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    redwasp
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    assalaam alaikum dear brothers and sisters,

    i am a muslim gay man living in belgium and i would like to know what your opinion (the opinion of the organisation and of every individual here) on the subject.

    assalaam alaikum

    redwasp

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      ichephren
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      Peace redwasp,

      assalaam alaikum dear brothers and sisters,

      i am a muslim gay man living in belgium and i would like to know what your opinion (the opinion of the organisation and of every individual here) on the subject.

      assalaam alaikum

      redwasp

      Here are a few recent threads on the subject
      http//www.free-minds.org/forum/viewtopic.php?t=4989

      http//www.free-minds.org/forum/viewtopic.php?t=4977

      http//www.free-minds.org/forum/viewtopic.php?t=5051

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        naxus
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        assalaam alaikum dear brothers and sisters,

        i am a muslim gay man living in belgium and i would like to know what your opinion (the opinion of the organisation and of every individual here) on the subject.

        assalaam alaikum

        redwasp

        well instead of asking others opinion asked u,r self why r u gay is it because u love some one or just lust if its love than its right because love is God if its lust than making it out with a guy or girl doesnot make a difference than u r just lost

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          redwasp
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          assalaam alaikum,

          when i was ten years younger being gay was all about lust and sex to me (like being straight was to my friends), but my feelings changed. sex is far less important than when i was nineteen. today being gay means my way of loving.

          i'm not realy in love for the moment, i don't have a boyfriend these days and i do't miss it realy. incha'allah one day my prince will come. there are just so many issues that are more important to me these days than sex and relations.

          slm,

          redwasp

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            neo
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            assalaam alaikum dear brothers and sisters,

            i am a muslim gay man living in belgium and i would like to know what your opinion (the opinion of the organisation and of every individual here) on the subject.

            assalaam alaikum

            redwasp

            Being from Belgium, isn't that implied anyway?

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              NoProgressive
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              As Salaam Alaikum,

              My opinion is homosexuality is wrong... We as Muslims must not practice our lust on poeple of the same sex as ourselves.... But I of course believe that you can still be Muslim.

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                Elke
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                Welcome redwasp

                assalaam alaikum dear brothers and sisters,

                i am a muslim gay man living in belgium and i would like to know what your opinion (the opinion of the organisation and of every individual here) on the subject.

                assalaam alaikum

                redwasp

                You won't get an opinion "of the organisation" on the question - and if that was so and generally accepted i'd consider leaving it wink

                My opinion even though the quran seems to condemn masculin homosexuality in the case of sodom, it all depends on interpretation. some, on the base of this verse condemn all homosexuality (gay and lesbian), others condemn sodomie in g??n?ral ...

                i tend to agree with naxus above and anyway, only god judges

                peace lk

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                  naxus
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                  assalaam alaikum,

                  when i was ten years younger being gay was all about lust and sex to me (like being straight was to my friends), but my feelings changed. sex is far less important than when i was nineteen. today being gay means my way of loving.

                  i'm not realy in love for the moment, i don't have a boyfriend these days and i do't miss it realy. incha'allah one day my prince will come. there are just so many issues that are more important to me these days than sex and relations.

                  slm,

                  redwasp

                  Best of luck

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                    unknownuser
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                    Peace Redwasp. I agree with naxus too. Try to think if you are doing the right thing for yourself.
                    Being muslim could be likened to a state of
                    'A yearning for positive actions or of 'doing the right thing', while taking into account ones own personal situations and natural inclinations.

                    I think it can be subjective to a degree. The important thing is not to harm people.
                    Do what you genuinely feel is best and not harmful after considering all the facts and factors.
                    Take it easy,and look after yourself. Peace.

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                      AspeRin
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                      you have a great example in quran
                      people of lut

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                        Leyla
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                        Peace redwasp, AspeRin, all

                        While I do believe in a general principle of "attraction of opposits" when it comes to the azw?j (partners) that God created from us I won?t see this as being limited by biological sex.
                        This causes some problems with observable reality.

