Mingling with the opposite sex ????
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Salaamun alaikum Ammar,
do u think Allah would make life that strict for women?
That is your opinion. I dont see any strictness anywhere. Bad deeds and evil has been made more pleasurable and easier, good deeds and righteous acts are purposely made more difficult and harder. Otherwise there is no test. If righteousness was easier and more pleasurable, every one would do righteous deeds and no one would do bad deeds or evil acts. Then there would be no test. Think about it. However people who stick to the path of righteousness and have full faith and belief in Allah and the life hereafter, the righteous deeds become easy for them.
429 God wants to make easy for you; and mankind was created weak.
943 If it were a near gain, or an easy journey, they would have followed you; but the distance was too much for them.926 As for he who gives and is righteous.
927 And trusts in goodness.
928 We will make the easy path for him.Once you realize the reason why Allah has not allowed certain acts or prohibited them then you will find it easier. All the prohibitions are for our own good and benefit and safety. It is we who do not understand and are rebellious. We are like a child. The parents tell us dont put your hand in fire or you will get burned. But we go ahead and put our hand in fire. Only then we realize why our parents told us not to do it. Same is the case with us and Allah.
Brother Taj,
The Ayah you are discussing here is and not .
I see that you like nit picking on others. Brother I quoted from pm translation which follows the warsh version and the warsh numbering of verses. For details see the following
http//free-minds.org/articles/science/WhichQuran.pdf
Regards,
Tanveer
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Peace,
LOL You people are playing with FIRE! Do not tell women how to dress, tell them to be righteous and it all comes but never tell them how to dress!
If you are not satisfied with someones dress sense then you should find another partner or you should accept it or kindly explain your dislike (again here you play with fire). Best thing is to leave this, especially when the women are fully aware of their dress sense, if they intentionally dress in provokative ways then they ask for trouble and sexual attention then these are the women that are for the men who don't mind that.
Remember the believer man for the believer woman and the adultress for the adulterer. That is quite extreme jump from dress sense and I personally think that some people are too sensitive about dress codes, if you are then you should be a fashion designer!
Nural
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Who are "the male servants who are without need" in 2432? Women can show their beauty to them?
According to tanveermd they are "male servants who are sexually impotent."
But that is only a human being's presumption rather than God's words. What God is saying in 2431 is that those men are the "needless men belonging to the believing woman."
What they do not need can only be conjectured rather than decided on God's behalf because no human being is God's spokesperson.
Some people have mistakenly presumed that the word zeena in 2431 stands for the attractive parts of the believing woman's body. And since God says that there is no harm in her exposing her "zeena" to the people listed in the verse, those people in the list are the ones who can not marry her, such as her father and sons.
However "the needless men belonging to the believing woman" are also included in the list. Who must they be?
The anwser has to be "the sexually needless ones" as only they can not marry the woman.
However, that is against what God announces in 2458, where He says that even the children who have not yet reached puberty are forbidden from seeing the attrative parts of their mother's body; that is her awrah.
Can the sexually needles men be allowed to see a believing woman's awrah while the sexually needless children can not?
The truth is that the zeena mentioned in 2431 are the jewellery the believing woman wears; and the needless men who work for her do not need her jwellery.
In other words, they are the ones whom she can trust her jewellery to. But she is never allowed to expose the attractive parts of her body to them.
Peace,
Hasan -
Salam all. I'm new here. This thread caught my eye, and I decided to check it out to see if I would be welcome...being a woman and all.
I converted to Islam over 20 years ago after reading the Quran. Without going into all the details, it didn't take me long to move away from all the "helpful instructions" I was being given by the Muslims I knew and turned to the Quran as my source for God's guidance. (So finding this site was like finding cool water after a long walk through the desert!)
The passages mentioned in some of the posts here were the same ones I turned to when choosing my own best way to dress. I chose to wear typical Ameican clothes but not things that were overtly sexy or revealing (modest and tasteful).
And on the lowering of gazes, I took that to mean not staring, as some have suggested here already. More than that, I think it is also meant to avoid flirtatious ways of looking at someone. That is, men who want to flirt or try to get my attention in a "beyond normal conversation" way will try to hold my gaze. This also happens with strangers, who try to find out if I"m approachable by using eye contact. There are ways of looking at people...and there are ways of looking at them that says more than words.
