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    Shadowspeak
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    You said

    Natural? Is that why the penis and vagina are formed perfectly to compliment each other?

    I fail to see how my comment on homosexuality being natural takes away anything from heterosexuality. Why are you bringing up this argument? If you are alluding to the question of physical compatibility, love can be experienced in many different ways. I'll leave it to your imagination to fill in the rest.

    I said

    Yes, as some users have mentioned, it was considered a pathology until around 1975 when it was taken out of the Diangnostics and Statistical Manual (DSM). I believe the reasons for its removal were because it didn't harm anyone nor did it affect the proper functioning of a person.

    You said

    According to who? The same type of person that makes alchohol and cigarettes legal while marijuana is illegal?

    Leaving conspiracy theories aside, wikipedia has this to say regarding this decision

    "prior to a psychiatric plebescite in 1973, homosexuality was considered to be a mental disorder, and it was listed in the pre-1973 DSM as such. Since that vote, homosexuality is no longer seen by psychologists and psychiatrists as a mental illness sexual orientation. (All conditions entered in the ever-expanding DSM-IV are considered to be mental illnesses. Far more conditions are added than are deleted.)"

    This decision was not taken lightly. As I have said before, the criteria involved in determining if a behavior is a pathology is if it inhibits the proper functioning of a person or can potentially harm another. Neither is the case with homosexuality.

    You said

    They are both mental perversions. The proof of mental perversion are the cases of people who have children at one point, then LATER turn homosexual. However, there is nothing to offer as evidence of being genetically passed down.

    Hmm. Not really. Again, I fail to see how you suddenly equate people with having a "mental perversion" simply based on the fact that they came out of the closet later in life. I see other explanations. First of all, homosexuality, despite its general acceptance in modern industrialized societies, has and is still seen by some as being "bad". Hence, the hesitation in some people in overtly accepting their natural tendency.

    Second, seeing as some people don't cater to their own personal needs, their natural talents, attributes and tendencies can have a way of coming out later in life. This is what we often see happening with people who experience a mid-life crisis. Far from being minor, MAJOR changes are made in one's life because on an existential level, they just can't go on living the way they do because it's simply not representative of who they are now. Thus, this may very well explain why some people come out later in life.

    As to research towards homosexuality being passed down, you are wrong. Research HAS BEEN DONE. Here's a link to what's been discovered

    http//en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Genetic_basis_for_homosexuality

    I said

    Pedophilia is a disease

    You said

    So is homosexuality.

    Sorry, the DSM says no.

    I said

    in that a person can do sufficient harm to a child since one is acting towards the seduction of a child, most often against the child's will. In this case, children are at significant risk. Homosexuality, on the other hand, posed no risk whatsoever to those consenting. Therefore, it cannot be seen as a pathology.

    You said

    It provides a WICKED option to the formible minds of the youth. All minds can be shaped and conditioned to do anything. It is an ACT that promotes the death of the human race.

    You have a very behavioristic view on life. I tend to disagree. If I were to follow your logic, then everyone who would be brainwashed into learning something would execute it in the exact same way. I disagree entirely. Again, I fail to see how it is wicked. Please elaborate on how homosexuality is wicked. The death of the human race? You strike me as having an extremist point of view in that by the simple existence of homosexuals, you seem to automatically think the human race is threatened. They are a simple minority. How can this minority threaten the majority. I have a gay friend and nothing is "wicked" nor fatal about him or his behavior.

    You said

    More proof of its MENTAL basis, is that although one man may be attracted to another man, why does he still feel the need to walk and talk like a woman?

    Oh boy. Here we go. Again with your assumptions. What makes you think a gay man is effeminate? I think it's time for a short lesson on alternative sexual orientations (insert annoying little music track).

    First of all, there are homosexuals. Homosexuality can be experienced in a variety of forms. Some prefer to be "tops", meaning they enjoy being dominant in the sexual act, whereas others prefer to be "bottoms", being respectfully submissive. Some are effeminate, whilst some are rather macho and butch-like. And still others are situated in the middle. As with heterosexuals, they come in all shapes and sizes. Hence, it's impossible to categorize a gay male or female.

