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Does Qur'an say husbands can HIT their wives?

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    huruf
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    Not sure what you don't understand - do you understand Arabic?

    And when you killed a soul

    So We said "Strike it (the body) with a piece of it (the cow).

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      ps - yget only part quoted the article on 273. He didn't even quote the best part of the analysis, I dont know why.

      Peace Wakas,
      Our friend was being stubborn and has an infatuation with authority so I thought I would quote the portion with the Muhammad Asad endnote. I will restate what I said initially; this part I quoted is a small part of a comprehensive case that should actually be read, not "skimmed.". No slight intended.
      Peace

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        And then you quote a modern tafseer that is even more removed from the time of Muhammad

        Peace cdancer,
        I hate to act like i know you but you seem to have characteristically missed the point again. What I have gleaned from many of your posts is that you believe that a bunch of tafseers that agree adds to the truth value of your belief concerning the translation of daraba. My point was that these tafseers writing fellas were just as detached from the formation of the Quran as we are. So, they do not have some insight other than their own genius that we do not. Thus, your argument from consensus does not support the truth value of your claim. To do that you have to address others arguments.
        I'm going to sum this up for you since you love to skim. Just because a lot of people said the world is flat did not make it truthful. The tafseers folks are interpeting just like us.

        Peace

        P.S. I think Wakas is quite right. Your interpretation of 287 leads to an awkward translation but wakas is far better equipped to argue there than myself.

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          Sorry, it seems that I did something wrong and the text I wrote for reply 64 did not come out.

          What I said amounted to that for someone who criticises somebody else's Arabic, post 63 is a real treat to free expression, free cows, free parts of cows or heifers, free souls, free bodies, free grammar, free concordances, free transgendering and free nonsensing. And the final result of those allfree efforts, as to meaning, is hilarious. At least I have enjoyed it.

          Salaam

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            cosmicdancer,

            Thanks for clarifying with

            So We said "Strike it (the body) with a piece of it (the cow).

            As previously you said this which was worded poorly, hence the clarification request

            Then they hit it with part of it - meaning the soul - it is obviously referring to the body of the murdered person

            I can understand why you and commentators choose the cow as the feminine referred to, but since you know Arabic, you will know exactly what the closest preceding feminine actually is, just as I do. Not only does choosing "cow" cause an internal problem within The Quran, it does not match the logic/grammar/flow/etc. All of which is discussed in the article.... so, as I said, I recommend improving your skim reading skills.

            All information is correct to the best of my knowledge only and thus should not be taken as a fact. One should always seek knowledge and verify for themselves when possible: 17:36, 20:114, 35:28, 49:6, 58:11.

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              cosmicdancer,

              Thanks for clarifying with
              As previously you said this which was worded poorly, hence the clarification request

              I can understand why you and commentators choose the cow as the feminine referred to, but since you know Arabic, you will know exactly what the closest preceding feminine actually is, just as I do. Not only does choosing "cow" cause an internal problem within The Quran, it does not match the logic/grammar/flow/etc. All of which is discussed in the article.... so, as I said, I recommend improving your skim reading skills.

              I don't see any 'internal problem' - nor any mismatch in logic, grammar, flow etc... in the translation that has been the recognised one by all the scholars and still is today. To me it looks spot on!

              But I'm not sure what point you are trying to make and how that has any bearing on whether the Qur'an allows a man to hit his wife or not?

              btw - just in case anyone here doesn't realise I do NOT for one minute actually believe that God would allow a man to hit his wife. I believe a man from the 7th century allowed it though. A man who genuinely believed he was in communication with God. (He wasn't the first and wont be the last.)

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                Well, a person who skim reads will often not see any 'internal problem' or mismatch or be unsure of the point another is trying to make, thus, I reiterate, I recommend improving your skim reading skills.

                All information is correct to the best of my knowledge only and thus should not be taken as a fact. One should always seek knowledge and verify for themselves when possible: 17:36, 20:114, 35:28, 49:6, 58:11.

