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If even looking at the opposite sex is a sin, Then how Im gonna meet my wife ?

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    hansolo
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    Peace to everyone

    Brothers/Sisters

    If even looking at the opposite sex is a sin, Then how Im gonna meet my wife ?

    To my knowledge Jesus used to say to his apostles, that they should not look at the other women, because it can lead to sexual thoughts. Which is as if they had sexual contact with those women mentally.

    But how can I even meet someone special? If even looking is a sin. How Im gonna choose my other half ?

    Peace

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      imrankhawaja
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      If even looking at the opposite sex is a sin

      i disagree, its not a sin to look at opposite sex otherwise everybody is a sinner on daily basis, doing something wrong with private parts is a sin catagorically,,,

      peace

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        Man_of_Faith
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        i disagree, its not a sin to look at opposite sex otherwise everybody is a sinner on daily basis, doing something wrong with private parts is a sin catagorically,,,

        peace

        Looking upon the opposite sex with desire is a sin, especially when there is no use for it, i.e. you are not after finding a mate. When you seek a bondmate then it is feasible to look upon the woman to strengthen the bond, but the sex appeal should not blind one into bonding with a woman seeking this world. An established relationship should later not be built around visual attraction but the bonding should be between souls which have natively no body.

        Be well
        Amenuel

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          Man_of_Faith
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          Peace to everyone

          Brothers/Sisters

          If even looking at the opposite sex is a sin, Then how Im gonna meet my wife ?

          To my knowledge Jesus used to say to his apostles, that they should not look at the other women, because it can lead to sexual thoughts. Which is as if they had sexual contact with those women mentally.

          But how can I even meet someone special? If even looking is a sin. How Im gonna choose my other half ?

          Peace

          Mr. Jesus primarily referred to looking at random women across the land which will build up instinctive desire in a biologically functional male. Looking at women and feeling desire will make it harder to resist masturbation which is an ignorant activity.

          Be well
          Amenuel

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            imrankhawaja
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            Looking at women and feeling desire will make it harder to resist masturbation which is an ignorant activity.

            Be well
            Amenuel

            lol.. its an ignorant activity , but one cannot get rid of it... its a natural process inside the body that need to discharge at certain times... whats about naughty dreamz ... lol is it also sin to see a girl in dream

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              Looking upon the opposite sex with desire is a sin, especially when there is no use for it, i.e. you are not after finding a mate. When you seek a bondmate then it is feasible to look upon the woman to strengthen the bond, but the sex appeal should not blind one into bonding with a woman seeking this world. An established relationship should later not be built around visual attraction but the bonding should be between souls which have natively no body.

              Be well
              Amenuel

              everybody fancy everybody... you cannot get rid of this thing... what if i like angelina joulie , shall i stop watching movies then,, i am afraid every single second i m doing sin...lol. or shall we request to hollywood to make movies in veil

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                Brother Imran rotfl rotfl

                Putting veils? rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl

                We need more Humor here

                Bring it on

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                  Brother Imran rotfl rotfl

                  Putting veils? rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl rotfl

                  We need more Humor here

                  Bring it on

                  lol bro its depends on the situation ;D

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                    Jafar
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                    Peace to everyone

                    Brothers/Sisters

                    If even looking at the opposite sex is a sin, Then how Im gonna meet my wife ?

                    The only thing remain is by looking at the same sex.. then you will meet your husband..

                    To my knowledge Jesus used to say to his apostles, that they should not look at the other women, because it can lead to sexual thoughts. Which is as if they had sexual contact with those women mentally.

                    Only according to Matthew...

                    "But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart."
                    -- Matt 5

                    Whether Jesus really says the above? who knows??? Perhaps he did, perhaps he did not...
                    Yet.. does it matter??

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                      everybody fancy everybody... you cannot get rid of this thing... what if i like angelina joulie , shall i stop watching movies then,, i am afraid every single second i m doing sin...lol. or shall we request to hollywood to make movies in veil

                      You should stop desire her. Desiring her is an instinct. She is beautiful to you so that you should ignite your pitiful lowly lust. And you should realize that these feelings are enslaving. But as long as you do not realize the instinctive drive is what actually is Satan you will only do like you did in your post and laugh at my argument.

                      You have not understood that worldliness is not to be desired? Even the sectarian interpretation of Quran conveys that oddly enough. The sectarian interpretation says "lower your gazes", what does that mean to you, Imran?

                      I would urge you to stop laughing at what I am saying and instead begin to realize that there is a point in the reasoning. But obviously I cannot force you nor will I try, but you contradict even an established religious interpretation.

                      Be well
                      Amenuel

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                        lol.. its an ignorant activity , but one cannot get rid of it... its a natural process inside the body that need to discharge at certain times... whats about naughty dreamz ... lol is it also sin to see a girl in dream

                        The naughty dreams are generated by Satan in your body. Your body generates the dreams depending on its condition.

                        And while I said it is an ignorant activity you can avoid "charging up" its necessity. About natural process I am urged to try to see if it is possible to abstain in the long run and prove you wrong. Mind over matter.