    Next, are bi-sexuals, who are seen as having an attraction to both sexes. They are criticized by both sides (hetero/homo) because they are seen as not choosing one or the other. Debates have occured regarding the true existence of bi-sexuality, since sexuality can be represented on a linear line. If, for example, one is close to a 52/48 (Hetero/homo), one could be considered a heterosexual. Yet the 48% doesn't magically go away, so at a point in one's life, a person could feel the need to experience their homosexual side. Thus, this could very well explain the bi-sexual phenomenon.

    Following this, we have transexuals. These people have the feeling that they were born in the wrong body, and feel a sense of belonging to the opposite sex. Both males and females can be born with this tendency. Thus, later in life, they feel the need to change themselves into the other sex, be it through hormones or surgery to remove any "unnecessary equipment" and thus replace it with the opposite sex's anatomy. The DSM sees this category as being "gender dysphoric". Usually, tests can be done to determine if a person's brain is of the feminine or masculine persuasion, as other tests, to determine the severity of the dysphoria. Psychiatrists often approve these people for surgery after a long therapeutic process in coming to terms with their inner gender tendency.

    After, we have assexual people, who have little or no attraction whatsoever to either sex. These people live normal and productive lives, with the exception of having any sexual excitement. This condition is the lesser known one of the bunch, but cases have been known to occur.

    I said

    This behavior has been seen in animals, thus the argument that it is "unnatural" simply falls out the window. That said, I would say that SOME incidences of homosexuality seem to be situational. In that some people who were raped or sexually molested in their past have adopted homosexual behavior later on. If this is the case, then some of these people can be "cured", if the root of the psychological problem/wound is healed.

    You said

    We certainly are not basing our behavior on animals. It is the animal behavior we are here trying to transcend. Will it be natural to eat your childrenas some animals do? Bathe in feces? Wash ourselves with our tounges?

    Some therapies have been known to specifically target the hypothalamus, which is our "reptilian brain". Our primitive side. To say that it doesn't affect or influence us on some level is to deny an important part of ourselves.

    Have a nice day, friend. Don't forget to become who You Are.

    Shadowspeak*

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      Peace be upon you Shadow Speak,

      IF1
      Natural? Is that why the penis and vagina are formed perfectly to compliment each other?

      I fail to see how my comment on homosexuality being natural takes away anything from heterosexuality. Why are you bringing up this argument? If you are alluding to the question of physical compatibility, love can be experienced in many different ways. I'll leave it to your imagination to fill in the rest.

      I brought up the form and function of the TOOLS OF NATURE because you were talking about NATURAL. The penis is made perfectly for the vagina. The vagina even gets moist for maximum performance! If , by using my imagination, you were refering to oral or anal sex, certainly NATURE rejects that based on the fact that at the end, semen comes out of the penis, and there is no NATURAL reason for semen to be in mouth of anus, what effect does it have there in NATURE?

      Regarding LOVE, "what Love got to do..got to do with it?" D Lets leave EMOTIONS out of the picture while we use our reasoning faculties. D

      This is about SEX, not "love". My "love" for a man and a homosexuals "love" for a man are certainly not expressed in teh same manner, so that argument carries no weight.

      SS
      Yes, as some users have mentioned, it was considered a pathology until around 1975 when it was taken out of the Diangnostics and Statistical Manual (DSM). I believe the reasons for its removal were because it didn't harm anyone nor did it affect the proper functioning of a person.

      IF1
      According to who? The same type of person that makes alchohol and cigarettes legal while marijuana is illegal?

      Leaving conspiracy theories aside

      lol What is the conspiracy theory about what I stated?

      ,
      wikipedia has this to say regarding this decision

      "prior to a psychiatric plebescite in 1973, homosexuality was considered to be a mental disorder, and it was listed in the pre-1973 DSM as such. Since that vote, homosexuality is no longer seen by psychologists and psychiatrists as a mental illness sexual orientation. (All conditions entered in the ever-expanding DSM-IV are considered to be mental illnesses. Far more conditions are added than are deleted.)"

      This decision was not taken lightly. As I have said before, the criteria involved in determining if a behavior is a pathology is if it inhibits the proper functioning of a person or can potentially harm another. Neither is the case with homosexuality.

      Anytime a man dresses and talks like a women, that is a mental problem. I dont need any vote to see that.

      IF1
      They are both mental perversions. The proof of mental perversion are the cases of people who have children at one point, then LATER turn homosexual. However, there is nothing to offer as evidence of being genetically passed down.

      Hmm. Not really. Again, I fail to see how you suddenly equate people with having a "mental perversion" simply based on the fact that they came out of the closet later in life.

