Masturbation
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This. Thread. Is. Hilarious.
Geez, you lot seem to be frustrated at each other. Just relax a bit, so you can release your frustration (excuse the lame pun).
Correct me if I'm wrong because I am still trying to digest what is being said. I get the impression that both pro and anti masturbation actually agree that the Qur'an does not say that it is haraam or halaal? The main argument is whether someone should do it or not?
Seriously, if someone feels the sexual urge and wants to keep themselves away from fornication/adultery, then by all means, masturbation will be the lesser of the devils and do it if they cannot control their sexuality otherwise.
If you believe masturbation will keep you away from God's path (by constantly thinking of indecent thoughts), then refrain from it. Simple.
As human beings bestowed with wisdom and knowledge should understand what is best for them, using Qur'anic principles as the guidelines. One can say that masturbation falls under lewdness - but does the Qur'an ever associates masturbation with lewdness? Maybe, maybe not. As it stands, the view seems to be culture-oriented at best. Many of us have been raised to believe that sex, or anything that revolves around it, is dirty. Hence, masturbation = dirty = lewdness. When it may not necessarily be so. I don't know.
Anyway, one needs to consider that every individual has different approach to masturbation. One can do it excessively, one can do it in moderation, one can do it without indecent thoughts. It depends to the individual. Masturbation as an act itself may be harmless. It's just how someone utilises it that matters. I can liken it to eating. Eating is harmless; it is only when you eat excessively that is forbidden.
It's quite judgmental to say that masturbation will make someone remember God less. If that is your take to one act, then why don't you apply it to every single activity that you do in your life? Why go shopping? Why meeting up with friends? Why using the internet? Why studying at high school/university? Why doing my assignment if I'll be too engrossed finding the right formula to design concrete beam for three-storey office with medium occupation, or finding the appropriate journals to read so I can just finish this essay on the impact of globalisation on the local cultures and national identities (okay, my personal vent there)? Why, why, why??? Forget masturbation, I think other affairs distract us as well, even more than masturbation. Why don't I just sit on the corner so I can remember God 24/7? Why don't I just eat a spoonful of rice everyday, and not enjoy the goodness of life's food, because I don't want to enjoy life too much and forget God. So many people are starving out there, so if I eat more, then I'll spend more on myself and less on charity (God tells us to give charity, right???).
IMO the argument that masturbation will make us remember God less cannot be projected on every single individual, really. Just saying that it's not forbidden, so we shouldn't put our righteous turban on and accuse those who masturbate to be unIslamic (unless you really understand what they do and think). That being said, I am not advocating masturbation. I personally believe it's best to refrain from, if one can control the urge.
Just my two cents.
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It does not define ?lewdness? because we know what is indecent
Not necessarily. Every society has different take on what it decent and what is not. One culture may see physical contact with opposite sex (e.g. shaking hands), is indecent, while another may not. One culture may see that eating a certain animal to be disgusting, while another may not. What is Qur'anically indecent will be explicitly stated, and the rest will be left to us to use our wisdom.
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Your first point only shows that you don't know or believe the Qur'an. Read 733 and use logic (and stop misquoting 732 whilst ignoring the next ayah).Your second point (like your post before that) is as valid as saying it is fine to kick the Qur'an around in secret because it is not hurting anyone's feelings. By attempting to justify masturbation for enjoyment (you seem to be resurging again with that intent) that is all you are doing. Why not write a poem glorifying the eating of pork from a pig that doesn't exist (because you did not know him/her personally). Does the Qur'an say you had to know women specifically to respect them as a whole? Better yet, why not play pornographic computer games because the "people" are not actually real? So what is the difference? Can you explain the difference between that and voluntary (unnecessary) masturbation?
Your third point is tired and misses the fact that after you have sex with a hot girl you will also ignore another hundred. What is your point?
Peace.
Now Now, you know pretty well what i ment on all 3 points, but you go and reply to them like i said something different just to win this argument, sad.
Your third point is tired and misses the fact that after you have sex with a hot girl you will also ignore another hundred. What is your point?
I ment masturbating, we were not discussing about sex here. And who the hell masturbates when he/she's horny? Masturbating is done so you won't be horny again for a certain time, there is not much enjoyment on it thats why only 12 year olds do it for enjoyment.
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I deduced everything about you because it was obvious, and you haven?t denied. If you are not fake then you will ?bring the verses? and say something worth reading.