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                  Well, a person who skim reads will often not see any 'internal problem' or mismatch or be unsure of the point another is trying to make, thus, I reiterate, I recommend improving your skim reading skills.

                  Hey Wakkas - off topic I know, forgive me - but have you always held these views? Were your parents more traditional Muslims? Have you ever wondered whether the Qur'an is in fact man-made - and God (if there is one) has not sent down holy books but just left us to do the best we can and he will not be judging anyone harshly?

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                    Also where are you from/live? How old are you? And what languages do you speak?

                    I am from UK - my dad was from Egypt - my mum from England. I'll be 51 in May. I speak Arabic and English. I was Muslim all my life but eventually rejected Islam about 3 years ago.

                    If you or anyone is interested I wrote my life story here (and link to it in my sig)

                    http//abooali.wordpress.com/

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                      We have something in common then, I also reject Islam (capital "I" that is).

                      All information is correct to the best of my knowledge only and thus should not be taken as a fact. One should always seek knowledge and verify for themselves when possible: 17:36, 20:114, 35:28, 49:6, 58:11.

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                        cosmicdancer
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                        We have something in common then, I also reject Islam (capital "I" that is).

                        Care to elaborate? I'm not trying to catch you out or score points, Wakkas - I'm genuinely interested and would also like to hear more about you - eg the questions I asked above.

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                          But I'm not sure what point you are trying to make and how that has any bearing on whether the Qur'an allows a man to hit his wife or not?

                          Unbelievable...For someone who is such an expert in Arabic, you are seeming quite clueless in this debate. Just a hint, if a non hit definition of daraba requires a preposition or an abstract noun, you do not want me to be right about 287.
                          Peace

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                            Unbelievable...For someone who is such an expert in Arabic, you are seeming quite clueless in this debate. Just a hint, if a non hit definition of daraba requires a preposition or an abstract noun, you do not want me to be right about 287.
                            Peace

                            So your saying that your whole argument on 4.34 hangs on that interpretation by Muhammad Asad?

                            I understand now your obsession with Muhammads Asad's translation of this verse, sorry - but I have never come across it before and it never occured to me anyone could translate it this way.

                            So let me see if I understand you correctly - you are saying that this verse

                            So We said "Strike the (body) with a piece of the (cow)."

                            really means this

                            "So we said apply this (principle) to some of those (cases of unresolved murder)"

                            And because daraba is used directly without any qualification to mean something non-literal that shows that 4.34 is also non-literal.

                            Is that right?

                            Putting aside the fact that it doesn't prove 4.34 is non-literal - it's easy to see why traditional scholars understood the pronoun it after hit means the body of the deceased since it is talking about a murdered person - and it is obvious why the pronoun it after some refers to the cow - because the preceding 5 verses are all about sacrificing this cow.

                            So what is the evidence or reason for assuming it means principle and cases of unresolved murder?

                            And what principle is it talking about?

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                              off topic I know, forgive me - but have you always held these views? Were your parents more traditional Muslims? Have you ever wondered whether the Qur'an is in fact man-made - and God (if there is one) has not sent down holy books but just left us to do the best we can and he will not be judging anyone harshly?

                              btw - just in case anyone here doesn't realise I do NOT for one minute actually believe that God would allow a man to hit his wife. I believe a man from the 7th century allowed it though. A man who genuinely believed he was in communication with God. (He wasn't the first and wont be the last.)

                              Salaam,

                              Sorry to butt in and answer your questions even though the questions were not directed to me. First, you stated in your blog that you are not telling anyone what to believe and that everyone should re-examine their beliefs and embrace it with their hearts and mind. Anyway, it appears to me, that you are actually doing the opposite. You have a problem of a Qur'anic verse where it says the men are allowed to 'hit' their wives if they are not obedient. In case you are not aware already, we believe that verse is not about hitting the wives physically, like many traditional Muslims like to believe. We wouldn't think that God will allow such treatment to wives, especially when 419 tells the husbands not to treat their wives with harshness.

