Asking a woman in secrecy
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But, Ayisha. I don't come on here asking for advice on my relationship with my spouse or potential spouse or trying to verify the right way because I have decided to cut myself off from the majority of Muslims around the world therefore cannot go to a more learned person for advice.
You may discuss your personal issues here but not me.
How about setting up a blog for his thoughts, moans, gripes and what nots. Or even diarise it.
Anyway keep up the advice.
Peace
Quran 3103 refer to it.
And hold fast, all together, by the rope which Allah (stretches out for you), and be not divided among yourselves; and remember with gratitude Allah's favour on you; for ye were enemies and He joined your hearts in love, so that by His Grace, ye became brethren; and ye were on the brink of the pit of Fire, and He saved you from it. Thus doth Allah make His Signs clear to you That ye may be guided.
The Noble Qur'an An-Nisa 488-89 refer to it as well.
Then what is the matter with you that you are divided into two parties about the hypocrites? Allah has cast them back (to disbelief) because of what they have earned. Do you want to guide him whom Allah has made to go astray? And he whom Allah has made to go astray, you will never find for him any way (of guidance). They wish that you reject Faith, as they have rejected (Faith), and thus that you all become equal (like one another). So take not 'Auliya' (protectors or friends) from them, till they emigrate in the Way of Allah. But if they turn back, take of them and kill them wherever you find them, and take neither 'Auliya' nor helpers from them.
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hey bro you better wear gloves, a womans heart is a delicate thing ;D
sorry just lightening it a bit. peace
can I ask your age? dont answer if you dont want to
25, turned last week. Seems like something significant, more so than the other years until 17 and 10 and 6 and 1
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he already made a mistake, and she (the girls) also made the same mistake, so he must ask forgiveness and she must do it too, and then he tell his parents that he wants a girl , then they will visit the parents of the girl and they will propose marriage to her and she will accept and then thing fixed that if this marriage succeed.
Not a bad idea really. If you fall in love it is far better to get married and live under God and learn about love than live in sin and learn about lust.
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Not a bad idea really. If you fall in love it is far better to get married and live under God and learn about love than live in sin and learn about lust.
thank you so much. thank God someone got my point .
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ahh no one reads properly, its easier to interpret what they assume is said, same as they do with Quran. No brians thats what it is
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it is you poeple who don't use their brains and rely on quran alone!
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If you read his post properly then you'd know that he wants to get married.
I want her to inshallah give me her address, and we'll get married on the 5th May the god willing. Making her run away from her parents who have kept her under semi-house arrest for 2 years. But she doesn't want to hurt her family, even though she says she hates them. At least for well the day, inshallah quickly get married to her while they let her have her day out to the OU fortnightly school session and then inshallah carrying on chatting to her without the fear of violating quran 2235
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http//answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20100404100742AAYnIE3
What do you do if you believe you've violated quran 2235 and suggested proposal to a woman in secrecy?
I told one female about my feelings for, now we're almost deeply in love with one another. She's afraid to tell her parents let alone I embarrassed to tell mine. As we both have had parents aggressively disagree on previous affections with other people. The verse makes it clear that I am to openly propose, not come to her in secrecy.What do I do. Because every now and then we end up experiencing quran 3140 every other day literally.
"If misfortune touches you, similar misfortune has touched people as well; for it is by turns that We apportion unto men such days and to the end that the god might mark out those who have attained to faith, and choose from among you such as bear witness to the truth - since the god does not love evildoers - "
You are almost deeply in love with one another. Congradulations. I hope your love strengthens and progresses.
I agree with ayisha. I don't think you violated anything. You have just proposed and expressed your feelings. Can you see any wrong with this? Perhaps your understanding of the verse is wrong. If you assessed your actions between love and lust would you not think that your actions were more out of love then lust?As for your parents. They most likely Love you very much and you most likely owe them a great deal so a few verses on parents
1723 And your Lord decreed that you shall not serve except He, and do good to your parents. When one of them or both of them reach old age, do not say to them a word of disrespect nor shout at them, but say to them a kind saying.
My take on 1723
The verse does not say do whatever they tell you to do. Parents are not gonna be perfect as only God is perfect. If their making a mistake or forcing you to something which is clearly your right and they should just advise you, then do not obey them but keep in line with 1723
Also
2908 And We instructed man to be good to his parents. But if they strive to make you set up partners with Me, then do not obey them. To Me are all your destinies, and I will inform you of what you used to do
Don't waste the potential of love. Respect your parents but surely they should respect your decisions and this is not a controversial issue.
Good luck Bro
God bless both you and your love.Peace
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Straight out of a Bollywood flick mate.
If you can't beat 'em, join 'em.
Make sure you wear the white scarf on the day of running and don't forget the singing behind the tree thing changing your clothes 20 times in the process.
Peace
Inshallah. But she now tells me that I shouldn't be pushing her.
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Man, I was looking forward to the song and dance thing behind the tree and was waiting for you to post on Youtube.
You better go to plan B. Get the Captain Caveman log out, hit over the head, put in wheelchair, roll wheelchair to wherever you doing nikah, use your ventriloquist skills when she asked anything at the nikah and then take her home. When she wake up, you both already married. Simples!
Peace
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Man, I was looking forward to the song and dance thing behind the tree and was waiting for you to post on Youtube.
You better go to plan B. Get the Captain Caveman log out, hit over the head, put in wheelchair, roll wheelchair to wherever you doing nikah, use your ventriloquist skills when she asked anything at the nikah and then take her home. When she wake up, you both already married. Simples!
Peace
Of course.