                        I have elaborated a little bit on this in previous threads.

                        Understanding the story of Lut in the qur'?n poses some peculiarities that are not resolved when refering the story to a lesson on homosexuality.
                        Some problems are to be considered when taking the text of that story serious. my two main points (though not the sole ones, see the previous threads)

                        1. Lut accuses his whole people of approaching men in shahw?t. Note He does not accuse the men of approaching men in shahw?t and the women of approaching women in shahw?t. He accuses his whole people of approaching men in shahw?t and that is what caused their doom!
                          Including Lut?s own wife`s !
                        2. While in this quranic report Lut warns his people from approaching men in shahw?t and signifies this as a cause for their doom, the qur'?n also warns us in 3/14 that women can also be shahw?t, for all of mankind.
                          Thus the qualifier of the problem seems to be shahw?t itself and not the sex.

                        Redwasp, naxus was very right. It does not matter too much what others think. Important is if you yourself can see a clarity in the way you lead your life. And if you yourself can analyse your self regarding if it is led by low desires or by true responsibilities.
                        Your whole person is judged in the sight of Allah, the whole consistency of your being. Work for a sane consistency and turn it into beneficial actions.
                        And with time you will realize on your own where you made misteks and where you acted right.

                        bye,

                        Leyla

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                          Alen
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                          As salamu alaykum.
                          Respectfully.

                          We have enough evidence in the Qur'an.
                          Time of Lut.
                          Gays and lezbians are sinners. I mean, that is simply not normal because they can't produce offspring and they have much bigger argument as evidence their sexual organs don't match.

                          As salamu alaykum.

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                            Elke
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                            Peace alen

                            have you thought about all these people - more than you think - that are born in between - neither masculine nor feminine...

                            They too are part of Gods creation.

                            How can they find sexual partners that match ?

                            http//www.romanceopedia.com/A-BeingIntersexual.html

                            Just food for thought outside the established patterns

                            elke

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                              Alen
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                              As salamu alaykum.
                              Respectfully.

                              I honestly don't know, Elke. I mean, Allah knows best and i'm sure that only He will find them an exit out of their (difficult) situation.
                              A person needs to pray that Allah guieds him.

                              May Allah reward you with Paradise, Elke. sun

                              As salamu alakyum.

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                                Elke
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                                THANK YOU ALEN

                                peace

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                                  Alen
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                                  THANK YOU ALEN

                                  peace

                                  As salamu alaykum.
                                  Respectfully.

                                  Your welcome, Elke.

                                  I mean, gays and lezbians are having difficulties with the society which won't accept them but we need to understand what made these people to chooze this path, the wrong path but still we need to talk to them and i'm sure that gays and lezbians became gays and lezbians because of some trauma in their life or something else that .... let's say "scared" them or portrayed the opposite sex in such unappealing way.

                                  I think that people whose sex organs haven't fully developed are not to be blamed but they are a reminder. Once again, they are a reminder of what their parents were doing while mother was pregnant or months or maybe weeks prior to conception.

                                  I think that if a mother smokes weed, cigarettes, drinks alcohol, lives a stresful life weeks or maybe months prior to conception, i think that the baby could suffer because of it.

                                  That's why children who were born in the village are much more healthier then we who were born in the city. Our mothers breathe smog, eat unhealthy food and no wonder when they give birth to kids who have problems.

                                  Nevertheless, we all have to ask Allah Most Merciful to guide us, to show us exit from our problems, because Allah is truly ALMIGHTY. Only He can do ANYTHING AND EVERYTHING.

                                  Stay cool, Elke. sun sun

                                  As salamu alaykum.

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                                    Asalamu alaikum

                                    "assalaam alaikum,

                                    when i was ten years younger being gay was all about lust and sex to me (like being straight was to my friends), but my feelings changed. sex is far less important than when i was nineteen. today being gay means my way of loving.

