Salam Brothers and Sisters,

Thanks for the input. Last night I have talk to her father regarding my problem. Her father calls her and asks her about this matter. She still denies it and her father promise to dig this deeper. He said he is going to see the man and my wife?s friend who allegedly use the phone. Her father knows who the man is. He is a brother of his friend.

Last night, my wife asks me to ask her father not to see the man and her friend. She promises me she would change. I agree and told her father about this. So? I pray to God everything is going to be normal next time.

By the way, I?m not going to fire my maid. I treat her like one of the family member. She is not involved in this. I don?t know why my wife uses my daughter?s (she is 14) hand phone, but I know it must be God ways for me to find out about this. My wife did not know that the phone have the feature which keep all the send sms and it keep it in the outbox folder. She only deleted the incoming messages.

If everything ok, I?m not going to use this username anymore. I would like to thanks the moderator for allowing me to do this. It really helps when I get these things out using this forum. And I really appreciate all the inputs and supports from all of you.

Thanks

Salam Brothers and Sisters,

I?m one of the members in this forum and today I am using under different username because what I?m going to tell you is too personal to me. I don?t feel comfortable even using my old username. I hope the moderator don?t bane me for this reason even though I break one of the rules.

It started when I have strange feeling that my wife of 16 years is cheating on me with another man. I don?t know why I had that feeling but all I do is I pray to God that if it is true, I hope God would find me a solution for that and if it false, I hope God would clear my bad feeling.

Not long after that, I received sms from one of my client telling me that my wife is having an affair with a divorcee. I confront my wife with that sms but she told me that the women who send me the sms is divorced by her husband and she said that obviously she like to see another marriage have the same fate like her marriage. To me, her explanation is making sense and I just delete the message.

Few weeks after that I happened to borrow my daughter?s hand phone because I want to check her sms. To my surprise, I saw my wife sms to another men start from when they know each other till they are having and affair. The sms is so explicit like my wife worry about their having sex without protection and what if I know about their relationship. I was very hurt reading the message and I ask my wife about it. Again she has good explanation to it. She told me that her friend borrow the hand phone from her and her friend use my wife?s name and her identity because she did not want that men to know her real name. I accept her explanation and I know in the Quran we are not supposed to blame other people doing wrong without any proof.

But the doubt keeps burning in my chess. One day I intercept her phone bill and saw she made a lot of call to the man. Even when I show her the phone bill, she still denies her affair. She is very good in convincing till I don?t have any point to argue. I was so upset till my house maid notices it. She told me that she knew about it long before I know. She knows from my daughter. She even asks my daughter to tell me about it but my daughter could not tell me.

One day I stop giving her money. She was so angry to me till her father heard our fight. I don?t want to tell her father to know about her affair because I fear that what if her excuse is true. I fear Allah and I know God don?t like people talk something bad to others without proof. I don?t know what to do. I still love my wife. But what she did to me is hurting me.