Grand Qur?ān teaches the subject of Human Sexuality
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The purpose and consideration for the creation of matter and life is to subject the man; who is bestowed autonomy of self governance and freedom of choice, freewill, to trial for exposing who of them remains relatively better, moderate, proportioned, meets the standards of beauty with regard to determined and volitional acts.
And it is matter of common knowledge that all our willful-volitional acts are caused by the desire to satisfy the appetite, attractions, pleasures or lust of three areas of our body; chest/heart; stomach, and the genitalia. There is no other point where we have an appetite.
Pleasure and Pain are stimulus for volitional action, conduct, behavior. Nature has placed mankind under the governance of two sovereign masters, pleasure and pain. Appealing features and attractions tempt and sooth us giving pleasures and comforts. In timeline, attractions, allures for human beings have been in this sequence
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Know it; The love of erotic predilections - stimulators has become alluring for the people (Men), fetish from the women;
How sexual system turns-on
Why Men want sex? Do woman also want sex?
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Subject is beautifully explained. I can only say I have failed this test. Unlucky to be born to a family who does not make arrange marriages at very young age.
On marriage and its protocols I am writing which will take some time. Marriage at very young age (adolescence) is not prescribed, it is when a male and female has crossed over to strengthen maturity and have become man and woman.
I thought there may be a member expert on sexology who could enlighten us more on cues that arouse a man and excite a woman subconsciously and then research about it in Qur'aan.
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Peace Mazhar.
There are two aspects to human sexuality
1-Instinct.
2-Learned.
While the instinct is natural and has a built in parameters and warnings from the body, the learned aspect can depend on habits and attitudes learned from society/humans.
Also we differ from animals,In most animals sexual motivation is under stricter hormonal control than is the case in humans. The female of most species is not interested in sexual behaviour until cyclic hormonal changes produce estrus. The male, however, is usually sexually ready but is prevented from engaging in sexual behaviour by the female until estrus occurs.
So like all motivations ,sexual motivation plays a big part in humans and the physical and the spiritual self are often at odds when it comes to sexuality.
Qoran advises on good conduct and good etiquettes ,but allows pleasure with the right parameters and conditions.
GOD bless you.
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On marriage and its protocols I am writing which will take some time. Marriage at very young age (adolescence) is not prescribed, it is when a male and female has crossed over to strengthen maturity and have become man and woman.
I thought there may be a member expert on sexology who could enlighten us more on cues that arouse a man and excite a woman subconsciously and then research about it in Qur'aan.
I know someone but he is not a member. I'll message you who he is. Alos see this http//www.hiddenmysteries.org/health/effects/pedophilia.html
This article is about the horrible effects of pedophilia on children.
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mistakenly posted something ao its deleted
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Humans are split. And "education" and "learning" work hardo to turn them into complete schizofrenical.
Why are there so many species of animals who have deep couple relationships, even for life, like most birds and many mammals. Animals can, by being themselves be more learned and educated than humans.
Humans are cunning, and learn to be cunning with disregard for wisdom so they can get away with many things in life, but they do not become happier or their societies happier.
Sex, apart from everything else... ?Waw! It is a pity we do not have two bodies, so we could dedicate one of them to sex, and then the other to everything else without haing that hard nut which is sex creating problems and at the same time us having all the fun and schizophrenia we delight in.
What is it Isa ibnu Maryam did? Creat from mud someting like birds? Like sexually satisfied flying animals?
oor 'Isa, neither he nor anybody after him can overcome human capacity to cheat themselves.
Salaam and plenty of sex, damn the rest.
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Wisdom has it that those who abstain from sex and food and...things that are of this life, the pleasure is more satisfying and the mind a lot happier!
Who dares wins.
GOD bless.
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No, good logic is not saying starve yourself from sex, food,...etc.. Rather do not give them importance.
What is necessary and right has to be done.
What is a priority( soul) is more important . What does it need?
GOD bless.
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I will give my point of view, as a young man who is not married, things that I learned not from the Grand Qur'an but from the Grand Experience that is Life.
The sexual drive is there, what do you do with it ? Well I don't have a wife... but the sexual drive is still there, it not going anywhere.
Three options ?
• Get married asap. Desperately look for a wife until you find one to use to your own desires so as to keep it halal and "islamic". This is what they do in those backward countries. Marry fast, marry young, marry multiple too ? lol
• Get smart. No wife ? no problem. Use what you have on board until you get one. Masturbate and try all kind of stuff behind closed doors. Sounds cool and easy, maybe too easy.
• Abstain.
Let's say I'm not convinced with the first and second options. Abstention it is then.
