Taking off the Hijab
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The problem is that those who put it on because they do believe that it is obligatory are acting consistently, but those who do not think it is obligatory and put it on are transmitting a lie.
On the other hand there are the repercussions. But ?do you have to say you are not sunni or you are Quran only or whatever just to say that you do not think hijab is obligatory? Some years ago you could perfectly be sunni and all and still not think that hijab was obligatory. In a sense it is a "religious fashion" and in fact it is a point for male chauvinism in a match that seems to be played in all ages. They managed to get their "obligtory" and their "hijab". So when we accept that, we are giving them a goal against ourselves. So wouldn't just explaining, when explanation is needed, that you are feeling wrong wearing it because of lack of conviction on that count help with it?
As for personal repercussions, I suppose it is like smoking. If you do not start, it never becomes a problem, if you do, no matter what, for most people it is always a big issue. They suffer too much and many times have to go back to it, because they can't bear the urge or they get in such an state that they cannot lead their daily life hlf as they should and fall back for self-preservation... One thing is sure the sooner you get rid of it, the better. But do not become obssessed. You know you have to do it for your own sake, but set yur own arrangements as they suit you. Be detached about it. Nobody is judging you, just arrange it for your convenience, and relax. It is bad to accept pressure on this kind of thing, either to put it on or to take it off. You have to do it on your own terms, and relaxedly. Fight the battles in the terrain that best suits you and when it best suits you. Freedom has no price, and we are ourselves our own worst jailkeepers. Be your jail liberator and not your jaikeeper. (sorry if I sound patronizing).
Salam
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HNF! If you know it is not proper (i.e., bad) then remove it; if it does not matter then don't make issue out of it.
Hey it's not bad or good, it's just a thing. is growing a beard bad or good it's just a thing.
About the Uni thing, I was planning on doing the same. If I don't stay in London, then it's definitely going to be an issue and I'm starting in September/October time so it's getting to the point of making a decision. But I don't understand ???
well if you move don't you think it'll be a lesser issue, because those people won't exactly know you. with me these people view me as "oh mashallah so pious she wore it before her mum, she still wears it bla bla bla" min i take it off! circle turns 360.
it's so annoying how "hijab" is so over talked at my household. just earlier today i was walking with my mum and a group of asians were looking at us, my mum says "they're looking at us cos we look better than them, we wear hijab" and she started going on about hijab.. frustrating i thought..
then later was watching tennis, i told my bro "i shoulda taken up tennis" and his reply "you'd be the only muhajiba doing it" and im like well i wasn't thinking professional just for fun.. and his like "oh, i'll play with you".
It's like ah this hijab is such a HUGE symbol, like everything is embedded with it
I've been wearing it for a year now, I took it off once but it was a really uncomfortable and I just felt people (men) were looking at me which is one of the reasons why I put it on in the first place. And no, none of my Sunni friends know about it and I'm not really planning to say anything right now. I've got my studies which are stressing me out enough as it is and I'm not really prepared for an angry mob calling me to the gallows lol. I did tell one of my friends who doesn't wear the Hijab that I'm thinking of taking it off and she asked me all of these questions and I kind of realised that until I was able to talk about my beliefs, I couldn't really take it off because trying to explain to them without my telling them that it's not obligatory will be difficult.
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Best be able to explain the reasoning, i think i'm not to confident in my memory and i'll have the whole household against my decision so it'll be tough. so for comfort i'd wanna prepare answers in my head, expecting the worst it's easier to deal with. that way people can rationalise it rather than thinking it's all for selfish reasons, theyre all attached to the dunya bla bla. i mean it's tough, why do we really care about people's thoughts but in reality we live in a society and well no one wants to be a loner or outcast.
at least you're a convert, you could come up with good excuses
"i dont feel ready yet, i rushed it.. i don't have enough knowledge i feel like i'm a bad representative"
"i went into it to quick, i feel pressured in the community"
anything you say could be seen innocent.i dunno.. but a yr aint to bad, if you wore it for 5-10+ and took it off imagine the shock.
i told a close gf of mine and she kept being evasive and ignoring it, like i said nothing. i also noticed she kept complimenting me more on how i dress and dress up the hijab i thought lol i wonder why.
a few suggested wait till i get married. makes me laugh how marriage is the escape of everything but you know i argue what if i dont get married! no guarantee there.
I always had an affinity to it, if i didnt come to my thoughts today i don't think i would seriously contemplate taking it off...
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it's so annoying how "hijab" is so over talked at my household. just earlier today i was walking with my mum and a group of asians were looking at us, my mum says "they're looking at us cos we look better than them, we wear hijab" and she started going on about hijab.. frustrating i thought..
then later was watching tennis, i told my bro "i shoulda taken up tennis" and his reply "you'd be the only muhajiba doing it" and im like well i wasn't thinking professional just for fun.. and his like "oh, i'll play with you".
It's like ah this hijab is such a HUGE symbol, like everything is embedded with it
It really upsets me when that happens. It's like I'm a piece of cloth nothing more. Everything I do has to be related to this piece of cloth on my head.
