How can u hav extrem lov4 Allah if u don't know how2 lov him
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I would. If i was in a releationship, i would make it clear that i dont 'love' this person, rather, care for her well being.
I understand now what you mean. But I do not know what to make out of it. you say you would rather say you care and commit to that, instead of just saying you love but do not commit. But then, what is the definition of "CARE"? I understand that it is a conscious commitment, but is it instinctly motivated? Or is it just based on conscious calculations? And why would you give your kidney to someone you just care about while you could easily care about another woman who does not need a kidney. What is the bond between you and that woman that makes you sucrify for her? Is it the care bond, or the commitment? What would you say if she asked you why do you care about me? Is it because of your word of commitment, because you live together? Because she is the mother of your children or because you truly LOVE her?
Take care bro
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SaLaM LT
No one has to 'love' to go beyond his/her ego. As i said, 'love' is dog crap.
I think you are talking about your KFC Jaxal -)
Love is a subjective experience Jaxal. This "EGO-less" love needs to be experienced for you to know that it exists.
Regards,
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Peace,
Jaxal, you stated
There is no such thing as ego less love.
Of course there is. In fact, ego is the one thing that stands in the way of experienceing love. You're a prime example. I mean no offense but it's clear that your denial of love is a defense mechanism, to protect your bruised ego.
I used to be that way too. For me, I could not experience love until I wore my heart on my sleeve, unprotected, without ego. That's when the love poured in from every angle, not just romance.
Peace,
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SaLaM Tay
The whole conept of 'love' was created to sooth the ego. To make oneself feel special, somehow different. A man/woman can take the same amount of care of his/her partner without calling it love. Yet, people prefer it. So there cannot be an ego-less 'love'
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SaLaM Tay
A man/woman can take the same amount of care of his/her partner without calling it love
In that context? Well, 'loving' someone wont give me superhuman powers. So its not like a person can do something for someone he/she in love with and not for someone he/she cares about. 'Love' is a useless, empty and hollow word. No more special than 'jdoialdjae' or 'achdakjdpeh'. Its like the myth eros or cupid. Non-existant. I hope you understand
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SaLaM Tay
You asked me to define the word. So i gave you the link. Care is a verb. Sorry i cant define it. Its like you asking me to define 'climbing'. But i do see a difference between care and 'love'. Care is more honourable than 'love' in my opinion. Even a whore can love you for the 30 mins you pay her for. But she wont care for you. I hope you understand.
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How can you have extreme love for Allah if you don't know how to love Him
Can Love be taught?
Regards,
I dont know if love can be taught. I dont know if were just born with it, some more than others.
But i will tell you this. This morning i got out of bed and was hit by the first rays of the sun through the window, that lid up the room and provided me warmth. Right there i knew God cares for me.
Then i got outside, and saw the beuty of spring. Saw the flocks seeking south, and how all the leaves is turning red/brown so it looks as if the fields and forest in my area is on fire. Right there i knew that God cares.
Then walking in my own thoughts, as i often do in the mornings to get some air, i saw a loving couple and their child. I prayed that they never gets seperated, because they looked so happy. And right there i knew God cares.To me the question has not been "how can you love God" for a long time. It has been "how can you not love God, when you see what is provided for you". Everywhere i turn i see the evidence as if it all had been illuminated. When ever i stand amazed at nature and the world, i see design. Or howabout all the times where God has comforted me in my darkest hours? Where my heart has been made soft by Gods grace just by asking for it. When my tears has been taken from me and replacd with hope, just because i asked for it....I mean....how can you not love God?
To some God is a theory, to others an item of worship, to me, God is all there is. Everything else is the illusion God allows us to see. And imagine that you always have someone listening to you ,following you closely to make sure that you are allright. But God doesnt want to enforce anything upon us, so if we chose to walk with him out of our free will, God will be so thrilled that he pays both for the party, and makes sure that youre having a good one.
Allah Akbarr
Peace
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Peace Jaxal,
It's all good bro, but the reason I wanted your definition is because as it stands, your position is vague. Defining climbing is simple. It's a mechanical concept - easy to describe, ie, to ascend, to move up in elevation, etc. But caring implies emotion. A dictionary definition does not do it justice.
So your example of a whore who can love but cannot care is meaningless until you define the terms. One could just as easily say a whore can care but not love.
Tell me what the difference is between loving and caring so we can be on the same page, because as it stands, my understanding of love is not possible for someone to participate in for 30 minutes. And it seems to me that your definition of love has a lot more to do with lust, ie, physical attraction and stimulation.
Peace,
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Salaam Br Noah,
WOW you're understanding is so great, I totally agreeing with you.
Yeah how can you not love God!? There are so many signs of Him everywhere.
The nature is so amazing and the seasons shifts sure is great, autumn with yellow and red leaves are so beautiful.
And to sit and relax by viewing the wawes of the sea is also so great it makes me full of life and new energy is touch me.
God is really everywhere!
Peace
Sis Majidah