You shall beat your wife
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Oh wow, that sounds like fun! yay
"Beating someone" would cause an injury. Perhaps you need to improve your English. In what sort of a respectful relationship, does a man think he can hit a woman, or a woman think she should hit a man. Unless it's consensual BDSM, of course, which I completely understand-but yeah, let's see how many women want to marry you when you tell them you're going to beat them for not cooking you dinner and not supplying you with sex on demand.
Madame, I teach English.
A mild beating means to strike or smack someone, but not to the degree that it will leave a permanent mark or cause serious injury.
Now if anyone takes exception to the Quranic ordinance permitting a man to beat his wife, will you also condemn loving parents who spank their children when they misbehave? The principle is identical.
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Madame, I teach English.
A mild beating means to strike or smack someone, but not to the degree that it will leave a permanent mark or cause serious injury.
Now if anyone takes exception to the Quranic ordinance permitting a man to beat his wife, will you also condemn loving parents who spank their children when they misbehave? The principle is identical.
You teach English? I'm not remotely convinced. English isn't my first language-it's my fourth, yet, even I can see that your understanding of the adjective, "to beat" is deeply flawed so that it meets your interpretation.
You think it's acceptable to hit children? Are you kidding me?!
Animals hit other animals because they can't get their point across. Now, the assumption that homo sapiens (Sorry! I bet you don't like "homos" either!) are a much more intelligent species may be too optimistic. However, when you go around advocating abuse against a much weaker party, do you really think this is a righteous manner of conduct.
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Oh wow, that sounds like fun! yay
"Beating someone" would cause an injury. Perhaps you need to improve your English. In what sort of a respectful relationship, does a man think he can hit a woman, or a woman think she should hit a man. Unless it's consensual BDSM, of course, which I completely understand-but yeah, let's see how many women want to marry you when you tell them you're going to beat them for not cooking you dinner and not supplying you with sex on demand.
I'm sure there's an underground meeting place matrimonial network for such people to indulge in these rpg's which they playfully call marriage. They would also tenderly call each other True Muslims while one punches the other in the gut so as to not leave any visible evidence of their fun and games avoiding much public jeering and jail time of course. There are magical mild beating techniques which are like the wind gently rifling one's hair and thus arguably as effective as doing nothing at all but no matter. It soothes the wild beast. Not everyone understands, understandably, it's hard to be a True Muslim in this day and age, where did the golden days go when a man could smoke his pipe and whack his wives in peace whenever they served his dinner late. Or worse, wore curlers in their hair to bed with frumpy nightsacks designed to kill all feeling! The wenches did it deliberately to thwart any advances, the gall. Some have it down to an art form; divinely ordained artistic expressions of love for the greater good...so that the man can avoid erectile dysfunction. The dom obviously doesn't get any kicks unless he's in full control 50 Shades of Islamic Marriage for True Musims.
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I'm sure there's an underground meeting place matrimonial network for such people to indulge in these rpg's which they playfully call marriage. They would also tenderly call each other True Muslims while one punches the other in the gut so as to not leave any visible evidence of their fun and games avoiding much public jeering and jail time of course. There are magical mild beating techniques which are like the wind gently rifling one's hair and thus arguably as effective as doing nothing at all but no matter. It soothes the wild beast. Not everyone understands, understandably, it's hard to be a True Muslim in this day and age, where did the golden days go when a man could smoke his pipe and whack his wives in peace whenever they served his dinner late. Or worse, wore curlers in their hair to bed with frumpy nightsacks designed to kill all feeling! The wenches did it deliberately to thwart any advances, the gall. Some have it down to an art form; divinely ordained artistic expressions of love for the greater good...so that the man can avoid erectile dysfunction. The dom obviously doesn't get any kicks unless he's in full control 50 Shades of Islamic Marriage for True Musims.
Indeed! And such misdemeanours righteously invite a beating!
