Is Love an Illusion?
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Salaam Br Lote-Tree,
I agree that love can differ from person to person and that love is a state of mind.
I'm often in love with many things not only humans lol
You seems to be so romantic Lote lol
Peace
Sis Majidah -
"Love" is not preached in the Quran. Why? Because that term is too broad. Love can be an intense feeling/ emotion or it can be a charitable act. Christians say of the Quran "The Quran does not teach us to love." Christians look at the mushy side of it.
Since the Quran is the best hadith, it goes straight to the point. It teaches us charity, justice, honesty, commitment, defense of the weak, etc..That is what "True Love" is all about.
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Salaam Br Tony,
Exactly you scored the highest points
Of course love is all that you mention and that is real pure love teaching from Al Quran.
Peace
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Salaam Elena,
I think Tony doesn't refer to all christians.
But actually i have also heard that from christians that Quran compared to the Bible have less of love.
But it must be the reasons that God don't write exactly the word love in Quran but are generally talking about good acts that are indeed love acts.
Peace
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Salaam Br Tony,
Exactly you scored the highest points D
Of course love is all that you mention and that is real pure love teaching from Al Quran.
Peace
Sis MajidahThank you, pretty sis. D
Christians say that "God is love" 1 John 48
Then goes on to say this
1Co 134 Love suffereth long, and is kind; love envieth not; love vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,
1Co 135 doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not its own, is not provoked, taketh not account of evil;
1Co 136 rejoiceth not in unrighteousness, but rejoiceth with the truth;
1Co 137 beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.Take note, the underlined words and the following contradictions that follow them.
"Love envieth not" but the bible also says, "...for I am a jealous God" (Exo 205)
"Vaunted not itself"...but God in the Bible always emphasize His greatness.
"Taketh not account of evil" but the bible also says that people are judged according to their works (Rev 2012 ).
"Believeth all things"...the God believes ALL THINGS???
"Hopeth all things"...the God hopes???
Humans cannot pinpoint what exactly love is. Even the bible writers were confused.
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Salaam Sis Elena,
Peace is in Swedish languageFrid you pronounce the "i" as ee.
Are you in love sis?
Peace,Frid,Paz
Sis Majidah
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Salaam Br Lote-Tree,
I agree that love can differ from person to person and that love is a state of mind.
I'm often in love with many things not only humans lolYou seems to be so romantic Lote lol
Peace
Sis MajidahBut are we not all Romantic?
Do we not all want that special someone to sweep us away in a joyous embrace and transform us into a swarm of multi-coloured butterflies that dance in the gentle summer breeze or into a shower of cool summer rain that kisses the velvety petals of tulips and daffidils in the Swedish countryside?Regards,
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Peace all,
Sorry, but I'm tired and I can't really be bothered reading the whole of this thread, so I'm going to put my 5 cents worth.
In my opinion love is an illusion.
From a atheist/scientific point of view, companionship is done purely on the basis of survival of the fittest. Yes even 'love' of children has to do with survival of the fittest.
Even the feeling of 'love' of God can be labeled as surviving the test.
You're preserving your genetics/self.
I'd rather people use the term, realisation of God's existence rather than "love" of God.
Love decays, dies, it can very easily be manipulated (believe me done it plenty of times before).
I won't reveal too much but I'll define love as an economic supply/demand curve.
wink
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Hello Elena,
Lote Tree, would you like to include in your thread the different views of love from different beliefs, say Sikhism, Buddhism, etc? If, please, share what you all know about that.
I prefer to hear what people have to say about love first and try to understand their perspective. May be later we can discuss how different faith percieve Love in all its aspect...
Regards,
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From a atheist/scientific point of view, companionship is done purely on the basis of survival of the fittest.
Really? How does unrequited Love have any survival value?
And why would the healthy love the ill or the deseased? Where is the survival value in that?Even honest atheist can't discount love! -)
Love seems to go beyond mere survival value.
You can even bleed and die joyfully for love...Regards,
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From a atheist/scientific point of view, companionship is done purely on the basis of survival of the fittest.
Really? How does unrequited Love have any survival value?
And why would the healthy love the ill or the deseased? Where is the survival value in that?Even honest atheist can't discount love! -)
Love seems to go beyond mere survival value.
You can even bleed and die joyfully for love...Regards,
I agree with esimsek on love being an adaptation for survival.
If you love someone of the opposite sex, chances are you will have kids with her/him, and also takes good care of her/him and your children. That makes good sense for survival. You help your genes by protecting your children.
If the healthy loves the ill in a social group, they help the ill individuals survive. These people may reciprocate by taking care of their companion when it's their turn to be healthy and their companion to be ill. Reciprocal cooperation helps the group survive, and as in the past groups tend to consist of closely related individuals this also makes sense in terms of survival.
But I agree that humans are capable of having true altruistic love, i.e. love that extends beyond its survival value. This may be the effect of certain ideas and thoughts--religion, philosophy, etc.
I know that you think romantically, but as far as I'm concerned that's just side-effects. The core is, after all, that love is an adaptation. Not that it devalues love. A lot of wonderful things we have may be adaptations religion, sense of morality, sense of justice, etc. But then again, so are a lot of bad things too for instance xenophobia and the ability to cheat.
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I know that you think romantically, but as far as I'm concerned that's just side-effects.
On the contrary Andya. I think Romantic Love is just the begining of trying to understand the meaning of Love. See previous posts -)
What is the survival value of unrequited love Andya?
Regards,
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SaLaM
One does not need love to survive. Apart from that, completely agree with esimsek100's post.
