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A dislike of children?

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    FAR
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    What is that??

    Your grown baby (the husband).

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      nsws1988
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      Your grown baby (the husband).

      I don't have a husband confused

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        FAR
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        I don't have a husband confused

        (Potential inshallah)

        Anyway, I believe the key word to anti-childrenism is the concept of depopulation.

        Compare the population reduction page

        http//en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Population_reduction

        With the overpopulation page

        http//en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Overpopulation

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          afridi220
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          I don't have a husband confused

          Huru up get one now before you become too old '(

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            liquiddharma
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            People who are anti-children have been brainwashed by materialism. They prefer the company of cats and inanimate objects which can only lead to them growing old miserable, lonely and bitter. Children remind us of the important things in life - that happiness comes from helping other people, not accumulating money, cars, holidays. The cycle of life rejuvenates our souls and brings us closer to God and happiness.

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              Leyna
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              Please! Some people simply prefer not to have children ... nothing to do with being brainwashed, hating kids, or preferring to accumulate money. We're all different, there's no need to bash people who chose a lifestyle different from our own.
              nope

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                unknownuser
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                Please! Some people simply prefer not to have children

                yea, i've seen many couples (unmarried) who simply don't want to have children.

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                  liquiddharma
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                  Please! Some people simply prefer not to have children ... nothing to do with being brainwashed, hating kids, or preferring to accumulate money. We're all different, there's no need to bash people who chose a lifestyle different from our own.
                  nope

                  Children are human beings though, and the kind of hostility to them as shown in the article really isn't acceptable. Would you be okay with it if they displayed that hatred towards a different race? Demanding an end to their tax money being spent on black people, or complaining about having to hear foreign accents at work?

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                    Huru up get one now before you become too old '(

                    Give her some money, and she will have one.

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                      Please! Some people simply prefer not to have children ... nothing to do with being brainwashed, hating kids, or preferring to accumulate money. We're all different, there's no need to bash people who chose a lifestyle different from our own.
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                      No one doesn't prefer not having children. It's not human to not desire children.

                      Then again it's probably a mentality thing. Only children don't desire sexual relationships and children. Quran 46... many who would not desire children, would be tried as not marriageable.

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                        Madhoshi04
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                        Please! Some people simply prefer not to have children ... nothing to do with being brainwashed, hating kids, or preferring to accumulate money. We're all different, there's no need to bash people who chose a lifestyle different from our own.
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                        Well Said. Also consider

                        828, 764, 3437 5720, 639

                        639 O you who believe, do not be distracted by your money and your
                        children from the remembrance of God. And those who do this,
                        then they are the losers.

                        3437 And it is not your money or your children that will bring you
                        closer to Us, but only those who believe and do good work, they
                        will receive double the reward for their works, and they will
                        reside in the high dwellings in peace

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                          FAR
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                          Well Said. Also consider

                          828, 764, 3437 5720, 639

                          639 O you who believe, do not be distracted by your money and your
                          children from the remembrance of God. And those who do this,
                          then they are the losers.

                          3437 And it is not your money or your children that will bring you
                          closer to Us, but only those who believe and do good work, they
                          will receive double the reward for their works, and they will
                          reside in the high dwellings in peace

                          1672 And the god has given you mates of your own kinds and has given you, through your mates, children and children's children, and has provided for you sustenance out of the good things of life. Will men, then, believe in things false and vain, and thus blaspheme against the god's blessings?

                          http//www.youtube.com/watch?v=H_sRMZ4fpco

                          http//www.youtube.com/watch?v=u1W4wv4K8rM

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                            Leyna
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                            I did not say that what is being described in the article is in any way acceptable. My post was referring to some of the comments on here.

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                              I did not say that what is being described in the article is in any way acceptable. My post was referring to some of the comments on here.

                              How can people not prefer to have children if they aren't brainwashed or pre-occupied with running after money, or willfully preventing the birth of a child?

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                                In an exhaustive -- and exhausting -- book on motherhood, anthropologist Sara Blaffer Hrdy breaks some big news There is no such thing as maternal instinct

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                                  afridi220
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                                  Give her some money, and she will have one.

                                  Why not if she ask for

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                                    In an exhaustive -- and exhausting -- book on motherhood, anthropologist Sara Blaffer Hrdy breaks some big news There is no such thing as maternal instinct

                                    Mate... these people are pulling your tail! Most of the time the women who kill their own children is because it was pushed upon them by their society. Surely you know what I'm talking about?

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                                      Madhoshi04
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                                      How can people not prefer to have children if they aren't brainwashed or pre-occupied with running after money, or willfully preventing the birth of a child?

                                      Simply because all devotion should be to God. Anything that distracts you including children you should avoid. Is there a law that mandates reproducing? Most people do it since everyone else does or due to hormones. It's an experience you CHOSE for yourself, God willing, of course. Why do you equate the desire not to have children to running after money? When in fact, the Quran mentions children and wealth together in many verses referring both to as objects of distraction

                                      See 310, 3116, 955,969,3435,3437,5720,5817,6030,639,6414,6415,7011,7121

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                                        Simply because all devotion should be to God. Anything that distracts you including children you should avoid. Is there a law that mandates reproducing? Most people do it since everyone else does or due to hormones. It's an experience you CHOSE for yourself, God willing, of course. Why do you equate the desire not to have children to running after money? When in fact, the Quran mentions children and wealth together in many verses referring both to as objects of distraction

                                        See 310, 3116, 955,969,3435,3437,5720,5817,6030,639,6414,6415,7011,7121

                                        Those verses aren't talking about avoiding children or avoiding worldly life... they're about not getting distracted away from allah and concentrating on what one may think of what children should get. Such as when parents start giving their children whatever their children pester the parents for. Or parents giving material things to keep the children happy. Or parents not teaching their children about islam, or saying "oh my child, you can do whatever you like", were as Jacob father of Yusuf may peace be upon them both, rather told his sons quran 2132 that they dare not die without islam.

                                        These are blessings, the distraction is that where you could get distracted, but blessings and rewards from raising good kids is there. Not only that but in this life they are a distraction from what is to be found better and more in the hereafter.

                                        Well when people don't have children, most of the reasons giving as I've heard is "career, education, success stability first".

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                                          Madhoshi04
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                                          Those verses aren't talking about avoiding children or avoiding worldly life... they're about not getting distracted away from allah and concentrating on what one may think of what children should get. Such as when parents start giving their children whatever their children pester the parents for. Or parents giving material things to keep the children happy. Or parents not teaching their children about islam, or saying "oh my child, you can do whatever you like", were as Jacob father of Yusuf may peace be upon them both, rather told his sons quran 2132 that they dare not die without islam.

                                          These are blessings, the distraction is that where you could get distracted, but blessings and rewards from raising good kids is there. Not only that but in this life they are a distraction from what is to be found better and more in the hereafter.

                                          Well when people don't have children, most of the reasons giving as I've heard is "career, education, success stability first".

                                          You can certainly be rewarded for raising righteous children. It is your responsibility to do so. But if you dont want to bother with kids, and concentrate on other righteous endeavors. That's perfectly valid too.

                                          Certain people dont want to have children for career, education, success, or simply don't want to. It is their perrogative. Like I said, reproduction is not mandatory. there are others that want to wait until they are "stable" first, which makes sense, Financially, it keeps the rest of society from paying to raise your kids. Practically, children are huge responsibility and require immense time. If you can't commit to that, it's better not to have kids. What you invest is what you get.

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