      Later in life? So you mean they were hiding thier feeling so muc that they accidentally put thier penis into a vagina and had a child or vice versa? I dont buy that.

      I see other explanations. First of all, homosexuality, despite its general acceptance in modern industrialized societies, has and is still seen by some as being "bad". Hence, the hesitation in some people in overtly accepting their natural tendency.

      Yes, restrictions need to be put on ALL incorrect thoughts that lead to incorrect actions. Thats what "religion" is all about. And thats the problem now, peole are being led to believe that homosexuality is a nautural choice, and thats were the surge of homosexuals come from.

      Second, seeing as some people don't cater to their own personal needs, their natural talents, attributes and tendencies can have a way of coming out later in life. This is what we often see happening with people who experience a mid-life crisis. Far from being minor, MAJOR changes are made in one's life because on an existential level, they just can't go on living the way they do because it's simply not representative of who they are now. Thus, this may very well explain why some people come out later in life.

      The MAJOR change you speak about should not include going agains teh LAWS of the universe which prove that a penis and vagina are created as compliments to each other. Life is not about what you FEEL LIKE DOING, its about fulfilling your role. Its those EMOTIONS (what I FEEL like) that gets you in trouble.

      As to research towards homosexuality being passed down, you are wrong. Research HAS BEEN DONE. Here's a link to what's been discovered

      http//en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Genetic_basis_for_homosexuality

      I did not say research has not been done, I am saying clearly that homosexuals dont create children, so how does this get "passed down"? One must be part of the NATURAL family structure to continue the family line and homosexuality destroys the family structure.

      SS
      Pedophilia is a disease

      IF1
      So is homosexuality.

      SS
      Sorry, the DSM says no.

      Christians say Jesus is Gods son, go figure.

      SS
      in that a person can do sufficient harm to a child since one is acting towards the seduction of a child, most often against the child's will. In this case, children are at significant risk. Homosexuality, on the other hand, posed no risk whatsoever to those consenting. Therefore, it cannot be seen as a pathology.

      IF1
      It provides a WICKED option to the formible minds of the youth. All minds can be shaped and conditioned to do anything. It is an ACT that promotes the death of the human race.

      SS
      You have a very behavioristic view on life.

      Yes, I am into behavior shaping D

      I tend to disagree. If I were to follow your logic, then everyone who would be brainwashed into learning something would execute it in the exact same way.

      Do all heterosexuals have sex the same way?

      I disagree entirely. Again, I fail to see how it is wicked. Please elaborate on how homosexuality is wicked. The death of the human race? You strike me as having an extremist point of view in that by the simple existence of homosexuals, you seem to automatically think the human race is threatened. They are a simple minority. How can this minority threaten the majority.

      I am not saying that homosexuals will wipe out mankind, but when we are REASONING if something is correct or not, we have to look at the big picture. Crack smokers are a minority, but you dont want crack smoking to become glamorized, correct?

      I have a gay friend and nothing is "wicked" nor fatal about him or his behavior.

      His/her sexual act is what is wicked. I am not condemning your friend, only his/her sexual act. I have no problem being a friend with someone who is homosexual, in fact, I have met many homosexuals who are kind people. But in that same reasoning, I have met drug dealers who are also very kind, but I reject thier ACT of selling drugs. I hope you see the diffence.

      IF1
      More proof of its MENTAL basis, is that although one man may be attracted to another man, why does he still feel the need to walk and talk like a woman?

      SS
      Oh boy. Here we go. Again with your assumptions.

      Assumption? You have never seen a Homosexual man talk and walk and even dress like a woman?

      What makes you think a gay man is effeminate? I think it's time for a short lesson on alternative sexual orientations (insert annoying little music track).

      I dont know what you mean by "Happy" man, I am talking about HomSEXuals. Further, I did not say ALL HomoSEXual man act effeminate, I am stating that this is further proof that it is mental, because MANY of them do act effeminate.

      First of all, there are homosexuals. Homosexuality can be experienced in a variety of forms. Some prefer to be "tops", meaning they enjoy being dominant in the sexual act, whereas others prefer to be "bottoms", being respectfully submissive. Some are effeminate, whilst some are rather macho and butch-like. And still others are situated in the middle. As with heterosexuals, they come in all shapes and sizes. Hence, it's impossible to categorize a gay male or female.

