Salam sanita. Implied in your post is that you are a Muslim contemplating marriage with a non Muslim.

Allah has established a had/limit, that a wife is to obey her husband. How will a Muslim woman comply with the had, if her husband demands that she not comply with the had?

For example, if a Muslim woman gets up to make salat ul fajr, and her non Muslim husband tells her to make coffee. Which had of Allah should she violate? Should she make salat and disobey her husband, or should she make coffee and disobey Allah. In either case she is disobeying Allah.

With mutual consultations,does a wife fix a problem,like that.He wait,untill she is finished.The man you are talking about here,a tyrant,should not have a wife.

Thank you Munzir Ali and you Cavemandoctor,and to Ahmad Bilal,it feels good to be here. handshake

Ameen

Thank you Herbman and Alan handshake

Peace to everyone!

My name is Khadidjatu.I have been reading here,for a long time,but never wrote anything.
I am shocked and angry,over the falisfications of The Quran,and hadith,and do not understand how muslims for so many centuries,have left the religion,in the hands of "the learned ones",that have implemented their own desires in the interpretetion of Allahs message to humans.

I am born in the scandinavia,and through a close girlfrriend,I converted to Islam,when I was 15 and married a saudian man,when I was 22.I lived there,for five years with him,and studied the religion,but couldnt find any resemblence,with the words and the society I lived in.

I met a bunched of educated,rich womens that did not have anything to do,bored into their throut.They lived in luxury,and my husband was very drawn to this way of life.In my head, the sura that talks of the spendthrifters,the brothers of satan,was always running through my head.
This was the beginning to the end for my marriage,I did not want to live my life with cervants around,sitting on a sofa,in my abaya.
After five years,I left saudia.My father had to come and fetch me,since I could not leave alone,and my husband was pissed of,and did not want to follow me back home.I hate the hypocrzy and dobbel standards in many muslim countries,and will never again,live in an arabic,muslim society.
I like free minds,I have found a lot of knowledgeable people here,in matters of The Quran,and love to read your discussions.Thank you all,for being an alternative. Love from Khadidjatu