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  • The Truth is Revealed About Makam Abraham In Mecca
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    the place is in Palestine , and not Mecca , for more information read THE NATURAL REPUBLIC , SECTION " THE LOST LEGACY OF ABRAHAM"

    This chapter will deal with the final and most important feature of unity in
    the Islamic republic, and that is its ability to interact with other people and
    nations in order to share with them the knowledge and merits of a system
    that has been designed by the One in the Heavens for all His creation to
    live and prosper in peace and happiness.
    ?The first Dwelling established for the people is the one in
    Bakk?a, blessed, and a guidance for the worlds. In it are clear
    signs the situation of Abraham. And whoever enters it will be
    secure. And God is owed from the people to make Pilgrimage
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    to the Dwelling, whoever can make a path to it. And whoever
    rejects, then God has no need of the worlds.? (Qur?an 396-
    97)
    Every year, we see millions of Pilgrims heading towards Mecca for the
    annual Pilgrimage/Hajj. The Pilgrimage takes place in the Arabic month
    of Zul Hujja and lasts for a period of three days in which the Pilgrims
    perform a number of rites, one of which is being dressed in a white cloth
    called Ihraam while circling the Kaaba several times, running between the
    two stones of the Safa and Marwa and throwing pebbles at the devil.
    Who is the Audience?
    ?And call out to the people with the Pilgrimage, they will come
    to you walking and on every transport, they will come from
    every deep enclosure.? (Qur?an 2227)
    The single most overlooked clue regarding Pilgrimage is the audience.
    Abraham was calling out to humankind and not to the believers or Muslims.
    This information poses a serious problem to the belief that Pilgrimage
    is a set of systematic rituals, as non-believers would not be able to identify
    with any of these rituals and would thus not carry them out.
    Why Would People Gather?
    ?The first Dwelling established for the people is the one in
    Bakk?a, blessed, and a guidance for the worlds. In it are clear
    signs the situation of Abraham. And whoever enters it will be
    secure. And God is owed from the people to make Pilgrimage
    to the Dwelling, whoever can make a path to it. And whoever
    rejects, then God has no need of the worlds.? (Qur?an 396-
    97)
    ?So that they may witness benefits for themselves and recall
    God?s name in the appointed days over what He has provided
    for them of the animal livestock. So eat from it and feed the
    needy and the poor. Then let them complete their duties and
    fulfill their vows, and let them traverse at the ancient Dwelling.?
    (Qur?an 2228-29)
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    179
    Here are the two main reasons people would gather
    To witness benefits for themselves.
    To be made aware of the system established by God
    for the people.
    The first objective of Pilgrimage comes naturally from such a large gathering
    of different people at an appointed time(s) and place. This opens the
    door to opportunities of trade, information exchange, cultural exchange,
    networking, etc. This idea of the meeting and mixing of people/races can
    be clearly seen in verse 4913 below as part of God?s decree for humanity
    ?O mankind, We created you from a male and female, and
    We made you into nations and tribes, that you may know one
    another. Surely, the most honorable among you in the sight
    of God is the most righteous. God is Knowledgeable, Expert.?
    (Qur?an 4913)
    The second objective of making Pilgrimage is to share with all humankind
    the system of laws, government, and teachings that God has decreed
    to us through the prophets (both physical and spiritual). This teaching is
    achieved during a period of a few days when the Pilgrims are invited to
    feast on the meats prepared specially for the event while the system of God
    Alone is openly discussed and shared with the visitors. Hence, the term
    ?recalling God?s name? is to remind those present (believers and non-believers)
    of our allegiances to God because of what He has made available
    for us on this Earth and everything else He has blessed us with.
    Location of Pilgrimage
    ?The first Dwelling established for the people is theone in
    Bakk?a, blessed, and a guidance for the worlds. In it are clear
    signs the situation of Abraham. And whoever enters it will be
    secure. And God is owed from the people to make Pilgrimage
    to the Dwelling, whoever can make a path to it. And whoever
    rejects, then God has no need of the worlds.? (Qur?an 396-
    97)
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    2.