      Yeah, its real macho to insert your penis into a man! ?

      All I will say is that you are kidding yourself. To be a man and walk and talk like a woman is a problem and vice versa.

      Next, are bi-sexuals, who are seen as having an attraction to both sexes. They are criticized by both sides (hetero/homo) because they are seen as not choosing one or the other. Debates have occured regarding the true existence of bi-sexuality, since sexuality can be represented on a linear line. If, for example, one is close to a 52/48 (Hetero/homo), one could be considered a heterosexual. Yet the 48% doesn't magically go away, so at a point in one's life, a person could feel the need to experience their homosexual side. Thus, this could very well explain the bi-sexual phenomenon.

      Mental illness. Need to control thier LUST.

      Following this, we have transexuals. These people have the feeling that they were born in the wrong body, and feel a sense of belonging to the opposite sex. Both males and females can be born with this tendency. Thus, later in life, they feel the need to change themselves into the other sex, be it through hormones or surgery to remove any "unnecessary equipment" and thus replace it with the opposite sex's anatomy.

      Oh, the Creator gave them the wrong tools? How unprofessional of "god"! Glad they straightened that out! ?

      The DSM sees this category as being "gender dysphoric". Usually, tests can be done to determine if a person's brain is of the feminine or masculine persuasion

      What?! Please tell me how that works. Isnt it enough to look at the "tools"?

      , as other tests, to determine the severity of the dysphoria. Psychiatrists often approve these people for surgery after a long therapeutic process in coming to terms with their inner gender tendency.

      They should be jailed for taking these ill peoples money.

      After, we have assexual people, who have little or no attraction whatsoever to either sex. These people live normal and productive lives, with the exception of having any sexual excitement. This condition is the lesser known one of the bunch, but cases have been known to occur.

      This is also ilness as the sex drive is very natural sign of good health. Animal fats tha clog arteries and so forth are responsible for much of that, which is why this illness is growing.

      SS
      This behavior has been seen in animals, thus the argument that it is "unnatural" simply falls out the window. That said, I would say that SOME incidences of homosexuality seem to be situational. In that some people who were raped or sexually molested in their past have adopted homosexual behavior later on. If this is the case, then some of these people can be "cured", if the root of the psychological problem/wound is healed.

      IF1
      We certainly are not basing our behavior on animals. It is the animal behavior we are here trying to transcend. Will it be natural to eat your childrenas some animals do? Bathe in feces? Wash ourselves with our tounges?

      Some therapies have been known to specifically target the hypothalamus, which is our "reptilian brain". Our primitive side. To say that it doesn't affect or influence us on some level is to deny an important part of ourselves.

      It ABSOLUTELY effects us, both the "reptilian" and "mamalion" brain, but they are to be the SERVANTS, not the masters. The "animal" part of us is for carrying out, not for making the CHOICES! D When we let our "likes and dislikes" determine our choices, we fail. Imagine if we asked a child what they wanted for dinner, do you think they would say "vegetables"? or would the animal within them say "candy and cookies"?

      Have a nice day, friend.

      You too D Remember, I am no attacking the PERSON, only the act. Homosexual or not, all humans must be treated with respect and there is no compulsion, only wise counsel and invitation to what is correct.

      Don't forget to become who You Are.

      I try to manifest the GOD within always D (I assume thats what you meant).

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        Shadowspeak
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        Hi idolfree,

        You said

        Regarding LOVE, "what Love got to do..got to do with it?" D Lets leave EMOTIONS out of the picture while we use our reasoning faculties. D

        No. Let's not. To dissassociate love and sex from the act of making love is to unnaturally dissect the act in and of itself. The two are very much interrelated. When people convene with a sexologist or a couples counsellor, both the physical and the emotional aspect is explored in a scientific manner. To say that emotions and reasoning are at odds is to deny that emotions can be studied scientifically. Therapies exist which are emotion-focused, and are as scientific as any other approach.

        You said

        This is about SEX, not "love".

        Nope. This topic is about Islam and being gay. Two things which can be compatible. Homosexual love can be explored, as it can be a driving factor behind the act of sex with one who is of the same gender.

        Anytime a man dresses and talks like a women, that is a mental problem. I dont need any vote to see that.

        Hmm. Now you are refering to crossdressing as opposed to homosexuality, which can be independant of being gay. You still have yet to offer arguments presenting your idea in a way which demonstrates mental illness. Just because you seem to think so, and infer an answer without any knowledge to back it up, doesn't make it so. Please bring arguments.

