Salam Alaikum, sun

I used to be so sure, it must relate only to the inconvenience to the women who have pain or discomfort or don't want sex during periods. thinking myself, such a smarty-pants I googled and was shocked to find some obscure medical research. the research showed that sex during menstruation leads to a measurable increase in some medical issue which I forget, but may have been endemetrios. Whatever it was, it was something which can render women infertile.

I was shocked! Perhaps this is simply additional proof of the Quran revealing scientific evidence long before we know it.

Although I don't know about hadiths, the idea about not praying in congregation when you are on your period is logical given women who spend time together, ie. girfriends and co-workers often get their menstrual cycle at the same time, and if someone has it "off-cycle" this can mess up their friends' cycles too and result in an extra period. I know at mosque I can smell women who have periods, and this does not mean they have not cleaned themselves, it's just nature.

So sometimes something in the Quran which is hard to understand or accept is completely amazing. But of course we don't know everything.

sALAMS

Salam Alaikum,

This is an interesting topic. I thought if you could make it up, that is good, but the reason you missed it was relevant. What about those people who miss it because they can't do it, i.e. sickness etc.? Obviously intention counts, so is this the reference to remembering on your sides etc.>

Also what does this part mean "When you are relieved, you shall uphold the bond/commitment (salat); " ? Isnt' that when you are relieved from the burden which interfered with you praying, then you shall uphold the obligation?

I have not read anything about this, so it would be great if someone knows what this is refering to.

Thanks for the help,

Salams sun

Salams,

from the ceremony side, it is necessary to have witnesses. The way the recognition is provided is different in different societies, but since people are more likely to travel now than ever before and because for example a man may have to move temporarily for work, it becomes increasingly necessary in some societies to register the marriage.

THe Council of Imams in Canada campaign for Muslims to understand this important obligation to register the marriage. It has many reasons. One is that women are entitled to recognition and not to be hidden. This is to avoid polygamy and increase the women's rights, so she may seek help if the marriage falls apart. Different rights are given in many jurisdictions to people whether married or common law.

Yes it is important to have a Mahr for the woman. It is not symbolic. It is intended to provide women strength in the marriage. The mahr should show the man's commitment and at least some should be paid in advance and any balance should be carefully considered how it is given. THe mahr shoudl enable a woman who is in doubt of the marriage to have the financial strength to leave the matrimonial home for a while to think things through without having to initiate any proceedings for financial relief such as spousal or child support. It is separate from Spousal and child support and should be written up this way.

The principles are protection of women and we do not live in an equal society, even where the woman may earn more, she may become vulnerable from becoming pregnant or from her resources being used up if her husband does not have gainful employment. If she is a minor she needs protection from an elder, and if she has children or other dependant people she needs to consider the consequences of marriage on them, i.e. if he resources are used up for her husband rather than dependants.

IN terms of what makes a marriage in action, I think people need to love and respect the person they are with and try to learn from their differences. That is one of the most beautiful things wen people learn more because they marry someone who has different insights than they do., while having complmentary values on the major life issues. THere are so many tools out there to assist couples in building a healthy strong marriage, it really takes commitment and willingness to try technquees others have learned work well.

Marriage means putting aside alot of preconceived notions of what certain actions and words symbolize. That is a really difficutl task at times.

Salams

Salams,

I have not researched it, but dont' agree to forbidding Sunni and Shia couple marriages.

However on the marrying a relative of someone you have been intimate with, it seems, though again no research, that it would create havoc in their family relationship and encourage all sorts of problems, i.e. desire between your spouses relative and yourself if you married.

The thing about a husband or wife having some sort of sexual contact with their spouse's relative "by accident" sounds so sketchy to me. Must we believe this was a genuine mistake? Perhaps a hug or a light touch, but you would notice the difference in the body, scent all sorts of things about your wife, spouse or whoever. This one has a huge ICK factor.

Salams

Salams,

No it's not right. You can only marry one. for a period of time the issue was....if there is no other way you may marry more than one IF you can treat them equally.

Then the revelation that you cannot treat 2 wives equally reaffirming the earlier reveleation to please Allah, marry only one.

As others stated if you wish to "help" someone then send them money. Marriage to someone in Pakistan guarantees she will always get support?! nonsense

It's unethical behaviour to even consider.

Salams