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    Unfortunately, many people have taken for granted what the Scripture
    actually says on this and many other subjects and hence they end up following
    the teachings of the sects when it comes to God?s system.
    The Scripture gives the clear name Bakk?a (not Mecca) as being the
    location for the Pilgrimage.
    Where is Bakk?a?
    ?Blessed are they that dwell in thy house they will be still praising
    thee. Selah. Blessed is the man whose strength is in thee;
    in whose heart are the ways of them. Who passing through
    the valley of Baca make it a well; the rain also fills the pools.
    They go from strength to strength, every one of them in Zion
    appears before God. O Lord God of hosts, hear my prayer give
    ear, O God of Jacob. Selah.?
    The name Bakk?a has been retained in ancient scriptures and is the given
    as the name of the area which is reached as pilgrims exited the valley of
    Rephaim from the southwest that led to mount Zion in the heart of Jerusalem
    (Samuel 522-23).
    In-fact, the name Bakk?a is still retained for that very same area that
    approaches the heart of Jerusalem from the south west.
    Photograph of Jerusalem (Dome of the Rock)?The first Sanctuary
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    181
    This evidence of Bakk?a being Jerusalem is bizarrely supported by Islamic
    history itself, which records that the Prophet, while in Medina, used
    to perform the communion (Salat) towards Jerusalem for a number of
    years, but then the focal point (Qibla) was changed away from Jerusalem
    (until today, the Muslims refer to Jerusalem as the first of the two Qiblas
    ?Uwla Al Qiblatain).
    The Change in Focal Point (Qibla)
    The source of all the confusion that has occurred seems to have been caused
    by the change in the Qibla (focal point) during the time of the Prophet
    ?The foolish from amongst the people will say ?What has turned
    them away from the focal point that they were on?? Say ?To
    God is the east and the west, He guides whomsoever He wishes
    to a straight path.? And as such, We have made you a balanced
    nation so that you may be witness over the people, and that
    the messenger may be witness over you. And We did not make
    the focal point that you became on except to distinguish who
    follows the messenger from those who will turn on their heels.
    It was a great thing indeed except for those whom God had
    guided; God was not to waste your belief. God is Merciful and
    Compassionate over the people.?(Qur?an 2142-143)
    According to traditional history, the Muslims were focused on the original
    Qibla of Jerusalem. Then, after some time, God suddenly gave a new
    decree that told them to face ?away? from that Qibla. This change in Qibla
    is supported with the Scripture?s verses of 2142 and 2143, and is further
    supported by archeological evidence that existed in the city of Medina of
    a mosque (masjid) with two Qibla directions (one towards Jerusalem and
    one opposite to Jerusalem?assumed to be towards Mecca).
    The Sunnis and Shia claim that the command was for the Prophet to
    now face Mecca?Arabia as the permanent Qibla. However, what the sects
    fail to explain is why the Prophet was facing Jerusalem to begin with, especially
    if the Temple was located in Mecca?Arabia all along as per their
    claims?Digging deeper into this issue, we find that the sectarian argument that
    Mecca?Arabia was being faced in this change of Qibla holds no water as
    turning away from Jerusalem would not put the Muslims on a path with
    such a supposed location

    What further raises suspicion that the Qibla was simply shifted ?away?
    from Jerusalem and not towards any city in particular (especially not
    Mecca ?Arabia) is that the original mosque with two Qiblas has been
    demolished by the Saudi government and a new one built with a possible
    realignment done towards Mecca?Arabia.
    The Final Qibla
    While the initial change in Qibla may have caused the confusion for people
    to lean towards the location of Mecca?Arabia, it seems that most commentators
    have missed the verses which speak of reverting of the Qibla
    back to the Restricted Temple (Jerusalem).
    ?We see the shifting of your face towards the sky; We will thus
    set for you a focal point that will be pleasing to you ?You shallset yourself towards the Sacred Temple; and wherever you may
    be, you shall all set yourselves towards it.? Those who have been
    given the Scripture know it is the truth from their Lord. And
    God is not unaware of what you do.? (Qur?an 2144)
    The sectarian commentators of the Scripture tried to promote the idea
    that the change that God speaks about in verse 2144 was the original one
    from Jerusalem to the Restricted Temple (which they make to be Mecca
    ?Arabia). The problem with this argument is that it ignores the fact that
    in verse 2142 God announces that a change has already taken place and
    that the foolish amongst the people will comment saying ?What made
    them change from their Qibla?? (i.e. there was a Qibla-1 which is the
    original, and a Qibla-2 which has sparked the questions).
