Quick Question About Women
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They are a tiny minority. Vast majority of Muslims are raised by both father and mother, as divorce is very rare among Muslims as compared to non-Muslims.
i disagree with you on that because you were probably raised in a bubble where you think muslim dont divorce and is just a tiny majority when truth is more then that
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As pe the Qur'an there are the same restrictions on marriage, exactly the same for men and for women. Whatever a woman can marry, a man can, and viceversa. No aya of the Qur'an says different. Any difference is due to legislation instroduced through history by humans, not by God in His revelation, therefore those differences do not bind anybody.
Salaam
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As pe the Qur'an there are the same restrictions on marriage, exactly the same for men and for women. Whatever a woman can marry, a man can, and viceversa. No aya of the Qur'an says different. Any difference is due to legislation instroduced through history by humans, not by God in His revelation, therefore those differences do not bind anybody.
Salaam
Thank you my brother for clearing that up bless be upon you
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This question often comes up when critics begin to point out the inequality of men and women which they believe the Koran contains.
If God really intended women to marry non-Muslims, I think God would have said it....the way He said it for men....as we believe that God's Book is fully detailed and complete. But again...God knows best.
I have no clue as to how to interpret this silence...
Even then, marriage to a non-Muslim will not make the woman a prostitute or her children bastards! Judgement rests with God, not with us.
This is a public forum to discuss things about faith, in as polite a way as we can....so let's keep things as clean as we can.
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You should strongly discourage your friend from marrying a non-Muslim. Tell her that her family will regard her as a prostitute and her children will be regarded as bastards
You don't half make me chuckle with this nonsense which you spew-I'm sure you don't really believe all of this rubbish which you've written.
And yes, better to be beaten than be a whore, and better to abuse children than to have them be labelled as "bastards".
What a wonderful world you live in.
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This question often comes up when critics begin to point out the inequality of men and women which they believe the Koran contains.
If God really intended women to marry non-Muslims, I think God would have said it....the way He said it for men....as we believe that God's Book is fully detailed and complete. But again...God knows best.
I have no clue as to how to interpret this silence...
Even then, marriage to a non-Muslim will not make the woman a prostitute or her children bastards! Judgement rests with God, not with us.
This is a public forum to discuss things about faith, in as polite a way as we can....so let's keep things as clean as we can.
?What silence and what non silence? ?Have you read the Qur'an attentively? Where does it allow to men and not to women? Where does it say is is ONLY for men such a thing? Nowhere.
Salaam
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Where does it allow to men and not to women? Where does it say is is ONLY for men such a thing? Nowhere.
Salaam
Peace huruf, bookish,
I think we should first look at 5/5 and the word wal-mu'antu
before we can categorically conclude that some things are for men only.God bless
pr
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Peace huruf, bookish,
I think we should first look at 5/5 and the word wal-mu'antu
before we can categorically conclude that some things are for men only.God bless
pr
Indeed it would be grob to order believing women to marry men that were not muhsan and to order men to marry women who are muhsan, if as it is being suggested by translators and others muhsan means chaste and it would also be contradictory with the rest of Qur'an.
Salaam
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Even then, marriage to a non-Muslim will not make the woman a prostitute or her children bastards!
A Women is a queen if she wishes to marry a non-believing male who has a same view on God as she do then she can. You cant call her a prostitute how dare you call a women that sometimes i wonder who raise guys like you my mother told me to respect a women love and care for a women never put your hands on a women REAL MEN RESPECTS WOMEN
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As pe the Qur'an there are the same restrictions on marriage, exactly the same for men and for women. Whatever a woman can marry, a man can, and viceversa. No aya of the Qur'an says different. Any difference is due to legislation instroduced through history by humans, not by God in His revelation, therefore those differences do not bind anybody.
Peace huruf, bookish,
I think we should first look at 5/5 and the word wal-mu'antu
before we can categorically conclude that some things are for men only.I slightly agree with hawk99 and possibility Israfell too.
The example is provided by hawk99, the word or muchsanat is feminine because ta' (ُ existed in the last.
Peace
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I do not know what you are getting at, I doubt that you Earthdom are saying the same as Hawk. You sdhould give a proper explanation of what you mean. The morphological shape of feminine plural in Arabic are not fresh news, so what are you getting at with that. The only thing you can get from there is that in fact nothing, abolutely nothing is being forbidden to believing women, but on the other hand believing men are very clearly forbidden to marry believing women muhsanaat or muhsanaat of the women of the book UNLESS the men pay them their retribution, "UJUR, and desire chastity, not lewdness, nor secret intrigues. if any one rejects faith, fruitless is his work, and in the Hereafter he will be in the ranks of those who have lost".
And I do not see AT ALL how in 5.5 it is being forbidden anything to believing women. ?Do you mean to say that believing women are forbidden to marry muhsinin believing men? How can that be when in that same aya God is ordering men to marry being muhsinin and fulfilling their manly obligations, like UJUR? Women are not being ordered to pay UJUR nor to approach the men desiring chastity, not lewdness, nor secret intrigues. Does that mean that women can approach men not desiring chastity but lewdness and secret intrigues?