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Oh hell naww i know this guy did not just say is okay to beat your wife im sorry but this delusional Schizophrenic Psychopath need to calm down his ego with all of that Ishh........ come back to reality sweetheart because you been living a nonsensical life when you come down from your fantasy play date and when your done with your whole BDSM fantasy then we can have an intelligent rational conversation but as for this moment it wont happen so Keep on playing with your Whips
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All the above are just emotional replies and personal attacks
The fact of the matter is the Holy Quran gives explicit permission for the husband to beat his wife when necessary
ARBERRY
And those you fear may be rebellious admonish; banish them to their couches, and beat themPICKTALL
As for those from whom ye fear rebellion, admonish them and banish them to beds apart, and scourge themMUFTI TAQI USMANI
...beat themYUSUF ALI
As to those women on whose part ye fear disloyalty and ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (next), refuse to share their, beds (and last) beat them (lightly)DARYABADI
And those wives whose refractoriness ye fear, exhort them, and avoid them in beds, and beat themDR MOHSIN
As to those women on whose part you see ill?conduct, admonish them (first), (next), refuse to share their beds, (and last) beat them (lightly, if it is useful)SHER ALI
And as for those on whose part you fear disobedience, admonish them and leave them alone in their beds, and chastise themASAD
And as for those women whose ill-will you have reason to fear, admonish them ; then leave them alone in bed; then beat themEven the Quranist Rashad Khalifa translated it thus
If you experience rebellion from the women, you shall first talk to them, then (you may use negative incentives like) deserting them in bed, then you may (as a last alternative) beat them
Virtually every published translation of the Holy Quran says "Beat". Are they all wrong??
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I find it disturbing that you think it is acceptable to hit women. However, I find it even more disturbing that you think it's acceptable to hit children. Do you really think it's acceptable to hit children?
Beat/ beat lightly/ scourge/ admonish unfortunately, I'm not a native Arabic speaker, but take your pick on meanings.
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The aya 4.34 is addressed to one group the believers and it addresses them in the second person plural, when it speaks about the males it uses third person masculine plural, and about the women, third person feminine plural. When it says advise, leave them alone and idribuhunna, it is addressing the comunity of believers, not the males, it is using second person inclusive plural, oh you who believe. It is not addressing neither the males, third person, masculine plural, nor the females, third person feminine plural.
The adivese, leave them in ther home and the idribuhunna is not addressed to males or husbands, it is adressed to the community, and of course it does not talk about beating, but about convincing.
But it does not matter, beating wives is a toy of the self-esteem lacking males, who need continous reassuring of their own worth by means of kicking others around. No community need to beat anybody's wive in order to mediate between the parties in a couple.
The image some males give of themselves is really pitiful, except when in fact they are trolls and they spew nonsense just to derail threads and avoid that people get a decent and purposeful debate of those matters that they want understand.
Let us not feed the trolls. Traditional muslims, some of them have really made messes of a lot of things in the Qur'an, but they are not necessarily mad women haters. Attitudes like Israfeel's to me are just contrived nonsense, not something he really thinks. We spend time pounding self evidents truths on him, and he comes back with more stupidity just to keep us away from getting to the core of things.
Salaam
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I find it disturbing that you think it is acceptable to hit women. However, I find it even more disturbing that you think it's acceptable to hit children. Do you really think it's acceptable to hit children?
Beat/ beat lightly/ scourge/ admonish unfortunately, I'm not a native Arabic speaker, but take your pick on meanings.
I said spank children (when they misbehave). Its what majority of parents (and schoolteachers) around the world do, and there's nothing wrong with it.
Whoever spares the rod hates his son,
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Muslim men only beat their wives with their "short rods" (205 of the video) because they want to HONOR them. I know this because this very intelligent and logical Saudi Sheikh told me. Check the video. You will not regret it
http//www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y-Tw7WhH_aQ&feature=youtube_gdata_player
"Yo girl. What chu doin after the Halaqa? You wanna come back to my place, have a glass of mango juice, listen to some Nancy Agram records & if things go well, maybe I could honor you by beating you with my small rod?" -Sheikh Yahbuti
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peace,
Israfeel, THE SECOND STEP in 434 is only to ABANDON from BEDCHAMBER / ROOM.
And the 3rd step is to separate COMPLETELY.Abandon in bedchambers and separating totally are two different things.
Unfortunately "separating" does not fit.
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If parents spanking their children is not a crime (spanking out of love to discipline the children), then how is husband physically disciplining his wife a crime??
What kind of stupidity is this?
Anyway, seek help ASAP..
And yes, spanking/hitting your own children is a crime as well.
