im very depressed:( read please
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Peace agphys.
You said
"for taubah, because im in a very big mess right now. Havent Smoked for 3 years, took a cigarette 1 week ago, got 45 lashes which i know regret and i should of listened to the scholars...im depressed now"
Listening to "Scholars" increases the depression and the confusion
Is it the law of the days of ignorance that they seek to uphold? Whose LAW IS BETTER THAN God'S for those who have attained certainty?
It is your choice.
I am not sure I understand what you really want here?GOD bless you.
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Get some self-esteem, man.
Salaam
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Agphys, I don't know whether you're a honest person or not.
I hope you do not lie to us, but I cannot ensure that.
However, if you really in bad situation now, brother, then you should seek help to Allah.
If you truly want to turn to Allah with sincere repentance, you don't have to wait until ramadhan.
i married her now i feel better
If you indeed already married her, then I think that's the real matter that you should care for.
I wonder whether you really ready with this marriage. Whether you have serious commitment to maintain family?
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Im serious with her.
But like i said, im most depressed because i let other lash me with 45 hits. It didnt make me feel good or anything. how should i think about that? I wish i never let people known about this and just made taubah, but like a membet said in this thread, this was a life chaning moment for me..
Though im very traumatised because of the lashes;(
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I wrote further back on this thread that should you reform and make something good about the situation there is no reason to be sad or worried. You are forgiven.
Did you marry her you also followed ancient Semitic tradition on the matter since you defiled her first. As long as you know keep her to you and do not divorce her out of egotistical impulses then you have repaired the error if any.
Also the idea of ceremonial marriage with such office is a human institution. According to GOD the bonding is a matter between man and woman and if you met her and intend to stay with her everything is just fine. But it is selfish to do this to her without intending to take care of her.
Since she was unmarried (no bondmate) it is not a violation of the 'Ten Commandments' since that implies illicit sex with another who is the spouse of someone else. Depending on what you do now it is a lesser sin or a less lesser sin. You may consider keeping a marriage to her or you would have to live with the sin of fleshly indulgence by defiling her for no other purpose than that you were sexually aroused, but which is not a "crime" according to the commandments. You may have to practice on your restraints for worldly desires to avoid it again should you leave her be.
So like I said, stop crying and get your esteem back, man. Be in control of your life instead.
Salaam
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Im serious with her.
But like i said, im most depressed because i let other lash me with 45 hits. It didnt make me feel good or anything. how should i think about that? I wish i never let people known about this and just made taubah, but like a membet said in this thread, this was a life chaning moment for me..
Though im very traumatised because of the lashes;(
Awww man, you let someone else lash you? Dangit, I'm always late!
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Peace FreedomStands.
Does the job of "professional lasher" exist?
Pity he did not ask me either,I would have been easy on him and gone for the "symbolic" type of lashing.
GOD bless you.
Peace.
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Peace FreedomStands.
Does the job of "professional lasher" exist?
Pity he did not ask me either,I would have been easy on him and gone for the "symbolic" type of lashing.
GOD bless you.
Peace.
Haha it sounds like a great job, I do it whenever I can! Sometimes I'm naughty and do the symbolic one just because I like to hear people squeel!
I say, hey, you shouldn't do that! And they go "Weeee, Weeee"