I deduce from the quote and the threads that when you call others utterly devoid of logic, you are actually trying to compensate for your own inadequacy in that area.
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I deduce from the quote and the threads that when you call others utterly devoid of logic, you are actually trying to compensate for your own inadequacy in that area.
Aside from the fact you still have not answered my question, you will be devoid of logic if you cannot explain the logic that led you to "deduce" that.
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Not necessarily. Every society has different take on what it decent and what is not. One culture may see physical contact with opposite sex (e.g. shaking hands), is indecent, while another may not. One culture may see that eating a certain animal to be disgusting, while another may not. What is Qur'anically indecent will be explicitly stated, and the rest will be left to us to use our wisdom.
I added "if you are unsure..."
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Aside from the fact you still have not answered my question, you will be devoid of logic if you cannot explain the logic that led you to "deduce" that.
Peace.
I think I'll borrow someone's logic "It's obvious".
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Your first point only shows that you don't know or believe the Qur'an. Read 733 and use logic (and stop misquoting 732 whilst ignoring the next ayah).Your second point (like your post before that) is as valid as saying it is fine to kick the Qur'an around in secret because it is not hurting anyone's feelings. By attempting to justify masturbation for enjoyment (you seem to be resurging again with that intent) that is all you are doing. Why not write a poem glorifying the eating of pork from a pig that doesn't exist (because you did not know him/her personally). Does the Qur'an say you had to know women specifically to respect them as a whole? Better yet, why not play pornographic computer games because the "people" are not actually real? So what is the difference? Can you explain the difference between that and voluntary (unnecessary) masturbation?
Your third point is tired and misses the fact that after you have sex with a hot girl you will also ignore another hundred. What is your point?
Peace.
Now Now, you know pretty well what i ment on all 3 points, but you go and reply to them like i said something different just to win this argument, sad.
Your third point is tired and misses the fact that after you have sex with a hot girl you will also ignore another hundred. What is your point?
I ment masturbating, we were not discussing about sex here. And who the hell masturbates when he/she's horny? Masturbating is done so you won't be horny again for a certain time, there is not much enjoyment on it thats why only 12 year olds do it for enjoyment.
Now why did you not explain the first two if I was wrong? You asked "who the hell masturbates when he/she's horny?"
That is a stupid question. Finally you change your argument by re-defining the purpose of masturbation (i.e. release and not pleasure!). So as your remembrance and discipline increases, you will feel the urge less. It is also not a matter of simply doing it whenever you think of it. That is simply following such thoughts.
The argument against you was won long ago.
Peace.
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Now why did you not explain the first two if I was wrong? You asked "who the hell masturbates when he/she's horny?"
That is a stupid question. Finally you change your argument by re-defining the purpose of masturbation (i.e. release and not pleasure!). So as your remembrance and discipline increases, you will feel the urge less. It is also not a matter of simply doing it whenever you think of it. That is simply following such thoughts.
The argument against you was won long ago.
Peace.
I forgot to add a NOT at the word when he/she's horny
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I think I'll borrow someone's logic "It's obvious".
Obvious after reading the Qur'an? Have you missed all of the verses I have quoted? Of course you have because you provide a verse which you cannot relate to any argument. You have no definite/developed argument, understanding, view or place in Islam if you cannot understand the basics. It is sad.
Peace.
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And i didnt answer them because you changed the meaning of what i said, if you dont wanna play fair im not just gonna go nice with you.
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Obvious after reading the Qur'an? Have you missed all of the verses I have quoted? Of course you have because you provide a verse which you cannot relate to any argument. You have no definite/developed argument, understanding, view or place in Islam if you cannot understand the basics. It is sad.
Peace.
Plenty of people here have shown you that the verses you quote have little to do with your assertions. Repeating the same thing constantly will not make it true. Being condescending and abrasive to everyone on the thread you even think might disagree with you is sad.
If you can't see this, which you can't or won't...it's pointless to continue any further discussion.
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I forgot to add a NOT at the word when he/she's horny
Who thinks those thoughts when not horny? Again we agree that you only do this thing when you have to. Obviously the stronger you are, the better that is because it is not advisable to do it for enjoyment. If you masturbate because you are horny (as in ready), you should do so for release (i.e. you should probably be able to do it without much thought or effort). If you really believe (have iman), it will not be hard. Logically one should ask for forgiveness before and/or after. The ideal of course is not to do it at all, but we are all human. We should also be able to recongise that it is not halal and consists of temptations towards lewdness of thought with action. Thus we should guard (how many times in the Qur'an does it say that)?