                              Therefore we re-examine that verse, and come to conclusion that the word has different meanings other than 'hitting'. Most translators translate it as 'hitting' not because that's what it actually means, but they already have pre-conceptions that the word means 'hitting' as they have been exposed to many hadiths that say about husbands hitting the wives. Let me give you an analogy, even though it's a silly one. There are two girls talking to each other and one of them (Anna) says, "You know, my dress is so hot." The other one (Maria) is led to think that Anna means, "the dress is hot, temperature wise" because Maria is raised in an environment where the temperature is constantly hot in temperature, whereas Anna might actually say that her dress is in-fashion/cool (hot being the colloquial term for in-fashion/cool). Since the girls have different frame of minds, their take of certain words are different. The same case may apply to translators, because they grow up learning about hadiths and the experience has shaped their way of thinking.

                              That being said, we did our re-examination of the Al-Qur'an, that's way in some cases, our understanding differs from the 'scholars'. We come to understanding that there is not such thing as hitting the wives and any other injustice. However, you kept insisting that the scholars can NOT be wrong, you insist that the word MUST mean hitting. You insist that the Qur'an allows men to hit their wives. It seems that you want the word to mean hitting because that way, you can raise an argument that the Qur'an is man made since it promotes injustice. It seems that you want us to abandon the Qur'an rather than 're-examining our beliefs'. We already have re-examined and still in the process of separating God's words and human's interpretations. On the other hand, you told us that our re-examination is not the same as classical commentators and scholars.

                              It is up to you if you believe that God has left it up to us to be good. However, the definition of good is different in one environment to another, one period of time to another. Up to few hundred years ago, people do not have problems with slavery and yet, we now condemn slavery. Qur'an has already encouraged the people to free the slaves 1400 years ago. We live in an era where most people are okay with paying ridiculous amount of interest by using credit card, thinking it's just how the society works. Yet many people suffer from this economic system. Qur'an condemns devouring usury 1400 years ago. People few hundred years ago thought it was honourable and good to sacrifice their female children, and Qur'an condemns such practice. And we know believe that human sacrifice is barbaric.

                              I believe God sent down Qur'an to give general outline what we should do to improve our society, leaving us to determine how much we want to commit. Qur'an tells to give charity, and yet it doesn't specify how much (contrary to the widely-believed view of 2.5% charity), and tells us not to be stingy and not to be too generous.

                              That is my view anyway, feel free to not read or disregard everything I have said because I do not understand Arabic like you do

                              Salaam.

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                                double post.

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                                  Salaam,

                                  Sorry to butt in and answer your questions even though the questions were not directed to me. First, you stated in your blog that you are not telling anyone what to believe and that everyone should re-examine their beliefs and embrace it with their hearts and mind. Anyway, it appears to me, that you are actually doing the opposite. You have a problem of a Qur'anic verse where it says the men are allowed to 'hit' their wives if they are not obedient. In case you are not aware already, we believe that verse is not about hitting the wives physically, like many traditional Muslims like to believe. We wouldn't think that God will allow such treatment to wives, especially when 419 tells the husbands not to treat their wives with harshness.

                                  Therefore we re-examine that verse, and come to conclusion that the word has different meanings other than 'hitting'. Most translators translate it as 'hitting' not because that's what it actually means, but they already have pre-conceptions that the word means 'hitting' as they have been exposed to many hadiths that say about husbands hitting the wives. Let me give you an analogy, even though it's a silly one. There are two girls talking to each other and one of them (Anna) says, "You know, my dress is so hot." The other one (Maria) is led to think that Anna means, "the dress is hot, temperature wise" because Maria is raised in an environment where the temperature is constantly hot in temperature, whereas Anna might actually say that her dress is in-fashion/cool (hot being the colloquial term for in-fashion/cool). Since the girls have different frame of minds, their take of certain words are different. The same case may apply to translators, because they grow up learning about hadiths and the experience has shaped their way of thinking.