        Here is a link that explains crossdressing through various different disciplines

        http//ourworld.compuserve.com/homepages/cathytg/essays.htm

        If anything, crossdressing is a healthy exploration of one's opposite sexual side. As a psychotherapist, if it doesn't harm anyone and is indulged in a healthy way, then I can only see it as being beneficial to those who do it.

        You said

        Later in life? So you mean they were hiding thier feeling so muc that they accidentally put thier penis into a vagina and had a child or vice versa? I dont buy that.

        Accidentally, no. By suppressing their natural feelings, yes. I refer you to my previous arguments regarding a mid-life crisis and society's perjorative view on homosexuality.

        You said

        Yes, restrictions need to be put on ALL incorrect thoughts that lead to incorrect actions. Thats what "religion" is all about. And thats the problem now, peole are being led to believe that homosexuality is a nautural choice, and thats were the surge of homosexuals come from.

        Again, you assume that homosexuality is equivalent to incorrect thoughts. Once more, you demonstrate your behavioristic tendency. And I would advise you to re-evaluate your stance on religion. Religion is there to ease suffering in people seeing as it offers answers to some of life's most difficult questions. Now, those answers serve to bring about a sense of certainty towards the face of uncertainty. And uncertainty can be experienced as anxiety. Thus, to diminish anxiety, one is recommended to put their trust in a "religion". Religion is not there to "correct" a person, as if to chastise them. It exists to help people to grow further. Maybe that is your expressed need. For religion to create boundaries for you. Granted, some people need that. But to say that that is a necessity for everyone is to push your own personal need onto others. And imposed religion creates the opposite effect in people, thus driving them away from religion instead of closer to it.

        Secondly, your argument that there are "incorrect thoughts" leads me to believe that you see humans as being fundamentally evil, if they are left to fend for themselves, without proper structure, that they will react in an
        "evil" way. That, I probably cannot make you change your mind on. In contrast, I believe humans have both the capacity for good and bad. The experience of both has been seen in many cultures. The muslim world is not anymore free from evil as any other culture. This therefore prooves that religion isn't responsible for inhibiting evil. Rather, this quality is exercised through people, on both an individual and collective basis, and varies from person to person.

        You said

        The MAJOR change you speak about should not include going agains teh LAWS of the universe which prove that a penis and vagina are created as compliments to each other. Life is not about what you FEEL LIKE DOING, its about fulfilling your role. Its those EMOTIONS (what I FEEL like) that gets you in trouble.

        How are homosexuals going against the law of the universe if in this same universe they were created as such? One could turn this argument around and say the exact opposite. Maybe they are in fact going WITH the laws of the universe in acting the way that they were created. You seem to think homosexuality is a behavior that can be stopped, as if it were a hedonistic indulgence. While I'm sure that may be how you feel, people have been known to go about doing what is LEAST painful in life. Following this, a person who voluntarily chose to be homosexual, and to be subjected to ridicule and prejudice would have to be masochistic to do so. And that is not how a sane person would think. If this were the case with homosexuals, then most of them would not live a balanced and well-adjusted life. Statistics have shown that a city flourishes on a cultural level provided its homosexual population is allowed to thrive.

        If you stiffle your emotions, they will come out in less functional ways. I've met several people in therapy who thought this way, and have been diagnosed with anxiety disorders. If this is the route you wish to follow, I simply and respectfully hope you will seek therapy before you have a complete breakdown.

        You said

        However, there is nothing to offer as evidence of being genetically passed down.

        I said

        As to research towards homosexuality being passed down, you are wrong. Research HAS BEEN DONE. Here's a link to what's been discovered

        http//en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Genetic_basis_for_homosexuality

        You said

        I did not say research has not been done, I am saying clearly that homosexuals dont create children, so how does this get "passed down"? One must be part of the NATURAL family structure to continue the family line and homosexuality destroys the family structure.

        Indeed, that is what you said. While I'm sure you didn't mean it that way, I would advise you to be careful in choosing your words.

        Actually, some homosexuals were married before, and by an honest and open process of introspection, they were able to see their true nature. Thus, this is how the homosexuality gene was passed down.