How far can go muslim males' self blinding in order to get some edge over women? I am very concerned about that. Is it so precious, so aboslutely necessary for that kind of male to have that edge? How does it feel? Makes it feel like a god or like a demi-god or what? It beats me.
It is really unfathomable that an aya where men are prohibited to approach women except with decency and with due payment of UJUR can become by some unfathomable magic an aya in which something is being forbidden to women. ?My God, my God, my God! I am dumbfounded. May be a psychiatrist could do something?
Salaam
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?What silence and what non silence? ?Have you read the Qur'an attentively? Where does it allow to men and not to women? Where does it say is is ONLY for men such a thing? Nowhere.
Salaam
Salaam huruf,
I don't really know what you mean by attentively...but I agree I may have missed something. I happened to read the English translation as I don't know Arabic. I'd be glad if you could write a short article on this to explain the issue.
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Fare thee well,
Quran tells not to marry disbelievers, idol worshippers and simply people with a bad moral character because they will drive you onto a highway to Hell. It does not say that you cannot marry people who label themselves differently as long as they are monotheists, and even some people who are misguided and trinitarian Christians may simply be able to become converted into monotheism. Many Christians are misinformed and not intentionally polytheists and also they do not really mean to do wrong but they are good moral people except for being misled.
If we reason this way, a majority of muslims cannot marry even people from their own labeled religion because elements of polytheism is present there too.
Point is, it is vain to reason this way because no matter religious views polytheism might be present making marriage invalid.
What should be avoided is partners with an immoral character rather than religious alignment. I suppose you can work out who are viable yourselves.
God bless you
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I do not know what you are getting at, I doubt that you Earthdom are saying the same as Hawk. You sdhould give a proper explanation of what you mean. The morphological shape of feminine plural in Arabic are not fresh news, so what are you getting at with that. The only thing you can get from there is that in fact nothing, abolutely nothing is being forbidden to believing women, but on the other hand believing men are very clearly forbidden to marry believing women muhsanaat or muhsanaat of the women of the book UNLESS the men pay them their retribution, "UJUR, and desire chastity, not lewdness, nor secret intrigues. if any one rejects faith, fruitless is his work, and in the Hereafter he will be in the ranks of those who have lost".
And I do not see AT ALL how in 5.5 it is being forbidden anything to believing women. ?Do you mean to say that believing women are forbidden to marry muhsinin believing men? How can that be when in that same aya God is ordering men to marry being muhsinin and fulfilling their manly obligations, like UJUR? Women are not being ordered to pay UJUR nor to approach the men desiring chastity, not lewdness, nor secret intrigues. Does that mean that women can approach men not desiring chastity but lewdness and secret intrigues?
How far can go muslim males' self blinding in order to get some edge over women? I am very concerned about that. Is it so precious, so aboslutely necessary for that kind of male to have that edge? How does it feel? Makes it feel like a god or like a demi-god or what? It beats me.
It is really unfathomable that an aya where men are prohibited to approach women except with decency and with due payment of UJUR can become by some unfathomable magic an aya in which something is being forbidden to women. ?My God, my God, my God! I am dumbfounded. May be a psychiatrist could do something?
peace handshake
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Salaam
That's why I PM'ed one of the moderators to take disciplinary action on Israfeel for trolling, spamming, talking nonsense and spewing falsehood.
Anyway Israfeel is now banned for a month.
Israfeel is just confusing new-comers especially non-muslims who are willing to learn about islam on this forum.ForTheTruth,
IMHO Man of Faith made a really valid and acceptable point.I also recommend reading this article
http//www.quran-islam.org/articles/quranic_law_for_marriage_(P1165).html
God only tells the believing men AND believing women NOT to marry people who commit shirk (people who set up partners with God)Regards,
Yuliana -
Salaam
That's why I PM'ed one of the moderators to take disciplinary action on Israfeel for trolling, spamming, talking nonsense and spewing falsehood.
Anyway Israfeel is now banned for a month.
Israfeel is just confusing new-comers especially non-muslims who are willing to learn about islam on this forum.Regards,
YulianaSalaam sis,
Is there a special post why he got banned?
I did not read everything he wrote and I disagree maybe on 99% of what he said but it looks to me that he did nothing wrong to get a ban.
salaam,
Bender -
Peace,
This is a public forum to discuss things about faith, in as polite a way as we can....so let's keep things as clean as we can.
Agreed
You shall invite to the path of your Lord with wisdom and kind enlightenment,
and debate with them in the best possible manner. Your Lord knows best who has strayed
from His path, and He knows best who are the guided ones. -
peace FTT,
well i do agree with you about chapter 4 verse 34 but a women can also be a supporter.. .