Abstention as a waiting period ? How do you abstain from something you desire ?
Imagine this person fasting for a day, craving for food and drink. Once the day ends, he stuffs himself with food like there is no tomorrow. What has this person accomplished ? What is even the point of this ? Well some may say you do that so as to thank burp god for everything he has provided you with and call on his name unto the heavens and bla bla bla; This is some fake spirituality that serves the whims and fancies of those who do not know what they're doing.
Abstention is not waiting for the pleasure to come like rain falling from the sky, but it is rather a learning period. A shift in thinking and without this shift abstention fails.
Now without too much talking, I believe it is by design meant for women to be so enticing to men, from a superficial stand point, and therefore men who look at women from a superficial standpoint are bound to be enticed by them. But all it takes is to scratch that surface and look at the depth of things, with the use of the mind.
A woman a life, a holy being, an experience of her own. Someone superficially slightly different than me who shares the same purpose in life as myself. Even if they do not know it, I know it. And so it starts to seem very unfair to just reduce her to this little thing that you can get pleasure from.
This is the responsibility of our god given mind, scratching the surface of all these problematic situations we encounter during our life, in order to have a better look at them so as to take the right stance.It is clear to me that this abstention period is not just a waiting period for the marriage that will finally license a person to pump pleasure out of their partner.
Then what's the point of marriage ?
I cannot say at this stage since I've never been married, all I can say is that, if life is a ride where you have to put up with your shortcomings and try to better yourself through it, then adding one more person to the ride can either be a blessing or a curse. Depending on the person and the criteria you used in choosing them. Will they help you move forward ? or send you back to the dark ages ?
But I'd like to hear what those who have been married and have critically thought of their marriage have to say about it, what they learned from it etc.
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What we do with ourselves it is uorselves who will sufer or profit from it and hopefully we can better manage it. What we do with others or to others goes beyond us and has far heavier consequences. We should not use people. We should not cheat ourselves trying to convince ourselves that we have done something selfless when we know we have just thought of what we want and figuring out that what we want the other wants it too, because we have been clever enought o make it look so.
There are too many tricks in sex dealings and we should not play tricks with people.
And we should look to God for guidance.
God says
And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquillity in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought.If there is not affection and mercy between the partners, or if it is one sided then we are off track. It is not much a question there being things that should not e there, but rather of THE things that should be there and are not al mawadda wa rahma, and those are an aya from God.
God's ayas are not cheap stuff.I heard once of a man who married a prostitute who he met in her ias a client. God indeed must have blessed him, because he could not be there without those things, affection and mercy. He was a happy man.
Unfortunately there are two many who are far from that.
We should not look so much at our appetites as to our aims and deep wishes. Immediate satisfaction of appetites leads to cheapening the enjoyment and depth of our experiences. They are not things that lead us to be the nafs al mutma'inna that enters the janna to God's intimacy.
Sex is the undercurrent to that, but we sorely confuse it with the sewage system, far from the generosity of God, a mockery of it.
Salaam
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difference between sex and food
1 if you dnt have food u cant survive. but if u dnt have sex u can survive.
2 food = timely process usually three times a day ur stomach gives u alarm. sex= timely process depend on sexual drive of individual can b vary from one time a day to 5 times lol and ur sexual organ gives u alarm on its due time
3 once u have ur meal of food u ll not b hungry untill next meal. once u have ur sexual activity done it can vary from 10 minutes to one day
4 both are installed in human so human do it since the dawn of humankindNOTE sex performs not only as pleasure but also for the purpose of giving birth but we tend to use it for pleasure more often.
now coming to the op
when somebody is not aware about something he/she cant calculate the value of it they can only think about it as this thing is the package installed in human nature.so once a person started relationship and after breakup you miss that hunger but that bring lot of other things related with self like emotions and feelings so most of the times its resulted a human being in sadness and most difficult thing is to abstrain the feelings
you got three ways as brother cerberus told us but as he dnt know how does it sound like thats t abstaining from it is easy for him and all the people who are not go through this thing on the other hand this option didnt work on the people who already go through sex/marriage
the option of masturbution also not applied becoz it can only release their lust/desire for time being
they got two option now either find somebody for marriage(which seems hard now a days)
or go for second option include everything in black and white this catagory called "right hand possess"sub units of second catagory are as follows
prositution
nikka mutta
nikka misyar
bf/gf
sex slaves( male & female)
servants ( modern slaves)
co workers/school mates/ frds also can make arragementsin the field of artifical world now u have toys and dolls too
human being is still working on it to make it advance a recent example is invention of condoms shows human being want to do it just for pleasure lol
some funny facts of a cause what bring human being into this world rotfl
