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Marrying a Traditionalist Is As Same as Marrying a Polytheist

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    imrankhawaja
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    yes that make sense...

    God aloners/quranist by sect are very few (forum , secret ids , even own family members are not aware in some cases)
    God aloners/quranist by nature are everywhere .. (peaceful chirstian, righteous jew, helper buddist and so on)

    interestingly i just had dream about 262 today..

    kafir/disbeliever by sect are very few (most of them in jails)
    kafir/disbelievers by nature are everywhere (like isis, suicide bombers, invaders of orphan properties and so on)

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      Salam,

      I disagree with this study.
      Believers for believers only.

      6010
      O you who believe, if the believing females come emigrating to
      you, then you shall test them. God is fully aware of their belief.
      Thus, if you establish that they are believers, then you shall not
      return them to the rejecters. They are no longer permissible for
      one another. And return the dowries that were paid. And there
      is no sin upon you to marry them, if you have paid their dowries
      to them. And do not keep disbelieving wives, and ask back what
      dowries you paid. And let them ask back what dowries they had
      paid. Such is the judgment of God; He judges between you. God
      is Knowledgeable, Wise.

      2221
      And do not marry the female polytheists until they believe; for a
      believing servant is better than a polytheist, even if she is pleasing
      to you. And do not give in marriage to the male polytheists until
      they believe; for a believing servant is better than a polytheist,
      even if he is pleasing to you. These invite to the Fire, while God is
      inviting to Paradise and forgiveness by His consent. He clarifies
      His revelations for the people that they may remember.

      In 2221, it's clear that the requirement for marriage is that both be believers. It doesn't say "until they abandon polytheism" or "become rejecters instead of polytheists".

      Also, the part about peaceful people being Muslims isn't right. Humanists and peace activists want peace, but some of them also say "there is no god". So clearly, they are rejecters and not Muslims.

      Salam

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        and whats about "mushriks"

        like sunni and shia both are mushrik according to quran lens..

        according to their own lens quran alone are disbleivers/kaffirs...

        in this case there is not enough couples left , even in this forum u hardly find a quran alone couple..

        God is not that illogical .. as far i think these verses are advising people to do marriage with somebody have similar thinking what u have.. for a successful relationship..

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          Also, the part about peaceful people being Muslims isn't right. Humanists and peace activists want peace, but some of them also say "there is no god". So clearly, they are rejecters and not Muslims.

          Accepting this understanding and not wanting to get again in the same discussion started in other posts, what happens in case believing men are less than believing women? Like in this forum, for example, the ratio is off balance, there are much more men than women.... Given that polyandry is forbidden... Did God not foresee such a situation?

          in this case there is not enough couples left , even in this forum u hardly find a quran alone couple..

          God is not that illogical .. as far i think these verses are advising people to do marriage with somebody have similar thinking what u have.. for a successful relationship..

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            imrankhawaja
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            what happens in case believing men are less than believing women

            then polygamy is the best solution rotfl
            thats what traditional people claim .. they say as a matter of fact females are more than males so polygamy is a better situation compared to become public property ..

            even polygamy is allowed in paradise 72 virgins for one single person

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              and whats about "mushriks"

              like sunni and shia both are mushrik according to quran lens..

              according to their own lens quran alone are disbleivers/kaffirs...

              in this case there is not enough couples left , even in this forum u hardly find a quran alone couple..

              God is not that illogical .. as far i think these verses are advising people to do marriage with somebody have similar thinking what u have.. for a successful relationship..

              Sectarians are polytheists and hypocrites, i.e. they have set up partners with God. They don't fall under the category "believers", not even "submittters".

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              Those who have divided their system and become sects, you are
              not with them in anything. Their matter will be with God, then
              He will inform them of what they had done.

              Then there's patience.

              Salam

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                Amra94
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                All peaceful non-Quranist people of any given denominations (even atheists) can be married to Quranists.

                Quran says you can only marry a believer, someone who believes in God

                ?Those who believe and those who are Jewish, the Christians and the Sabians, the ones who believe in God and the Last Day and do good deeds; they will have their reward from their Lord and no fear will come upon them nor will they grieve.? 262

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                  Sectarians are polytheists and hypocrites, i.e. they have set up partners with God.

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                  Those who have divided their system and become sects, you are
                  not with them in anything. Their matter will be with God, then
                  He will inform them of what they had done.

                  Then there's patience.

                  Salam

                  red This is to deep for me, can you explain what you mean.