        You said

        I am not saying that homosexuals will wipe out mankind, but when we are REASONING if something is correct or not, we have to look at the big picture. Crack smokers are a minority, but you dont want crack smoking to become glamorized, correct?

        Crack smokers are usually dynsfunctional, in that they indulge excessively in their habit, and usually create problems in the other parts of their life, just to satisfy their habit. This has rarely been the case for most homosexuals.

        You said

        More proof of its MENTAL basis, is that although one man may be attracted to another man, why does he still feel the need to walk and talk like a woman?

        I said

        Oh boy. Here we go. Again with your assumptions.

        You said

        Assumption? You have never seen a Homosexual man talk and walk and even dress like a woman?

        I think this will be my last post on this subject. If you refuse to put aside your stereotype simply because it is easier to equate gay men to crossdressing, then we are not going to have a very insightful discussion. If I were to come out and say that muslims are all dark skinned and have beards, this would discount all the other lighter skinned muslims who shave everyday. People come in all shapes and sizes. Including homosexuals. If you are unable to see this, then I believe we cannot talk about this subject in a meaningful manner anymore.

        You said

        (Regarding homosexuality) Yeah, its real macho to insert your penis into a man! ?

        Where does this obession with anal sex come from? Not all gay men are into anal sex. In fact, some heterosexual couples engage in this act. To equate this with all gays is once again falling into the trap of generalization.

        You said

        (Regarding bi-sexuals) Mental illness. Need to control thier LUST.

        Of course. That would explain everything! roll It may be easy to discount bi-sexuals to simply being lustful, yet if they have a strong homosexual side, they do no harm in exploring it. In fact, to acknowledge all parts of one's self is to honor God. And once again, please bring me proof of it being an illness before calling it what it is obviously not.

        You said

        (Regarding transexuals) Oh, the Creator gave them the wrong tools? How unprofessional of "god"! Glad they straightened that out! ?

        And what of people with physical deformities or handicaps? Are we to simply leave them as they are if God made them that way? If I were to use this argument, then it would against the Law to give hearing aids to people who are partially deaf.

        Here's a link which should help you to understand what many of these people need to work with http//www.susans.org/reference/index.html

        For more resources, just google "transgender ressources".

        You said

        They(psychiatrists) should be jailed for taking these ill peoples money.

        If religion is about the ease of suffering on an existential basis, as is seen with most of them, then would it not be godly for a psychiatrist to emulate this quality in his professional work? You would rather prolong the suffering of gender dysphoric people as opposed to giving them what they need the most? That's cruelty.

        This will be my last post on this subject. I hope some of my points have helped to clarify some misconceptions you have relating to alternative sexual practices. Here's hoping you will invest some time in some of the links which I've provided.

        Good night, and be well, friend. I wish you all the best. Peace, harmony, joy and growth.

        Cheers.

        Shadowspeak*

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          I once knew a gruff dirty old guy, who was an alcoholic, vulgar mouth beast. After he died it was revealed upon inspection of his home that he was NOT gay, but enjoyed a touch of cross dressing in the privacy of his home. To this day the image of him in the outfits that were found just goes beyond words.

          You don't HAVE to be gay to be a cross dresser. Very different thing.

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            Peace be upon you M Mehdi,

            Kyle.. you mentioned this

            idolfree1 wrote

            More proof of its MENTAL basis, is that although one man may be attracted to another man, why does he still feel the need to walk and talk like a woman?

            and you also mentioned this in the "Loving The Messsenger" thread..

            idolfree1 wrote
            Okay, now I understand and agree. We ALL need to develop more of that feminine within us More of that "water", too much "fire" going on.

            http//www.free-minds.org/forum/viewtopic.php?t=5125

            so is this matter of "wickedness" as you say about the act of homosexuality... do you see it as an off balance within the individual's feminine and masculine sides?

            When I stated we all need more of that feminine energy, it was a reference to the YIN, not female clothes or urges.

            idolfree1 wrote
            All I will say is that you are kidding yourself. To be a man and walk and talk like a woman is a problem and vice versa.

            these are gender roles Kyle... to believe that a man or a woman has to talk and walk in the preception of societyl gender roles or in your mind and your form of 'correct behavior' could be seen just as an one sided argument much like bigoted behaviour..

