If I Tell my Girlfriend I Won't Cheat on Her Do I Have to Say Insha'allah?
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Peace NotSure,
If you are a practising Muslim, then I wouldn't have thought you would need to unless you want to reassure her. If it is something to do with your own choices and not about the designs of Allah swt per se, then you might not need to say insha'Allah. And why is she your girlfriend and not your wife?
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Peace NotSure,
If you are a practising Muslim, then I wouldn't have thought you would need to unless you want to reassure her. If it is something to do with your own choices and not about the designs of Allah swt per se, then you might not need to say insha'Allah. And why is she your girlfriend and not your wife?
To make things a little more clear here, I am interested in a particular girl. I haven't asked her out yet but I've known her for several months and I am consistently receiving from her what I perceive to be indications that she's into me (only Allah knows what the future holds). And I happen to be into her. So I ask this for the sake of future reference in case we start dating. The first part that I underlined gets it right. I want to be able to say things like that purely to reassure her. But she's a Christian and so saying insha'allah (once I explain what the term means to her) with such a statement might make her not feel very reassured. You follow me?
And also, I don't intend to have sex before marriage. But I live in the US where dating precedes marriage. So a more traditional Islamic approach would be very very difficult. Plus I feel very strongly about this girl and unless I am deluded these feelings are mutual. This may be part of a larger plan of Allah. Maybe we are meant to be together- and if not I'd at least like to get to know her so I can be reassured that we are not right for each other and wait for the next possible candidate and be wholehearted in such a future relationship and not feel anxious that perhaps I missed a better opportunity.
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You can't possibly cover every single eventuality pre-relationship, so there's no point in thinking about things too much. If you've decided you're going to do it, then just grab the bull.
Just remember NO HANKY PANKY!
May Allah bless you with what is best for you.
All the best, and do update us!
Peace.
Sajda.
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You can't possibly cover every single eventuality pre-relationship, so there's no point in thinking about things too much. If you've decided you're going to do it, then just grab the bull.
Just remember NO HANKY PANKY!
May Allah bless you with what is best for you.
All the best, and do update us!
Peace.
Sajda.
This is true. It's not good to think too much about it. I'mma just trust Allah. And yes- no hanky panky. Gotta keep it halal.
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I ll have to look up the verse again as I don't remember right now but doesn't the ayat say that if your going to do something or make plans you should say inshallah?
if your promising to not do a sin, which sin is something that we choose to harm ourselves with, I don't see how inshallah would be appropriate.
but I could be wrong.
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Peace NotSure,
If that's the way you would like to go about it - then go for it. As already mentioned, keep it Quranic. I think there are other ways of going about such relationships, but that might be more appropriate when the other side is Muslim as well and is more familiar with the 'background.' Insha'Allah may be a little confusing for her, maybe you don't need to say it in this circumstance. Allah swt knows your intent.
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Peace NotSure.
I hope your girlfriend isn't a Trinitian Christian, because they're polytheist, this mean they're mushrik.We're forbidden to get nikah with mushirk.
2221 And do not marry the female polytheists until they believe. For a believing female servant is better than a polytheist even if she attracts you. And do not marry the male polytheists until they believe. For a believing male servant is better than a polytheist even if he attracts you. Those invite to the Fire, while God is inviting to the Paradise and forgiveness by His consent. He clarifies His revelations for the people that they may remember.
if you disagree if Trinitian is polytheist then just read this thread http//free-minds.org/forum/index.php?topic=9605409.0
I suggest if you want get nikah (married, courtship whatever you call ot based on culture) with a Christian then you must search the Unitarian one, because they're fit with Ahli Kitab category in the Quran who we can marry.
Or rather that, if you still want with her I suggest you to persuade her to follow the Unitarian, or it's more better if you coverting her to Islam.Salaam
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I am not going to focus too much on her religion. As long as she's a monotheist that's good enough for me. Most Christians don't feel strongly about the Trinity issue anyways. I don't think Christians where I live would even know what the difference is between a Unitarian and trinitarian, much less have picked a side.
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I have no idea. I hope someone can help shed light on this.
Peace -- not sure why the need to tell her that or does she need to do the same?