What are the important factors in a marriage relationship
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If you're a woman and your man gets angry, start crying. They'll feel guilty and stop shouting group
tell him the complete truth. its not like really crying just fake it like this
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If you're a woman and your man gets angry, start crying. They'll feel guilty and stop shouting group
that might work with some, but for some reason if I do that my husband thinks I'm trying to put on a show for sympathy? So if I cry I have to do it in private.
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that might work with some, but for some reason if I do that my husband thinks I'm trying to put on a show for sympathy? So if I cry I have to do it in private.
I'm guilty of that myself. I grew up in a household where the occasional massive fight was as normal as Sunday breakfast. So when my wife and I do argue, if she starts crying, it just screams "drama queen" to me. I have to constantly remind myself that not all women have the cast iron composure my mother and sisters do, and my upbringing was most definitely not the norm.
As for maintaining a marriage, I've learned the all important "I'm sorry. I was wrong. You're right." That rarely fails.
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I'm guilty of that myself. I grew up in a household where the occasional massive fight was as normal as Sunday breakfast. So when my wife and I do argue, if she starts crying, it just screams "drama queen" to me. I have to constantly remind myself that not all women have the cast iron composure my mother and sisters do, and my upbringing was most definitely not the norm.
As for maintaining a marriage, I've learned the all important "I'm sorry. I was wrong. You're right." That rarely fails.
Well at least you are able to say "I'm sorry. I was wrong. You're right.". I've never heard that from my husband.
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Hey everybody..first time here sharing my views..i believe that in a marriage trust, love and communication are of utmost importance, but also i believe that similiar religious views are crucial..so atleast two people who live together have a chance to grow spiritually and provide the kids with an environment that is peaceful and loving,with an emphasis on following Gods path.at the end of the day ur spouse is the one u spend most of ur life with..and after God they should be your utmost priority. I come from a shia family but reject almost all of the beliefs.In my opinion Gods word is the only right path, nothing else.Unfortunately the guys i have encountered either have no religious views and arent exactly bothered, or just stick to what their family believes.It is so hard to actually find a partner who has the same beliefs about how to live your life..so evrybody out there who is lucky enuff to have a spouse they love and share life with..congrats! and just know how lucky u all are.
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If you're a woman and your man gets angry, start crying. They'll feel guilty and stop shouting group
That doesnt work with mine, he panics and shouts more, I cry more, he shouts stop crying. He cant handle tears, says it rips his heart out rotfl
Works better if hes angry (which actually is incredibly RARE) to not speak to him, then all his anger is forgotten while hes trying to make me laugh )
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The most important thing is to have the same values and beliefs. Communication, trust etc. are all things that a couple can develop and is commonly available. Having the same beliefs is very rare though.
thats true..once u meet someone with similiar beliefs its easy to respect love and trust them..and its VERY rare to meet someone with beliefs similiar to ours (
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But people have the potential of sharing your faith. You just need to educate them
Yea everyone has the potential to believe the same. But the question becomes, do I want to waste my time, and potentially get hurt pursuing people who don't agree with me about the fundamentals of life?
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i agree...but u never know whether they agree with u coz they love u and just want to go along with it...or coz they actually believe in wat ur saying
Salaam,
I too have thought a lot about it. Should I insist on finding the one who already shares the same beliefs as I do, or I should exercise patience and try to educate someone who may have the potential. I don't know... as you already know, it is extremely hard to find the one with the same beliefs and values. Anyway... I think it also takes a bit more than that. Ideally, my partner will be someone who can be my 'activity-partner', someone whom I can implement the Deen together. I think it will be awesome to be able to do social/voluntary works together with my partner, instead of just the usual dining/hanging out/watching movies etc. Few weeks ago I saw a couple engaging in voluntary work together and I was ever so jealous (.
Anyway... right now, my heart is inclined to accept someone who is a believer of God, has a peaceful and contented heart and cares about others. He does not necessarily have to already share the same beliefs, but God willing, if I try to educate him, he will be guided. But even with a looser criteria, it is hard to find a person like that (.
Yea everyone has the potential to believe the same. But the question becomes, do I want to waste my time, and potentially get hurt pursuing people who don't agree with me about the fundamentals of life?
I think it's part of the journey. You cannot expect to be happy all your life, and not experience pain. Ideally, we find the person straight away, but in most cases, that's not the case. You'll get hurt along the way but it's not necessarily a bad thing. It helps you grow as a person.
I'm sure your time will not be "wasted" if you use it to educate the person about the Path. If it is for a good cause, no time will be wasted. Whether the person accepts or not, it is not up to you. But the least you can do is trying... It will be better than limiting yourself to one sphere and no change will happen if we remain, umm... quiet?
Salaam.