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Plenty of people here have shown you that the verses you quote have little to do with your assertions. Repeating the same thing constantly will not make the it true. Being condescending and abrasive to everyone on the thread you even think might disagree with you is sad.
If you can't see this, which you can't or won't...it's pointless to continue any further discussion.
It is pointless for you to continue this discussion since you will be unable to provide one example of someone proving that the verses are irrelevant.
But the more egos, the more amusing it is (egos are like a sixth sense and can be bruised in that way!). My style is my style and is not yours to control.Peace.
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It is pointless for you to continue this discussion since you will be unable to provide one example of someone proving that the verses are irrelevant.
But the more egos, the more amusing it is (egos are like a sixth sense and can be bruised in that way!). My style is my style and is not yours to control.Peace.
If you have selective vision, no one can help you.
Bring the verses on style please.
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My say is that this is one of those threads where you are masturbating against each other. And seems like some of the participants have been doing it at least once a day, despite of enjoyment/release/benefits etc. Or maybe three times a day. So, has it been a good experience so far? Did you get any closer to your Most Beloved? Did you not? At the end of the day the only valid answer is your own honest answer to yourself. Spirit check.
Do you take the connection? Let's hope so. However and no matter what people say, once you get addicted to masturbation (of whatever kind there is) there's nothing that'll beat that fantastic (if illusive) orgasm. So keep on.
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Your own personal value. Prove otherwise.
Guarding private parts, go not night unto fornication, restrain eyes from women to avoid temptation, remember Him standing, sitting, lying, accountable for thoughts/intentions, thinking of lewd scenes means the thought is lewd?
Etc. Masturbate all you want. I do not care but you have little argument.
Your own assumption. Also, a pointless empty statement.
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4712Red herring. Not everything needs be "beneficial." Some things just...are. Sleeping 8 hours vs. 5 hours is not "beneficial" for being a Muslim, one way or the other. And yet our choice in sleep is up to us. Not everything is legislated. You will never realize this, however. You are a braindead sheep, intent on passing off your views as divine dictate. What's worse, you think you use logic simply cause you plaster each post with multiple verses.
Qur?an says sleep was made as rest. Sleeping 8 hours bad if you miss fajr prayer? Qur?an says to guard modesty and always remember Allah (SWT) (enjoying lewd thoughts is forgetting or else you ask for forgiveness because the thought is lewd). The fact that not everything is ?legislated? results in you being a chimp in a playground.
No, "we" don't know anything. I know my own views, and you know yours. Difference is, I don't attempt to force mine on you. Again, your own assumption. Circular statements like "if unsure, examine the principles of the Qur'an" are just laughable. Quite amazing how blatantly you put the cart before the horse.
I don?t force either. I challenge people to refute and provide verses and the obvious principles therein. I also discuss various possibilities because there are many. Central principles answer all questions. Your arguments are dull and your ego is your problem.
My views seem wishy-washy to you precisely because you have this moronic need to label everything, to put everything into a box. I don't. Deal with it.
I do not label anything. I simply employ the principles you cannot answer. I have dealt with it logically, but if you are so sure I am wrong you will not need to reply.
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If you have selective vision, no one can help you.
Bring the verses on style please.
Writing style which seems to grate on the egos. But anyway
"Say Every one acts according to his manner; but your Lord best knows who is best guided in the path."
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Do you have a path??
Peace.
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My say is that this is one of those threads where you are masturbating against each other. And seems like some of the participants have been doing it at least once a day, despite of enjoyment/release/benefits etc. Or maybe three times a day. So, has it been a good experience so far? Did you get any closer to your Most Beloved? Did you not? At the end of the day the only valid answer is your own honest answer to yourself. Spirit check.
Do you take the connection? Let's hope so. However and no matter what people say, once you get addicted to masturbation (of whatever kind there is) there's nothing that'll beat that fantastic (if illusive) orgasm. So keep on.
I call it demonstrating and educating (in manner if nothing else) plus an exercise in thinking principally (because no-one can guide others). I also use Free-Islam.com since brother Ahmed Baghat also knows that Islam is supposed to be united.
Peace.