                        And sin, the word, means something done by ignorance and in vain for no practical benefit other than done due to your instinct.

                        Be well
                        Amenuel

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                          Comrox
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                          I'm sure no one here keeps their eyes on the ground all the time...

                          Or do they? brickwall

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                            I'm sure no one here keeps their eyes on the ground all the time...

                            Or do they? brickwall

                            actually its not possible,, if you lower ur gaze the chances of accident on roads increase, doing suicide is a bigger sin i think,, rotfl

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                              You should stop desire her. Desiring her is an instinct. She is beautiful to you so that you should ignite your pitiful lowly lust. And you should realize that these feelings are enslaving. But as long as you do not realize the instinctive drive is what actually is Satan you will only do like you did in your post and laugh at my argument.

                              You have not understood that worldliness is not to be desired? Even the sectarian interpretation of Quran conveys that oddly enough. The sectarian interpretation says "lower your gazes", what does that mean to you, Imran?

                              I would urge you to stop laughing at what I am saying and instead begin to realize that there is a point in the reasoning. But obviously I cannot force you nor will I try, but you contradict even an established religious interpretation.

                              Be well
                              Amenuel

                              brother i m not desiring her.. i was just asking the soultion what should we do, we are totally in the atmosphere where we encounter girls and boys in our daily life, and desiring somebody is in the functions of body...

                              what if you feel hungey would you desire for chicken is it bad... ?

                              about the interpretation i wonder you gave that reference , is it not methphorical as well... lower your gaze mean stay away from illegal sexual intercourse... is it illogical if you say everytime we lower our gaze?.. where you really need to ponder about methaphorical things you did not, and where the apparent meaning is there you claim its methphorical... anyway.. lower ur gaze is a nice manner , same eating with spoon is a nice manner... if you eat with hand you did not commit sin... same if you look at opposite sex it does not consider as sin untill you both appraoch eachother by private parts... thats what the real logic tell us...

                              peace

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                                The naughty dreams are generated by Satan in your body. Your body generates the dreams depending on its condition.

                                satan is really very nasty , he disturb my privacy.. he need to get a grip on him... how come he know i like somebody and he bring that perosn in my dream... rotfl

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                                  Salam,

                                  The moment I step out the door I see women dressing very tight clothes, revealing too much, and their cleavages are too apparent. God has already said we should lower our gaze. I myself have decided that I should lower my gaze when I go out because if I don't, it will lead to that instinct thing Man of Faith mentions, which requires huge self-control...

                                  Regarding the verse about what Jesus said, I haven't read the Bible, but from the sound of it; do not seduce and invite. Looking lustfully at someone is seductive and inviting...
                                  We get the lesson from Joseph's story in Quran, when woman seduces him and he says to God something about better being in prison than being seduced (I think). Someone with more knowledge? Can't look up Quran right now.

                                  Salam

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                                    Salam,

                                    The moment I step out the door I see women dressing very tight clothes, revealing too much, and their cleavages are too apparent. God has already said we should lower our gaze. I myself have decided that I should lower my gaze when I go out because if I don't, it will lead to that instinct thing Man of Faith mentions, which requires huge self-control...

                                    Regarding the verse about what Jesus said, I haven't read the Bible, but from the sound of it; do not seduce and invite. Looking lustfully at someone is seductive and inviting...
                                    We get the lesson from Joseph's story in Quran, when woman seduces him and he says to God something about better being in prison than being seduced (I think). Someone with more knowledge? Can't look up Quran right now.

                                    Salam

                                    Salam,

                                    here is verse

                                    1233 He said ?My Lord, prison is better to me than what they are inviting me to do. And if You do not turn their plans away from me, I will fall for them and be of the ignorant."

                                    Salam

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                                      Adam_The_Warner
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                                      Peace to everyone

                                      Brothers/Sisters

                                      If even looking at the opposite sex is a sin, Then how Im gonna meet my wife ?

                                      To my knowledge Jesus used to say to his apostles, that they should not look at the other women, because it can lead to sexual thoughts. Which is as if they had sexual contact with those women mentally.

                                      But how can I even meet someone special? If even looking is a sin. How Im gonna choose my other half ?

                                      Peace

                                      May the Peace be with you,

                                      Here is your answer, from Scripture

                                      Gospel - Matthew 528
                                      But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

                                      LUSTFULLY, anyone who looks at a woman LUSTFULLY.

                                      So what can we learn from this verse? Do not look lustfully to woman.

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                                        The_Sardar
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                                        satan is really very nasty , he disturb my privacy.. he need to get a grip on him... how come he know i like somebody and he bring that perosn in my dream... rotfl

                                        Satan (our inner devil) is real peice of shite, he is a racist, homophobic, warmongering and horny scumbag and if i see him personally i will take him down

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                                          Satan (our inner devil) is real peice of shite, he is a racist, homophobic, warmongering and horny scumbag and if i see him personally i will take him down

                                          Torah - Leviticus 1822 ??Do not have sexual relations with a man as one does with a woman; that is detestable.

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