    Then in replying to the people in verse 2143, God?s answer is given for
    the reason for the change by saying ?it was a test to distinguish the true
    followers of the Prophet.?
    Finally, after this sequence, we are told that the Prophet has been directed
    in verse 2144 to make the Restricted Temple his permanent Qibla
    (which cannot be Mecca ?Arabia because there has already been one
    change of Qibla away from Jerusalem and towards the opposite location).
    The only way to explain the current state of Islam (giving priority to
    Mecca?Arabia) is that the change back to Jerusalem did not take place
    until very near the end of the Prophet?s mission and that he died shortlyafterwards whereby the Muslims fragmented and entered into several civil
    wars, as per the Islamic history books. The victors from these conflicts
    managed to maintain the power base in Arabia and declared that the temple located in what later became known as ?Mecca Arabia? was the place
    where the Sanctuary established by Abraham is found and is the location
    of the Pilgrimage.
    This would also explain why there is some archaeological confusion in
    why the construction of some early mosques had the facing of the Qibla to
    be far to the north of Mecca, while even some of the early Muslims such as
    Abdul-Malik Bin Marwan believed that Jerusalem was the true Qibla and
    center for Pilgrimage and proceeded to expand the building of the Dome
    of the Rock by 691AD into the architectural masterpiece that it is today.
    Mecca in the Qur?an
    More importantly, with regards to Mecca, we find that the Qur?an does
    indeed refer to a city/town by such name and that such was an obstacle
    for Pilgrims who were trying to make their way to the Restricted Temple
    in Bakk?a!
    ?And He is the One who withheld their hands against you,
    and your hands against them in the interior of Mecca, after
    He had made you victorious over them. God is Seer of what
    you do. They are the ones who rejected and barred you from the
    Sacred Temple, and barred your donations from reaching their
    destination. And there had been believing men and women
    whom you did not know, and you may have hurt them, and on
    whose account you would have committed a sin unknowingly.
    God will admit into His mercy whomever He wills. Had they
    become separated, We would then have punished those of them
    who rejected with a painful retribution.? (Qur?an 4824-25)
    This is a far cry from the claims that Mecca itself was the name of the
    city where the Temple is located, or that Mecca was simply another name
    for Bakk?a.
    The Kaaba
    Allah hath appointed the Kaba,
    the Sacred House, a standard for mankind, and the Sacred
    Month and the offerings and the garlands. That is so that yemay know that Allah knoweth whatsoever is in the heavens
    and whatsoever is in the Earth, and that Allah is Knower of
    all things.
    We are told that the word ?Kaaba? means a ?cube shape? and that the site
    in Mecca has been constructed in accordance with this design requirementHowever, the meaning of ?cube? associated with this word is not completely
    accurate as the word ?Kaab/Kaaba? is associated in Arabic with any
    feature that is protruding, such as the bones to the side of the ankles as can
    be seen below
    ?O you who believe, if you rise to hold the communion, then
    wash your faces and your hands up to the elbows, and wipe
    your heads and your feet to the ankles (Kaabain); and if you
    have had intercourse, then you shall bathe. And if you are ill,
    or traveling, or you have excreted feces, or you have had sexual
    contact with the women, and you cannot not find water, then
    you shall select from the clean soil; you shall wipe your faces and
    your hands with it. God does not want to place any hardship
    on you, but He wants to cleanse you and to complete His blessings
    upon you that you may be appreciative.? (Qur?an 56)
    The Natural Republic 186
    Thus, any construct, regardless of its shape can be called a ?Kaaba? as long
    as it stands out from the plain.
    What we need to ask to be more detailed is ?are there any special features
    that are protruding at the site of the temple of Mecca?Arabia or
    Jerusalem that would give it the description of being a Kaaba?
