HELP. Just divorced - by text message :/
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Peace, dragonflie,
I give you nice verse from Koran, I hope it will help you
. Do not marry idolatresses unless they believe; a believing woman is better than an idolatress, even if you like her. Nor shall you give your daughters in marriage to idolatrous men, unless they believe. A believing man .is better than an idolater, even if you like him. These invite to Hell, while GOD invites to Paradise and forgiveness, as He wills. He clarifies His revelations for the people, that they may take heed.
I hope You will find a man, with you have more common, than this sunni.
I am jalously for your situation, belive me.If only my husband want to divorse, its not easy to go different ways.
Salam!
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Peace, dragonflie,
I give you nice verse from Koran, I hope it will help you
. Do not marry idolatresses unless they believe; a believing woman is better than an idolatress, even if you like her. Nor shall you give your daughters in marriage to idolatrous men, unless they believe. A believing man .is better than an idolater, even if you like him. These invite to Hell, while GOD invites to Paradise and forgiveness, as He wills. He clarifies His revelations for the people, that they may take heed.
I hope You will find a man, with you have more common, than this sunni.
amI jalously for your situation, belive me.If only my husband want to divorse, its not easy to go different ways.Salam!
Peace sister,
If I get you right, you are looking forward to a divorce from your husband?
I have been divorced for 2 years ago and it's not so easy to live as a single muslim woman.Maria
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It's not easy to live as a single woman period. Divorce is awful. Hopefully, most times it is for the best, but just because something is good for you, doesn't mean it tastes good.
But If a woman wishes a divorce from her Husband, what is stopping her?
Peace,
Well, that is certainly true. I really wanted the divorce and the relived feelings is still with me but many other things are complicated so it's both good and bad with divorces.
Of course she can have a divorce, no one can or should be stopped from having a divorce.
Maria
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Why? Its not like you live in Morocco or something where a woman cant get by without a husband.
Peace,
Agreed, but to live alone is something that you must choose to happily want or else it will turn out to destroy your life.
Maria
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lol jankren
i live in morocco, alone, and i do get by...
peace lk
Yeah, you are a living example Elke. Keep being strong muscle
Maria
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lol jankren
i live in morocco, alone, and i do get by...
peace lk
I was making an exaggeration only to make a point.
But then again I still dont understand why you wont go back to the Fatherland where you and your children can probably be assured of a better life. As for your ex-husband maybe you and the kids can go visit in once in a while, no?
I wish I was German so I can leave this ugly country Im living in. ;D ;D ;D
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I wish I was German so I can leave this ugly country Im living in. ;D ;D ;D
Where are u living in? Aren't you from Indonesia?
Maria
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Where are u living in? Aren't you from Indonesia?
Maria
Yes. Indonesia is not really an ugly country though. It is beautiful from the outside, but just like many other developing countries everything else is ...
It is like having a hot attractive wife with awful personality. She gives good impression but it is tough to live with her. LOL
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Yes. Indonesia is not really an ugly country though. It is beautiful from the outside, but just like many other developing countries everything else is ...
It is like having a hot attractive wife with awful personality. She gives good impression but it is tough to live with her. LOL
Ah, yeah I can imagine that in some way. But I wonder if there really are a paradise on earth if we not create it ourselves of course.
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I was making an exaggeration only to make a point.
But then again I still dont understand why you wont go back to the Fatherland where you and your children can probably be assured of a better life. As for your ex-husband maybe you and the kids can go visit in once in a while, no?
I wish I was German so I can leave this ugly country Im living in. ;D ;D ;D
Because i like morocco and also because the better life would only be for me, not for my kids.
and i want them to grow up with both their parents
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Because i like morocco and also because the better life would only be for me, not for my kids.
and i want them to grow up with both their parents
Peace,
This is very kind of you to do, so unselfish
Maria
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Because i like morocco and also because the better life would only be for me, not for my kids.
and i want them to grow up with both their parents
From what I saw on some documentaries about Morocco, it looks kind of dirty just like my country. I dont see whats so good about it. Nevertheless, I understand your exemplary motherly consideration.
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Thanks so much for the roses LOL
but it works only because both parents managed the divorce well, unfortunately better than the marriage...
had the situation been different, i might have acted like so many foreign women here who escape with their kids
about morocco, dirty - yes depends where, but also so beautiful - and , the important point not as cold as germany
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Asalaam Alaikoum
I think divorce sometimes is a path for changing our life , yes the mistakes can happened for example to marry with a sunni man or a weak woman who hasn't courage for to support your beliefs, sometimes I see that I'm a bad man or maybe a hard man only because I love God and I want to do all my best for following the God's message , for example if an woman is decided for to divorce her husband because he don't let her to practice her religion or because she don't want to live with him about his beliefs personally I agree with for to do the divorce only because I believe that the best life for her it's to be with a submitter , yes God test us , test our beliefs Do the people think that they will be left to say, "We believe," without being put to the test?
maybe I have not humanity and I have not feelings also maybe I'm a wild man but I accepted the God's message , and I afraid only God because he's the only who can help me , Please tell me how you see an orphan who live without his parents alone , do you think that he's alone , no he is not , he is under the God's control and God will ask him/her in the Jugment day about his beliefs , we're on this earth only for to Worship God ,Quran says You should know that your money and your children are a test, and that GOD possesses a great recompense. your money and your Children are a test , I think if someone don't want to divorce about his Children or his money it will suffer too much because he accepted the life than God , as I said we're all under the God's control or under the God's eyes , and God will help us if we accept his alone , if we afraid him , he don't want to see us afraid his message we're in war against satan ,
O you who believe, do not be distracted by your money and your children from remembering GOD. Those who do this are the losers.
I'm sorry if I disturbed some people with this truth it's the truth even we will not like it , personally if God will ask me for to kill myself I will , we must to worship God and to believe by his messengers , I am sorry I know it's a hard message anyway each one the Quran is between his hands and he/she can to read it by wisdom .
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Dear Sis,
I understand what you're going through. But please understand that it's not Islam's fault, it's your husband who has left you. I also find some of Hadith's teachings to be contradictory to Quran. Besides, Hadith is written by men whereas Quran was revealed by God himself.
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Salam dragonflies. Regardless of the interpersonal conflict, when it comes to talaq, Allah is the lawgiver.
Allah has hudood/limits on what a believer must do. These limits include a proper nikah, a mandatory arbitration, and observing the hudood on the pronouncement of the talaq. The hudood confer upon you, as his zawj, a right to your mehr and maintenance.
You inform us your zawj has not obeyed the hudood. Allah decrees that refusing to observe the hudood will result in the aazab/destruction of the person.
In order to prevent confusion, he needs a reminder of the hudood, you are also reminded. Notify him in writing that his pronouncement of talaq is invalid for failing to meet the requirements of hudood. If he wishes a talaaq he must comply with the hudood. Notify him that he is in violation of his hudood duty to maintain his zawj or produce your mehr. Notarize the document and send it with a carrier with proof of delivery.
Nasr min Allah wa fathun qareeb. Have faith in Allah his help is near.