Divorce in the Quran
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Peace,
I thought I would share this to see if my understanding is correct
?For those who wish to end the marriage with their wives, they must wait for four months. But if they retract, then God is Forgiving, Most Merciful.? (2226)
?And if they insist on the divorce, then God is Hearer, Knowledgeable.? (2227)
?And the divorced women shall hold themselves for three menstruation periods; and it is not lawful for them to conceal what God has created in their wombs, if they believe in God and the Last Day. And their husbands would then have just cause to return together, if they both wish to reconcile. And for what obligations the women are owed, so similarly must they fulfil their obligations. But the men will have a greater responsibility over them in this. And God is Noble, Wise.? (222
?If the divorce is done a second time, then, either they remain together equitably, or they separate with kindness. And it is not lawful for you to take back anything you have given the women unless you fear that they will not uphold God?s limits. So if you fear that they will not uphold God?s limits, then there is no sin upon them for what is given back. These are God?s limits so do not transgress them. And whoever shall transgress God?s limits, then these are the wicked.? (2229)
?So if he again divorces her, then she will not be lawful for him until she has married another husband. If the other husband divorces her, then there is no sin that they come back together if they think they will uphold God?s limits. These are God?s limits, He clarifies them for a people that know.? (2230)
?And if you have divorced the women, and they have reached their required interim period, then you should either remarry them equitably, or part-ways equitably. And do not remarry them so you can harm them out of animosity; whoever does so is doing wickedness to his soul; and do not take God?s revelations lightly. And remember God?s blessings towards you, and what was sent down to you of the Scripture and the wisdom, He warns you with it. And be aware of God and know that God is Knowledgeable in all things.? (2231)
?And if you divorce the women, and they have reached their required interim period, then do not prevent them from remarrying their husbands if they amicably agree amongst themselves out of what is best. This is to remind any of you who believe in God and the Last Day, this is better for you and purer; and God knows while you do not know.? (2232)
?O you who believe, if you marry the believing women, then divorced them before having intercourse with them, then there is no interim required of them. You shall compensate them, and let them go in an amicable manner.? (3349)
?O you prophet, if any of you have divorced the women, then they should be divorced while ensuring that their required interim is fulfilled, and keep count of the interim. You shall reverence God your Lord, and do not evict the women from their homes, nor should they leave, unless they have committed a proven adultery. And these are God's limits. And anyone who transgresses God's limits has wronged his soul. You never know; perhaps God will make something come out of this.? (651)
?Then, once the interim is fulfilled, you may either remarry them equitably, or part-ways with them equitably; and you shall have this witnessed by two who are just from among you, and give the testimony for God. This is to enlighten those who believe in God and the Last Day. And whosoever reverences God, He will create a solution for him.? (652)
?And He will provide for him whence he never expected. Anyone who puts his trust in God, then He suffices him. God's commands will be done. God has decreed for everything its fate.? (653)
?As for the women who have reached menopause, if you have any doubts, their interim shall be three months. And as for those who?s menstruation has ceased, and those who are already pregnant, their interim is until they give birth. And anyone who reverences God, He makes his matters easy for him.? (654)
?This is God's command that He sends down to you. And anyone who is aware of God, He remits his sins, and will improve his reward.? (655)
?You shall leave them to reside in the home you were in when you were together, and do not coerce them to make them leave. And if they are pregnant, you shall spend on them until they give birth. Then, if they nurse the infant, you shall pay them their due for such. And you shall maintain the amicable relations between you. If you disagree, then another woman may nurse the child.? (656)
Here is a summary of the rules for divorce as obtained when arranging all similar verses
- A waiting period of four months is imposed for the couple to reflect.
- Cancellation of the divorce proceedings may take place at any time during the 4-month waiting period.
- If the couple go-through with the divorce, then an interim is given to the wife of 3 menstruation periods during which she cannot marry another man (the interim is 3 months for those who no longer menopause, and until delivery for those who are pregnant). If the divorce has taken place before any sexual intercourse ever occurred, then the wife is not required any interim period.
- The wife may remain in her ex-husband?s home during the interim period (in the case of pregnancy, the ex-husband is also required to spend on her during the pregnancy).
- The couple may remarry at any time after the divorce if they wish so.
- If this is the 3rd consecutive divorce for the couple, then they may not remarry unless she has been married to another man and then they divorced each other.
Layth
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Salaam,
this gives me an occasion to ask again for your opinions on the following point. Already posted this in general issues - abortion thread
The interim of three menstruations before being allowed to remarry/resume a relationship with another man is of three month for the women. The reason behind it is clearly the issue of pregnancy (cooling off period of 4 month already passed...). That's why i tend to consider that nowadays, with the existence of contraception and pregnancy tests, this interim may not be necesssary anymore.
What are your thoughts ?
As you see I don't really agree with Layth and Natu on this point, but, for the time being my understanding is rather like Joe's.
In the context of the cited suras i see more a connexion between pregnancy and divorce than sexually transmitted diseases. If it was for STD, why then could the (ex)husband marry again earlier. He too can transmit...
Elke
Would like more feedback though.
