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Punishment for the unchaste:lashes,confinement or 4giveness?

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    unknownuser
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    Peace Agentxxx

    please note that verse 416 is talking about a man and a woman, NOT and I stress NOT 2 men

    the punishment of adultry for both man and woman is 100 lashes IN PUBLIC according to 242

    My understanding that If the husband still loves his wife then he can confine her in the house until she dies or Allah ordain for her some (other) way. however this is based on the wife wants to stay with the husband and the husband is looking to build the trust again, very hard indeed

    for verse 435, I believe it does not cover adultry but covers all ill conduct actions by her except adultry, because Allah defined it as "Zena" but in here he described her action as "NOSHOZAHUNA" which does not mean adultry at all, rather a rebelling type of action

    don't forget that the warning for adultry was given to both men and women in numerous locations and the divine punishment is promised for both

    why Allah only mentioned the above about women?, well, I say it is good for them as Allah has put very tight restrictions on what the husbands should do to the wife in case the wife is the adultrer, so men don't abuse their positions as husbands and go mad and kill her thinking iot is his right to do so in a round of rage and anger

    I don't think the woman will think of killing her husband if he is the cheater, simply she will leave him and under Islam laws she is allowed to seek divorce

    trying to apply the law of confining the cheating men in the houses by their wives will sound funny, and sure is impractical and just can't happen logically speaking

    as well under the laws of Allah, it seems He allowed the husband to hit his wife lightly in case she commits any other ill conduct, like stealing or talking ill about other people in their absence for example, not sure that if the woman should hit her husband in the same circumstances will be of any practicality rather an invitaion for a sinful and confused husband to hit back and possibly kill her

    so it is all about protecting the women my friend

    Peace be with you

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      agentxxx
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      peace Ahmed,
      i agree with most of your explanation my friend and i am thankful to you
      you wrote

      please note that verse 416 is talking about a man and a woman, NOT and I stress NOT 2 men

      most of the translations i have talk about two men??

      you wrote in the end

      so it is all about protecting the women my friend

      here i will disagree by saying its all about dominating the women wink

      take care.

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        agentxxx
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        peace saladin,
        thank you for your explanations
        you wrote

        415 is about lewdness(faahisha) among women (lesbianism)

        let see what brother Ahmed has to say about you defination )
        take care.

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          peace Ahmed,
          i agree with most of your explanation my friend and i am thankful to you )

          Cool bro

          no worries

          you wrote

          please note that verse 416 is talking about a man and a woman, NOT and I stress NOT 2 men

          most of the translations i have talk about two men??

          They are wrong then mate, because the clear arabic context sugests it is a man and a woman

          you wrote in the end

          so it is all about protecting the women my friend

          here i will disagree by saying its all about dominating the women wink

          take care.

          The way it is practiced by the faulty men is giving that wrong impression of dominating the women

          you see most men consipre directly or indirectly to dominate the women and this has nothing to do with Islam or any other religion for that matter, it is all man made and manipulations

          peace

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            Elke
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            Peace all,

            ahmed wrote
            as well under the laws of Allah, it seems He allowed the husband to hit his wife lightly in case she commits any other ill conduct
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            so it is all about protecting the women

            I don't believe hitting even slightly is a solution to a couples problem. Protecting the women would have been a verse that forbids wife beating...

            Even children, above a certain age where light slaps can put limits - as long as they are too young to understand the parents logic, have to be talked to instead of slapped. I'm a woman, i wouldn't accept a man to hit me. I would hit back by the way wink and the relationship wouldn't get any better because the man did not respect me as his equal. Now sure there are some sick relations out there where the woman seems to long for punishment, but that's just what they are to me - sick relations, sick people. A sain man would rather get out of a relationship than to be tempted to hit his partner. Yes ok i am a feminist - in the sense of equality, not of being above men. As you said, ahmed, it seems the gods law allowed wife beating... Did you read the article aboutt daraba and its multiple meanings?