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Muslim men only beat their wives with their "short rods" (205 of the video) because they want to HONOR them. I know this because this very intelligent and logical Saudi Sheikh told me. Check the video. You will not regret it
http//www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y-Tw7WhH_aQ&feature=youtube_gdata_player
"Yo girl. What chu doin after the Halaqa? You wanna come back to my place, have a glass of mango juice, listen to some Nancy Agram records & if things go well, maybe I could honor you by beating you with my small rod?" -Sheikh Yahbuti
This is what is wrong with "Islam". "When a woman is beaten she is honoured"-and there are probably millions of people hanging on to this guy's every word because he is "Sheikh", "he is learned".
Muslim women wear niqaab because they are not like the "whores" who don't cover up. They are not objects. Yet they are objectified when they refuse their husbands sex. Surely, these inanimate objects cannot refuse sex to their owner, for who else will their keeper have sex with. How about, the collection of four wives to satiate his "overpowering" sexual desire-after all, that is the way God made him. If that doesn't "satisfy" him, then how about his harem of women. But of course, Islam does not objectify women!
So, rape is fine. Beatings are fine (as long as it's not the face, of course because that's a very important point. We cannot have any visible physical damage on this beautiful toy object). We must just walk around wearing a black tent on our heads. This is what honours us, us lowly, feeble creatures.
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This is what is wrong with "Islam". "When a woman is beaten she is honoured"-and there are probably millions of people hanging on to this guy's every word because he is "Sheikh", "he is learned".
Muslim women wear niqaab because they are not like the "whores" who don't cover up. They are not objects. Yet they are objectified when they refuse their husbands sex. Surely, these inanimate objects cannot refuse sex to their owner, for who else will their keeper have sex with. How about, the collection of four wives to satiate his "overpowering" sexual desire-after all, that is the way God made him. If that doesn't "satisfy" him, then how about his harem of women. But of course, Islam does not objectify women!
So, rape is fine. Beatings are fine (as long as it's not the face, of course because that's a very important point. We cannot have any visible physical damage on this beautiful toy object). We must just walk around wearing a black tent on our heads. This is what honours us, us lowly, feeble creatures.
I love how the justify all the eff'd up stuff in their religion like beating women, marrying six year old girls, etc. These Sheikhs should be stand up comedians. Their explanations are hilarious! It's Islamic Comedy Night at the Improv!
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"Why are you playing with Qur'an? The word clearly means beat them"
LOL?
First of all go and read what sectarian-free MUSLIMS arguments against wife-beating in 434 first.
Learn what in 434 which comes from the root word first.
"it clearly means beat them"
If you give me traditionalist translations such as Marmaduke Pickthall (he used the word SCOURGE, which means beat severely), Mohsin Khan, Yusuf Ali, Shakir, Ghali et cetera, then yes.The Arabic word is a multi-meaning word which can also mean explain, separate from.
Why don't you read the next verse 435 which is about reconciliation if both the husband and the wife fear a permanent rift?
I read the traditionalist translations and their translations are funny and ridiculous because they make the verse 434 and 435 not consistent by translating the word in 434 into beat/hit/scourge them.Yes, separating means divorce. And verse 435 is about reconciliation.
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All the above are just emotional replies and personal attacks
Lol in fact you have made many emotional and whimsical replies
The fact of the matter is the Holy Quran gives explicit permission for the husband to beat his wife when necessary
ARBERRY
And those you fear may be rebellious admonish; banish them to their couches, and beat themPICKTALL
As for those from whom ye fear rebellion, admonish them and banish them to beds apart, and scourge themMUFTI TAQI USMANI
...beat themYUSUF ALI
As to those women on whose part ye fear disloyalty and ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (next), refuse to share their, beds (and last) beat them (lightly)DARYABADI
And those wives whose refractoriness ye fear, exhort them, and avoid them in beds, and beat themDR MOHSIN
As to those women on whose part you see ill?conduct, admonish them (first), (next), refuse to share their beds, (and last) beat them (lightly, if it is useful)SHER ALI
And as for those on whose part you fear disobedience, admonish them and leave them alone in their beds, and chastise themASAD
And as for those women whose ill-will you have reason to fear, admonish them ; then leave them alone in bed; then beat themFunny. You made a fallacious argument. The fallacy that you made is called argumentum ad populum (appeal to majority).
