth, compare, liken, seek a way, march on, set, impose, prevent, fight, traffic with anyone's property for a share in the profit, leave for sake, take away thing (with 'an).
                              Depressed ground, hard ground in a plain, sandy valley, commissioner as he has to travel much.
                              Kind manner, lean, thin, similar, alike, the act of striking, a blow, going from place to place, vicissitude of life, affliction especially that which relates to one's person, as disease, death, degradation is common and general suffering.

                              beat, struck, smote, hit, the making a thing fall upon another thing, discipline/train, to cast forth, threw or flung it, seal/stamp, veil/curtain/cover/barrier, to point or make a sign, prohibit/hinder/prevent/withheld/restrain, collision, corrupted/disordered/disturbance/unsettled/confused, turn away, avoid, shun, fashion/mould/adapt, mention or set forth (e.g. a parable/example), explain, make a way, multiplying, go/travel, went away, it was or became long, excite/incite/urge/instigate, contend, dispose/accommodate, retract/digression/transition, to silence, tremble/shiver, share/portion.
                              Location where something is struck, wool or goat's hair separated or plucked or beaten with a mallet, sword, tent-peg, mallet.

                              thanks, arabic is an amazing language. peace

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                                No longer a Sunna-rejecter
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                                thanks, arabic is an amazing language. peace

                                It surely is, but that doesnt make it the only language spoken in heaven
                                BTW how do you know whether we are going to speak as we are doing on earth??

                                peace

                                I am no longer a Sunna-rejecter. See 4:59-65, 62:2-4, 3:31, 4:156, 7:157 Messenger teaches and is to be followed and obeyed. Examples of revelation received which is not in the Qur'an: 3:123-126, 33:37, 2:187, 66:3, 62:9.

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                                  unknownuser
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                                  It surely is, but that doesnt make it the only language spoken in heaven
                                  BTW how do you know whether we are going to speak as we are doing on earth??

                                  peace

                                  please don't ruin this thread or else we could get a warning from the mods. peace

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                                    No longer a Sunna-rejecter
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                                    please don't ruin this thread or else we could get a warning from the mods. peace

                                    I'm not ruining it
                                    The only thing is that we were on the topic of "Arabic" and I just couldnt resist saying that. No intentions to go off topic.

                                    Back to the initial topic...

                                    I hope you consider the many meanings and possibilities of translating/interpreting "idribuhunne".

                                    I am no longer a Sunna-rejecter. See 4:59-65, 62:2-4, 3:31, 4:156, 7:157 Messenger teaches and is to be followed and obeyed. Examples of revelation received which is not in the Qur'an: 3:123-126, 33:37, 2:187, 66:3, 62:9.

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                                      Q_student
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                                      I like that translation. I also like Shabbir Ahmed's "admonish them with more examples".

                                      Peace
                                      Shabbir Ahmed is good for nothing as far as Quran is concerned.First step in the remedies described is "admonishing" so this 3rd step remedy cannot mean "admonishing".
                                      Regards

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                                        No longer a Sunna-rejecter
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                                        Peace Q_s,

                                        Shabbir Ahmed is good for nothing as far as Quran is concerned.

                                        Says who?

                                        First step in the remedies described is "admonishing" so this 3rd step remedy cannot mean "admonishing".

                                        Admonish
                                        To warn or notify of a fault; to reprove gently or kindly, but seriously; to exhort.
                                        To counsel against wrong practices; to caution or advise; to warn against danger or an offense; ? followed by of, against, or a subordinate clause.
                                        To instruct or direct; to inform; to notify.

                                        Example

                                        Something that is representative of all such things in a group.
                                        Something that serves to illustrate or explain a rule.
                                        Something that serves as a pattern of behaviour to be imitated (a good example) or not to be imitated (a bad example).
                                        "Learn from me, if not by my precepts, then at least by my example, how dangerous is the acquirement of knowledge" - Mary Shelley, Frankenstein
                                        A person punished as a warning to others.
                                        A parallel or closely similar case, especially when serving as a precedent or model.
                                        An instance (as a problem to be solved) serving to illustrate the rule or precept or to act as an exercise in the application of the rule.

                                        "admonish them with more examples"...

                                        a. is in line with the meaning of "idribuhunne"
                                        b. fits the context well
                                        c. is initially the same as "punish them otherwise"

                                        Think about it.

                                        I am no longer a Sunna-rejecter. See 4:59-65, 62:2-4, 3:31, 4:156, 7:157 Messenger teaches and is to be followed and obeyed. Examples of revelation received which is not in the Qur'an: 3:123-126, 33:37, 2:187, 66:3, 62:9.

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                                          Samia
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                                          Peace

                                          Exposition by G A Pervaiz

                                          first admonish the women, then, if required, separate them temporarily from their husbands, or intern them, and finally, if necessary, punish them otherwise.

                                          http//www.tolueislam.com/Parwez/expo/expo_004.htm

                                          Regards

                                          Is this supposed to be a response to my question?

                                          How does "dharaba" become "punish"? Can you find such a meaning in classical arabic dictionaries?
                                          The translator simply couldn't say "strike them/beat them up", because he will have to say which part of the body and with what, and even then, it will no more be "dharaba", but "latama", sakka", rafasa"...many many words. The meaning "strike/beat" does not stand for "dharaba" by itself. Every strike or "dharba" has a diffrent word, depending on what part to strike and using what. The verb "dharaba" by itself means to strike with a sword, cane or whip; and this is from all arabic dictionaries. That's what they say in the beginning of the entry Dharaba known. I donot think "strike" in such ambiguity would be described as "known", but fighting and killing is.

                                          Also, who will punish her? The husband? he is the victim, the prosecutor, the judge and the executer? nope
                                          The community? Why punish her, then go for the mediation/court? nope

                                          It is more "value for money", to borrow the market's expression, for the wife to go straight for a full relation and the husband cannot lay a hand on her (246)

                                          As for those who accuse their spouses but have no witnesses except themselves; let the testimony of one of them be four testimonies, (swearing) by Allah that he/she is of those who speak the truth;

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