For the striking of the feet, I offer this for consideration--I can walk in certain ways that make my body jiggle or otherwise telegraph messages of sexuality. Since this guidance is combined with guarding modesty and lowering one's gaze, I took it to mean that I don't go prancing down the street or through the mall like a strumpet, advertising that I'm sexually available.
And I have mingled with men as friends and co-workers for years...which is fine as long as my spiritual boundaries are in place. As long as I respect myself, others do, as well. If someone isn't respectful, then I don't associate with him.
I was absolutely floored when I was told years ago that, basically, I should be hidden away (either at home or under thick robes), just so no man would have "bad thoughts." My initial thought was, oh puh-leeze...we each are responsible for being obedient. The goal isn't to avoid tests of faith but to pass them.
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Salamun alaikum sis Sytalls,
Welcome. And that's a great post you wrote.
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salam sytalls
and welcome
i adher to your view posted above and have followed a similar way also converted about 20 years ago and have been long time in the spiritual desert, same ideas on dressing, staring, walking,...
What i would like to add all depends on where you are (be in country, or context,...) i believe one has to adapt to the circumstances (hey your not obliged to go to that "naked beach" though... lol
this post of yours would also be well placed on the "women as sex objects" thread. Decent dress and attitude resolve most problems
Elke
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Thank you, Elke. And salam.
I totally agree about location. In making my choice, I thought that wearing clothes that weren't part of my culture would actually draw more attention than wearing, say, business attire.
D If we'd crossed paths out there in the desert, we could've shared a campfire and talked about the Quran.
There were times when people would talk so much about the hadith that I wondered if they'd ever actually opened a copy of the Quran. This one young woman (American) I met just a couple of months ago had recently converted (after marrying a Sunni Muslim) and was all covered up from head to toe. When I asked her if she found the Quran as beautiful and spiritually fulfilling as I had, she said she hadn't read it yet. She was studying the hadith and would get to the Quran later.
This situation was tough. I told her my views and recommended she go ahead and read the Quran. But I was concerned about pushing the issue too much, since I feared for her safety at home.
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Salaamun alaikum sytalls,
She was studying the hadith and would get to the Quran later.
UNBELIEVABLE. It is so unfortunate that "muslims" who are supposed to uphold the Quran as the source of law and guidance are not doing it, instead they are deserting it. Looks like satan is having a heyday !
2531 And the messenger said "My Lord, my people have deserted this Quran."
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Salaamun alaikum all,
There are quite a few resourceful individuals who are true muslims and believers. I was wondering how come no one has tried to form a group and buy a private island or something where the true believers can form a true Islamic state and implement the laws of The God in it so all the true believers can practically lead their lives according to Islam. Then all of the believers can migrate there and live happily ever after !!
We all talk a lot but there is no practical action at the community level !
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yeah i know it is amazing ... they think we-re misguided .. i swear i want to start a movement or smth like the FOllowers of ONLY THE QURAN >... i live in london so yeah .. neone lives in london as well ?
Check the 'Europe' forum, the 'London' thread. I'm in London (at least for the next 5 months) and some others are too.
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Peace ammar,
Even in a loose outer garment the outline of the hips can be accentuated by striking the feet in a certain way. I think that is what is being described in this part of the ayat. It does not mean one can wear tight clothes. Jilbab was a loose outer garment worn by arab women. The God wants believing women to lengthen upon themselves their jalabeeb which implies a loose outer garment.
3360 O prophet, tell your wives, your daughters, and the wives of the believers that they should lengthen upon themselves their outer garments (jalabeeb). That is better so that they would be recognized and not harmed. God is Forgiver, Merciful.
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Salaamun alaikum Hasan,
Following are different translations of the ayat in question
024031
Pickthall ..........or male attendants who lack vigour, or children who know naught of women's nakedness.
Yusuf Ali ..........or male servants free of physical needs, or small children who have no sense of the shame of sex;
Shakir ........... or the male servants not having need (of women), or the children who have not attained knowledge of what is hidden of women;
Sher Ali ........... or such of male attendants as have no desire for women, or young children who have not yet attained knowledge of the hidden parts of women.
Khalifa ........... the male servants or employees whose sexual drive has been nullified, or the children who have not reached puberty.
