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Second or third Marriege ?

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    FAR
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    The ladies live with their parents so they are safe, and it's not to increase anybodies burdens - not even yours but eleviate burdens. If you can do more then there is no harm.

    peace

    You're gonna leave a woman with her parents while she waits for you? You forget such a thing leads women into adultery.

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      SarahY
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      You're gonna leave a woman with her parents while she waits for you? You forget such a thing leads women into adultery.

      what? why would "waiting" lead women to adultery? would that mean single women are lead to fornication if they "wait" for someone..

      don't agree with you there.

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        what? why would "waiting" lead women to adultery? would that mean single women are lead to fornication if they "wait" for someone..

        don't agree with you there.

        Aye... single women do end up in fornication.

        You don't agree because you seem unaware about such cases.

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          You're gonna leave a woman with her parents while she waits for you? You forget such a thing leads women into adultery.

          what percentage of nun's do fornication? i wonder!

          peace

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            what percentage of nun's do fornication? i wonder!

            peace

            It's presented as being at quite extreme rates...

            You're better off not wondering.

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              SarahY
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              And men are ALL angelic?

              Why pick on women?

              Some PEOPLE male or female commit fornication/adultery.

              Everyone has the choice to control their actions.

              I?ve heard of such cases though being raped does not equate to being a fornicator. The access of pornography is everywhere it doesn?t mean it makes people or females commit fornication/adultery.

              To make baseless claims that women will commit fornication simply for being women is just stupid.

              Righteous men and women exist.

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                You're gonna leave a woman with her parents while she waits for you? You forget such a thing leads women into adultery.

                This is a mute point. There's always someone/something to blame. Just ask anyone you know who's been there. So in reality, if they choose, people can find any reason they want to commit adultery. Doesn't matter if your male or female.

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                  This is a mute point. There's always someone/something to blame. Just ask anyone you know who's been there. So in reality, if they choose, people can find any reason they want to commit adultery. Doesn't matter if your male or female.

                  But still... my ex-wife had to bear 6 years without me. You think that's reasonable for women?

                  And men are ALL angelic?

                  Why pick on women?

                  Some PEOPLE male or female commit fornication/adultery.

                  Everyone has the choice to control their actions.

                  I?ve heard of such cases though being raped does not equate to being a fornicator. The access of pornography is everywhere it doesn?t mean it makes people or females commit fornication/adultery.

                  To make baseless claims that women will commit fornication simply for being women is just stupid.

                  Righteous men and women exist.

                  Who are you calling stupid? Who is picking on women? Who is claiming women themselves fall in to sin?

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                    But still... my ex-wife had to bear 6 years without me. You think that's reasonable for women?

                    I can't judge, every women is different. is it reasonable for a man? it's not about male/female. it's about the individual

                    Who are you calling stupid? Who is picking on women? Who is claiming women themselves fall in to sin?

                    Let me clarify

                    "To make baseless claims that women will commit fornication simply for being women is just stupid."

                    Salam.

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                      I can't judge, every women is different. is it reasonable for a man? it's not about male/female. it's about the individual

                      Let me clarify

                      "To make baseless claims that women will commit fornication simply for being women is just stupid."

                      Salam.

                      Let me make it easier for you... who implied such a thing?

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                        Aye... single women do end up in fornication.

                        you work it out.

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                          you work it out.

                          Women ending up in fornication... is not the same thing as making baseless claims that they "will commit fornication for simply being women".

                          When I made that comment... it had nothing to do with blaming some man's wife for probably commiting adultery. But of blame laying solely upon the husband who would deny the wife's rights.

                          As quran 2187 makes it clear... would we have garments stretched over a long distance?

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                            SarahY
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                            We're obviously on two different wavelengths. You should consider your words wisely, single women don't have husbands. Possibly you're retracting your statement.

                            Both husband and wife need to consider their spouses rights.

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                              But still... my ex-wife had to bear 6 years without me. You think that's reasonable for women?

                              It may not have been reasonable for your ex-wife. This tells me you were also without her for six years. Did you manage or were you living with a second wife to take care of your desires? I only ask because this is what the topic is about... more than one marriage.

                              Many things in marriage are difficult. You can never be separated from your spouse and come up with a multitude of reasons to commit adultery if you wanted to. I know married couples who deal with things far worse than separation (just trust me) and some people would consider these things a reason to commit adultery too.

                              Living in this world can be tough. We need to do the best we can. What one person can't handle... Another person maybe can.

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                                It may not have been reasonable for your ex-wife. This tells me you were also without her for six years. Did you manage or were you living with a second wife to take care of your desires? I only ask because this is what the topic is about... more than one marriage.

                                Many things in marriage are difficult. You can never be separated from your spouse and come up with a multitude of reasons to commit adultery if you wanted to. I know married couples who deal with things far worse than separation (just trust me) and some people would consider these things a reason to commit adultery too.

                                Living in this world can be tough. We need to do the best we can. What one person can't handle... Another person maybe can.

                                ... I've only been with one person, that was my ex wife... I'm currently experiencing a Yusuf alayhisalam at the moment.

                                No I cannot support a wife... that's why the first one became an ex-wife and remarried asap. I don't think one could commit adultery if they didn't talk to people or leave the house. Yes I can imagine far worse things than separation, because after the first year, I almost forgot I was married.

                                Commiting adultery is only when those people fail quran 551 , 601-9, 13 , 923 488-89 4139 4144 555 971 873 429 4119 http//muttaqun.com/auliya.html

                                http//www.youtube.com/watch?v=OqmKZ7ezKMM

                                As well as partners not providing for needs.

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                                  We're obviously on two different wavelengths. You should consider your words wisely, single women don't have husbands. Possibly you're retracting your statement.

                                  Both husband and wife need to consider their spouses rights.

                                  Single women have fathers who they can demand their rights from, such as the right to be recognized as a woman and what not.

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