Some views on the adoption issue

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nowhere does it say you love the child any less than a real child. Infact time and time again it says in our Book to show love and kindness to an orphan.
It's to prevent us lying. Imagine one day my parents call me down and say, sorry we've been lying for the past 19 years you are infact not our kid. I'd be going through an identity crisis! I'd feel horrible.
It's only fair to tell the child the truth, to avoid any crisis/confusion when older.
be fair to the biological parents. Imagine you have a child and you love him immensely. But you're poor and you can't feed or take care of him, so you painfully you have no choice but to give him away. Then this person who is taking your child decides to tare away your name from him, strip the child of your connection. It's cruel to the parent.
Feels like the kid owes you. For example if a parent gives a foster child their name, it's kinda like they're saying, "OK I feed and clothe and raised you now in return you carry on my legacy", whereas in what we know you care for the orphan and do not expect him to have to take on your name or anything.
correct me if I'm wrong, but does the verse say that only don't give the child your name when you KNOW who the parent is. And that if you don't know who the parents is or not sure if they exist amymore than its ok for you to give them your name? Sorry I'd check it myself but I'm not sure which verse number it was.
One problem I've seen is that muslim people deprive themselves of this good deeds just because they are afraid of the "mehram" issue. This whole any contact between non mehrams is completely haram not sanctioned by the Quran. Yes the mehram boundaries will need to be respected but not so extreme, live in the house together happily. Don't deprive yourself of this good deeds just for this one thing
the adoption verse regarding Zaid. There are many threads regarding his so I'll keep it short
? the verse was not regarding the prophetSAW
?Zaid is not referring to a name
? I think in almost every secular country you can legally marry your adopted child's spouse, it's not like the Book encourages it it just allows it. I'm sure there's more wisdom as well. In the pre islam times sons were inheriting stepmothers, thus made forbidden.
?I don't know why hadiths&Co decided to fabricate hadiths regarding the prophet lusting after his companions wife, seeing her naked apparently. This is just making me want to disregard hadiths even more. I can also safely believe that the prophetSAW did not marry a 6 year old girl, more bukhari folktale. "We have sent you as an exhalted character." Anything that contradicts this is false since this is a verse of the book.

Allah knows best why He allowed these hadith books to come into existence. The greatest trial I believe we will ever need to overcome.

^my dear free minders Huruf did a good job explaining that^^^ shout out to Reel, I love reading her stuff.

Searching and seeking >>>> Blind Faith