I am struggling with Islam
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I'm not sure if this is the right place to write this. But I don't know where else to go. I've tried talking to my parents, but they labelled me a "kafra," and refused to answer my questions.
So here I go. I am really struggling with Islam. I was born a Muslim, and lived in a Muslim country most of my life. I used to love Islam, and practiced it as much as I can. Although I have to say that from the age of 19, I had my doubts, and started researching other religions, which confused me even more.
So anyway, a couple of years ago, two important things happened. A friend of mine from uni, who I was very close to, converted to Christianity. Of course this was a big shock. The second thing, is that when I moved to a multicultural society, I struggled with the idea that there is a one true faith. I also struggled with many issues of Islam, such as the treatment of women, violence, and other very disturbing Ahadith.
Now I'm torn between Islam, Christianity, and just not having a religion at all. I've stopped praying, which is weird, because I've been praying regularly since the age of 15. I miss God, and I miss Islam, but my heart is just not into it. I don't know what to do.
Can anyone here advice me?
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Salam Confused,
From the decription you have given, it sounds like you have been struggling between Sunnism (not Islam) and Christianity.
Either choice is a lost bet.
My advice stufy the book of Islam (the Quran) and embrace it by sumbitting to God if it satisfies your questions.
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I agree, the best place to start is read The Quran.
Remember, nowhere in The Quran does it say implement everything written in this book straight away and that's the only way you can be "muslim". Establish the basics, study and gradually build on them if you so choose.
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Salam,
I agree with Wakas.
When I read the Quran and studied myself I was completely comfortable with it (I was 40 at the time). I got confused AFTER accepting Islam because I was living among sunnis and they regularly offered their "knowledge & advice". Well, this put me in a tail spin and soon I was wondering if I made the right decision. With God's help I stuck to the Quran alone for guidance.
I've discovered that Islam really is an easy way of life if we don't get all wrapped up in the false religious teachings around us. Once we start applying rules that are not really there or incorporate stories that are not correct... well, that's when it gets complicated.
Just my take... Peace!
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Dear confused,
Read through these forums and get a wide perspective on things, and remember that it is in your heart where you are faithful to your Creator, not in any categorical proclamations by people who may know as little as yourself or even less. Empty your mind of any pre-judgement on what the Quran "should" say and read it as if you had never heard of it before, be a virgin reader, so that you can read without putting in anything. Be silent and let yourself be spoken to. Religion is for you, not you for religion. And God revealed the wisdom of the Quran so that you can use religion to know yourself better and know your Creator better. You do not owe allegiance to anybody but God.
Salaam
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I don't have a problem with the Koran itself. I have a problem with some of the stories around it. Is it true, for example, that Prophet Mohamed PBUH married his wife's niece a few years after she died. And if so why?
I've never heard this story. What is the name of the niece?
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I don't have a problem with the Koran itself. I have a problem with some of the stories around it. Is it true, for example, that Prophet Mohamed PBUH married his wife's niece a few years after she died. And if so why?
There's a lot of nonsense stories about Mohamed in the books of Ahadith. I know that advising you to simply ignore the books of Ahadith will not be enough; you'll want a solid reason to ignore them, so what you should do is peruse some articles on the Ahadith on this website, and other websites like submission.org and 19.org. They'll show you what the Ahadith really are contradicting fairytales, pornography, and absurd rules on how to sleep, take a piss and other mundane things. You'll soon realize that the Ahadith are completely inaccurate and unreliable historical accounts. Then when you've gotten the Ahadith issue out of the way, you'll be able to approach God through the Quran. If you're not very biased (it's impossible to be completely unbiased, but one must try to be as unbiased as possible), and if you're humble, patient and persistent, I think you will realize that God is Pure, Splendid, Awe-inspiring and very easy to love. Fianally you will start to pity Sunnis and Shias who worship their false god even though they secretly know him to be a 6th century Arab nationalist despot who lacks reason, sanity and mercy.
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I'm not sure if this is the right place to write this. But I don't know where else to go. I've tried talking to my parents, but they labelled me a "kafra," and refused to answer my questions.
So here I go. I am really struggling with Islam. I was born a Muslim, and lived in a Muslim country most of my life. I used to love Islam, and practiced it as much as I can. Although I have to say that from the age of 19, I had my doubts, and started researching other religions, which confused me even more.
So anyway, a couple of years ago, two important things happened. A friend of mine from uni, who I was very close to, converted to Christianity. Of course this was a big shock. The second thing, is that when I moved to a multicultural society, I struggled with the idea that there is a one true faith. I also struggled with many issues of Islam, such as the treatment of women, violence, and other very disturbing Ahadith.
Now I'm torn between Islam, Christianity, and just not having a religion at all. I've stopped praying, which is weird, because I've been praying regularly since the age of 15. I miss God, and I miss Islam, but my heart is just not into it. I don't know what to do.
Can anyone here advice me?
Congratulations. Prophet Ibrahim was also pulling his hair trying to reconcile his parents religion with what his heart was telling him.
Be patient, and things will fall into place, let God do the planning. I see a lot of young people in your situation.
Religion, indentity and cultural expectations really confuses the issues especially when it comes to relationships and marriage. -
I'm not sure if this is the right place to write this. But I don't know where else to go. I've tried talking to my parents, but they labelled me a "kafra," and refused to answer my questions.
So here I go. I am really struggling with Islam. I was born a Muslim, and lived in a Muslim country most of my life. I used to love Islam, and practiced it as much as I can. Although I have to say that from the age of 19, I had my doubts, and started researching other religions, which confused me even more.
So anyway, a couple of years ago, two important things happened. A friend of mine from uni, who I was very close to, converted to Christianity. Of course this was a big shock. The second thing, is that when I moved to a multicultural society, I struggled with the idea that there is a one true faith. I also struggled with many issues of Islam, such as the treatment of women, violence, and other very disturbing Ahadith.
