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    Maha
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    Indeed yes, that's why we look at the context to determine which ones after we read all the verses in the book.

    Ok and I think the context is about all women

    No, it's not necessary. Usually people tend to keep quiet about cheating for example, and keep it going on er, both fronts.

    do you think nushuuz means cheating?

    That's why the process listed is not denial for revenge or 'punishment'

    a husband who punishes his wife is an ass and the wife should divorce him.

    Abandon them in the bedchamber means just that, abstain from sex, the deed, intercourse, coupling however you wish to call it

    its YOUR interpretation because when you hear 'bed' you think of 'sex'. But I dont think of sex when I hear the word 'bed'.

    May I venture to suggest it's your boundless source of creativity that is the issue here? No? Ok.

    'interpretation' is something the sectarians do. I only look at whats actually written and not written and try to compare it.

    Wait...if nisa doesn't really mean females, why would you even suggest all those suggestions of females chastely sleeping off beds without males?

    excately. I would first make a research on whether the translation of 'bed' is correct or not. Then I would take any further step.

    ...you should probably do a lot of research on it

    everyone shall make a lot of research on the quran. me, you and everybody else, sister. The quran is a ocean in which only some drops are discovered.

    In every case, we can always agree to disagree sister

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      savage_carrot
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      #30

      Ok and I think the context is about all women
      But you just said nisa are not really females?

      do you think nushuuz means cheating?
      One of many possibilities.

      a husband who punishes his wife is an ass and the wife should divorce him.
      Good thing we don't have it in there then.

      its YOUR interpretation because when you hear 'bed' you think of 'sex'. But I dont think of sex when I hear the word 'bed'.
      If that's mine, I really don't want to know why when you hear bed, you think of being pushed off it...admit it, my alternative is way better. Your understandings regarding abandonment in the bedchamber so far have been pushing off beds, denying sleep to a female in a bed owned by the man...but nisa doesn't really mean females? So what is being pushed and denied off the beds and deprived of sleep on fluffy mattresses?

      'interpretation' is something the sectarians do. I only look at whats actually written and not written and try to compare it.
      Um no, we interpret what is written because that is what leads to comprehension.

      excately. I would first make a research on whether the translation of 'bed' is correct or not. Then I would take any further step.
      Well your understanding regarding that so far is not, so there's that.

      everyone shall make a lot of research on the quran. me, you and everybody else, sister. The quran is a ocean in which only some drops are discovered.
      Yes but please make sure that the basis for such research is solid first.

      In every case, we can always agree to disagree sister
      Not if it's half as exciting as pushing entities off beds.

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        Edip_Yuksel
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        #31

        Reformist Translation vs Sectarian Translations
        The first comparision involves this verse

        http//19.org/767/reformist-vs-sectarian/

        Peace,
        Edip

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          huruf
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          Thre is a big problem with the four translations quoted by brother Edip and it is the insistence in writing or translating "obey you", with the exception of Yusuf Ali who says "if they return to obedience" which in essence a little is better, but in appearance is just as bad, because the reader in all cases comes to the conclusion that indeed, the wife owes obedience tot he husband as if in the quran thatre was a previous duty of such obedience. But there is no such thing in the Qur'an. What the Qur'an keeps recommending in all cases is to agree on something and abide by pacts. The nushuz must be against what was estipulated in the pact or covenant. But no general duty of obedience on the part of one spouse to the other is estipulated int he Qur'an. Nor a right to obedience on the part of any of them.

          Take for instance 3.168

          "(They are) the ones that say, (of their brethren slain), while they themselves sit (at ease) "If only they had listened to us they would not have been slain." Say "Avert death from your own selves, if ye speak the truth." "

          This "listened" is the translation of the same verb that in 4.34 is consistently translated as obey.

          In Arabic there is no question, it is clear what it says, because the usage is such that people understand what should be logically understood from the context. One party is disatisfied that the other is fulfilling or not his or her part of the deal, so that part undertakes actions to make the other realise what he or she is doing, so the other part pays heed or does not pay heed. aTw3 has that meaning. When somebody recommends something to somebody else, that somebody else may pay heed or not to the recommendation but does not obey or disobey.

          The obedience to the husband conspiracy clings to straws or whatever to preserve the myth.

          It is a pity. Obedience is for children not for partners.

          It is not even an ideological question, it is a simple linguistic question, and under no obligation to do so, we cling to the most misleading translation of a word that is simple to interpret and understand int he language and in the context. And when as it happens in many cases the previous word "qanitat" is translated as "obedient" the things becomes plan high treason. Because if a few words before it is said that virtuous women are obediente, and later they are supposed to obey the husband, God has dissappeared and instead of Him we have a pitiful human with grandeur dilusions.