            Peace, lk

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              agentxxx
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              peace elke,
              you wrote

              I don't believe hitting even slightly is a solution to a couples problem. Protecting the women would have been a verse that forbids wife beating...

              absolutely right wink

              I'm a woman, i wouldn't accept a man to hit me. I would hit back by the way

              I am a man and I would not accept my father hitting my mother, neither would I accept my brother in law hitting my sister, nor my son in law hitting my daughter.I would also not accept my brother hitting my sister in law or my son hitting my daughter in law.
              take care.

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                unknownuser
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                Peace all,

                ahmed wrote
                as well under the laws of Allah, it seems He allowed the husband to hit his wife lightly in case she commits any other ill conduct
                and
                so it is all about protecting the women

                I don't believe hitting even slightly is a solution to a couples problem. Protecting the women would have been a verse that forbids wife beating...

                Even children, above a certain age where light slaps can put limits - as long as they are too young to understand the parents logic, have to be talked to instead of slapped. I'm a woman, i wouldn't accept a man to hit me. I would hit back by the way wink and the relationship wouldn't get any better because the man did not respect me as his equal. Now sure there are some sick relations out there where the woman seems to long for punishment, but that's just what they are to me - sick relations, sick people. A sain man would rather get out of a relationship than to be tempted to hit his partner. Yes ok i am a feminist - in the sense of equality, not of being above men. As you said, ahmed, it seems the gods law allowed wife beating... Did you read the article aboutt daraba and its multiple meanings?

                Peace, lk

                Hello Elka

                if you read the verse you will see that hitting her was the third option the husband was entitked to use for a wife who insist on ill conducts,

                now for me I see it as lawfull for the husband who still love his ill conducted wife and wants to keep her as a wife "if she desires so" but she insist on the ill conduct, like stealing for example

                howeverI wave that right for me and if my wife commit ill conduct and insist on it after I exhaust the first two options mentioned in the verse, then my third option will be the highway for her and will be replaced with a better and respectful woman

                peace

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                  peace elke,
                  you wrote

                  I don't believe hitting even slightly is a solution to a couples problem. Protecting the women would have been a verse that forbids wife beating...

                  absolutely right wink

                  I'm a woman, i wouldn't accept a man to hit me. I would hit back by the way

                  I am a man and I would not accept my father hitting my mother, neither would I accept my brother in law hitting my sister, nor my son in law hitting my daughter.I would also not accept my brother hitting my sister in law or my son hitting my daughter in law.
                  take care.

                  Hello bro

                  I also donlt expect that your mother will be invloved in ill conduct as well ignores your father advice to her

                  you guys drive me crazy, the cause for the hitting was mentioned in the verse, A WIFE WITH ILL CONDUCT

                  thanks

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                    Ilka

                    please pass me a link to this article I would like to read it

                    thanks

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                      Elke
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                      peace ahmed

                      howeverI wave that right for me and if my wife commit ill conduct and insist on it after I exhaust the first two options mentioned in the verse, then my third option will be the highway for her and will be replaced with a better and respectful woman

                      sage decision!

                      btw,my name is elke, even though most people pronounce elka (since i've lived in egypt actually they did everything to me elk, elkee, ilka ellaka,... - and that's where you come from isn't it ?) wink

                      and here is the link
                      http//www.free-minds.org/women/beating.htm

                      peace lk

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                        agentxxx
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                        peace Ahmed,
                        you wrote

                        Hello bro

                        I also donlt expect that your mother will be invloved in ill conduct as well ignores your father advice to her
                        you guys drive me crazy, the cause for the hitting was mentioned in the verse, A WIFE WITH ILL CONDUCT

                        cooooooool it bro lol
                        my father is her husband and not her master, under no circumstances he should hit her. there are better way to resolve such matters.
                        regards.

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                          unknownuser
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                          Hi guys,
                          I agree with those who say 'beating up one's wife is wrong, no matter what'.
                          Men and woman are human beings in their own right. Just becoz, Men are physically powerful over women, they have no right to physically abuse women on any account. Even if the woman in question, is at fault. There are loads of ways to solve problems. Physical violence is not the answer.

