The Qu'ran never specified what type of head covering to use (or what parts of the head needed to be covered). So I was wondering if other woman on this board wear hijab? If so how they wear it and why they wear it the way they do? I personally try to do a historical European/American twist on it, because I'm white so I want to break the stereotype that because I'm Muslim I'm abandoning my culture (and I don't like tight things around my neck). I want to remain modest though. so I generally wear a scarf wrapped loosely around a slouchy hat. Salaam, I don't currently wear a scarf. Some days I do, some days I don't. I am not sure what your beliefs are but some Quran only Muslims think that it is not talked about in the Quran. But I have read different opinions on this. Some say the term Khimar does refer to a scarf that was cover your head, others say that we shouldn't really focus on the meaning of that word but the meaning of the passage. Which states "And tell the believing women to reduce of their vision and guard their private parts and not expose their adornment except that which appears thereof and to wrap their headcovers over their chests and not expose their adornment except to their husbands...etc" (4231). This means to not expose your chest and to cover it. whether that means using a scarf or not wearing low collar shirts or something. I am not going to say the Quran specifically supports it and doesn't support it. But I think turbans are great. I love turbans or just wearing a hat. I think it's great. here are 2 different links to the topic. Both websites are Quran only viewpoints and they say 2 different things. https//www.quranaloneislam.net/women-s-dress-code http//www.quran-islam.org/articles/women_dress_code_(P1150).html personally, I think I agree with the first one more...its better to cover and be wrong, then not cover and be wrong and end up in hellfire for arrogance. especially if you are doing it for the right reasons and not committing idolatry by following other sources outside of the Quran. I haven't decided which one I agree with...and just because other Quran only Muslims believe one thing doesn't mean it's true...we need to read the text for ourselves and come to that conclusion on our own. Our only source of truth is the Quran.

I think we should not ever forget about the mawadda and the rahma that God puts between woman and man. W sort of take for a common place, but when you come to think of it, it is the key. I spoke I don't kow in which thread, about the man who wwent to a whoerehouse and then married the woman to whom he was client. They ended up having a very good marriage. Forget about education level, and other classical afinities. My guess is that the man, and the woman, by the same token discovered that mawadda and rahma between them and behaved accordingly. I also know of quite a number of couples who paper married because she got pregnant. In a way it was forced, but they ended up lasting all their life... May be it is that as soon as we let that mawadda and rahma rule our relationships, wonders occur. So may be it is not only what we do before "the marriage", but may be as much what we do after it, whether we react angrily or whether we react with friendship and mercy. Salaam