Now I'm torn between Islam, Christianity, and just not having a religion at all. I've stopped praying, which is weird, because I've been praying regularly since the age of 15. I miss God, and I miss Islam, but my heart is just not into it. I don't know what to do.
Can anyone here advice me?
I agree with reading the Quran but I think (this is an opinion) one should pray to God and ask for what they seek. At the same time one should try to make sure that they are not doing anything wrong as a person.
Peace and God bless
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Now I'm torn between Islam, Christianity, and just not having a religion at all.
Can anyone here advice me?Peace
In the name of Allah, the Beneficent, the MercifulSay ye "We believe, in Allah and the revelation given to us and to Abraham Isma`il Isaac Jacob and the Tribes and that given to Moses and Jesus and that given to (all) Prophets from their Lord we make no difference between one and another of them and to him (GOD)we submit." (136) So if they believe as ye believe they are indeed on the right path; but if they turn back, it is they who are in schism; but Allah will suffice thee as against them, and He is the All-Hearing the All- Knowing. (2-137)
Islam is a religion that most of people do not understand. Islam is the religion of the human being since their creation. Islam is the religion of total Submission to God by submitting to his Commandments that are written in his true book?The Quran, The Bible and the Torah?as the verse 2-136 states.
Thus, becoming Christian or Jew is not the solution to your confusion; your confusion will get worse if you leave false teaching (of Suni or Shia) and choose another; but will get better if you choose to follow the right guidance that exist in the books that suni, Jews, and Christian have, but chose to ignore its LIGHT and follow the darkness of the other man made books (the books that were written after the death of the prophets).
May God comfort your soul and lead you to his Light.
Peace peace
Peace
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If I were to give my two cents, I would say to try going without religion for a little while. Attempt to make decisions as if you didnt believe in any sort of god/life force.
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Peace
Struggle is important in islam. Perhaps you should embrace it and see where it takes you. If you cannot come to terms with islam than you do not need to adhere to it. Maybe you need to study more, burn the chaff, trash the trash, and grasp the beneficial. Whatever, keep to your struggle and you will become your proof before you Lord.
Joe
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Peace,
Respectfully.I am very sorry to hear this but all is not lost.
You are at the very important intersectiona dn it is up to you to decide and if you want to be guided RIGHT, God will guide you but only if you want to, God doesn't want to force you, thoguh He could.There is no compulsion in the religion, remember?
If they want to believe, let them believe, if they want to disbelieve, let them disbelieve.I forgot the nukmbers where these sentences stand but these verses speak loud.
The question is now this do you want to be guided right?
Do you want God to guide you?
If you are honest and sincere about it and if your requets is honest, sincere, true and real and comes from your heart, then make a request, ask God and He will give you.I can assure you that God answers within seconds, if needed. I am a witness to this.
Peace.
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Thank you guys for all the help.
I've read the quran so many times. My problem is with some of the stories around the life of the prophet, and the Sahaba, like Ali.I don't understand why they married so much, and why they had concubines. I mean if they behave like that, then no wonder Muslim men are confused about how they should treat their women.
Thanks
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If quran makes sense to you that is it! You won't be asked for the deeds of the prophet and his companions.
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Thank you guys for all the help.
I've read the quran so many times. My problem is with some of the stories around the life of the prophet, and the Sahaba, like Ali.I don't understand why they married so much, and why they had concubines. I mean if they behave like that, then no wonder Muslim men are confused about how they should treat their women.
Thanks
Salam alaykum,
Respectfully.Yes, we are told to marry 2 or 3 or even 4 widows, if we can support them.
Right?
Widows.
What are the chances that 4 widows live here near by? That means, best to my knowledge, God knows best, to me it means that a horrible war has happened, many men died, apparentlu the few male survivors are left and too many women, the human race is at stake - the end of it.
Therefore, marry widows for the purpose of repopulate the world. Marring 4 women does not mean to abuse this verse and have sex every day with a different woman.Prophet's companions were his friends and they wrote down what prophet heard from Gabriel who brought the revelations from Exalted God. Obviously the sahabas wrote down what prophet Muhammad told them and he was the supervisor, to make sure they wrote it correctly and right.
Later, 200 years after prophet Muhammad died, enemies of Islam, Quran, Muslims, prophet Muhammad, started writing things of their own and attribute them to the prophet who could not object, being dead.
Do this tests compare the prophet Muhammad as portrayed in the Quran and the prophet Muhammad portrayed in the hadeeth stories. You will be amazed at the discovery.
God bless you.
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Thank you guys for all the help.
I've read the quran so many times. My problem is with some of the stories around the life of the prophet, and the Sahaba, like Ali.I don't understand why they married so much, and why they had concubines. I mean if they behave like that, then no wonder Muslim men are confused about how they should treat their women.
Thanks
It was 7th century Arabia; Why would them having lots of wives be surprising? Whilst Ali was married to Fatima he didn't marry anyone else. It was only after she passed away that he married others and all of his wives consented to marrying him so it was their choice.
Prophet Muhammed said "The most perfect believers are the best in conduct and best of you are those who are best to their wives." (Ibn-Hanbal, No. 7396)
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If you follow Allah, there is no way you earn any hardship or your path is turbulent; and Allah gives his word that He had not sent down this Quran for you to suffer. There were no companions for the prophets for they had not come to stroll through the streets with a few friends but had been picked up by Allah as a glad tiding to the entire humanity. You stand as a model for the present generation by following the straight path rejecting Buhari, Muslim, Tirmithi and their colleagues and companions and their hell bound followers. Only in this way you get rid of your confusion. And it is very important that you are not an imposter.
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