                                  That being said, we did our re-examination of the Al-Qur'an, that's way in some cases, our understanding differs from the 'scholars'. We come to understanding that there is not such thing as hitting the wives and any other injustice. However, you kept insisting that the scholars can NOT be wrong, you insist that the word MUST mean hitting. You insist that the Qur'an allows men to hit their wives. It seems that you want the word to mean hitting because that way, you can raise an argument that the Qur'an is man made since it promotes injustice. It seems that you want us to abandon the Qur'an rather than 're-examining our beliefs'. We already have re-examined and still in the process of separating God's words and human's interpretations. On the other hand, you told us that our re-examination is not the same as classical commentators and scholars.

                                  It is up to you if you believe that God has left it up to us to be good. However, the definition of good is different in one environment to another, one period of time to another. Up to few hundred years ago, people do not have problems with slavery and yet, we now condemn slavery. Qur'an has already encouraged the people to free the slaves 1400 years ago. We live in an era where most people are okay with paying ridiculous amount of interest by using credit card, thinking it's just how the society works. Yet many people suffer from this economic system. Qur'an condemns devouring usury 1400 years ago. People few hundred years ago thought it was honourable and good to sacrifice their female children, and Qur'an condemns such practice. And we know believe that human sacrifice is barbaric.

                                  I believe God sent down Qur'an to give general outline what we should do to improve our society, leaving us to determine how much we want to commit. Qur'an tells to give charity, and yet it doesn't specify how much (contrary to the widely-believed view of 2.5% charity), and tells us not to be stingy and not to be too generous.

                                  That is my view anyway, feel free to not read or disregard everything I have said because I do not understand Arabic like you do

                                  Salaam.

                                  OK firstly I meant I do not believe in imposing my beliefs on anyone and I will defend the right of anyone to believe what they want - many of my family members are still practising Muslims and I defend their right and the right of all people to believe or not believe what they want. However that does not of course mean I can't say what I think and discuss.

                                  Actually I am torn between supporting you guys in your efforts to reinterpret the Qur'an and move away from the harsh and sometimes violent beliefs of some Muslims - and feeling that you are really just moulding Islam to suit your own humanity. But even that's fine - but don't expect me not to discuss and give my opinion - that's only natural - we all do it - there shouldn't be a problem about that.

                                  As for man finding his way alone with out God's guidance - I believe that's exactly what we have been doing all these years. If there is any guidance that God has given us then it is within us - in our hearts, souls, minds and conscience. It may not be perfect - but hey - look around at those who think they are following God's perfect book

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                                    Actually I am torn between supporting you guys in your efforts to reinterpret the Qur'an and move away from the harsh and sometimes violent beliefs of some Muslims - and feeling that you are really just moulding Islam to suit your own humanity. But even that's fine - but don't expect me not to discuss and give my opinion - that's only natural - we all do it - there shouldn't be a problem about that.

                                    We might be re-interpreting Islam to suit our humanity and God knows best. But for me, a belief that does not promote the development of society/humanity is not worth striving for. I personally believe that "Islam" that promotes violence and/or injustice can NOT be the word of God, because God is the Most Compassionate and the Most Merciful. However, I believe that the peaceful belief system is the true God's system. That is, Qur'anically based system, that is free from manmade religion (by that, I mean hadiths in general).

                                    So what is your problem with us, if I may ask? We are applying "personally moulded Islam" as we want to serve God in a way that it benefits humanity and does not impose any harms that may be caused by our lusts and desires. We, InshAllah, will try to live by the Qur'an and you won't see most of the Brothers here hitting their wives, you won't see most of us stoning adulterers to death, you won't see most of us chopping the hands of thieves, you won't see most of the Sisters here dressed in burqa, etc. So, what is your problem exactly? Unless... you see our actions as not befitting your personal values

                                    As for man finding his way alone with out God's guidance - I believe that's exactly what we have been doing all these years. If there is any guidance that God has given us then it is within us - in our hearts, souls, minds and conscience. It may not be perfect - but hey - look around at those who think they are following God's perfect book

                                    Well, some are indeed violent and that is because they do want want to think, and they are unwilling to separate between God's system and manmade religion. And the case is not just with "Islam", but also with other religions such as Christianity, Judaism, Hinduism, etc. I personally hold nothing against people from other religions, as long as they commit themselves to serve God by serving mankind, in a peaceful manner.

