You shall beat your wife
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Salaam Amina
We are supposed to say what is just and impartial, even if it's against our loved ones or our own gender. Do you not think that it is equally scary for a father to have his child taken away from him in a divorce?!
I feel you are a brave and sensible and God fearing person so you would agree that a child needs both parents. Maybe that's why Allah gives the father charge of his children, despite the mother's strong maternal bond with her children, so that divorce will be the last option for both parties.
I know that you are going through very hard times and I may sound harsh to you but the fact is girls or boys both need their father and their mother equally and both parents love their children so no one has the right to deprive a devoted parent of his/her right to raise the children.
PeaceI guess...I don't know what to think. My heart would be eternally broken at my daughter being legally taken from me and with her father. I have honestly thought of never re-marrying just to keep my child. I have no issue with my child having a relationship with either parent, as I was never kept from my father. Then again, my parents aren't Muslim so what applies here doesn't apply to them.
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I guess...I don't know what to think. My heart would be eternally broken at my daughter being legally taken from me and with her father. .
Salaam Amina
t?s not only you but your daughter too would be traumatised if she was taken away from a loving mother. There is no denying that separation from a loving and caring mother is worse than from a father.I have honestly thought of never re-marrying just to keep my child.
?ll tell you a true account of one woman whose husband wanted to keep the kids; not out of out of a sense of his right or out of love for the children, but out of vindictivness. The woman, being a believer, prayed to Allah to give her the strenght to do what is right, and then gathered all her fortitude and told her husband to keep the child, as it was his responsibility, she also mentioned to him that she was now at liberty to remarry as, in Islam, a woman should be, following divorce. The thought of being lumbered with child care and seeing her free to remarry caused her husband to freak out and so never bothered to ask for custody.
I have no issue with my child having a relationship with either parent, as I was never kept from my father. Then again, my parents aren't Muslim so what applies here doesn't apply to them
If your husband is indeed a believer he would never consider severing the ties of womb, as that act is a sin in Islam
Peace
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Salaam Amina
t?s not only you but your daughter too would be traumatised if she was taken away from a loving mother. There is no denying that separation from a loving and caring mother is worse than from a father. ?ll tell you a true account of one woman whose husband wanted to keep the kids; not out of out of a sense of his right or out of love for the children, but out of vindictivness. The woman, being a believer, prayed to Allah to give her the strenght to do what is right, and then gathered all her fortitude and told her husband to keep the child, as it was his responsibility, she also mentioned to him that she was now at liberty to remarry as, in Islam, a woman should be, following divorce. The thought of being lumbered with child care and seeing her free to remarry caused her husband to freak out and so never bothered to ask for custody. If your husband is indeed a believer he would never consider severing the ties of womb, as that act is a sin in IslamPeace
Farida,
I agree and thank you for sharing.
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The truth hurts. I don't have to make an effort to do much to be honest. I simply present the facts from the common translations. I mean if you guys want to discuss Qur'an I just go on Qur'an.com and the 8 most established translations from Pickthal, Yusuf Ali, Dr. Ghalil, Sahih International, etc. all are available. They usually all say the same thing if not in slightly different terms. If this is a forum for Qur'an discussion why can I not provide these mainstream translations? These are the translations I assume most Muslims use. I have a Yusuf Ali translation on my dresser and my Maulana Muhammad Ali translation is in New York with my father so I use what I have available.
In actuality I don't have to make an effort to do anything because the facts are on my side. You accuse me of treachery and dishonesty when all I present are facts. Truth will always triumph over falsehood. Next time look at the facts I'm presenting instead of getting disgruntled that you think I'm making your holy Qur'an may contain misogyny or violence. I've never changed the words of the Qur'an and never will. I think it's insulting to do so. But I will use credible translations to quote the Qur'an so next time you see a problem with the verses I present then question the holy Qur'an itself not the messenger.
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Why do you use ARGUMENTUM AD POPULUM to prove your arguments?
Just because many says so, doesn't mean that they are right.
If the word idriboo in 434 is translated into BEAT, verse 434 and 435 woudn't be consistent.
DRB is just a multi-meaning word.
|434| admonish ---> separate from sleeping-places ---> IDRIBOO |435| fear a permanent rift/separation ---> reconcile
The translation of idriboo into SEPARATE FROM in the verse 434 is perfect because 434-35 would be consistent.I know that faithful-jinn is atheist.