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                    Quran says you can only marry a believer, someone who believes in God

                    ?Those who believe and those who are Jewish, the Christians and the Sabians, the ones who believe in God and the Last Day and do good deeds; they will have their reward from their Lord and no fear will come upon them nor will they grieve.? 262

                    The message of Quran seems to be that believing in God is not same as believing he exists. It is more about having faith in him and seeking guidance from him. Those who don't have the Book can use their consciousness to decide what is right and wrong. We all humans are programmed to do this. We are capable of understanding the consequence of doing vandalism on earth and we need to stand up for what is right. Satan was actually a believer. He acknowledged the creator's existence. But he was called a disbeliever after he disobeyed. It is the same thing with us humans. It doesn't matter what religion we come from.

                    and whats about "mushriks"

                    like sunni and shia both are mushrik according to quran lens..

                    according to their own lens quran alone are disbleivers/kaffirs...

                    in this case there is not enough couples left , even in this forum u hardly find a quran alone couple..

                    God is not that illogical .. as far i think these verses are advising people to do marriage with somebody have similar thinking what u have.. for a successful relationship..

                    Yeah, I agree with that. I have seen plenty of clashes between sectarian husbands and wives mainly because of "hadiths". Having same religion doesn't lead to happiness. At the end of the day, what matters is the peace under the roof. That can be achieved only through compatibility.

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                      Peace,

                      The message of Quran seems to be that believing in God is not same as believing he exists. It is more about having faith in him and seeking guidance from him. Those who don't have the Book can use their consciousness to decide what is right and wrong. We all humans are programmed to do this. We are capable of understanding the consequence of doing vandalism on earth and we need to stand up for what is right. Satan was actually a believer. He acknowledged the creator's existence. But he was called a disbeliever after he disobeyed. It is the same thing with us humans. It doesn't matter what religion we come from.

                      My thoughts mirror yours in this matter. It is one's actions by which one ought to be judged and not the specific labels they attach to themselves or the categories they insist on being placed in. I was having this conversation with my Mum as well some hours ago about how a person's actions define someone and not their label. I know many people and to me, they are Muslim. I would say all my friends are "Muslim" by my understanding because of the way they conduct themselves, although, they might not regard themselves as such. Alas, only Allah knows best what is in the hearts of His creation.

                      and whats about "mushriks"

                      like sunni and shia both are mushrik according to quran lens..

                      according to their own lens quran alone are disbleivers/kaffirs...

                      in this case there is not enough couples left , even in this forum u hardly find a quran alone couple..

                      God is not that illogical .. as far i think these verses are advising people to do marriage with somebody have similar thinking what u have.. for a successful relationship..

                      Again, my sentiments entirely. Allah knows best.

                      Peace.

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                        The message of Quran seems to be that believing in God is not same as believing he exists. It is more about having faith in him and seeking guidance from him. Those who don't have the Book can use their consciousness to decide what is right and wrong. We all humans are programmed to do this. We are capable of understanding the consequence of doing vandalism on earth and we need to stand up for what is right. Satan was actually a believer. He acknowledged the creator's existence. But he was called a disbeliever after he disobeyed. It is the same thing with us humans. It doesn't matter what religion we come from.

                        God tells us who the "believers" are

                        "Mu'mens (believers) are those who have faith in God and His messenger?" (4915)

                        "?and attain the status of having no doubt whatsoever?" (4915)

                        "?and Strive with their money and their lives in the cause of God. These are the truthful ones." (4915)

                        "The true faithful are those whose hearts tremble when GOD is mentioned?" (82)

                        "?and when His revelations are recited to them, their faith is strengthened?" (82)

                        "?and they trust in their Lord." (82)

                        "They uphold the Worship (Salat)?" (83)

                        "?and from our provisions to them, they give to charity." (83)

                        "Such are TRULY THE BELIEVERS. They attain high ranks at their Lord, as well as forgiveness and a generous provision." (84)

                        I don't see how atheists can be considered "believers" we can marry if they reject God's revelations.. aand proudly say there is no god

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                          imrankhawaja
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                          I don't see how atheists can be considered "believers" we can marry if they reject God's revelations.. aand proudly say there is no god

                          people here are trying to tell you the difference between an individual heart and individual actions

                          ok let say for a second .. the verses all you qouted just put a righteous christian in it..
                          he beleives in God (according to his knowledge what he gain)
                          he is sincear with God
                          he give charity
                          he help people
                          he do ibada(serving)

                          and same goes with jew, buddist, sunni , and even athiest..

                          about the athiest thingie its bit tricky who is real "athiest"
                          athiest is the one who is kaffir and after knowing the truth he reject it due to arrogance(example is pharoah)

                          hypocrate athiest ( all isis people who claim to beleive in God and do against the God by blasting the body parts of innocent kids)
                          mushrik athiest ( who beleives in illegal money/material more than God system of honesty)

                          there are lot of flavours of real athiests/kafirs all around the world , how hard they try to say they are muslims, christian , beleivers but in reality they are invaders, rapist, robbers, trangressors, wicked..