          Salaam

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            Wakas
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            peace,

            ok then whats the arabic word for wife?

            It is not what you said, see 2232. It depends on context.

            I recommend reading Quran, as in it, it frequently uses "nisa" for wife, e.g. divorce nisa etc. It depends on context.

            All information is correct to the best of my knowledge only and thus should not be taken as a fact. One should always seek knowledge and verify for themselves when possible: 17:36, 20:114, 35:28, 49:6, 58:11.

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              Maha
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              peace,

              It is not what you said, see 2232. It depends on context.

              I recommend reading Quran, as in it, it frequently uses "nisa" for wife, e.g. divorce nisa etc. It depends on context.

              No it does not. Wife means 'zawjah' in arabic. Neither does the context say anything about nisa suddenly becoming 'zawjaat'.

              Peace

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                Maha
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                But you just said nisa are not really females?

                sorry I didnt clearified myself. Nisa are not females. Unsa means females. But if I have for the sake of argument agree that nisa means female, then I wont think of females as 'wives'.

                If that's mine, I really don't want to know why when you hear bed, you think of being pushed off it...admit it, my alternative is way better. Your understandings regarding abandonment in the bedchamber so far have been pushing off beds, denying sleep to a female in a bed owned by the man...but nisa doesn't really mean females? So what is being pushed and denied off the beds and deprived of sleep on fluffy mattresses

                everyone thinks that his interpretation is better, sister. As I mentioned earliere, I would investigate whether something called 'bed' really is mentioned in the arabic text or not.

                Yes but please make sure that the basis for such research is solid first.

                you are right. Thats why the word 'bed' in crucial here. That needa an invistigation. I am going to do it, and soon tell you about the outcome

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                  Maha
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                  Reformist Translation vs Sectarian Translations
                  The first comparision involves this verse

                  http//19.org/767/reformist-vs-sectarian/

                  Peace,
                  Edip

                  thanks brother edip. Would give it a look now.

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                    Wakas
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                    No it does not. Wife means 'zawjah' in arabic. Neither does the context say anything about nisa suddenly becoming 'zawjaat'.

                    Peace

                    i am referring to Quran's usage, not Arabic as used by you/people/today/etc.

                    All information is correct to the best of my knowledge only and thus should not be taken as a fact. One should always seek knowledge and verify for themselves when possible: 17:36, 20:114, 35:28, 49:6, 58:11.

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                      Maha
                      wrote on last edited by
                      #38

                      i am referring to Quran's usage, not Arabic as used by you/people/today/etc.

                      I was also referring to Quran's usage

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                        aqua
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                        I have written an article on verse 434 of the Qur'an, a verse which has commonly been misinterpreted to justify violence against women. I have created a website to publish this article www.quranverse434.com

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                          Wakas
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                          salaam aqua,
                          Your article suffers from multiple problems as highlighted here
                          http//free-minds.org/forum/index.php?topic=9599954.msg347142#msg347142

                          "withdraw/turn away / go away from them"
                          Requires the tashkeel of present day Arabic Quran to be incorrect
                          This alleged usage in 434 occurs in 435 with the preposition "Aan", thus making Quran seems inconsistent IF it did mean that in 434
                          No identical example of this DRB usage in Quran
                          No explanation of how the authority are notified
                          It is unclear to what extent one separates, how they can do so without being unjust etc
                          No supporting marital example in Quran
                          My view Impractical result when inserted into 4128-130 and somehow requires iAAradan to be a positive thing and potentially makes Drb/3rD similar

                          "cite them" www.Quran434.com
                          Works perfectly with the tashkeel in the present day Arabic Quran
                          Several identical examples of this DRB usage in Quran, including when humans are the direct object as in 434
                          Explains how the authority is notified by 435, and provides perfect logical/sequential coherence
                          DRB use is clear and simple to implement practically
                          581-4 provides perfect coherence in terms of marital example
                          When inserted into 4128-130 provides a complementary practical and coherent solution

                          In fact there were more issues in your article. If you begin your own thread for your article I'd be happy to highlight them for you to respond to.

                          Interestingly, in your work you do not reference www.Quran434.com where you clearly got a lot of information from.

                          All information is correct to the best of my knowledge only and thus should not be taken as a fact. One should always seek knowledge and verify for themselves when possible: 17:36, 20:114, 35:28, 49:6, 58:11.

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