    With regards to the temple of Mecca?Arabia, we have no apparent evidence
    of any special structure other than those buildings which are manmade;
    however, with regards to the temple area of Jerusalem, we have a
    unique rock formation that protrudes from the earth as part of the original
    mount and upon which the Dome of the Rock was built (hence the
    name).
    Photo of the Rock within the Dome (Jerusalem)
    The Situation of Abraham (Maqam Ibrahim)
    Another feature which is noted with regards to the location of the Temple
    in Bakk?a is the ?Maqam Ibrahim? (Station/Situation of Abraham) which
    we are told is to be found at the site of the Temple
    ?The first Dwelling established for the people is the one in
    Bakk?a, blessed, and a guidance for the worlds. In it are clear
    signs the situation of Abraham. And whoever enters it will be
    secure. And God is owed from the people to make Pilgrimage
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    187
    to the Dwelling, whoever can make a path to it. And whoever
    rejects, then God has no need of the worlds.? (Qur?an 396-
    97)
    Here we can note an apparent discrepancy for the site of Mecca where
    the alleged ?Maqam Ibrahim? has been placed outside the alleged sanctuary/
    temple while it is supposed to be inside.
    It seems that some early Muslims were aware of this glaring discrepancy,
    and as such, a solution was invented that pilgrims were to ?imagine? that the
    Maqam/Hijr is located inside the temple domain and thus during the Hajj
    the area of the Maqam/Hijr is to be walked ?around? andnot ?through? just
    as if they are circling a continuous physical part of the temple.
    With regards to explaining why the Maqam is located in the wrong
    place to begin with, the Muslim scholars have opted for a crude explanation
    whereby they claim that the Kaaba walls were destroyed by flash
    floods during the life of the Prophet, but that he could not muster enough
    money together to rebuild the Kaaba to its original size, so he opted for asmaller Kaaba leaving the Maqam outside the sanctuary!
    To locate the true Maqam and its relation to the Pilgrimage, we need
    to explore the word as it occurs in the Scripture. The word ?Maqam? occurs
    in the following verses 2125, 397, 5107, 1071, 1414, 1779, 1973,
    2566, 2576, 2658, 2739, 3313, 37164, 4426, 4451, 5546, 7940. The
    meanings ascribed to this word as per its usage are ?Position, status, station,
    situation, place.?
    Looking at the stories of Abraham in the Scripture and trying to find
    the one that is nearest in subject to the Pilgrimage rites, we come across
    the famous story when Abraham has a dream in which he is sacrificing
    his son. God in His mercy intervenes and ransoms Abraham?s son with an
    animal sacrifice.
    ?And when he grew enough to work with him, he said ?My
    son, I am seeing in a dream that I am sacrificing you. What do
    you think?? He said ?O my father, do what you are commanded
    to do. You will find me, God willing, patient.? So when they
    both had surrendered, and he put his forehead down. And We
    called him ?O Abraham, you have carried out the vision.? It
    The Natural Republic 18
    was such that We rewarded the righteous. Surely, this was
    an exacting test. And We ransomed him with a great animal
    sacrifice. And We kept his history for those who came later.?
    (Qur?an 37102-10
    This episode recorded in the Scripture describes the trial/situation of
    Abraham with his son. Thus, for all purposes, the place where this event
    took place may be described as Maqam Ibrahim.
    Looking back at the Temple area of Jerusalem, we find a stone outcropping
    underneath the Dome of the Rock where it is claimed that Abraham
    was about to sacrifice his son in fulfillment of 37102-108.
    Photo of the Rock within the Dome (Jerusalem)
    It is also found that there are channels carved into the rock which are
    designed to siphon liquid to a chamber below, thus making the Maqam
    an ideal location for the animal sacrifice which isamongst the rites of the
    Pilgrimage.

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  • Sexual abuse from my father
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    Hi to all sun
    I usually don't post and prefer to read but I'm going through a very hard time now and need some advice.

    To sum up the situation, I'm a Muslim, God brought me to discover Islam about 4 years ago, THANKS GOD, and my parents are Christians.