Arberry ........... or such men as attend them, not having sexual desire, or children who have not yet attained knowledge of women's private parts;
Palmer ............ or their male attendants who are incapable, or to children who do not note women's nakedness;
Rodwell ............ or their slaves, or male domestics who have no natural force, or to children who note not women's nakedness.
Sale ........... or unto such men as attend , and have no need , or unto children, who distinguish not the nakedness of women.
Progressive Muslims or the male servants who are without need, or the child who has not yet understood the composition of women.According to tanveermd they are "male servants who are sexually impotent."
But that is only a human being's presumption rather than God's words. What God is saying in 2431 is that those men are the "needless men belonging to the believing woman."
What they do not need can only be conjectured rather than decided on God's behalf because no human being is God's spokesperson.
Some people have mistakenly presumed that the word zeena in 2431 stands for the attractive parts of the believing woman's body. And since God says that there is no harm in her exposing her "zeena" to the people listed in the verse, those people in the list are the ones who can not marry her, such as her father and sons.
However "the needless men belonging to the believing woman" are also included in the list. Who must they be?
The anwser has to be "the sexually needless ones" as only they can not marry the woman.
However, that is against what God announces in 2458, where He says that even the children who have not yet reached puberty are forbidden from seeing the attrative parts of their mother's body; that is her awrah.
Can the sexually needles men be allowed to see a believing woman's awrah while the sexually needless children can not?
The truth is that the zeena mentioned in 2431 are the jewellery the believing woman wears; and the needless men who work for her do not need her jwellery.
In other words, they are the ones whom she can trust her jewellery to. But she is never allowed to expose the attractive parts of her body to them.
Brother you are accusing me of conjecture and presumption whereas you are doing that yourself.
2457 O you who believe, let those who are your dependants and have not yet attained puberty request your permission regarding three times Before the dawn contact-method, and should you take off your attire from being outdoors, and after the dusk contact-method. These are three private times for you. Other than these times, it is not wrong for you or them to intermingle with one another. God thus clarifies the revelations for you. And God is Knowledgeable, Wise.
In this ayat The God is saying that the children who have not yet attained puberty have to ask permission before entering and NOT that they cannot see the awrah (private parts). It is not about the awrah, it is about private time in which one could be having intimacy, thereby the need for permission. The one inside could be a male or a female, but in your post you imply that the one inside is only the mother. The audience clearly is the believers, which includes both male and female. You are conjecturing here when you say that the pre-pubescent children cannot see the awrah in this ayat; there is no mention of awrah here. Then after that you build up your arguement based on this conjecture. It is completely possible for the person inside to give permission to the pre-pubescent child to enter and not cover his/her zeena.
You also are confusing the list of people who are allowed to see the zeena with the list of people one cannot marry. The list is not mutually inclusive. Following are the two ayat
2432 And let them not show-off their beauty except to
their husbands, or
their fathers, or
fathers of their husbands, or
their sons, or
the sons of their husbands, or
their brothers, or
the sons of their brothers, or
the sons of their sisters, or
their women, or
those who are still their dependants, or
the male servants who are without need, or
the child who has not yet understood the composition of women.Out of this list, the women can marry the male ma malakat aimanahunna and they can also marry the male servants without need.
The list of the ones that are forbidden to marry is following
424 Forbidden for you are
your mothers, and
your daughters, and
your sisters, and
your fathers' sisters, and
your mothers' sisters, and
the daughters of your brother, and
the daughters of your sister, and
your foster mothers who suckled you, and
your sisters from suckling, and
the mothers of your wives, and
your step-daughters residing in your homes from your wives which you have already consummated the marriage with; if you have not consummated the marriage then there is no sin upon you; and
the wives of your sons that are from your seed, and
that you join between two sisters except what has already been done. God is Forgiving, Merciful.That is for a male believer, and by extrapolation it includes the male counterparts of the above for a female believer.
As you can see, the two lists are not mutually inclusive.
Let's break down your post now
According to tanveermd they are "male servants who are sexually impotent."
But that is only a human being's presumption rather than God's words. What God is saying in 2431 is that those men are the "needless men belonging to the believing woman."
What they do not need can only be conjectured rather than decided on God's behalf because no human being is God's spokesperson.