You can even bleed and die joyfully for love...
Just like the sucide bombers do, for their Love of God. See? Loooooooolll How useless the word Love is? Love dont give u special powers. There is nothing u cant do when your in love, than when ur NOT in love. Infact, you willl do it better. Love clouds ur mind. Throws off ur judgement. U use ur heart instead of your brain.
Love, if anything, impairs u from making the right judgement. From doing the right thing. Same effect after drinking alcohol or smoking weed.
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What is the survival value of unrequited love Andya?
Regards,
Give me your examples of what you think counts as unrequited love. Because I'm not clear about what you mean by it.
You might ask me to look for the examples myself, but it will be better if you define it yourself, so that we'e not talking about different things.
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What is the survival value of unrequited love Andya?
Regards,
Give me your examples of what you think counts as unrequited love. Because I'm not clear about what you mean by it.
You might ask me to look for the examples myself, but it will be better if you define it yourself, so that we'e not talking about different things.
If you are able to understand this then you will be able to understand what I am talking about
The More Loving One
Looking up at the stars, I know quite well
That, for all they care, I can go to hell,
But on earth indifference is the least
We have to dread from man or beast.How should we like it were stars to burn
With a passion for us we could not return?
If equal affection cannot be,
Let the more loving one be me.Admirer as I think I am
Of stars that do not give a damn,
I cannot, now I see them, say
I missed one terribly all day.Were all stars to disappear or die,
I should learn to look at an empty sky
And feel its total dark sublime,
Though this might take me a little time.- W H Auden
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Peace all,
Really? How does unrequited Love have any survival value?
And why would the healthy love the ill or the deseased? Where is the survival value in that?Even honest atheist can't discount love!
Love seems to go beyond mere survival value.
You can even bleed and die joyfully for love...Unrequited Love also has survival value. You desire that individual because that individual has apparent aspects that they could potentially pass down to your children.
Healthy loving the ill check out Andya's respone. And in addition. It was found that of all species there are only two species who know of the concept of sharing, that being humans and vampire bats. Basically you take care of one, and when it's the other's turn they take care of you. This is called strength in numbers.
As for the poem you posted, it describes my description of love. As I said before love can be defined by an economics supply/demand curve
http//www.bized.ac.uk/stafsup/options/supply/demand1.gif
Basically replace price with amount of love given and then replace demand with your partner's desire for you.
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Unrequited Love also has survival value. You desire that individual because that individual has apparent aspects that they could potentially pass down to your children.
Believe me Unrequited Love is nothing to do with reproduction. As I said before Love is nothing to do with reproduction. Love is not Sex. But Sex can be part of Love. Love seems to go beyond these things.
Healthy loving the ill check out Andya's respone.
And in addition. It was found that of all species there are only two species who know of the concept of sharing, that being humans and vampire bats. Basically you take care of one, and when it's the other's turn they take care of you. This is called strength in numbers.Why does a Healthy Love a cancer patient full knowing that they will die in few months? Where is the survival value in loving the living "dead"?
As for the poem you posted, it describes my description of love. As I said before love can be defined by an economics supply/demand curve
That poem was about Unrequited Love. There is pain in it but there can also be joy in it. It is how you come to terms with it that determines your joy or pain. But even with Unrequited Love there is a lesson of understanding what love is.
If Love was simple as supply and demand then business people would have made a killing with it. But Love goes beyond mere economics.
Regards,
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Peace,
LoteTree what I'm sensing is that you don't want to let go, that you want to believe that love is real. My friend it aint.
Unrequited Love also has survival value. You desire that individual because that individual has apparent aspects that they could potentially pass down to your children.
Believe me Unrequited Love is nothing to do with reproduction. As I said before Love is nothing to do with reproduction. Love is not Sex. But Sex can be part of Love. Love seems to go beyond these things.
Love has everything to do with reproduction, every aspect of the human has to do with reproduction. Reproduction is our (humans) PRIMARY GOAL on this planet.
In no way does Love go "beyond" this, love is a SMALL part of it.
Healthy loving the ill check out Andya's respone.
And in addition. It was found that of all species there are only two species who know of the concept of sharing, that being humans and vampire bats. Basically you take care of one, and when it's the other's turn they take care of you. This is called strength in numbers.Why does a Healthy Love a cancer patient full knowing that they will die in few months? Where is the survival value in loving the living "dead"?
Ummm see you're mistaken here. You're only looking at one small corner of the picture, you have to take a look at the WHOLE picture. We (humans) have lived for thousands and thousands of years, without a doubt there has been changes in our actions and thoughts.
We are once again changing, we are trying to beat cancer (by finding a cure for it), once again we are in a mode of self-preservation. If we do find a cure for cancer, it means a greater population for our "tribe"/family, hence strenght in numbers and better self-preservation.
As for the poem you posted, it describes my description of love. As I said before love can be defined by an economics supply/demand curve
That poem was about Unrequited Love. There is pain in it but there can also be joy in it. It is how you come to terms with it that determines your joy or pain. But even with Unrequited Love there is a lesson of understanding what love is.
If Love was simple as supply and demand then business people would have made a killing with it. But Love goes beyond mere economics.
Regards,
Lote,
you smother a person with love, they are likely to reject you. You act like a sane person your likely to receive love.
Love works on the premise of a supply/demand.
As I've said before I HAVE manipulated girls into falling in "love" with me and purely by using the supply/demand concepts.
After being able to manipulate girls into "falling in love" with me, I now understand that love is all an illusion.
Yes at one stage I believed in love and "was in love", but years have passed and do I still "love" that person????
No.