                          now one of my friend is athiest
                          but he is kind
                          he did not do dishonesty with system
                          he help needy
                          he give charity

                          but he dnt beleive in God , i ask why becoz he said i did not see him , and there are different gods everywhere
                          muslims ,christians, buddist, hindus, jews all have different gods and demi gods i m confuse and right now i did not find a solution of God within my weak understanding of mind..

                          now tell me is it logical for God to punish such creature , according to his sincear mind he did not understand the nature of God so he is atleast honest with himself ...

                          i m sorry for explaining these terms but labels are not what God is after..
                          the system of God and follower of that system is peacemaker(muslim)
                          the action of somebody with honesty and sincearty is a real thing...

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                            but he dnt beleive in God , i ask why becoz he said i did not see him , and there are different gods everywhere
                            muslims ,christians, buddist, hindus, jews all have different gods and demi gods i m confuse and right now i did not find a solution of God within my weak understanding of mind..

                            now tell me is it logical for God to punish such creature , according to his sincear mind he did not understand the nature of God so he is atleast honest with himself ...

                            i m sorry for explaining these terms but labels are not what God is after..
                            the system of God and follower of that system is peacemaker(muslim)
                            the action of somebody with honesty and sincearty is a real thing...

                            God says He shows us His Signs so your friend can't use that excuse. Also
                            7172-173 And your Lord took for the children of Adam from their backs, their progeny; and He made them witness over themselves "Am I not your Lord?" They said "Yes, we bear witness." Thus you cannot say on the Day of Resurrection that you were unaware of this.
                            Nor can you say "It was our fathers who set up partners before and we were simply a progeny who came after them. Would You destroy us for what the innovators did?"

                            Peacemakers are not the same as believers. Believers follow what was revealed to the Messenger.
                            "And if it is recited to them, they say ?We believe in it. It is the truth from our Lord. Indeed, we had Submitted before it.? (2853)
                            "To these we grant twice the reward, because they steadfastly persevere. They counter evil works with good works, and from our provisions to them, they give." (2854)

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                              I understand what you are saying. I recently became a progressive/non-donomational/semi-quranist muslim because I feel like ALLAH guided me to that path. I haven't told my parents or anyone but it sucks because I know no one of my type around me. One of my biggest fears is marrying a salafi/traditionalist/extremist muslim &. I think I'd rather marry a person of the book than them. But unfortunately this misconception arose that muslim women can't do so. Hell their thinking is so absurd and have been so corrupted by "hadith" I think I would rather live my life with a girl than one of them rotfl rotfl rotfl

                              I hope Allah guides me to righteous people without this twisted version of islam. Muslims can be so scary sometimes tempt giveup

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                                God says He shows us His Signs so your friend can't use that excuse. Also
                                7172-173 And your Lord took for the children of Adam from their backs, their progeny; and He made them witness over themselves "Am I not your Lord?" They said "Yes, we bear witness." Thus you cannot say on the Day of Resurrection that you were unaware of this.

                                sister re read my post please what i try to tell you..
                                God will judge everybody by heart, as he already knows whats inside the chest...

                                if you are honest with that approach u dnt need to worry at all..

                                and about this verse , it appears to me this verse is something before offering us a trust/freewill

                                right now i dnt remember such type of contract/deal with God. its may b in my subconscious ..
                                so its silly to say him things without proof

                                Peacemakers are not the same as believers. Believers follow what was revealed to the Messenger.

                                so how do you know what revealed to messenger ?
                                whats about the christians who believed the bible is the revelation of God
                                whats about jews, hindus , all those people who sincearly devoted themselves to God believing their scripture is true ?

                                peacemaker=muslim.. whatever label he/she get from inheritence..

                                what is the fault of a kid who dnt born in traditional sunni family .. ?

                                it seems you also think same like sunni/shia who think they are the sole owner of heavens
                                only they are chosen people..
                                only they are on the right path...

                                i keep it short in more logical way...
                                God will judge every nation/individual by the ability of understanding he/she have...

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                                  I understand what you are saying. I recently became a progressive/non-donomational/semi-quranist muslim because I feel like ALLAH guided me to that path. I haven't told my parents or anyone but it sucks because I know no one of my type around me. One of my biggest fears is marrying a salafi/traditionalist/extremist muslim &. I think I'd rather marry a person of the book than them. But unfortunately this misconception arose that muslim women can't do so. Hell their thinking is so absurd and have been so corrupted by "hadith" I think I would rather live my life with a girl than one of them rotfl rotfl rotfl

                                  I hope Allah guides me to righteous people without this twisted version of islam. Muslims can be so scary sometimes tempt giveup

                                  brother getting married is something else , do with whoever you like/love
                                  love is the only thing that change things according to the choice of other person.