                                    i'm not realy in love for the moment, i don't have a boyfriend these days and i do't miss it realy. incha'allah one day my prince will come. there are just so many issues that are more important to me these days than sex and relations.

                                    slm,

                                    redwasp"

                                    So why are you gay? dont u think the impact of it being all about lust and sex in ur teenage years has impacted your mind to think you're gay? im just curious. u can have good relationships with both men and women it doesnt mean it has to be intimate...

                                    what issues are important to you these days?

                                    my opinion is that being gay isnt islamic. i mean the people of lut is a good example to prove this.. even science, 2 men cant have babies, 2 women cant have babies.. and if they were it wouldnt be natural and either way they'd need something from the opposite gender...

                                    God knows best

                                    asalamu alaikum

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                                      AspeRin
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                                      aslm! handshake
                                      grab 2 magnets,join them negative with negative or positive with positive.you need to do it yourself for them to be toghether,now put opposite poles,bang! allah swt holds them! isnt he the most great? didnt he created 2 types of everything? there is a sign in everything around us...
                                      aslm! handshake

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                                        unknownuser
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                                        salam alaykum wr wb

                                        yes there is pairs around us everywhere ..one of the most important to me signs wasnt mentioned here yet not Lot's people but the creation of human being in of itself

                                        what did God create?

                                        Adam and Eve? or Adam and Adam? or Eve and Eve?

                                        i beleive it was Adam and Eve? a Man and a woman

                                        not a man and a man not a woman and a woman

                                        this book is complete...detailed for everything you just have to see the signs in it inshaAllah

                                        perhaps Lot's wife felt compassion in heart for others but perhaps the wrong people

                                        you can have compassion for another person becasue they are gay and a human being and your humble and know that anyone could have become like that or maybe you relate to them or relate to being the down trotten or not accpeted person in society

                                        but theres a difference in recognizing we are all part of humanity and recognizing we are required to enjoin good and forbid evil...

                                        If Adam and Eve were created and everything in quran is a sign or lesson

                                        and the poeple of Lot were destroyed I can not see any issue here about if its right or not for myself

                                        i would never claim to make something forbidden that God has allowed or make something allowed God has forbidden

                                        but it seems clear to me where the signs are and logic and reason can be used for me to show the answer

                                        i dont see anywhere in the creation of human to the creation of animals etc and even down to the exisitence of the creation is dependant upon mating in a natural way (arent we forbidden from changing the creation)

                                        but perhaps NAtural selection can be applied since they can not mate physically they always need soemthing from the opposite sex
                                        maybe the natural selection process is at work loool only God knows

                                        this is also a sign i beleive

                                        there is a big difference in being gay (attracted to men or women) than actually committing the act....of sex

                                        just like the people who beleive in the Quran but for some psychological or personal reason they do not follow it all or are uncapable of following it all if they beleive in God the quran as revelation all the prophets the books of God the Heaven the HEll the judgement day the ressurection angels jinns etc why wouldnt gay peopel be considered not muslim its a beleif

                                        now if they dont act on the laws of the quran just like someone who is muslim and non gay

                                        that just means to me they will all will face their God for there actions

                                        I never heard of being responsible for thoughts that arent acted out on

                                        i could think about killing poeple but not act on it

                                        or i could think of raping people but not act on it

                                        i could think of having sex with the same sex but not act on it

                                        i think the actions are what count.....

                                        Amanda

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                                          unknownuser
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                                          aslm! handshake
                                          grab 2 magnets,join them negative with negative or positive with positive.you need to do it yourself for them to be toghether,now put opposite poles,bang! allah swt holds them! isnt he the most great? didnt he created 2 types of everything? there is a sign in everything around us...
                                          aslm! handshake

                                          salam alaykum

                                          very insightful observation for indeed there is signs all around us

                                          thank you

                                          Amanda

                                          can you give us more scientific info on this

                                          thx

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