You may find this helpful, from here
"supporters/maintainers" (Arabic qawwamoon, root Qaf-Waw-Miim) occurs in the same form in
4135 (stand / stand up / support / maintain with justice as witnesses to God)
58 (stand / stand up / support / maintain for/to God as witnesses with justice).M. Asad The expression qawwam is an intensive form of qa'im ("one who is responsible for" or "takes care of" a thing or a person). Thus, qama ala l-mar'ah signifies "he undertook the maintenance of the woman" or "he maintained her" (see Lane's Lexicon, Volume 8, p2995). The form qa'im can be found in 45 and 597.
It should be noted that the occurrences of 4135, 58 and 45, 597 cancel out some male-centric translations, such as "charge of" (M. Pickthal), "managers of" (Arberry, Hilali/Khan/Saheeh), "superior to" (Rodwell) which simply do not fit once cross referenced. It refers to a wider duty of care/responsibility, such as providing for the family/household which is discussed in several verses , and is the default role/duty for men, but not the only role as it can depend on situation. Contrast this to The Quran never mentioning managing one's wife or being in charge of her and the correct meaning becomes obvious. In fact, there is not one example of God addressing the husband/wife relationship in this manner, e.g. all examples involving decisions between marriage partners are in the reciprocal Arabic word form, e.g. "taraadaa" , "tashaawar" , which means they are mutual. If society is to be governed by mutual consultation , then naturally this principle should apply to the most basic social unit, the family, and done with what is maruf (honourable, known/recognised as good, befitting, fairness, kindness), see 2231, 419.If one wishes to refer to Traditional Ahadith/narrations, the meaning of maintenance/support for this word is also present, e.g. the use of "taqumu AAalayhinna" (look after them) in Bukhari volume 3, book 34, number 310.
Lastly, the actual verse of 434 clarifies/limits the scope of meaning of "qawwamoon" to maintenance, i.e. because of God bestowing more on some of them than on others and with what they spent (perfect tense, i.e. an action done/completed) of their money. To state the obvious, without spending on someone, a person cannot be regarded as a supporter/maintainer of them, whether male or female."...bima (with what) faddalaAllahu (God preferred) baAAdahum (some of them) AAala (over/above/on) baAAdin* (others)..." *masculine
This likely refers to al rijal (the men) as indicated by keeping the same suffix reference later in the sentence, i.e. its logical and contextual flow. Note that 432 says "some of YOU over others" whilst 434 says "some of THEM over others" - which implies that in 432 it is referring to one pool of people (i.e. humankind, i.e. men and women), whilst 434 is referring to two groups of people, hence "THEM" i.e. referring to the men.
See "baAAdahum AAala baAAdin" / "some of them above others" in 2253 and 1721, and also 653 "baAAdahum bi baAAdin" / "some of them with others", for a comparison. However, there are three theoretically possible interpretations of this phrase
with what God preferred on some (men/women) over others (men/women)
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with what God preferred on some (men) over others (men)
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with what God preferred on some (men) over others (men/women)The keyword being "some". Thus, whichever way it is translated it proves the obvious, that not all men are preferred/bestowed equally, and/or not all men are preferred/bestowed more than women. Also, the term "preferred" is general, unless made specific in context, and in this case may refer to distribution of wealth, e.g. inheritance, as mentioned by similar phrasing in 432. Since spending of wealth is mentioned separately, the preference likely refers to the fact that men do not have the physical burden of pregnancy, birth and suckling, hence are in a more favourable position to work/provide, by default.
It should be noted that some traditional commentators interpret this phrasing to suggest men are preferred to women with respect to various things but this is completely disproven by the Arabic itself, as the masculine plural is used in the phrase. The masculine plural in Arabic either refers to an all male group or male+female group, NEVER all female group. To add to this point, the same phrasing is used for preferring some messengers to others and some prophets to others and yet The Quran repeatedly tells us not to make distinction among them. The best person according to The Quran is whoever is the most righteous/pious/God-conscious . It should also be kept in mind that each person will be judged according to how they conducted themselves with what they have been given . In other words, with privilege comes responsibility.
As we can see, The Quran is not stating a fixed rule, i.e. that all men are the maintainers/supporters of women, they are only so if they fulfill the criteria and it is referring to the wider duty of care/responsibility men have as mentioned above. It is conditional. -
Salaam
That's why I PM'ed one of the moderators to take disciplinary action on Israfeel for trolling, spamming, talking nonsense and spewing falsehood.
Anyway Israfeel is now banned for a month.
Israfeel is just confusing new-comers especially non-muslims who are willing to learn about islam on this forum.ForTheTruth,
IMHO Man of Faith made a really valid and acceptable point.I also recommend reading this article
http//www.quran-islam.org/articles/quranic_law_for_marriage_(P1165).html
God only tells the believing men AND believing women NOT to marry people who commit shirk (people who set up partners with God)Regards,
YulianaThank you for your comment and the link that you provided