    My father sexually abused me when I was young until I left his house when I was 18. I had continued to see him and visit my parents, and act like a "normal family" but at one point I started to get very mentally ill from the side effects of the abuse because until I was about 24 years old, I really didn't fully realise what had happend to me. I had blocked out a lot of the abuse from my childhood and had not dealed with it or gotten any kind of help but at one point, you cannot block it out anymore and when the gates open, everything comes flooding out! Flashbacks, nightmares, abnormal behavior, anxiety attacks. I will not go into details or explain how abuse manifests itself but just to say that when you are abused, you feel guilty, ashamed and you can still love the abuser and seek for their approval and love. It's screwed up and dealing with these emotions almost makes you want to jump off a building instead of feeling them. My father also loves to mentally torture the rest of my family including my poor mother who has suffered this for years and doesn't even realise what she endures every day of her life since it is kind of "normal" for her now to be treated like this. My mother and brother were witnesses to little things like my father's pinching my nipples and butt while passing by me, grabbing my head and stuffing his tongue down my ear, that was the abuse that everyone saw but nobody did nothing to stop or help and that was probably because they were too scared of my father because he was a very aggressive and violent man.
    5 years ago, after I consulted a psychologist because I thought that I was slowly going crazy and I had fallen into alcohol, drugs, partying, abusing my own body as a punishment (tattoos, peircings, completely shaving off my hair from my head like Britner Spears,....).
    The psychologist advised me that I should cut ties with my father and start to heal myself. My mother was so sad that I suddenly cut ties with my father and refused to go to visit her at her house where they both lived. I would go to meet her at her work, we would go out to do things together but I refused to go to her house. She loves to have me over for dinner and pretend that we are the "perfect family". I love her so much and I always felt so bad that I was making her very sad to not go over to see her on holidays. She loves Christmas, and I could see her suffer when she would ask me every year to go over and I would say no. She would ask me to go over on every Christian holiday and I would refuse. The day I decided to cut ties with my father, I felt an enormous amount of weight released from my chest. Every year, I would feel better. No more anxiety attacks, no more suffering of the side effects. In that time, I was brought by God to discover Islam, which helped me so much.
    Early this year, I left my country and went to accept a business proposition to open a new business in another country. Once there, I had a bad experience and one partner of my new business in this new country decided that I was no longer needed and wanted me out of the company. He acused me of stealing, which was not true, and I was jailed for 3 months 10 days in a 3rd world country....it was very bad. In this time, my mother did her best to help me, send me money and just be supportive. I got out, acquited of all charges, THANK GOD, and left the country the moment that I got out of jail. I returned to my country but I didn't have a place of my own to come back to because when I left my country, I gave up my apartment. Obvioulsly, I was not in the best of shape after enduring a trial that the outcome was 15 years of jail but then the decision was reversed at the court of appeal, I was malnourished and mentally not all there. My mother came to the airport to pick me up. I had asked her to contact my ex-husband so that he could take me in for a while until I get back on my feet. He had accepted (we are still on good terms and help each other when needed). But when she was driving back from the airport, she decided that she was bringing me to her house....where my father also lives. When I was in jail, I had 104 days to think about my life, where I was heading, what I was doing. When you are in a situation like this, you realise many things that you should change to become a better person and I thought alot about my mother and my father. I thought that maybe I should just give my father another chance since my mother kept on telling me all the time during the 5 years that since I cut ties with him, that he had changed, that he cried for me, that he missed me. In jail, I had nothing. One pair of pants, one sweater and the only thing I was dying for was a Quran but I had nobody to bring me one. I was dying to read the words of the Quran to help me, guide me. In the country that I was jailed, it is an ultra Christian country and many people, even in this day and age, have no idea what Islam is and nobody had a Quran nor could they get one in because the guards revise everything that is brought into the jail and they would not let it in. I did remeber passages that talked about respecting and obeying your parents and that this was maybe the time to turn to God and accept to forgive and move on, to love and respect my parents and this would be a good chance for me to change. I love my mother so dearly and she suffers because I have split the family in 2. I thought that maybe I had to stop being like this, that I had to be the better person and be a good Muslim and obey God and his teachings. So after all this thinking and nowhere to go, I thought that going to my parents house would be a way to reconsiliate and I know that it would make my mother very happy after everything she endured of having her only daughter almost jailed for 15 year. My mother just wanted to be a "normal family". When I arrived, my father told me that he was the one who sent me money when I was in jail, then he gave me more money right then and there to help me out, he was trying to act like the hero and save the day, like trying to repair what he did or something like that. I spent a few days there, trying to avoid my father. I could see the pain in his eyes, like as if he regretted something. But he never said nothing to me. The few first days, he was as nice as he could be. Then slowly, he came back as he always is, insults and agressivity. I started to have panic attacks, anxiety attacks, crying for no reason. I knew that it was because of the abuse feelings coming back again but I told my mother that it was for what I endured in jail but little did she know that jail was nothing compared to the abuse!!! I would of given anything to get back into the dirty, disgusting jail, starving for days and sleep on the frozen floor instead of experiencing the feelings again and again of the abuse.