                                  make your relation based on emotions/feelings not on religion ..

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                                    and about this verse , it appears to me this verse is something before offering us a trust/freewill

                                    right now i dnt remember such type of contract/deal with God. its may b in my subconscious ..
                                    so its silly to say him things without proof

                                    so how do you know what revealed to messenger ?
                                    whats about the christians who believed the bible is the revelation of God
                                    whats about jews, hindus , all those people who sincearly devoted themselves to God believing their scripture is true ?

                                    peacemaker=muslim.. whatever label he/she get from inheritence..

                                    what is the fault of a kid who dnt born in traditional sunni family .. ?

                                    it seems you also think same like sunni/shia who think they are the sole owner of heavens
                                    only they are chosen people..
                                    only they are on the right path...

                                    i keep it short in more logical way...
                                    God will judge every nation/individual by the ability of understanding he/she have...

                                    That verse is saying it's in our nature to believe and worship God alone. Then it says you can't use the excuse that you just followed what your parents did. Not everyone remembers this for some reason..

                                    All monotheists will go to heaven. You're saying anyone following a man made religion will only be judged on what kind of morals they had. Well every time God talks about heaven it's for those "who believe and do good works". It never says "those who commit shirk and do good works" or "those who deny the existence of God and do good works." 385 And whoever follows other than submission as a system, it will not be accepted from him, and in the Hereafter he is of the losers.

                                    Majority are astray. 6116 And if you obey most of those on the earth they will lead you away from the path of God; that is because they follow conjecture, and that is because they only guess.

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                                      God will not ask you how many cars you buy
                                      God will not ask you how many houses you own
                                      God will not ask you which race/religion/label/nation you belong

                                      he will ask you what you ve done
                                      were you a troublemaker or peacemaker
                                      were you honest or dishonest
                                      were you truthful or lier
                                      were you beleiver of a system or rejector of the system

                                      Do not assign piety to yourselves or to other people. You will never know who is really pious. This knowledge is only with God (5332)

                                      292 Did the people think that they will be left to say "We believe" without being put to the test?
                                      293 We had tested those before them, so that God would distinguish those who are truthful and so that He would know the liars.

                                      1693 Had God so willed, He could have made you all one single community. However, He lets go astray him that wills (to go astray) and guides him that wills (to be guided). And you will be called to account for all that you ever did.

                                      ponder on these verses too..

                                      believing in him mean believe in the system what he make for humanity.. the one who believes in system is indirectly believing in God too

                                      the one who claim to be a believer but reject the system is indirectly rejecting God... example is so called suicide bomber who claim to be a muslim and blast the bodies out of innocent kids with the slogan
                                      "allah hu akbar" do u think he directly go to heavens with 72 virgins hmm

                                      look at this post for more insight
                                      https//free-minds.org/forum/index.php?topic=9609393.msg403421#msg403421

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                                        That verse is saying it's in our nature to believe and worship God alone. Then it says you can't use the excuse that you just followed what your parents did. Not everyone remembers this for some reason..

                                        then why everybody have different gods and demi gods?
                                        and why some of them dnt even have god like agnostic and athiest?

                                        and this verse is addressed to all humanity from adam to the last one.. its meanings is something like natural/default state of creation..

                                        like birds follow the system
                                        angels follow the system
                                        everything follow the system willingly or unwillingly..

                                        we also once aware about the reality of our creator and our system when he offered us this choice what we accepted.. at that time , because we are ignorant /fools to accept that hard challange ..

                                        now at present stage we did not remember it...

                                        the verse is telling more , on the day of judgement everybody remember it as we know recording will displayed to us from the beginning of our times and the time of our species ..

                                        sister take your time and understand the verses properly according to their context ..

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                                          believing in him mean believe in the system what he make for humanity.. the one who believes in system is indirectly believing in God too

                                          A Muslim acknowledges One God and appreciates Him. Some atheists might be peaceful but they say theres no god, so how can they be called Muslims?
                                          4133 And who is better in speech than one who invites to God and does righteousness and says, "Indeed, I am of the Muslims."

                                          1693 Had God so willed, He could have made you all one single community. However, He lets go astray him that wills (to go astray) and guides him that wills (to be guided). And you will be called to account for all that you ever did.

                                          Ye, idol worshipers/rejecters will be held accountable for all they ever did but their "good deeds" won't count

                                          572 ....Whoever sets up partners with God, then God will restrict Paradise from him, and his destiny will be the Fire; and the wicked will have no supporters.

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