Destine to not marry?
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Has anyone ever felt that people are destined "not" to marry in this life? Not due to the lack of belief, but pure decree, even though that individual is healthy and stable.
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Has anyone ever felt that people are destined "not" to marry in this life? Not due to the lack of belief, but pure decree, even though that individual is healthy and stable.
Perhaps I do feel that probably I am destined not to marry in this life.
But my reason is because I don't know where to find a true monotheist husband in my country.
I suppose to find the right person here is similar like searching for a needle in haystack, or even more difficult.
However, I like living here, because most muslims here are moderate, and many people here are quite friendly and hospitable.
Unfortunately, Islam in Indonesia is still pretty much influenced by Sunni teachings.
I think it is better for me not to marry than I have to marry with a Sunni.
I also don't want to marry with atheist or agnostic.
Salm.
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Well destiny is the idea that something is meant to happen surely, so how can it be destined that something is 'not meant to happen'? hmm
Maybe this way of thinking comes from traditional controlling types who say things like 'if you're not married by (whatever) age then it's too late'
But I was reading an article the other day by a woman who had put it on hold to get her Phd and didn't end up marrying til age 38, people would say that was 'too old'. But she said he was the love of her life and they then went on to have 2 healthy children, the first when she was 39 and the second at 41. She said she wouldn't have done it sooner if she'd had the choice...
Really everything is wide open I think.
sun