salam,
The way you understand the Quran is itself a test in this life. Keyword "mutashabihat" (words that appear to mean something else)
37 Huwa allathee anzala AAalayka alkitaba minhu ayatun muhkamatun hunna ommu alkitabi waokharu mutashabihatun faamma allatheena fee quloobihim zayghun fayattabiAAoona ma tashabaha minhu ibtighaa alfitnati waibtighaa taweelihi wama yaAAlamu taweelahu illa Allahu waalrrasikhoona fee alAAilmi yaqooloona amanna bihi kullun min AAindi rabbina wama yaththakkaru illa oloo alalbabi
37 He it is Who has sent down to thee the Book In it are verses basic or fundamental (of established meaning); they are the foundation of the Book others are allegorical. But those in whose hearts is perversity follow the part thereof that is allegorical, seeking discord, and searching for its hidden meanings, but no one knows its hidden meanings except Allah. And those who are firmly grounded in knowledge say "We believe in the Book; the whole of it is from our Lord" and none will grasp the Message except men of understanding.
So the Quran is this way for a reason. I.e. to distinguish true believers from those who have a disease in their hearts.
If you went back to prophet's days now and you heard the way they communicated and understood things you will faint. The language has changed so much.
Example about two generations ago the word "awful" used to mean something good. Something full of "awe". It was a positive word meaning inspiring awe or admiration or wonder.
Now however ironically it means the complete opposite. Awful = extremely bad, unpleasant, ugly, displeasing.
There are many examples of such. I'm a linguistics major myself and I advise that the Quran be understood thematically (by topic and Allah's logical advice to everything). You cannot necessarily trust dictionaries.
E.g. As mentioned in previous posts before the word "dharaba" in the Quran. Nowhere does it mean "to hit" but rather to put forth or separate or put out something/break up or away from something.
The easier way to understand the Quran though in this issue (hitting women) is to see other verses. I.e. Whenever Allah talks about relationship problems He mentions Separation/break period, appointing arbitrator from his family and one from hers etc.
So the Quran is easy to understand brothers and sisters.
Peace sun