                                    Salaam.

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                                      We might be re-interpreting Islam to suit our humanity and God knows best. But for me, a belief that does not promote the development of society/humanity is not worth striving for... So what is your problem with us, if I may ask? We are applying "personally moulded Islam" as we want to serve God in a way that it benefits humanity and does not impose any harms that may be caused by our lusts and desires. We, InshAllah, will try to live by the Qur'an and you won't see most of the Brothers here hitting their wives, you won't see most of us stoning adulterers to death, you won't see most of us chopping the hands of thieves, you won't see most of the Sisters here dressed in burqa, etc. So, what is your problem exactly? Unless... you see our actions as not befitting your personal values...

                                      We are discussing - that's all. If you lived next door to me I would be a very good neighbour to you - I have no problem with you. We are discussing our different views.

                                      You believe x and I believe y and we are discussing the merits or lack thereof that's all.

                                      Gotta go to bed now - work in the morning.

                                      Peace

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                                        So your saying that your whole argument on 4.34 hangs on that interpretation by Muhammad Asad?

                                        I understand now your obsession with Muhammads Asad's translation of this verse, sorry - but I have never come across it before and it never occured to me anyone could translate it this way.

                                        So let me see if I understand you correctly - you are saying that this verse

                                        So We said "Strike the (body) with a piece of the (cow)."

                                        really means this

                                        "So we said apply this (principle) to some of those (cases of unresolved murder)"

                                        And because daraba is used directly without any qualification to mean something non-literal that shows that 4.34 is also non-literal.

                                        Is that right?

                                        But it's easy to see why traditional scholars understood the pronoun it after hit means the body of the deceased since it is talking about a murdered person - and it is obvious why the pronoun it after some refers to the cow - because the preceding 5 verses are all about sacrificing this cow.

                                        So what is the evidence or reason for assuming it means principle and cases of unresolved murder

                                        And what principle is it they must apply?

                                        Salaam,

                                        No where did I say that the entire case hinges on this verses definition. Rather, I have made the point that Wakas has a comprehensive case multiple times but you seem to hear what you want so your confusion isn't surprising. Further, if this verse has a non strike definition, then the idea that daraba needs a preposition or abstract noun following it to have a non strike definition is false and your entire case falls. Maybe what you are trying to project on me is how your entire arbitrary case concerning daraba hinges on one of many different examples and cases that can be offerred by my side.

                                        Cheers

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                                          OK firstly I meant I do not believe in imposing my beliefs on anyone and I will defend the right of anyone to believe what they want - many of my family members are still practising Muslims and I defend their right and the right of all people to believe or not believe what they want. However that does not of course mean I can't say what I think and discuss.

                                          Actually I am torn between supporting you guys in your efforts to reinterpret the Qur'an and move away from the harsh and sometimes violent beliefs of some Muslims - and feeling that you are really just moulding Islam to suit your own humanity. But even that's fine - but don't expect me not to discuss and give my opinion - that's only natural - we all do it - there shouldn't be a problem about that.

                                          As for man finding his way alone with out God's guidance - I believe that's exactly what we have been doing all these years. If there is any guidance that God has given us then it is within us - in our hearts, souls, minds and conscience. It may not be perfect - but hey - look around at those who think they are following God's perfect book

                                          You openly reject that verse and we do it secretly, through interpretation, and hence sending an open message to God that WE WILL NOT HIT OUR WOMEN!!!!! No matter how much nushooz they offer!! -*

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