As I have clearly demonstrated above, you are conjecturing and making presumptions too. I agree that The God is talking about "male servants without need". The phrase "ghayri olee al-irbati" according to classical arabic dictionaries means without need. No dictionary states that it means without need for jewellery. Please see all the translations of 2431 by various translators at the beginning of this post. According to context of ayat it means without need of zeena.
Some people have mistakenly presumed that the word zeena in 2431 stands for the attractive parts of the believing woman's body. And since God says that there is no harm in her exposing her "zeena" to the people listed in the verse, those people in the list are the ones who can not marry her, such as her father and sons.
Please prove that it is a mistake to define zeena as attractive parts of the women's body. Also as I have shown above, the list of people who can see the zeena and the list of people one is forbidden to marry is not mutually inclusive. So your second statement is wrong too.
However "the needless men belonging to the believing woman" are also included in the list. Who must they be?
The anwser has to be "the sexually needless ones" as only they can not marry the woman.
IMO you are right that "ghayri olee al-irbati" means "those without physical or sexual need" but not because they cannot marry the women. Marriage has nothing to do with "consummation" of marriage or sexual intercourse. One can be married and has not consummated the marriage yet, and one is still considered married and still has to get a divorce if one wants to get out of the marriage contract
2235 There is no sin upon you if you divorce the women before having sexual intercourse with them, or before committing to what was agreed for them.
2236 And if you divorce them before having sexual intercourse with them, but you have already agreed to the dowry; then you must give half of what you have agreed, unless they forgive or the guardian over the marriage contract forgives.So being married has nothing to do with actual consummation of marriage. Theoretically, a male can be without sexual need and still be married to a female. Nowhere does The God forbid a woman from marrying the male servant without need.
However, that is against what God announces in 2458, where He says that even the children who have not yet reached puberty are forbidden from seeing the attrative parts of their mother's body; that is her awrah.
As I have shown above, nowhere in 2458 The God mentions awrah or talks about awrah or says that pre-pubescent children are forbidden to see awrah. One should refrain from inventing lies about The God.
Can the sexually needles men be allowed to see a believing woman's awrah while the sexually needless children can not?
First a conjecture and fabrication, then an arguement built on fabrication.
The truth is that the zeena mentioned in 2431 are the jewellery the believing woman wears; and the needless men who work for her do not need her jwellery.
In other words, they are the ones whom she can trust her jewellery to. But she is never allowed to expose the attractive parts of her body to them.
Complete presumption and conjecture. IMO "ghayri olee al-irbati" in 2431 clearly means without physical or sexual need for women.
Regards,
Tanveer
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Nowhere it says that they would NOT be recognized. The ayat says that they would be recognized
3360 O prophet, tell your wives, your daughters, and the wives of the believers that they should lengthen upon themselves their outer garments (jalabeeb). That is better so that they would be recognized and not harmed. God is Forgiver, Merciful.
Some more translations
Shakir O Prophet! say to your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers that they let down upon them their over-garments; this will be more proper, that they may be known, and thus they will not be given trouble; and Allah is Forgiving, Merciful.
Khalifa O prophet, tell your wives, your daughters, and the wives of the believers that they shall lengthen their garments. Thus, they will be recognized (as righteous women) and avoid being insulted. GOD is Forgiver, Most Merciful.Jilbab is a loose outer garment like a gown or a cloak worn over the regular clothes. It has nothing to do with the face or head. When a believing woman wears a long loose outer garment she will immediately be recognized as a pious or righteous person and will not be treated like a piece of meat by indecent or immoral people.
Cloak \Cloak\ (?; 110), n.
- A loose outer garment, extending from the neck downwards,
and commonly without sleeves. It is longer than a cape,
and is worn both by men and by women.
Gown \Gown, n. n; cf. OF. gone, prob. of the
same origin.]- A loose, flowing upper garment; especially
(a) The ordinary outer dress of a woman; as, a calico or
silk gown.
(b) The official robe of certain professional men and
scholars, as university students and officers,
barristers, judges, etc.; hence, the dress of peace;
the dress of civil officers, in distinction from
military.
He Mars deposed, and arms to gowns made yield.
--Dryden.
(c) A loose wrapper worn by gentlemen within doors; a
dressing gown. - A loose outer garment, extending from the neck downwards,