I've gotten "It's because you wear a hijab" from 'friends' because I had problems getting a job. And the constant reminder that "mashallah she's been wearing the hijab since she was a kid" which I hate to hear because it was a very difficult time in my life and it depresses me. -
It really upsets me when that happens. It's like I'm a piece of cloth nothing more. Everything I do has to be related to this piece of cloth on my head.
I've gotten "It's because you wear a hijab" from 'friends' because I had problems getting a job. And the constant reminder that "mashallah she's been wearing the hijab since she was a kid" which I hate to hear because it was a very difficult time in my life and it depresses me.i know it's like this cloth means you are "muslim", have to be perfect now..
i remember in highschool this 'hijabi' had a bf and all the girls were gossiping about her, i felt bad for her so i was like what makes her any different than 'such and such'. their reply "oh she doesnt have hijab" even though i thought hijab was an obligation i still felt every aspect should be judged accordingly. so i replied "so what does that mean if i don't wear hijab i can do anything i want because i'm not hijabi."
hijab wasn't so drilled in as it is now. i remember my mum used to tell me to wear these skirts/dresses that just went below my knee. i used to think my mum was so ignorant how could i show my legs! but if you look at hijab fashion/history in say western societies. it's very different to what it has become (at least in Australia). today if i wore a skirt below my knee and bared my legs, other than looking ridiculously funny i'm sure there will be backlash
Sometimes doing something that would make you happy can bring problems. You just have to wait for the right time.
true.. and sometimes we miss opportunities.
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I don't know if you understand or if you're a woman or not, but with the Hijab it's not really as simple as 'take it off' especially if you've been wearing it for a prolonged period of time so please, before you judge her realise it's NOT easy especially when you consider other factors. Putting it on is scary, taking it off is a HELL of a lot scarier.
I can totally understand - even though I don't wear hijab myself I know if I ever did start, my husband would have a major hissy fit (and probably divorce me) if I took it off. Plus the reactions of other Muslims? They would think that I have no faith and I'm wishy-washy, besides who knows what else they'd say.
I would say wait, and make sure you're ready before you take it off.
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It really upsets me when that happens. It's like I'm a piece of cloth nothing more. Everything I do has to be related to this piece of cloth on my head.
I've gotten "It's because you wear a hijab" from 'friends' because I had problems getting a job. And the constant reminder that "mashallah she's been wearing the hijab since she was a kid" which I hate to hear because it was a very difficult time in my life and it depresses me.What is the problem with wearing a piece of cloth on your head, it is not religion it is tradition you will find many women either Hindu Sikh Muslim Christens etc wearing this piece of cloth in many countries.
So please stop yay and wear as advised by your elders. -
What is the problem with wearing a piece of cloth on your head, it is not religion it is tradition you will find many women either Hindu Sikh Muslim Christens etc wearing this piece of cloth in many countries.
So please stop yay and wear as advised by your elders.
Plaugh But women are forced to wear it in some countries. That is the problem bro.
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Peace Girls,
I have an idea that might be more comforting but still gutsy.. how about changing the style of you're headscarf? so that it shows say a bit of your neck? and then as weeks/months go on make it a lil bit more..
so like go through stages
- headscarf covered full
- headscarf covered with tiny bit of neck showing
- headscarf with neck showing
- then eventually take it off? or headscarf with neck/hair showing then eventually take it off.
maybe it wont be such a "shock"
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That should be on your blog, Sarah! 4/5-steps to Headscarf-Free! you should accompany it with illustrations. yes
You can test it for us. Let us know how it goes
i'm sure he's already headscarf-free, so i think it goes the reverse, like
- no headscarf
- headscarf with neck/hair showing.
- headscarf with neck showing. hair fully covered
- headscarf covered with tiny bit of neck showing
- headscarf covered full
maybe it wont be such a "shock"
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lol san
Maybe i should try it out.. but first i have other plans. just thought i'd share the thoughts with the other ladies
i still think it requires guts, i got some but not enough D
i'm sure he's already headscarf-free, so i think it goes the reverse, like
- no headscarf
- headscarf with neck/hair showing.
- headscarf with neck showing. hair fully covered
- headscarf covered with tiny bit of neck showing
- headscarf covered full
maybe it wont be such a "shock"
When you put it that way it kinda is shocking / lol a guy in hijab very funny.
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Peace Girls,
I have an idea that might be more comforting but still gutsy.. how about changing the style of you're headscarf? so that it shows say a bit of your neck? and then as weeks/months go on make it a lil bit more..
so like go through stages
- headscarf covered full
- headscarf covered with tiny bit of neck showing
- headscarf with neck showing
- then eventually take it off? or headscarf with neck/hair showing then eventually take it off.
maybe it wont be such a "shock"
How abt this
Woman students in Egypt wear surgical masks to evade veil ban
http//www.haaretz.com/hasen/spages/1141555.html
