im very depressed:( read please
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Salaam,
When you feel / know that something goes wrong the only option is to istaghfaar 2816], 723] and many more. Try to get away from those things and never even think of doing so. This is how you can do islah of your deeds. And don't forget to seek Allah's help on every matter.
May Allah increase our knowledge and guide us on His path pr
mmKhanALSO more important and supporting aiyat
1311 Indeed, Allah will not change the condition of a people until they change what is in themselves....
i am 25 Alhamduillah i change myself alot even though i never hugged or kissed a girl , and allah is also changing me more n more now a days ..
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Are you in this for sex or are you serious and dedicated with this relationship? first of all isn't it forbidden to go with a disbelieving woman as a man?
Anyway, you are more worried about sinning than doing good deeds, that's my point of view. But if you're not engaging a relationship with the aim of founding a family and raise kids, what's the purpose? You're just in it for sex then. There's a reason it's not kosher to have sex before marriage, just look at all these degenerated westerners who aimlessly have sex with as many people as they can for social status. They don't care about the future, only the moment, that's the typical liberal "progressive" mentality, the "yolo" mentality, they think the world is overpopulated so they never become serious with their relationships. They consume like pigs, but when the clock runs out? They will buy all the fertility drugs in the world in order to have babies.
Make a choice. If you're not in it for the long term, dedicated relationship, then stop it there. Go to university, or find jobs, occupy your mind, find a hobby, read books. It's already hard to avoid consuming porn, it's harder to not become one of those aimless individual who just consumes till they get bored of it.
In the west, abortions are exploding, they are praised and encouraged, marriages rates are dropping fast and divorce rates are rising, single parent homes are becoming common, the cost of divorce scares men away from ever marrying, any kid that's lived through divorce always ends up in a very bad emotional state, it is clear the "sexual liberation" is a serious issue for the west, and the moral relativists do their best to ridicule anyone who's serious about building a family. Women are just used as receptacles and are told it's a good thing since they are little girls by the feminists.
Make your choice man, you don't just follow the quran, you analyse the world around you with what it teaches you.
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no in not in it for sex?
Btw, some friends of mine said they could lash me and theyre all muslims, but as we got to the 45th lash on my back a guy stopped and i regretted that i did this because its better to make taubah..please keep me in ur duas. I want ramadan now;(
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Peace agphys.
You said
"for taubah, because im in a very big mess right now. Havent Smoked for 3 years, took a cigarette 1 week ago, got 45 lashes which i know regret and i should of listened to the scholars...im depressed now"
Listening to "Scholars" increases the depression and the confusion
Is it the law of the days of ignorance that they seek to uphold? Whose LAW IS BETTER THAN God'S for those who have attained certainty?
It is your choice.
I am not sure I understand what you really want here?GOD bless you.
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Get some self-esteem, man.
Salaam
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Agphys, I don't know whether you're a honest person or not.
I hope you do not lie to us, but I cannot ensure that.
However, if you really in bad situation now, brother, then you should seek help to Allah.
If you truly want to turn to Allah with sincere repentance, you don't have to wait until ramadhan.
i married her now i feel better
If you indeed already married her, then I think that's the real matter that you should care for.
I wonder whether you really ready with this marriage. Whether you have serious commitment to maintain family?
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Im serious with her.
But like i said, im most depressed because i let other lash me with 45 hits. It didnt make me feel good or anything. how should i think about that? I wish i never let people known about this and just made taubah, but like a membet said in this thread, this was a life chaning moment for me..
Though im very traumatised because of the lashes;(
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I wrote further back on this thread that should you reform and make something good about the situation there is no reason to be sad or worried. You are forgiven.
Did you marry her you also followed ancient Semitic tradition on the matter since you defiled her first. As long as you know keep her to you and do not divorce her out of egotistical impulses then you have repaired the error if any.
Also the idea of ceremonial marriage with such office is a human institution. According to GOD the bonding is a matter between man and woman and if you met her and intend to stay with her everything is just fine. But it is selfish to do this to her without intending to take care of her.
Since she was unmarried (no bondmate) it is not a violation of the 'Ten Commandments' since that implies illicit sex with another who is the spouse of someone else. Depending on what you do now it is a lesser sin or a less lesser sin. You may consider keeping a marriage to her or you would have to live with the sin of fleshly indulgence by defiling her for no other purpose than that you were sexually aroused, but which is not a "crime" according to the commandments. You may have to practice on your restraints for worldly desires to avoid it again should you leave her be.
So like I said, stop crying and get your esteem back, man. Be in control of your life instead.
Salaam
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Im serious with her.
But like i said, im most depressed because i let other lash me with 45 hits. It didnt make me feel good or anything. how should i think about that? I wish i never let people known about this and just made taubah, but like a membet said in this thread, this was a life chaning moment for me..
Though im very traumatised because of the lashes;(
Awww man, you let someone else lash you? Dangit, I'm always late!
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Peace FreedomStands.
Does the job of "professional lasher" exist?
Pity he did not ask me either,I would have been easy on him and gone for the "symbolic" type of lashing.
GOD bless you.
Peace.
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Peace FreedomStands.
Does the job of "professional lasher" exist?
Pity he did not ask me either,I would have been easy on him and gone for the "symbolic" type of lashing.
GOD bless you.
Peace.
Haha it sounds like a great job, I do it whenever I can! Sometimes I'm naughty and do the symbolic one just because I like to hear people squeel!
I say, hey, you shouldn't do that! And they go "Weeee, Weeee"