Yeah of course, some Rashadans also agree with this kind of fallacious argument because RK also translated the word into BEAT.
Anyway I don't come to here to yell at Submitters (RK followers) but just to prove my simple point that the people who posted on this thread (Faithful-Jinn) made fallacious/invalid argument.
No offenceRegards,
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Just because many says so, doesn't mean that they are right.
They plagiarized without even consulting lexicons both of Arabic and English or even revisiting original text of Qur'aan.
George Sale; John Medows Rodwell and Arthur John Arberry laid the foundation to interpret this word as "scourge; chastise; beat them". Learned Yusuf Ali translated it as "(And last) beat them (lightly)". He seems to have expressed his "kindness" for women by placing "lightly" in the parentheses. Learned Pickthal like George Sale, on the contrary, seemed to have no sympathy for wives. He translated it, "and scourge them". It is hard to think that by using this word he meant to severely criticize them and not whip them.
The most unfortunate aspect of advocating domestic violence is that it insults the Arabic Word Islam; a verbal noun, and as is known it denotes action and a state. This Verbal Noun is such which deserves attain the title of "sublime interaction". It signifies a healthy state of exactitude, validity, truth; and absolved causing wellness and tranquility. And therein is no deviation, irregularity, oddity, and abnormality disturbing wellness and tranquility. It portrays a state of peace, safety, tranquility and dynamic balance wherein the man is secure from all things causing damage and disablement.
Arabic words take birth from Roots. Each Root has a specifically defined and distinctly conspicuous perception folded in it. Words, originating from Roots on well defined patterns-moulds-structuring frames, retain the original perception infolded in its Root, dominantly and conspicuously, with additional meanings and connotation, shades and colours added by the peculiar pattern-placing of vowels-syllabification, and addition of consonants. Moreover, relational aspect of the semantic field will also influence and add connotations to the word. Hence; the meanings, perception and connotation of an Arabic Word is the composite whole of the perception infolded in its Root, coupled with meanings associated with its pattern, and its relation to the semantic field where it is used. It signifies that the basic meanings of a Root and word do not exhaust when they are used in a different semantic field, relational area, while necessarily retaining the base meanings.
The basic perception, meanings and signification infolded in this Root " " as stated in Lane Lexicon is,
"accord. to Er-R?ghib, signifies the making a thing to fall upon another thing;" It reflects that its effect may necessarily not be of causing hurt. It reflects an instance; an illustration or an occurrence. The most equivalent word in English vocabulary to describe the basic perception and its various uses in different semantic fields is verb "strike". It denotes; to fall or shine on something; to make something noticed; make something to be perceived or become audible-understandable for someone; to make some idea enter somebody's mind or occur to somebody; to penetrate or seem to go right through something; make something by stamping; and to remove something away-displace. And taking support and help of other words its use signifies to hit somebody or something with a hand, tool, weapon, or other object. Obvious intention in such strike is to hurt, damage, dislocate, dislodge, deform, shape or stamp the target with force. Moreover, support words will be required if the intention of the speaker is to indicate the instance as involving repeated strikes to reflect what is denoted by English word "beating"; punishment in which somebody is repeatedly hit.Grand Qur'aan has prohibited domestic violence negating erroneous "belief" of beating one's wife.
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A man who puts his hands on a woman is a coward and has some deeper issues within himself
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A man who puts his hands on a woman is a courage and has some deeper issues within himself
If parents spanking their children is not a crime (spanking out of love to discipline the children), then how is husband physically disciplining his wife a crime??
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If parents spanking their children is not a crime (spanking out of love to discipline the children), then how is husband physically disciplining his wife a crime??
You are Disgusting i know this is what you think but is disgusting let me ask you something do you want someone to put there hands on you? do you want some to put there hand on the loving caring women that raised you? do you want someone to hit your sister? NO so how can you type this a child and a women is different there mentality is different
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You are Disgusting i know this is what you think but is disgusting let me ask you something do you want someone to put there hands on you? do you want some to put there hand on the loving caring women that raised you? do you want someone to hit your sister? NO so how can you type this a child and a women is different there mentality is different
You didn't answer my question. When loving parents spank their children who were misbehaving, is that "disgusting"? Then you have declared majority of loving parents as "disgusting"!!