And furthermore it's not God who says that. But MEN.Even the Quranist Rashad Khalifa translated it thus
If you experience rebellion from the women, you shall first talk to them, then (you may use negative incentives like) deserting them in bed, then you may (as a last alternative) beat them
Virtually every published translation of the Holy Quran says "Beat". Are they all wrong??
You don't have any better arguments to support your claim. You just copy and paste traditional Qur'an TRANSLATIONS.
And made argumentum ad populum.
EDIT I meant the traditional translations are the translations that you posted on here except Rashad Khalifa's translation.
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peace,
Unfortunately "separating" does not fit.
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Salaam,
I have read it.
But I still hold the view that separation is closed to 'citing' in this verse.
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peace,
Why don't you read the next verse 435 which is about reconciliation if both the husband and the wife fear a permanent rift?
This is incorrect. The Arabic is clear
From www.Quran434.com
And if you (plural) feared disunion/breach/rift between them two, then appoint a judge from his family and a judge from hers. If they both want to reconcile, then God will bring agreement between them. God is Knowledgeable, Expert.
"And if YOU feared disunion/breach/rift between them..." (Arabic shiqaqa, root Shin-Qaf-Qaf), and the "feared" before it is in the perfect form, i.e. an action done/completed. The "you" is in the plural form and can only refer to the community/court/authority/etc.
Yes, separating means divorce. And verse 435 is about reconciliation.
If "separating means divorce" then it would upset the standard divorce/release procedure, as per Quran discussed on Quran434.com however it is possible perhaps you know of an alternative procedure.
But I still hold the view that separation is closed to 'citing' in this verse.
Everyone is entitled to their view, but "separation" is not close to "cite".
Of course, this is only some of the problems for "separate". One main issue would be the lack of coherence with the other usage of DRB when the direct object is a human like in 434 (see 4357, 273). Of course one can have the view 434 is the odd one out. Again, this is discussed in the link.
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Dear all
Last night when I was trying to sleep I started wondering about verse 434 and there has been a lot of debate about "beating" of the wife. The Quran found on f-m has translated it as "separated"
The men are to support the women with what God has bestowed upon them over one another and for what they spend of their money. The upright females are dutiful; keeping private the personal matters for what God keeps watch over. As for those females from whom you fear desertion, then you shall advise them, and abandon them in the bedchamber, and separate from them. If they respond to you, then do not seek a way over them; God is Most High, Great.
women like being beat it shows affection. also people who are not punished become worst spank your kids too!!!!!
But alot of other Qurans it says beat, although with brackets explaining "lightly" or "with a toothbrush" or "symbolic". All those are interpretations with hadith influence.
But yesterday it came into my mind "It doesn't matter what the right translation is. It could be "beat" or "separate" because the level of force allowed is already mentioned in the Quran"
God does not allow for aggression. Next part I took from the submitters since they collected all verses in one place
You may fight in the cause of GOD against those who attack you, but do not aggress. GOD does not love the aggressors.
You may kill those who wage war against you, and you may evict them whence they evicted you. Oppression is worse than murder. Do not fight them at the Sacred Masjid, unless they attack you therein. If they attack you, you may kill them. This is the just retribution for those disbelievers.
If they refrain, then GOD is Forgiver, Most Merciful.
You may also fight them to eliminate oppression, and to worship GOD freely. If they refrain, you shall not aggress; aggression is permitted only against the aggressors.*All fighting is regulated by the basic rule in 608-9. Fighting is allowed strictly in self-defense, while aggression and oppression are strongly condemned throughout the Quran.
O you who believe, do not prohibit good things that are made lawful by GOD, and do not aggress; GOD dislikes the aggressors.
If they resort to peace, so shall you, and put your trust in GOD. He is the Hearer, the Omniscient.
... if they leave you alone, refrain from fighting you, and offer you peace, then GOD gives you no excuse to fight them
If you raise your hand against your wife, it is aggression. Therefore not permissable. There are no contradictions in the Quran. So if there is any debate what "beat" really means, you know the absolute limit Allah has shown. A strike or inflicting of pain or any form of aggression is not allowed.