            I wont argue that. Therefore I will skip to the next point you made

            which leads to this..

            idolfree1 wrote
            Remember, I am no attacking the PERSON, only the act. Homosexual or not, all humans must be treated with respect and there is no compulsion, only wise counsel and invitation to what is correct.

            please let me ask you Kyle.. in accordance to your ideas of what is "correct behaviour".. if you found yourself in company of homosexuals.. would you tell them of their 'wickedness' and their 'mental illness' and how they..
            idolfree1 wrote
            Need to control thier LUST.

            No, unless they asked me, then I would tell them the truth.

            etc.. etc.... and then after you tell them all of this.. will you say to them... that you are not attacking them.. but only their actions..? and do you think they'll buy it?

            I'm not concerned with them buying anything, my responsibility to is make the message clear to them. Just like a person overweight needs to control thier greed. I am not concerened if they dont BUY what I am saying, I am speaking the truth.

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              Why isn't this thread dead yet???

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                Peace be upon you Shadow Speak,

                Regarding LOVE, "what Love got to do..got to do with it?" Lets leave EMOTIONS out of the picture while we use our reasoning faculties.

                No. Let's not. To dissassociate love and sex from the act of making love is to unnaturally dissect the act in and of itself.The two are very much interrelated.

                "love" and sex are related? Tell that to the victims of rape. Is that making "love"? How do you make "love" anyway? As I said, please lets leave emotions out of this or we will get no where.

                When people convene with a sexologist or a couples counsellor, both the physical and the emotional aspect is explored in a scientific manner.

                Okay, but did I come to you to be councelled? We are discussing SEX, so I asked to leave emotions out of it. Do you express your LOVE by having sex with that person? How about your parents? You see what I am saying? This "love" talk wil confuse the issue.

                To say that emotions and reasoning are at odds is to deny that emotions can be studied scientifically. Therapies exist which are emotion-focused, and are as scientific as any other approach.

                Where did you see me say they are at odds? You are drawing a lot of conclusions that are incorrect. If you read my pther posts you will see that I believe fully in emotions, but they are not used for teh reasoning process. Thats whay when someone is angry, they do stupid things, them later , after the emotion is gone, they regret. We could bring examples all day of why emotions should be left out of reasoning, but hopefully that is enough of an example.

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                This is about SEX, not "love".

                Nope. This topic is about Islam and being gay.

                Gay is just a word to take away from the real meaning of homoSEXual.

                Two things which can be compatible. Homosexual love can be explored, as it can be a driving factor behind the act of sex with one who is of the same gender.

                Does a gay man show his love to his father by putting his plug in his fathers socket?

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                Yes, restrictions need to be put on ALL incorrect thoughts that lead to incorrect actions. Thats what "religion" is all about. And thats the problem now, peole are being led to believe that homosexuality is a nautural choice, and thats were the surge of homosexuals come from.

                Again, you assume that homosexuality is equivalent to incorrect thoughts.

                You assume that its not.

                I skipped the part about religion, this will have to be a seperate topic**

                Secondly, your argument that there are "incorrect thoughts" leads me to believe that you see humans as being fundamentally evil, if they are left to fend for themselves, without proper structure, that they will react in an
                "evil" way.

                I have no idea how you made that association. Humans are fundementally PEACEFUL by nature. Please see the thread on "emotions" for more understanding of this issue.

                The muslim world is not anymore free from evil as any other culture. This therefore prooves that religion isn't responsible for inhibiting evil.

                By me saying that religion is intended for something does not imply that is what is happening, especially when people misunderstand what they are given.

                *I started responding to this before I realized how long it was, I will finish my response at home

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                  Peace be upon you,

                  Actually, I decide not to continue this discussion.

                  It is observably clear that God made the penis and vagina to go together.

                  None can dispute that so it is foolish to continue this discussion.

                  Peace and respect to all involved in this discussion, may the God increase our KNOWledge (not belief).

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                    Peace be upon you,
                    It is observably clear that God made the penis and vagina to go together.

                    God also made hermorphodites, conjoined twins, congentally blind etc...

                    God also made the Appendix in the human stomach, but its function has become obsolete...hum...I wonder why....

                    None can dispute that so it is foolish to continue this discussion.

                    And you can't accept the possible biological basis for homosexuality...yes foolish to continue...

                    Peace and respect to all involved in this discussion, may the God increase our KNOWledge (not belief).

                    Knowledge? But you discount scientific, the empirical science, that say there is some biological basis for homosexuality....

                    So knowledge?...hum....

                    Regards,

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                      Peace D

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