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Dont you ever put something in my mouth that i haven't said you are ignorant what the hell a child have to do with a grown women a women isnt a child and isnt a property of no one but allah and i answered your question a women mentality is different from a child mentality but you didnt answer my question would you like someone to hit your mother whether it be your father or another man
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Dont you ever put something in my mouth that i haven't said you are ignorant what the hell a child have to do with a grown women a women isnt a child and isnt a property of no one but allah and i answered your question a women mentality is different from a child mentality but you didnt answer my question would you like someone to hit your mother whether it be your father or another man
A child is still a human being like a woman.
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You'll never understand.... A child indeed is a human like you and i but the mentality is different. Quit dodging my question and answer it would you like a men whether it be your father or another man put there hands on your MOTHER the women who carried you for 9 months never left your side loved you and was there for you when you were sick and when you didn't know anything that same mother that cooked food for you and hugged you .... now would you let a man hit her think deep about it is your own mother
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You'll never understand.... A child indeed is a human like you and i but the mentality is different. Quit dodging my question and answer it would you like a men whether it be your father or another man put there hands on your MOTHER the women who carried you for 9 months never left your side loved you and was there for you when you were sick and when you didn't know anything that same mother that cooked food for you and hugged you .... now would you let a man hit her think deep about it is your own mother
Nobody wants anyone to lay hands on their mother, but this is the husband's right when necessary as mentioned in Quran (Surah 434). So either you accept the Quran or stop calling yourself a Muslim.
It hurts a father and mother very much to spank their child, but they do it out of love to correct the child so that he or she grows up to be a good person. Hitting wife should be understood in the same way.
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434 The men are to support the women by what God has gifted them over one another and for what they spend of their money. The reformed women are devotees and protectors of privacy what God has protected. As for those women from whom you fear disloyalty, then you shall advise them, abandon them in the bedchamber, and separate them; if they obey you, then do not seek a way over them; God is High, Great.
Where does it says beat your wife where where where if you want to think that go ahead you can foul those who are uneducated but you cant foul those who are educated dont you blame on Allah saying he said this in the quran don't you blame my lord dont you how dare you... You would want someone to put there hand on your mother wow that's pretty messed up stop bring the whole child thing like i said child mentality is different from adults
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then you shall advise them, abandon them in the bedchamber, and separate them
Your translation is not only wrong, it sounds ridiculous and redundant
"abandon them" and then "separate them". Abandon and separate means the same thing! It's totally redundant.
Just to prove your idea you are changing the meaning of the Holy Quran.
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WOW why do you play this childish games you aren't a real men yes im questioning your manhood you came from a women and you shall not put your hands on a women that what my Mother taught me and i live by that a women is a queen not a punching bag
Translations
Edip-Layth The men are to support the women by what God has gifted them over one another and for what they spend of their money. The reformed women are devotees and protectors of privacy what God has protected. As for those women from whom you fear disloyalty, then you shall advise them, abandon them in the bedchamber, and separate them; if they obey you, then do not seek a way over them; God is High, Great.
Sher Ali Men are guardians over women because ALLAH has made some of them excel others, and because men spend on them of their wealth. So virtuous women are obedient, and guard the secrets of their husbands with ALLAH's protection. And as for those on whose part you fear disobedience, admonish them and keep away from them in their beds and chastise them. Then if they obey you, seek not a way against them. Surely, ALLAH is High and Great.
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Sher Ali Men are guardians over women because ALLAH has made some of them excel others, and because men spend on them of their wealth. So virtuous women are obedient, and guard the secrets of their husbands with ALLAH's protection. And as for those on whose part you fear disobedience, admonish them and keep away from them in their beds and chastise them. Then if they obey you, seek not a way against them. Surely, ALLAH is High and Great.
And what do you think chastise means, genius?
http//dictionary.reference.com/browse/chastise?s=t
to discipline, especially by corporal punishment.
Synonyms
- punish, castigate; whip, beat, flog, spank.
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Your Wrong
http//docupub.com/docs/a48e696e-d758-4b71-a68b-17ff2b697d04/capture-20130914-030117.pdf
that's the the meaning not your meaning is just dumb