                          If man is supposed to use 'physical violence' as a last resort to correct his wife, who has sinned, what about men who sin(and in most of the cases, its men who sin)? Are women allowed to beat them too?

                          Imajine, if woman was as or more physically powerful than man, would this question even arise? A woman would propably knock down a man who tries to hit her or even suggests it. If women were stronger, would man even dare to hit her?. So, merely becoz men are more physically strong, they should not abuse it over woman.

                          Peace!

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                            Elena
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                            Peace Ahmed,

                            now for me I see it as lawfull for the husband who still love his ill conducted wife and wants to keep her as a wife

                            yeah, hitting her, very loving act... shock

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                              agentxxx
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                              peace peacefulmuslim,
                              you wrote

                              what about men who sin(and in most of the cases, its men who sin)? Are women allowed to beat them too?

                              I would say yes, same punishment for men too
                              confine them to houses until death do claim them, Refuse to share their beds, Beat them, wink and you are absolutely right in most of the cases its men who sin.

                              Imajine, if woman was as or more physically powerful than man, would this question even arise? A woman would propably knock down a man who tries to hit her or even suggests it. If women were stronger, would man even dare to hit her?. So, merely becoz men are more physically strong, they should not abuse it over woman.

                              you have said it all D
                              peace

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                                AgentXXX,

                                salam,
                                Sura-4 (Al-Nisa)
                                15?If any of your women are guilty of lewdness take the evidence of four (reliable) witnesses from amongst you against them; and if they testify confine them to houses until death do claim them or
                                Allah ordain for them some (other) way.

                                You are taking one aspect of that verse. You are forggeitng about the "or Allah ordain for them some (other) way.".... that obviously is hte forgiveness part (416) which applies to both men and women.

                                salaam

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                                  peace noprogressive,
                                  you wrote

                                  You are taking one aspect of that verse. You are forggeitng about the "or Allah ordain for them some (other) way.".... that obviously is hte forgiveness part (416) which applies to both men and women.

                                  oops oops thanks for reminding me )
                                  peace.

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                                    unknownuser
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                                    Well, step of your high horses guys & gals

                                    I know a lot of women who also beat their husbands

                                    we are even lol

                                    also if in the middle east women are abused, in the western countries men are bloody more abused

                                    you see if I work all my life and my wife was just sitting on her bum delivering an army of children, if we want divorce she will take all what I have made and worked hard all my life

                                    far out this is the most horendous abuse men can get, starting again from zero

                                    Conclusion

                                    Men and Women are bloody abused by each other in differnt ways

                                    Well done Satan, never fail to impress me

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                                      unknownuser
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                                      Peace Ahmed,

                                      now for me I see it as lawfull for the husband who still love his ill conducted wife and wants to keep her as a wife

                                      yeah, hitting her, very loving act... shock

                                      Peace Elena

                                      I guess so if done properly, i presume fathers and mothers also hit their ill conduct children

                                      or you never did that?

                                      peace

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                                        unknownuser
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                                        Hi AhmedBahgat,

                                        you see if I work all my life and my wife was just sitting on her bum delivering an army of children, if we want divorce she will take all what I have made and worked hard all my life

                                        shock Giving birth to children and taking care of them is a HUGE responsibility.
                                        And I am sure, she does chores at home too. And for all that she does for u, she really deserves something.

                                        Well, anyways, peace.
                                        I am assuming u said all that only to make an amusing statement and to call it truce. )

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                                          peace ahmed

                                          howeverI wave that right for me and if my wife commit ill conduct and insist on it after I exhaust the first two options mentioned in the verse, then my third option will be the highway for her and will be replaced with a better and respectful woman

                                          sage decision!

                                          btw,my name is elke, even though most people pronounce elka (since i've lived in egypt actually they did everything to me elk, elkee, ilka ellaka,... - and that's where you come from isn't it ?) wink

                                          and here is the link
                                          http//www.free-minds.org/women/beating.htm

                                          peace lk

                                          sorry for spelling your name wrong sister "i will call you sister better"

                                          yes I'm an egyptian and also walk like egyptians

                                          peace

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