    Then after a few days, I left, got an apartment, and I was putting my life back together again. But my mother is now happy that I am in contact again with my father and she thinks that things are back like they were before eventhough she saw some of the abuse I endured its like as if she doesn't realise it. I had tried to talk to her about it various times and she tells me that it wasn't that bad and that I should not exagerate, she pushes the subject away and gets into a bad mood.
    I went to eat Christmas dinner on the 25th. My father was acting bad again, insults and agressivity, putting down my mother, bad mood,.....I started to feel bad again. I was trying to hold back on my tears and try to eat my dinner, I just wanted to throw my dish on the wall, flip the table over and tell him to shut up and stop....but I didn't. I just eat calmly and left. When I left, my mother had tears in her eyes, happy that I had finally assisted her Christmas dinner after 5 years of absence.
    I have spent the past 2 days going crazy. Reliving the abuse again, reliving the pain, the suffering. I feel his hands on me, his eyes on me. Its hard to deal with.
    I have decided that I will cut the ties on him again and moreso, I will tell my mother that I will not accept for her to make me feel guilty with her tears because I have decided this. I always felt sorry for her but now I realise that things will never be good, what I endured will never go away and my mother who keps on living with him, protecting him and acting like as if nothing ever happened is really starting to upset me alot. My mental health is at stake here and I don't understand why she is trying to play the guilt game on me in getting me back to where she knows that I don't like to be. Is it selfish of her part or am I bad for not obeying and respecting her wishes?
    I have suffered damage that has affected my life, I cannot have a normal sexual life, I was married my poor husband went through some bad times with me when I was having the occasional anxiety attack, I do not want get married again because I have issues with sex, I am a complete mental mess, I cannot have children and it is probably linked to the sexual abuse, I have suffered too much to just love and respect parents that do not take responsibility of their actions and try to drag me back into the abuse!

    All I have to say is that I tried, after 5 years, I gave time to my father to fix his problem, he has not admitted of having done anything wrong nor does he take responsibility of any wrong doing and still acts like he always did except he doesn't touch me now. When I was in jail, I spoke to God alot, I told God that I have forgiven and will try to forget, I asked for forgiveness for being so selfish and not giving my father another chance and to make my mother unhappy all these years, that I will try again and give a chance but after this, nothing has changed. I tried to make my mother happy but how can I do so when to make her happy is destructive to me? or can I just void them from my life to try to salvage my own sanity?
    I have not encountered any mention on how to deal with abusive parents in the Quran. I'm looking and looking but maybe one of you can help me with this. I need to know what to do. If it was just for my decision, I would block out my family and only allow my mother into my life if she stops trying to make me feel bad for breaking up her "family"....because I am sick of thinking that this is all my fault when I am the victime here. But maybe this is not what I should do, maybe God instructed something else. Please let me know if you have any clues!
    And thanks for you all that has taken time to read me.

    dear ,
    its very hard what you have been through. nut you know you are a survival. all what i can say is that you do what works for you . if talking about it to your mom helps do it. also don't feel guilty for your family's situation . you are not the reason for its situation.
    god bless you
    take care

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